Why do older men become bi-curious?

[Escierto]

In my wildest imagination I never came close to how much I would enjoy sex with another man. One of the things that stopped me all those years is the fact that I don't find men attractive. It was always about the sex not the person. Once I overcame my fear and went for it, I was completely comfortable with what I was doing and who I was with in just a mater of seconds. Two years later it still continues to get better.

If you don’t find men attractive (I can’t imagine having sex with a man) there are always women like my girl. A lovely woman with a lovely cock.

https://i.imgur.com/GRsDYVP.jpg

 

[confort]

If you don’t find men attractive (I can’t imagine having sex with a man) there are always women like my girl. A lovely woman with a lovely cock.

https://i.imgur.com/GRsDYVP.jpg

I would love to have such a woman.

 

[CharleeBenson]

.....

 

[Escierto]

I would love to have such a woman.

The Philippines and Thailand are filled with them. The advantage of the Philippines is most of them speak English.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

Your logic

is impeccable.

 

[Escierto]

I'm 61 and widowed for 5 years. I feel like its time to branch out! I Love hard cocks and cumshots on sexy shemales and Cd's! I Love Lingerie.....its just so Damn sexy!
I'm looking forward to sharing a hard cock sucking and anal experience with my first, (like me) Safe, CD!!! I still am incredibly turned on by women but why not have a sexy cock that is attached to a sexy "woman"!!??? Best of both worlds!

Go for it. The reality is even better than the fantasy.

 

[Dirt_in_the_Ground]

I don't really feel like I ever became bi-curious. A guy just slid his hand up the leg of my shorts one evening and asked me if he could give me a bj. I'd never thought about such a situation before, but it didn't trouble me. We had fun, and it certainly expanded my opportunities. Tended to piss a few women off, though.

 

[dawndavis66]

I'm 61 and widowed for 5 years. I feel like its time to branch out! I Love hard cocks and cumshots on sexy shemales and Cd's! I Love Lingerie.....its just so Damn sexy!
I'm looking forward to sharing a hard cock sucking and anal experience with my first, (like me) Safe, CD!!! I still am incredibly turned on by women but why not have a sexy cock that is attached to a sexy "woman"!!??? Best of both worlds!

So true!

 

[Tubeluver]

My story

For me, I’m 67, married 33 years. My wife was never too much into experimenting so we’ve never had mind blowing sex. She has given a few blow jobs, but doesn’t care for it. I’ve had ED for about 5 years now, I get about 80-90% hard but it won’t stay hard long enough for intercourse. So no sex for the last 5 years. When I was young, I had an older guy give me a BJ, ever since I’ve been curious. But I’ve always been kinda of a loner so I don’t have any friends and the few guys I do know, I wouldn’t chance bringing it up. But I would be into a male friend that we would get into jerking and/or sucking. No interest in kissing or anal, but would really like to try oral. However, I don’t see it ever happening.

 

[confort]

A long time ago, a good friend of mine told me that he was bi. About four years later, he informed me that he was gay. I asked him as to why. His reply, "It is a lot easier and with less hassles."

I will add another, also it is the numbers. Females are getting fewer and fewer who see themselves as sexual beings as they age. Sex, for all of us, is primarily in the realm of sense of touch. When I was much younger, we guys even considered knotholes in trees as "viable". The problem with those knotholes is that they do not respond like another human being. We all want the physical contact from another human being. With the diminishing numbers, men find other men more "tractable". Also, they are kindred spirits.

"Be yourself" is one of the best adages, I think, that works best.

Couldn't agree more. Less drama, the sex is great, it's nice to have someone to go out and get a beer and a sandwich and talk about things you both understand, and hurt feelings are usually resolved with a couple of "fuck-yous" and then you move on.

 

[Mtnmike]

For me, I’m 67, married 33 years. My wife was never too much into experimenting so we’ve never had mind blowing sex. She has given a few blow jobs, but doesn’t care for it. I’ve had ED for about 5 years now, I get about 80-90% hard but it won’t stay hard long enough for intercourse. So no sex for the last 5 years. When I was young, I had an older guy give me a BJ, ever since I’ve been curious. But I’ve always been kinda of a loner so I don’t have any friends and the few guys I do know, I wouldn’t chance bringing it up. But I would be into a male friend that we would get into jerking and/or sucking. No interest in kissing or anal, but would really like to try oral. However, I don’t see it ever happening.

This sounds just like my life's story, except I'm 61. Thought I was the only one's home life was this way. Wow learn something new everyday. Sorry you're going thru this too, it really sucks, no pun intended.

 

[bscurious1]

My opinion

I think alot of us had these thoughts forever but were never comfortable admitting them.
I feel as you get older, you gain confidence, you stop caring what others really think.

For me, even when I really started having the thoughts, I'd deny them, they'd go away for a bit, then come back, stay longer...etc etc etc. I'm to the point now, I just want to experiment and see if it's just fantasy or something I would enjoy.

 

[Travler99921]

What I did

This sounds just like my life's story, except I'm 61. Thought I was the only one's home life was this way. Wow learn something new everyday. Sorry you're going thru this too, it really sucks, no pun intended.

My situation was similar to yours. I can't guarantee what I did will work for you, but it did work for me. I had been feeling the need to suck cock for several years and I got to the point where I needed to act on my desire. Before I did told my wife about my desire.

There was a period of a lot of discussion. In about a month my wife said it would be OK if I tried gay sex. Of course I liked it. My wife said my honesty about my need allowed her to accept it. I became a regular but not frequent cocksucker. It also allowed my wife to tell me she preferred receiving oral sex over intercourse. Out sex life was renewed . My ED problem was no longer an issue. We found me giving her oral sex and then her helping me masturbate was very satisfying for both of us.

My coming out was a win win situation for us.

 

[Mtnmike]

My situation was similar to yours. I can't guarantee what I did will work for you, but it did work for me. I had been feeling the need to suck cock for several years and I got to the point where I needed to act on my desire. Before I did told my wife about my desire.

There was a period of a lot of discussion. In about a month my wife said it would be OK if I tried gay sex. Of course I liked it. My wife said my honesty about my need allowed her to accept it. I became a regular but not frequent cocksucker. It also allowed my wife to tell me she preferred receiving oral sex over intercourse. Out sex life was renewed . My ED problem was no longer an issue. We found me giving her oral sex and then her helping me masturbate was very satisfying for both of us.

My coming out was a win win situation for us.

Thank you for sharing this, I mentioned it a couple times but she wasn't receptive to the idea. I may give it another try, just not sure I could take another rejecting, perverted remark. Still not sure I would go through with it but it's on my mind more that I'm older. Like the other poster, I think about playing & sucking a cock just have no desire to do anal.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

I think alot of us had these thoughts forever but were never comfortable admitting them.
I feel as you get older, you gain confidence, you stop caring what others really think.

For me, even when I really started having the thoughts, I'd deny them, they'd go away for a bit, then come back, stay longer...etc etc etc. I'm to the point now, I just want to experiment and see if it's just fantasy or something I would enjoy.

I can relate to this....

 

[Secondthoughts3]

Agreed

I feel almost exactly the way you do. Thoughts didn't come until my 40s. I pushed them back. Now they come regularly...and I don't push back.
Age is Great

 

[Crios]

Thank you for sharing this, I mentioned it a couple times but she wasn't receptive to the idea. I may give it another try, just not sure I could take another rejecting, perverted remark. Still not sure I would go through with it but it's on my mind more that I'm older. Like the other poster, I think about playing & sucking a cock just have no desire to do anal.

My wife is very inhibited and traditional. If I mentioned I'd like to experiment with anyone, especially a guy, she'd be incredibly upset. I think she'd take it as she failed. It wouldn't be that at all but there wouldn't be any convincing her of that.

I know as I get older, the desire to have sex with a man grow stronger. They must've always been there. When I was a teenager, I was able to suck myself off and also was incredibly turned on by shemale videos. In my 60s now, I'm now just as interested in man-on-man sex as heterosexual sex.

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

I feel almost exactly the way you do. Thoughts didn't come until my 40s. I pushed them back. Now they come regularly...and I don't push back.
Age is Great

Once accepted it makes things easier

 

[Buscando]

Nothing ventured...

For me, I’m 67, married 33 years. My wife was never too much into experimenting so we’ve never had mind blowing sex. She has given a few blow jobs, but doesn’t care for it. I’ve had ED for about 5 years now, I get about 80-90% hard but it won’t stay hard long enough for intercourse. So no sex for the last 5 years. When I was young, I had an older guy give me a BJ, ever since I’ve been curious. But I’ve always been kinda of a loner so I don’t have any friends and the few guys I do know, I wouldn’t chance bringing it up. But I would be into a male friend that we would get into jerking and/or sucking. No interest in kissing or anal, but would really like to try oral. However, I don’t see it ever happening.

Damn, my man, this is a truly sad commentary.

However, what makes it worse is that we see so much of the loss and longing expressed time and again by so many guys who, like yourself, know what they want, but just don't do anything about it. I read a great quote by someone else, I believe on a different thread somewhere here: "If you want a different life, you've got to change the way you live."

You've identified your problem already when you say, "But I’ve always been kinda of a loner so I don’t have any friends and the few guys I do know, I wouldn’t chance bringing it up."

If you go to one store and they don't have what you want, do you just shrug your shoulders and go back home? Or ask yourself just how this situation is any different than straight, hetero sex? Did you ever meet a sexual partner by sitting home reading or watching TV? Did a great sexual partner arrive to knock on your door and provide exactly what you want?

If you "...don’t see it ever happening." Then it's probably not going to. If you want to go into new worlds, you just have to push yourself beyond your present borders. "Comfort zones" are swamps. They will bog you down and pull you under, to a slow, needless death.

If you read this thread and the others like it, you see all the guys from all the different places who want just what you want, so you know they're out there, right? But they're not coming to your house. They don't know where you live. You have to reach out, in any of a number of different ways.

As a bachelor, I know that when I'm hungry, I'll starve to death just sitting at the dining room table, staring longingly into the kitchen....

Carpe diem!!

 

[Mtnmike]

Damn, my man, this is a truly sad commentary.

However, what makes it worse is that we see so much of the loss and longing expressed time and again by so many guys who, like yourself, know what they want, but just don't do anything about it. I read a great quote by someone else, I believe on a different thread somewhere here: "If you want a different life, you've got to change the way you live."

You've identified your problem already when you say, "But I’ve always been kinda of a loner so I don’t have any friends and the few guys I do know, I wouldn’t chance bringing it up."

If you go to one store and they don't have what you want, do you just shrug your shoulders and go back home? Or ask yourself just how this situation is any different than straight, hetero sex? Did you ever meet a sexual partner by sitting home reading or watching TV? Did a great sexual partner arrive to knock on your door and provide exactly what you want?

If you "...don’t see it ever happening." Then it's probably not going to. If you want to go into new worlds, you just have to push yourself beyond your present borders. "Comfort zones" are swamps. They will bog you down and pull you under, to a slow, needless death.

If you read this thread and the others like it, you see all the guys from all the different places who want just what you want, so you know they're out there, right? But they're not coming to your house. They don't know where you live. You have to reach out, in any of a number of different ways.

As a bachelor, I know that when I'm hungry, I'll starve to death just sitting at the dining room table, staring longingly into the kitchen....

Carpe diem!!

These are wise words everyone should live by, would be a happier world.

 

[SmokeInMyEyes]

Hmmm, it would seem that many of my generation have been around but have never yet found Fennario . . .

 

[klippert]

All the pop-psychology. When it’s this simple. SEX. No social norms or anti this or that or evil society. It’s all about sex. If you say it isn’t. Your lying to yourself
Nuf said

 

[Professor360]

For me, I'm seeking that blow job which will curl my toes and I have no problem Reciprocating and it is easier to find a guy than a woman these days!

 

[Smoothshavendad]

For me, I'm seeking that blow job which will curl my toes and I have no problem Reciprocating and it is easier to find a guy than a woman these days!

We all crave a good toe curling.

 

[Secondthoughts3]

Hey Professor

I thought It would be just the opposite