Who gets a one night stand?

[Aeroil]

And herein lies my current problem. I think it would be really good for me to go out and get laid, or get a fuckbuddy. But, vanilla sex holds marginal appeal to me. Rough "vanilla" sex.. lots of dirty talk and hair pulling and stuff would be just grand, but in a one-night-stand you can't really know what you're going to get. And I don't know many male friends that I think would be comfortable treating me that way and also happen to be single.

Vanilla sex would at least give me someone to cuddle with at night, which might make it worth it, but so far I havent' been able to motivate myself to find someone. *sigh!* *shrugs*

I'm interested in exploring the more dominant side of my switchy personality, so I've set up a collarme profile looking for (preferably) a cute little lesbian petling... (Or a male, but he'd have to be exceptionally submissive and intelligent, and likely several years younger than I.) Someone to cuddle with and spoil and perhaps experiment on as a top. But someone pointed out to me that I could end up "rebounding" and breaking someone's heart... So it's a little complicated. =\ I'm not looking to be anyone's "Mistress," but more like a Mommy and/or a top. I could see a relationship like this eventually becoming poly if the right Dom came along afterwards. Or I could see something like this being short-term, with someone who is, say, in the military here and leaving Hawaii in a matter of months.

Oh dear. Life is so complicated sometimes.

*stands around looking cute and smart*
hehehe, sorry, couldn't resist, that's too bad .

 

[Marquis]

And herein lies my current problem. I think it would be really good for me to go out and get laid, or get a fuckbuddy. But, vanilla sex holds marginal appeal to me. Rough "vanilla" sex.. lots of dirty talk and hair pulling and stuff would be just grand, but in a one-night-stand you can't really know what you're going to get. And I don't know many male friends that I think would be comfortable treating me that way and also happen to be single.

Vanilla sex would at least give me someone to cuddle with at night, which might make it worth it, but so far I havent' been able to motivate myself to find someone. *sigh!* *shrugs*

I'm interested in exploring the more dominant side of my switchy personality, so I've set up a collarme profile looking for (preferably) a cute little lesbian petling... (Or a male, but he'd have to be exceptionally submissive and intelligent, and likely several years younger than I.) Someone to cuddle with and spoil and perhaps experiment on as a top. But someone pointed out to me that I could end up "rebounding" and breaking someone's heart... So it's a little complicated. =\ I'm not looking to be anyone's "Mistress," but more like a Mommy and/or a top. I could see a relationship like this eventually becoming poly if the right Dom came along afterwards. Or I could see something like this being short-term, with someone who is, say, in the military here and leaving Hawaii in a matter of months.

Oh dear. Life is so complicated sometimes.

If someone to cuddle with at night is what you're really looking for, then I would warn against exchanging sexuality for intimacy. Whoever you're fucking might think you're exchanging sexuality for sexuality.

However, from a purely sexual standpoint, I think even the most vanilla guys wouldn't mind being a little rough if you brought up that that was what you were looking for.

 

[Marquis]

Hmmm back when I was the fucking queen of one nighters I based my choice on 3 things...

1. availability: whether or not they came to the club (or where ever) with someone else and whether or not they had a vehicle of thier own.

2. looks: the more cut up and diesel (men) they appeared, the more apt I was to look once, twice or thrice.

3. Safer Sex sane: If I said "I got a condom, wanna fuck?" and they balked at the word condom...it was a no go.

That being said, interestingly enough, I have never indulged my taste for ONS with a female...probably because I liked them too much. I never had much respect for the guys I picked up...I just got bored playing with my toys...

It's always been my theory that the diesel guys had it made as the one night stand targets. So fucking unfair.

 

[Killishandra]

move to canada

Move to Hawaii, cutie.

*stands around looking cute and smart*
hehehe, sorry, couldn't resist, that's too bad .

hehe, you're probably just kidding, but don't think I haven't had thoughts of it. I like bratty younger kids, I have 3 younger siblings. Either you or CC would fit the bill nicely if you were interested. So how come you both live so far away from me?! Shame on you!

 

[Killishandra]

If someone to cuddle with at night is what you're really looking for, then I would warn against exchanging sexuality for intimacy. Whoever you're fucking might think you're exchanging sexuality for sexuality.

However, from a purely sexual standpoint, I think even the most vanilla guys wouldn't mind being a little rough if you brought up that that was what you were looking for.

I'm looking for both intimacy AND sex. So yeah, therein lies my problem... I can't expect to indulge in much intimacy in a ONS, and I can't expect to indulge in too much intimacy in a fuckbuddy system because it's likely whichever male friend I choose will start to develop feelings for me. (Or even worse, I'll start to develop feelings towards him.) Unless they turn out to be a closet Dom or a sub I would consider taking the upper hand with, the potential for relationship is pretty non-existant. *shrug*

Oh well. I'm funneling my sexual frustration into JKD and that seems to be helping.

 

[Marquis]

I'm looking for both intimacy AND sex. So yeah, therein lies my problem... I can't expect to indulge in much intimacy in a ONS, and I can't expect to indulge in too much intimacy in a fuckbuddy system because it's likely whichever male friend I choose will start to develop feelings for me. (Or even worse, I'll start to develop feelings towards him.) Unless they turn out to be a closet Dom or a sub I would consider taking the upper hand with, the potential for relationship is pretty non-existant. *shrug*

Oh well. I'm funneling my sexual frustration into JKD and that seems to be helping.

If you both develop feelings for each other, what's the problem?

 

[Aeroil]

Move to Hawaii, cutie.



hehe, you're probably just kidding, but don't think I haven't had thoughts of it. I like bratty younger kids, I have 3 younger siblings. Either you or CC would fit the bill nicely if you were interested. So how come you both live so far away from me?! Shame on you!

I am never kidding.
....
Well maybe just not that time.
....
Okay, okay, only just a little that time.

hahaha, okay, so I was half kiddin, but my attitude is probably similar to CC's on this matter

 

[Killishandra]

If you both develop feelings for each other, what's the problem?

The problem is, I would be developing feelings based on the fact that we're sleeping together, despite not being compatible. I really have no interest in developing a relationship with someone who has no interest in BDSM. Do you?

 

[canadiancutie]

Move to Hawaii, cutie.



hehe, you're probably just kidding, but don't think I haven't had thoughts of it. I like bratty younger kids, I have 3 younger siblings. Either you or CC would fit the bill nicely if you were interested. So how come you both live so far away from me?! Shame on you!

....we're both in Canada. So you should come here, because yeah....2 cool kids, one country.

 

[Killishandra]

I am never kidding.
....
Well maybe just not that time.
....
Okay, okay, only just a little that time.

hahaha, okay, so I was half kiddin, but my attitude is probably similar to CC's on this matter

If I ever get a chance to fly to Canada I will have to round up you and CC together. Damn, there are some interesting scenarios I could orchestrate in that situation.

Plus, I would have a great time letting you guys show me around and me spoiling you both rotten. Xelebes can come too.

 

[Aeroil]

....we're both in Canada. So you should come here, because yeah....2 cool kids, one country.

Yeah, and then you can Dom both of us
*sits next to CC, the two of them looking incredibly cute and Domable.*

 

[Killishandra]

....we're both in Canada. So you should come here, because yeah....2 cool kids, one country.

Gotta go run errands, but if someone on the street hands me a free ticket to Canada, I'll run back home and tell you the good news immediately. LOL

 

[Aeroil]

If I ever get a chance to fly to Canada I will have to round up you and CC together. Damn, there are some interesting scenarios I could orchestrate in that situation.

Plus, I would have a great time letting you guys show me around and me spoiling you both rotten. Xelebes can come too.

I see we're all on the same page, excellent .

 

[Aeroil]

Gotta go run errands, but if someone on the street hands me a free ticket to Canada, I'll run back home and tell you the good news immediately. LOL

Hey, we're a gang, we can do some illegal stuff that makes money and get a ticket can't we?

 

[Killishandra]

Hey, we're a gang, we can do some illegal stuff that makes money and get a ticket can't we?

LMAO @ your sig line

 

[Aeroil]

LMAO @ your sig line

Oh you're totally one of em.

 

[Marquis]

The problem is, I would be developing feelings based on the fact that we're sleeping together, despite not being compatible. I really have no interest in developing a relationship with someone who has no interest in BDSM. Do you?

I generally don't get attached to women who aren't submissive, but I suppose it's different for females.

 

[Aeroil]

I generally don't get attached to women who aren't submissive, but I suppose it's different for females.

Or perhaps it's just different for people without hollow tin chests.

 

[Marquis]

Or perhaps it's just different for people without hollow tin chests.

Or straw heads?


Fucker.

 

[Aeroil]

Or straw heads?


Fucker.

*laughs* oh c'mon I'm kidding, it's been a while since I jibed you.

 

[Marquis]

*laughs* oh c'mon I'm kidding, it's been a while since I jibed you.

Indeed, let's get back into it.

 

[Aeroil]

Indeed, let's get back into it.

*in a very bad british accent*
Indubitably!



...err...

 

[Killishandra]

Or perhaps it's just different for people without hollow tin chests.

This made me choke on the banana I was eating. !!!

 

[Aeroil]

This made me choke on the banana I was eating. !!!

haha, so now I've made you choke on a banana and almost spill coffee on yourself.

 

[canadiancutie]

This made me choke on the banana I was eating. !!!

mmmm....killi eating a banana.... *insert wetdream here*