Why did i become bi?

I think I became bi out of necessity. I am in a sexless marriage and decided to try sucking another cock. I didnt want to have an affair with a woman and I was curious so I stepped out of my comfort zone. Im glad I did because i found mutual touch and oral with another man was very gratifying. I just wish I would have become bi much earlier in life but looking back i realize I was probably turned on by cock but too afraid and ashamed based on societies views on same sex
 
I pretty sure I’ve been bi for longer than I think. I was intrigued by cocks for most of my adult life. It wasn’t until I was 50 yrs old that I decided to act on my curiosity and went looking on the old Craigslist. I do truly love women and pussy and I do love a nice hard smooth cock as well. For me there is something about make both men and women cum that is very satisfying for me in fact I do get harder when I’m preforming oral.
 
Why bisexual?? Because you're human?? Humans by nature are hyper-sexual, right up there with rabbits & rats. (Sorry if that brings less than erotic images to your mind, LOL.)
And, why now, as a mature adult?? As many other posts here have reinfored, as we mature, we tend to become more open minded about sex... I mean, if you're sex positive in the 1st place... otherwise maybe exactly the opposite.
1 other poooossible biological reason, for men specifically... maybe as the male prostate grows, there's some trigger to receive anal?? You can call me all wet on that, ha, ha, just flying by the seat of my pants on this "theory"... I haven't read any sex reseach on it.
 
I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.

It's probably been said but I haven't read the entire thread. We're conditioned by society to be straight, and most of us also being brought up to be conformist, we conform.

Later in life you embrace more honesty in what you like and what really turns you on. Doesn't necessarily mean you'll turn gay or bi, but if it's latent then it'll come out.
 
It's probably been said but I haven't read the entire thread. We're conditioned by society to be straight, and most of us also being brought up to be conformist, we conform.

Later in life you embrace more honesty in what you like and what really turns you on. Doesn't necessarily mean you'll turn gay or bi, but if it's latent then it'll come out.
I think that is definitely true. Even then it can be a struggle to accept what you like and turns you on.
 
Actually I find I’ve been open to recieving anal as I’ve got older.
I'd never have gone for it when younger, for sure. Or maybe if I'd met a woman into pegging, perhaps, but I honestly didn't even know what that was till around age 50.

Having now been pegged and taken real cock, I'm a bit like "where were you all my life?" but also, it's a process that got me here, it went at its own pace, and I've no regrets.
 
I'd never have gone for it when younger, for sure. Or maybe if I'd met a woman into pegging, perhaps, but I honestly didn't even know what that was till around age 50.

Having now been pegged and taken real cock, I'm a bit like "where were you all my life?" but also, it's a process that got me here, it went at its own pace, and I've no regrets.
Yeah, NOW I can imagine having lived a different life but you gotta start from where you are.
 
Part of the conditioning that certainly my generation got, was that sex is a fact of life but only "normal" sex, man and wife stuff. Anything kinky was what you read about in the tabloid papers when some public shame was needed to cut some fucking upstart down to size. Normal people didn't do kinky (except of course we all do, even if just in fantasy)
 
Part of the conditioning that certainly my generation got, was that sex is a fact of life but only "normal" sex, man and wife stuff. Anything kinky was what you read about in the tabloid papers when some public shame was needed to cut some fucking upstart down to size. Normal people didn't do kinky (except of course we all do, even if just in fantasy)
Those deviants! I have to admit that I am a lot happier being one of those deviants.
 
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I was about 55 when I developed a sexual,attraction to men. Before that I was totally straight. I have no idea why I changed. I noticed when showering after a workout I started getting excited by the cocks I was seeing. With in about 2 years I was sucking cock.

I have no idea why this happened. I was married, and it was not a sexless marriage. I did not become gay, but I needed cock as much as I needed straight sex. It was not a hormone problem.

I know this has happened to other men. Do you have an explanation? I am content being bi, and have no desire to be straight or gay. Im am curious as to why I changed.
I'm also 55, and my urges started from chatting with other guys on here a couple years ago. At first, it was just fun to chat with someone while I was jerking off. Then I started thinking more and more about them jerking off at the same time. I gradually became more and more aroused by the idea of a man enjoying his cock. Then I became more aroused by the idea of enjoying his cock myself. And I finally decided I was ready to explore those urges.

I think what it boiled down to is partly because I was just plain lonely and horny, but also because I've done virtually everything that can be done with a woman, so I thought I'd broaden my horizons and see what other sexual pleasures I could enjoy.
 
I'm also 55, and my urges started from chatting with other guys on here a couple years ago. At first, it was just fun to chat with someone while I was jerking off. Then I started thinking more and more about them jerking off at the same time. I gradually became more and more aroused by the idea of a man enjoying his cock. Then I became more aroused by the idea of enjoying his cock myself. And I finally decided I was ready to explore those urges.

I think what it boiled down to is partly because I was just plain lonely and horny, but also because I've done virtually everything that can be done with a woman, so I thought I'd broaden my horizons and see what other sexual pleasures I could enjoy.
This is me also to a t ! Same age every thing ❤️
 
There’s tons of levels to being bi. Some like to suck only. Some like to swap. Others like fucking men and there are others who find masculinity completely unattractive aside from the appendage. One thing I can say is sucking cock is pressure-free. No real pressure to perform or to be good. I think its more difficult to be bad at it then to be good at it if you're into it. Just don’t fuck it up and the cock will shoot for you. Men are pressured to be decisive, to direct, etc. being orally bi is dropping all of that and just taking the magic in your throat 🤷‍♂️
 
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There’s tons of levels to being bi. Some like to suck only. Some like to swap. Others like fucking men and there others who find masculinity completely unattractive aside from the appendage. One thing I can say is sucking cock is pressure-free. No real pressure to perform or be good. I think its more difficult to be bad it then to be good at it if youre into it. Just don’t fuck it up and the cock will shoot for you. Men are pressured to be decisive, to direct, etc. being orally is dropping all of that and just taking the magic in your throat 🤷‍♂️
I was scared but excited the first time. You put it beautifully though. Don’t overthink and just do it.
 
Few things are more arousing than seeing a sexually aroused man. Maybe it's an empathetic response, like laughing when others laugh, etc. but multiplied to the nth degree because, you know, sex. A hard cock eager to shoot triggers a deep reaction that's completely out of conscience control. Men exude that kind of sexual energy. Women not as often, at least in my experience.

Bi-ness crept up on me as an adult. Before that sex with men never occurred to me. I think it started with simple basic availability. Men were DTF, women not so much. And the man side of things really, really grew on me. Now I instantly drop to my knees when presented with a cock in need.
 
i have always been bi i was born that way and always knew and have always been a bottom.
I used to think so, too, until my marriage opened up and I started having sex with men again after something like 25 years without.

I used to just default to bottom. With the first few men, it was because I was curious about something I couldn't do with a woman. (This was before pegging was affordable or much in the public consciousness. Later, I did bottom for women.) Then I was in a LTR with a man who just wouldn't bottom.

I mean, I never doubted that I liked to bottom and I still don't doubt it, but I've come to identify as pretty much a pure switch, and I'm very interested in topping men now.
 
Earliest I remember finding a hardcore bisexual porno left in my parents VCR one day when they'd left for a week on vacation with our neighbors. It was called "Bi, Bi, Birdie" 🤣. It was also a very formidable and horny time in my life. I remember being stunned the first few minutes... It was weird. Everyone was enjoying... Everything!?

Obviously I watched the entire thing OVER AND OVER that week. I started to dabble with exploring my butt, but that would take a few more years to really become enjoyable. I'm surprised I didn't do permanent damage to my dick that week.

From then on, I just kind of accepted the fact I was into men and women. And it was years later before I realized, oh... Mom and Dad are freaks and were probably swapping with those neighbors during that vacation and most of my life.

Long story, short, I get my bisexuality from my Dad. 🤣
 
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