What is your first gay memory

I was working at shoneys to pay my car note over the summer.I worked nights and went to high school.I wasn't supposed to be a closer but I volunteered for the hours.My manager,Steve was mid 30s and kind of scrawny,I was always kind of a jock type.The aisles and doorways were a bit narrow so there was a lot of unintentional bumping into people,i didn't mind some of the waitresses rubbing as they went by.I started to notice this guy would turn away from me as wed scoot past and he would brush his ass across my crotch.One night he was walking past me and he asks me if I've ever had a blow job!I said yeah I had a girlfriend.
I didn't have a girlfriend,shit,id only had sex one time and it was awkward to say the least.Id fantasized about getting head since the first time I saw a penthouse,but never had gotten that lucky.Well he asked that same thing a couple of times and I just kinda kept saying yes.His next question caught me by surprise.He says,have you ever had a blowjob from a guy!WTF?Hell no Steve.Thank God I had an apron on,my dick was betraying me and I was rock hard.I didn't understand why either.He must have been able to tell how that fucked with my head.He starts asking me if he could suck me off, several times a shift.Hes like,when women suck dick they mostly just pay attention to the head.He tells me that he knows how to deepthroat AND he swallows cum.So now I'm in a hell of a predicament.
One night we were closing and he's been fucking with me all night and my underwear are soaked through with precum,I'm fed up with this bs and I finally just said buy me a pint of whiskey,a porn magazine and I bet you 50 fucking dollars you can't deepthroat me!!
I was in the passenger seat of Steve's little two door in the parking lot of the adult bookstore waiting for Steve to get back in the car.I wasn't allowed in and the parking lot was busy.I was paranoid that everyone knew what was about to happen.
We went a few miles from work up on a hill and parked.Ive had a couple of shots and have little buzz.We get out and stand in front of his car.Hes like,do you help with your pants?I pulled them down and sat on the hood.I was so full of anxiety that my dick was soft even after thumbing through the magazine.He reached out his hand and I laid back and worried about getting caught.
I nearly fell out when I felt that motherfucker lick my cock the first time.His mouth was like fire.I could feel my balls lift up in my ball sack.He licked it up and down and id never felt anything like this.He opened his mouth and started to go down my cock.The first few strokes of his mouth he put his nose in my pubes.My cock was swelling in his lips and i started feeling my balls building up a load.I could here the noises from his spit and my precum mixing together inside his mouth.Im trying my damndest not to cum.
It's not working,I'm exploding cum into this man's mouth and he won't stop trying to take more cock in deeper.Fuckin stop Steve,he's licking the cum off the head of my cock.Its over,the best blowjob I've ever had was from a man,still.
He dropped me off at my car and I went straight home and jacked off.I still had to work for him and he asked if I wanted to go to Memphis with him for a weekend but I turned him down.
I went years hiding this secret, marrying a woman and having kids, divorced now and wish I could find a buddy to play with,watch porn with and try to persuade into other things.Tbh,I want to find a guy that will let me suck his cock.Someone that will be patient until I can get it all in my mouth and past my throat.
 
My first overtly gay memory is the guy in the sauna who was showing off his cock & played with himself in front of me. I was entranced, but too shy & inexperienced to know how to respond. Nothing came of it. But I was curious about nudity even when I was very young and wondered what people looked like nude. My family was never (even partly) nude in front of each other. I want to be able to look at (and touch) naked people.
 
I was on a sleepover at my best friend's house. Of course this was long before video games, or DVDs, or hundreds of TV channels, or online porn, so we had to actually interact with each other and find other activities. In our case, since we were both musicians and "band nerds", that was showing each other grooves and chops on his drum set (a massive Ludwig Octaplus).

After taking my turn playing the drums I got up and sat next to him on his futon/bed. I expected him to get up and take his seat on the drum stool when he, rather hesitatingly said,

"Do you ever jerk off?"

Somewhat shyly I said, "Of course I do."

He responded with, "Want to jerk off together," and I shrugged and said "Sure, why not." I must have been primed for this as I had an immediate rush of blood into my penis.

Having been swimming earlier, on a very hot summer night, we were wearing only our swim trunks and when he pulled his down and kicked them off I did the same. We were both obviously turned on as we were already semi-hard.

We semi-reclined, a safe distance apart (I thought) on the futon and began to stroke our penises which quickly became fully erect. Mine was engorged with blood and harder than it had ever been. I was at first reluctant to really look at his as, Christian guilt and all, that might mean I could be...gasp...homosexual. When I saw that he, having no such apparent qualms, was really staring at mine I looked his and I couldn't take my eyes off of it as he stroked it up down.

He slid closer to me on the futon, till our hips and legs were touching, and reached over, taking my dick in his hand, started to stroke me. I just moved my hands out of the way and watched with fascination. His touch, the first "sexual touch' by another person on my penis, was electric and my whole body seemed turned on. After a few moments he said, "Rub me," so I reached over and began to stroke his penis as well.

The feeling was exquisite, both in having my penis stroked by the hand of someone else, and in having his hard and hot penis in my hand and responding to my touch. I thought we couldn't get any closer but then he moved his closest leg so it was draped over mine and half between my legs. This made it seem even more intimate and that "giddy feeling", that I get only in the intimate company of other men, began to creep up on me and I felt blissful.

While he may have been my first I later learned I wasn't his. He had "talents", and knew just what he was doing with different grips, strokes and rhythms, and it didn't take too very long before that "inevitable orgasm" feeling began to well up from within me. I didn't know what to do, I didn't know what to say, so I just let it happen. He must have felt that it was "cumming" and he gripped my penis a little more firmly, pointed it at my abdomen, and I shot jet after jet of semen onto my tummy and in and around my naval. This, ejaculating on myself, was also a new sensation to me since I'd always been fastidious about catching my own "mess" in Kleenex when masturbating alone. The mess didn't seem to bother him, and he swirled my dick around in the puddle of cum on my belly, getting copious amounts on his hand and gently stroking me with the slippery warm juices.

I started to feel a pang of guilt but soon, and upon realizing I still had my hand wrapped around his hard penis and a duty to fulfill, almost like a promise to keep, I began to stroke him in earnest. He was a bit bigger than me, in both length and girth, and I was fascinated with the feel of his pulse in my hand. I remember moving my hand further toward the tip, feeling the wetness of his pre-cum, and swirling it around with my thumb before again settling into a rhythm that I knew I would like. Though I thought felt him get suddenly harder, I was still surprised when he started to cum and though I managed to aim most of it at his abdomen I still got a lot of it on my hand which I used to gently stroke him as he became soft.

We sat there for a few minutes, our hands wrapped around each others softening penises, till he reached for a box of Kleenex and cleaned both of us up. He was ebullient and enthusiastic about what we'd just done and, while I was a bit more subdued, I was thrilled as well. Later, and after swimming, we did the same thing again while lying next to each other on chaise lounges on the patio. This...began a romantic and sexual relationship that lasted close to a decade, all the while remaining best friends and having girlfriends along the way.
 
My first gay memory is as clear today nearly 40 years on as it was then.

I lived in a small town in Cheshire, England and it was 1986. Before then I had no thoughts about being gay, I didn’t even know anyone who was gay.

Anyway, one evening around 7pm I was walking back from a friends house on the other side of town, it had started to rain and of course at that age I had no coat on. I wanted a piss and spotted a sign for a public toilet, it was a no brainer, have a piss and get out of the rain.

I walked in through 2 doors and it was a small building with a urinal big enough for 2 people and 1 stall.
I took my cock out and started to piss, it was then I noticed all the writing on the walls, people looking for cock, short stories of men who had sex, some pictures of cocks cumming etc etc the whole of the wall was covered in it.

I found myself reading them and looking at the images, being a young man my cock was soon as hard as it had ever been.
I wanked until I came then I quickly left, I knew I would be back though and very soon.
Really similar here, in the grim North in mid 80s public toilets had those big tall doors with writing on them. Used to go in to read and have a wank at weekend after football practice or if I was in town.
Kept going back in the chance of a meet, chickened out so many times before a voice simply said 'in here', followed the voice into a cubicle where to cut a story short we wanked each other off. Turns our it was our old postie, who had been retired for a few years.
 
I was working at shoneys to pay my car note over the summer.I worked nights and went to high school.I wasn't supposed to be a closer but I volunteered for the hours.My manager,Steve was mid 30s and kind of scrawny,I was always kind of a jock type.The aisles and doorways were a bit narrow so there was a lot of unintentional bumping into people,i didn't mind some of the waitresses rubbing as they went by.I started to notice this guy would turn away from me as wed scoot past and he would brush his ass across my crotch.One night he was walking past me and he asks me if I've ever had a blow job!I said yeah I had a girlfriend.
I didn't have a girlfriend,shit,id only had sex one time and it was awkward to say the least.Id fantasized about getting head since the first time I saw a penthouse,but never had gotten that lucky.Well he asked that same thing a couple of times and I just kinda kept saying yes.His next question caught me by surprise.He says,have you ever had a blowjob from a guy!WTF?Hell no Steve.Thank God I had an apron on,my dick was betraying me and I was rock hard.I didn't understand why either.He must have been able to tell how that fucked with my head.He starts asking me if he could suck me off, several times a shift.Hes like,when women suck dick they mostly just pay attention to the head.He tells me that he knows how to deepthroat AND he swallows cum.So now I'm in a hell of a predicament.
One night we were closing and he's been fucking with me all night and my underwear are soaked through with precum,I'm fed up with this bs and I finally just said buy me a pint of whiskey,a porn magazine and I bet you 50 fucking dollars you can't deepthroat me!!
I was in the passenger seat of Steve's little two door in the parking lot of the adult bookstore waiting for Steve to get back in the car.I wasn't allowed in and the parking lot was busy.I was paranoid that everyone knew what was about to happen.
We went a few miles from work up on a hill and parked.Ive had a couple of shots and have little buzz.We get out and stand in front of his car.Hes like,do you help with your pants?I pulled them down and sat on the hood.I was so full of anxiety that my dick was soft even after thumbing through the magazine.He reached out his hand and I laid back and worried about getting caught.
I nearly fell out when I felt that motherfucker lick my cock the first time.His mouth was like fire.I could feel my balls lift up in my ball sack.He licked it up and down and id never felt anything like this.He opened his mouth and started to go down my cock.The first few strokes of his mouth he put his nose in my pubes.My cock was swelling in his lips and i started feeling my balls building up a load.I could here the noises from his spit and my precum mixing together inside his mouth.Im trying my damndest not to cum.
It's not working,I'm exploding cum into this man's mouth and he won't stop trying to take more cock in deeper.Fuckin stop Steve,he's licking the cum off the head of my cock.Its over,the best blowjob I've ever had was from a man,still.
He dropped me off at my car and I went straight home and jacked off.I still had to work for him and he asked if I wanted to go to Memphis with him for a weekend but I turned him down.
I went years hiding this secret, marrying a woman and having kids, divorced now and wish I could find a buddy to play with,watch porn with and try to persuade into other things.Tbh,I want to find a guy that will let me suck his cock.Someone that will be patient until I can get it all in my mouth and past my throat.
TBH, wish I knew you in the real world.
 
When a teen, of age, so was he !
Nothing happened, but adored his smooth, very light skinned chest. We shared the same dorm.at boarding school, and he once saw me hard and staring at his bear chest. I once thanked him for getting me a coffee, he said "you can have anything you want from me." Badly missed opportunity by me !
 
ooh I'd love to give my cute postie a blowy at my door when he's dropping stuff off
 
Visited Europe as a young man…went to a massive outdoor/indoor pool. Men there are very free in most locker room areas…well anyway it was so busy and had my fill of bumping into and fondling a bunch of nude men as I made my way across the lockers/showers/saunas…some barely even cared and a few even smiled and knew what my horny self was doing.

One man started a conversation and we went to the pull together (with swimsuits on). In Europe they were these bikini trunks…we had a lot of fun grabbing and fondling in the hot tub…but then went our ways…maybe he came not sure
 
My family had moved cities, but still kept in touch with some old neighbors. I was good friends with their son, Adam. Almost every year, both families caught up and went on a holiday together. So that year while on a holiday we bumped into Adam's friend, a girl who was our age. I could sense they were more than just friends.

Adam and me were sharing a hotel room together. After dinner, while lying in bed I brought up the girl and he confessed about some threesome he had with some other guy and her. It was not what i expected to hear, but it excited me and I got a big hard-on listening to the details.

When Adam saw it, he put his hands into my shorts! When I didn't object he undressed me completely and he too stripped. Then he took my cock into his warm mouth. After a minute, he changed his position to a sixty-nine. I did what came to me naturally then :) I took his lovely shaved cock in my mouth. I gagged when he came, but I still swallowed almost all his cum!

|I fell in love with his hairless chiseled body. We sucked each other about six times over the next two days. I was just obsessed with his body and cock - I wanted to be his woman.
https://www.xvideos.com/video.hliuvio2e22/what_is_your_name_what_your_name_

I so wished we lived closer.
That was my first experience.
 
So I had 2 neighbors next door Victor 3 years older and across the street Johnny 1 year older who I fooled around with for years at right around the same time. So they were both my first gay memories as I kinda group them together.

Johnny I fooled around with first teen years we would sleep over at my house and we got into this little game it felt like of pretending we were dreaming of having sex with our school girl crush and take turns dry humping each other. We did quite a few times to the point where we were doing it midday during a pretend nap. And we had established some roles. I no longer even tried to hump Johnny it was all about him humping me.

We got super close to being naked but he actually had to move away for a while, but when he came back we immediately continued plus!!! I was 18 and he was 19 1/2. I remember him knocking on my door and I was so excited to see him he was too. It was very awkward at first when we went into my room and talked for a bit but then this silence hit us. I knew we were both wanting to just like kiss or something.

So I asked him what he was doing tonight and he said probably just gonna be in my room tonight kinda tired, I said oh ok, then he said wanna come over for a while or spend the night? It was amazing Johnny was super aggressive as soon as I came in he turned off the light and was naked with a huge boner. So I took off my clothes to shaking and nervously I laid down on his bed and he was immediately on me.

He spread my legs wide open and spit a huge wad right on my asshole and started to insert his cock inside me. He got in but it hurt at first and he pulled out and tried again. Same thing it hurt like crazy but we kept trying, I said I thing it needs some more spit or something. He left to the bathroom and came back quickly with a jar of Vaseline and lube me up and his cock.

This time he slid in much easier not too painful until he started pounding me hard. I begged him to stop but he didn’t and I tried to squirm away but he was too big and stronger than me. Plus it was like he didn’t hear me saying…johnny..Johnny stop….stop stop…because at the same time I heard him keep saying ahhh ahhh fuck yeah…fuck yeah…

Im not sure how long he fucked me 2 minutes maybe but it was rough and non stop pounding…Then he said he was going to cum…ahhh I’m going cum….AHHH AHHH AHHH FUCK…FUCK…. I was being filled with his load as I whimpered and came to. His cum was overflowing out of my ass down my crack and dripping on his bed. He stayed balls deep inside me for at least another 2 minutes grinding in every last drop.

I was so sore after that I went home and we didn’t see each other again until I felt better after about a week. But I went back to his house one night after a week and he fucked me again. And same thing rest and come back rest heal and come back again. But soon we were doing it more often like every other night and longer sessions different positions not just on my stomach. Soon we were doing it daily sometimes twice a day, and very long sessions over an hour sometimes.

We had a position routine, first doggy style for the majority of our session then sideways on our left to get a breather then on my back with my legs pinned to my chest his arms locked them in place behind my head as he pounded me till he filled me up with his load. That’s was his favorite way to cum inside me because he kept me pinned in one place no moving or trying to stop him. We were active like this till about 26 years of age 27 for him then we died down to only once in a while when he was horny or his girlfriend was gone.

I’ll share my victor story soon.
 
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It intrigues me how at least some of us settle into roles and identities - Johnny clearly was the Alpha and used you to cement his own self-understanding as a sexual dominant and you as his willing submissive. So glad he grasped the importance of lube otherwise the journey for you both might never have led to enjoyment. Curious if you ever topped or was this early experience what set your lifetime trajectory?
 
My first gay memory is as clear today nearly 40 years on as it was then.

I lived in a small town in Cheshire, England and it was 1986. Before then I had no thoughts about being gay, I didn’t even know anyone who was gay.

Anyway, one evening around 7pm I was walking back from a friends house on the other side of town, it had started to rain and of course at that age I had no coat on. I wanted a piss and spotted a sign for a public toilet, it was a no brainer, have a piss and get out of the rain.

I walked in through 2 doors and it was a small building with a urinal big enough for 2 people and 1 stall.
I took my cock out and started to piss, it was then I noticed all the writing on the walls, people looking for cock, short stories of men who had sex, some pictures of cocks cumming etc etc the whole of the wall was covered in it.

I found myself reading them and looking at the images, being a young man my cock was soon as hard as it had ever been.
I wanked until I came then I quickly left, I knew I would be back though and very soon.
There is research that shows that age 10 was the age when most people recall feeling same-sex attractions. I don't remember age 10 that well, but when I was in 7th-grade, I had what could be called a "crush" on an 8th-grader (Ricky), who I did not know at all, really. He was so beautiful, almost tender looking, and all I wanted was to see him shirtless, to see his chest, and I was jealous of his g/f who got to see it, and touch it.

A few years later, in high school, we did become friends (we had parts in a school play). And many years after that, well into adulthood, someone, one of his female classmates, posted on FB a photo of Ricky shirtless from their high school days. Yeah, not gonna lie, I masturbated to it!
 
There is research that shows that age 10 was the age when most people recall feeling same-sex attractions. I don't remember age 10 that well, but when I was in 7th-grade, I had what could be called a "crush" on an 8th-grader (Ricky), who I did not know at all, really. He was so beautiful, almost tender looking, and all I wanted was to see him shirtless, to see his chest, and I was jealous of his g/f who got to see it, and touch it.

A few years later, in high school, we did become friends (we had parts in a school play). And many years after that, well into adulthood, someone, one of his female classmates, posted on FB a photo of Ricky shirtless from their high school days. Yeah, not gonna lie, I masturbated to it!
Great memory
 
There is research that shows that age 10 was the age when most people recall feeling same-sex attractions. I don't remember age 10 that well, but when I was in 7th-grade, I had what could be called a "crush" on an 8th-grader (Ricky), who I did not know at all, really. He was so beautiful, almost tender looking, and all I wanted was to see him shirtless, to see his chest, and I was jealous of his g/f who got to see it, and touch it.

A few years later, in high school, we did become friends (we had parts in a school play). And many years after that, well into adulthood, someone, one of his female classmates, posted on FB a photo of Ricky shirtless from their high school days. Yeah, not gonna lie, I masturbated to it!
I ponder all the missed opportunities back in my school.
 
I ponder all the missed opportunities back in my school.
Me too, gosh, so many missed opportunities, and not just back in school. One time my friend Joe, going through a divorce, went out of his way to visit me. Showed me amazing videos of their marital sex (I guess people record themselves for real)....I marveled at the size of his cock....he pulled down his pants and underwear and asked me to measure it ---9-inches for real....I fondled it a bit....but I wish I put in my mouth...and made him remove his shirt. In my defense, we were kinda drunk!
 
Admittedly I don't think I could have resisted such an amazing 9inch cock. Next time- right?
 
It intrigues me how at least some of us settle into roles and identities - Johnny clearly was the Alpha and used you to cement his own self-understanding as a sexual dominant and you as his willing submissive. So glad he grasped the importance of lube otherwise the journey for you both might never have led to enjoyment. Curious if you ever topped or was this early experience what set your lifetime trajectory?
Wow you said it best, this definitely set my trajectory as a total submissive bottom. Always hoping to recreate that same type of situation. Being used and dominated is a total turn on for me.
 
It intrigues me how at least some of us settle into roles and identities - Johnny clearly was the Alpha and used you to cement his own self-understanding as a sexual dominant and you as his willing submissive. So glad he grasped the importance of lube otherwise the journey for you both might never have led to enjoyment. Curious if you ever topped or was this early experience what set your lifetime trajectory?
To answer your question no I have never topped
 
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