What the Fuck is Chemistry?

[Honeysucklevine]

I've been in a number of situations where different kinds of chemistry came to the surface.

The most powerful of which was when I fell head over heels for a woman who admitted to feeling the same for me before we even said a word to one another. We just new when we saw each other for the first time that "it" was between us. But, alas, it was not to be...

Could you tell us what happened, if you don't mind?

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I do not want to smell like a sweaty teenager. I'm just finally getting that smell out of my house!

 

[invisigirl]

I tend to think that a connection should take place on the first date. Isn't this connection similar to what one would consider "chemistry"? Is it unrealistic to assume this could happen on a first date?

I have experienced it before, but hate the dating scene, so I try to avoid it. I suppose I'm also looking for justification to tell this nice man that I'm not ready for a relationship so I can work on patching things up with my ex-.

The justification is in your feelings but it sounds like there's some unfinished business you have elsewhere first. Is there chemistry with your ex? Maybe you need to sort that through before you can feel it for someone else.

As for the guy, I'd suggest letting him know how you feel before long if you haven't already. It's probably the kindest way you can do it.

 

[Hester]

When I feel that instant chemistry--I don't necessarily trust it. It's not based on how I interact with the person nor with the quality of that person. It's purely visceral.

It takes me a while to feel drawn to someone for who they are, but that always turns out to be a more appropriate type of chemistry.

 

[invisigirl]

When I feel that instant chemistry--I don't necessarily trust it. It's not based on how I interact with the person nor with the quality of that person. It's purely visceral.

It takes me a while to feel drawn to someone for who they are, but that always turns out to be a more appropriate type of chemistry.

The hottest thing is when that visceral chemistry is joined by trust and caring. Knowing it could happen makes you want to see where the visceral will go even if you don't trust it completely.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

Could you tell us what happened, if you don't mind?

We looked at one another just before being introduced and that was that. I had very sudden butterflies in my stomach and she told me later that a shock went up her spine and the hairs on her neck stood up, but it was all in a good sort of way.

We definitely had the non-verbal thing going on. It was friggin' amazing and we both were getting into it pretty deep emotionally.

All was going pretty good for a while, but greater forces were at work than what we were feeling for one another. Those things get pretty personal and because of that I won't get into those details here.

Bottom line: We do still contact one another from time to time. We both tell each other that we haven't stopped thinking about each other. Life goes on, but that relationship never will.

 

[Honeysucklevine]

I do not want to smell like a sweaty teenager. I'm just finally getting that smell out of my house!

I hear that! What's up with that smell in my son's room?

 

[Honeysucklevine]

We looked at one another just before being introduced and that was that. I had very sudden butterflies in my stomach and she told me later that a shock went up her spine and the hairs on her neck stood up, but it was all in a good sort of way.

We definitely had the non-verbal thing going on. It was friggin' amazing and we both were getting into it pretty deep emotionally.

All was going pretty good for a while, but greater forces were at work than what we were feeling for one another. Those things get pretty personal and because of that I won't get into those details here.

Bottom line: We do still contact one another from time to time. We both tell each other that we haven't stopped thinking about each other. Life goes on, but that relationship never will.

I know how that feels. I wrote the book, so to speak!

 

[Meat Whistler]

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I hear that! What's up with that smell in my son's room?

Smells like teen spirit? lol

 

[Honeysucklevine]

ooooooooo, good one, crazybbwgirl. Nirvana. (sniffing) No, I think it's dirty socks!

 

[houseman]

You say he and you just didn't "click" but I wonder if you actually gave it a chance to click given the fact you mentioned about wanting to try and patch things up with your ex.

Definitely sounds like you were not ready and I sure you communicate it was NOT him in at all but rather the fact you still have feeling for your ex and SHOULDN'T have been out on a date in the first place as to the reason why you don't want to continue on with him.

Good luck.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

ooooooooo, good one, crazybbwgirl. Nirvana. (sniffing) No, I think it's dirty socks!

I think that's pretty much the same thing? lol