Who gets a one night stand?

[wildfyre]

So much can be said without saying a thing!

That is true, Alt.

Intense eye contact and confident body language can be decieving though. Sometimes people want to break out of themselves and experiment with being something they aren't so they put on a front. Lots of times they can't keep up the act and you find out all that non-verbal communication was a bunch of BS.

 

[landcruisergal]

Dumb and confident always works for me! I've always liked my ONS guys big and dumb.....don't have to talk to them much that way!

hell yeah.... works for me too...
as long as they aren't under the illusion that they actually are clever and talk too much.
strong and silent please.

 

[Alt]

strong and silent please.

Don't forget the eye contact. Nothing like confidence exuded through a strong gaze.

 

[landcruisergal]

Don't forget the eye contact. Nothing like confidence exuded through a strong gaze.

was on my list of essential criteria...

 

[Technodivinitas]

Nope...

Dumb does nothing for me but make fireworks go fizzle. I'm 5' nothing. Almost anyone could shove me into a dark corner and grab a grope (or more.) If someone wants me to go willingly, I expect them to clearly have enough of an intellect that he can "dance" with me. The world is full of big dumb hotties. They're usually TOO egomaniacal for my taste.

As for condoms- yeah. That's a tough one- nobody wants to deal with weeks, months, or a (possibly short) lifetime of regrets. This is the main reason I don't really do the ONS anymore. I was young, wild, and stupidstupidstupid, and it's a miracle I survived some of the things I did.

Speaking of which, (and of closed parks late at night,)- how about 3 am over a bottle of JD, in a stall of the mens' room of the Seattle Center, in the rain? Doesn't count as BBDsM. It was all completely vanilla, except for the setting. (We did the womens' room too, come to think of it... They were adjoined by a service door which was, for some reason, ajar. *Lol*)

 

[wildfyre]

Dumb does nothing for me but make fireworks go fizzle. I'm 5' nothing. Almost anyone could shove me into a dark corner and grab a grope (or more.) If someone wants me to go willingly, I expect them to clearly have enough of an intellect that he can "dance" with me. The world is full of big dumb hotties. They're usually TOO egomaniacal for my taste.

As for condoms- yeah. That's a tough one- nobody wants to deal with weeks, months, or a (possibly short) lifetime of regrets. This is the main reason I don't really do the ONS anymore. I was young, wild, and stupidstupidstupid, and it's a miracle I survived some of the things I did.

Dumb only works for the ONS. The appeal of them is they usually are coming from a more primal mindset....get in, get off, get out! If I'm going to want to spend more time with you than it takes to get off, you've got to engage my mind as well as my hormones.
I took time off from dating, got my heart broken badly and casual sex, it just got tiresome. Now that I'm stepping back out there, I'm lucky to have found someone whose mind turns me on more than I've ever been. Iif I ever decide to go back to the casual hook-ups......confident, dumb and silent would be the way to go!

Condoms are a must! Too many scary things out there to risk it!
Like you TD I was wild and stupid. I don't know how I managed to make it out of my youth alive and with all my parts intact!

 

[Marquis]

Intense eye contact and confident body language can be decieving though. Sometimes people want to break out of themselves and experiment with being something they aren't so they put on a front. Lots of times they can't keep up the act and you find out all that non-verbal communication was a bunch of BS.

I have been victim of this on both sides, many times.

Some girl will give me every sign of go, and when she realizes I ain't playing, will freak out and run away. Also, I've been in situations, particularly right after I broke up with my long term girlfriend, where I would play the all confident role and get them back to my bed, then get so nervous about performing that I couldn't get my dick up.

This has happened to me more times than I care to admit.

 

[wildfyre]

I have been victim of this on both sides, many times.

Some girl will give me every sign of go, and when she realizes I ain't playing, will freak out and run away. Also, I've been in situations, particularly right after I broke up with my long term girlfriend, where I would play the all confident role and get them back to my bed, then get so nervous about performing that I couldn't get my dick up.

This has happened to me more times than I care to admit.

I never ran, I always knew what I was getting myself into so I had no excuse to run!

Your situation after breaking up is pretty common though. It stands to reason that your confidence would be shaken after a relationship ends, mine always was. I just got aggravated with the *nice boys* out playing at being a badass gigolo! I can understand wanting to experience new things but don't try to play too far out of your depth, it just pisses off the girlies who are looking to be used! After all, that's what an ONS is all about, isn't it?

 

[Technodivinitas]

I have been victim of this on both sides, many times.

Some girl will give me every sign of go, and when she realizes I ain't playing, will freak out and run away. Also, I've been in situations, particularly right after I broke up with my long term girlfriend, where I would play the all confident role and get them back to my bed, then get so nervous about performing that I couldn't get my dick up.

This has happened to me more times than I care to admit.

Dare I ask, what did you do in those circumstances? (Make excuses, play handses instead, bail at high spead...?)

 

[Marquis]

Dare I ask, what did you do in those circumstances? (Make excuses, play handses instead, bail at high spead...?)

First time it happened I apologized profusely and the girl walked out. After that I wouldn't even worry about it too much. I need to feel a certain rhythm with a female to get turned on, and I can seduce a lot more women than I can find that rhythm with. If I wasn't getting aroused enough, I would just tell them they weren't doing it for me and they'd usually be on their way.

 

[Technodivinitas]

If I wasn't getting aroused enough, I would just tell them they weren't doing it for me and they'd usually be on their way.

Ouch. They weren't doing it for you? Marquis? You are a bad, bad man. *L*

 

[wildfyre]

Ouch. They weren't doing it for you? Marquis? You are a bad, bad man. *L*

And that's why we're so hot for him!

 

[Netzach]

Criteria based O.N.S....and sadly its not something I have the opportunity to indulge in anymore.....

1. Must be under 30, pref, under 25.
2. Cute, built and have some kind of sexual arrogance.
Not afraid of intense eye contact, or a little grope/feel up in public.
Not in any mad rush either, enjoying the tease.
3. Keep the conversation to sex- what turns us on, what we want to do to each other.If he starts asking details about me, or starts chit chat and doesnt shut up if I ask him to, I walk. I am not interested in his job, his income or where he went on holidays.
4.*bad boys* were most of my one nighters when I was younger, as I obviously had a need to feel used. Now its a conquest of sorts.
5.If he has a hot car and sober enough to drive.....bonus points.

I wanna go cruising with you.

I don't really do one-night, I do friendly no strings, but not one-night. Too paranoid and NYC an upbriging.

 

[pvc_sister]

In my wilder days I never looked for a certain physical *type* when I was looking for a hookup. I always looked for the *bad boys* that I knew were just looking to use me like I was using them.

Yeah, know that one. After my marriage broke down (i'd been with the same guy for 15 YEARS!) and despite the fact I was never really that bothered by sex during it, I suddenly became a walking time-bomb. As I'd just come out of a long-term relationship, I wanted someone as a one-night stand or fuck-buddy and one night at my local club the perfect guy walked in. I've known him for years, and he had a reputation as quite the stud (200+ women at last count, but he was sensible, regular testing and always used a condom)

Well, 2 and a half years later we are still together and madly in love and at it like rabbits on poppers still.

1 night stands can be funny things at times, but despite the fact the last thing I wanted was a relationship I'm well happy!

 

[jasonlf]

then get so nervous about performing that I couldn't get my dick up

If more older, experienced people were honest about embarassing things, maybe those of us younger wouldn't feel like complete and total circus freaks when we walk down similar paths.

 

[canadiancutie]

If more older, experienced people were honest about embarassing things, maybe those of us younger wouldn't feel like complete and total circus freaks when we walk down similar paths.

Having never been alone with a girl in a room means that you probably haven't been down that path. You probably couldn't find that path if you mapquested it and had a sherpa to guide you.

 

[landcruisergal]

" I never ran, I always knew what I was getting myself into so I had no excuse to run"

Exactly where I was coming from. You cant play the tease to that extent and trust someone you dont know to stop if you change your mind. Its all or nothing.
The sexually frustrated male is a dangerous creature, and the dumber they are, the less self control they often have.

Worst case scenario is when they cant get it up and get irrationally frustrated and potentially violent...then you have to play the counselor role, or keep him drinking until he passes out with promises of "in the morning" then get the fuck out of there.
I made sure the guy was under no illusion to what the situation was before we left together.

and back to the condom issue, if you indulge in ONS you carry your own. I know guys dont like them, and rarely carry them. Protect yourself.

My b/f was a 23 y/o ONS. I was 32, recently single and just having fun again.
Certainly wasnt looking for a relationship, esp. with a guy that much younger.
6 years later, still together...go figure...

 

[Private_Label]

Having never been alone ...

[virgin club sex boss]
CC, I'm getting a bit irritated with your bratty mouth. Just because you are a sexually frustrated virgin, don't take it out on the people who could help you correct that problem.

Personally I chalk it up to your being underfed. BUt that is a lousy excuse and one you could easily recitfy.

I'm warning you, don't make me use the Virgin Club Flogger on your untried backside missy![/vigin club sex boss]

 

[canadiancutie]

[virgin club sex boss]
CC, I'm getting a bit irritated with your bratty mouth. Just because you are a sexually frustrated virgin, don't take it out on the people who could help you correct that problem.

Personally I chalk it up to your being underfed. BUt that is a lousy excuse and one you could easily recitfy.

I'm warning you, don't make me use the Virgin Club Flogger on your untried backside missy![/vigin club sex boss]

End your life. Oh wait that was bratty. Please end your life?

 

[Private_Label]

" I never ran, I always knew what I was getting myself into so I had no excuse to run"

Exactly where I was coming from. You cant play the tease to that extent and trust someone you dont know to stop if you change your mind. Its all or nothing.
The sexually frustrated male is a dangerous creature, and the dumber they are, the less self control they often have.

Exactly. My mother has always taught me - don't start anything you don't plan to finish. No still means NO, but if I've been a prick tease without giving any relief then the situation is at least partially my responsibility.

For example, I can flirt with all the guys here on the internet, but I suspect in person I wouldn't be so forward with many of them for that reason. I don't want to imply promises I don't intent to keep.

 

[Private_Label]

End your life. Oh wait that was bratty. Please end your life?

That might have worked 25 years ago when I was 15 and tried to commit suicide. I'm too old and grouchy now for that to work.

So... Can I pull yor hair? And give you a good spanking?

 

[canadiancutie]

That might have worked 25 years ago when I was 15 and tried to commit suicide. I'm too old and grouchy now for that to work.

So... Can I pull yor hair? And give you a good spanking?

please don't e-touch me.

 

[landcruisergal]

I wanna go cruising with you.

I don't really do one-night, I do friendly no strings, but not one-night. Too paranoid and NYC an upbriging.

I would be honoured. Havent been cruising with intent for a long time...so I would maybe need a few practice runs,
You wouldnt have to indulge, you could just watch me hunt down my prey.

 

[Netzach]

I would be honoured. Havent been cruising with intent for a long time...so I would maybe need a few practice runs,
You wouldnt have to indulge, you could just watch me hunt down my prey.

That would rock. You so have it down to an art.

 

[landcruisergal]

That would rock. You so have it down to an art.

no art really,...the younger and dumber they are, the easier they are..
Its simple pussy power. I have one, they want one.
And most younger, dumber lads jump at the chance of "no strings sex" with a woman with no hangups.
They know I have experience and they wont have to take the lead....its too attractive an offer.