Why dont girls like me?

[boreing me]

just me

well hateing them has worked for me so far this way i cant get hurt if i hate them and so i won't get attached to one girl that i like, and well how about if they remove no from the word bank for girls only when i'm asking them out heheh i know it would never happen and i would never want it to happen that would take all the fun out of it, where abouts are you from shinningeyes
but i cant even go talk to a girl now i get to shy and nervious cause of all the previous conversations i have had with them, so how do you come over your shy ness cause i am painfully shy,

 

[sugardaddy]

Girls can be immature and Women can be hard to handle at times! We women look for men that can do right by us. *S* Hating us isn't going to help you in your problem! lol And the word no is used in a lot of different situations!

Shiningeyes, i would love to handle you, no matter how hard it is. In fact, i think you prefer it hard correct?
Sugardaddy

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[boreing me]

just me

well that is all great advice i will say that and i thank you for answering the question, i have a lot more ot think about now, but i am like that folk singer you mentioned i do get nervious and have to be pushed into it, but i cant just take a beer and go do it, but what about the ppl that pretend to like you and get along with you just to try not hurting you, what do you do about them ppl,? like once you find out about them

 

[ShiningEyes]

Shiningeyes, i would love to handle you, no matter how hard it is. In fact, i think you prefer it hard correct?

Sugardaddy, you can handle me anytime you want!!! And your correct, I like it very hard!!!!!!!!!!

Boring me...I live in Texas. Trying to keep myself out of trouble and doing a bad job out of it! As for hating women. If it works for you, that's good I guess. I try very hard to hate men at times, but it doesn't work for me!! I love men too much. No matter what's happened in the past. You gotta get back on that horse and ride him/her out! Anyway. As far as getting over your shyness. I did it with loosing my virginity and from dares! I'm still a bit shy but am working hard on it. A little alcohol helps in breaking the ice(and i'm not talking about being completely wasted). 1 drink helps for me, but unfortunately, I'm not allowed to drink any longer. hmmmm....we'll see how long that lasts! Where are you from?

 

[ShiningEyes]

You raise an excellent point, many good people will give someone a chance, especially if they are open enough to tell them something about themselves. IMHO wise people look for words of wisdom and good people everywhere, because you never know when you will find a diamond in the rough.

Unfortunately, I haven't found my diamond in the rough. Not sure if I will. Altho, I've found a lot of good friends and some good boyfriends. *S* Tho, I tend to stick with the policy that friends last forever and boyfriends come and go. hehe But. I am one to give those a chance that I feel would be right for me. I try very hard not to pick someone that will hurt me. But then. It's hard to tell who will and who won't hurt another person. *S* Looks can be deceiving! And a liar can be hard to turn up at times. I try very hard to treat others as I want to be treated. And that's fairly and given a chance at whatever. I like to consider myself a nice and genuinely caring person. I have a big heart and love to please people.

 

[ShiningEyes]

Bug Eyed Monster......You've given some wonderful advice!!!! That's why I can't hate men as I've tried for a long time! Love is a great thing if you can find it! When you do find it, you'll know it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[zetacon4]

Hello Shining Eyes....

Sugardaddy, you can handle me anytime you want!!! And your correct, I like it very hard!!!!!!!!!!

Boring me...I live in Texas. Trying to keep myself out of trouble and doing a bad job out of it! As for hating women. If it works for you, that's good I guess. I try very hard to hate men at times, but it doesn't work for me!! I love men too much. No matter what's happened in the past. You gotta get back on that horse and ride him/her out! Anyway. As far as getting over your shyness. I did it with loosing my virginity and from dares! I'm still a bit shy but am working hard on it. A little alcohol helps in breaking the ice(and i'm not talking about being completely wasted). 1 drink helps for me, but unfortunately, I'm not allowed to drink any longer. hmmmm....we'll see how long that lasts! Where are you from?

You won't need any stimulant or drugs if you choose to have a night out with me. I have always been able to make anyone feel right at home. Once I begin nuzzling your neck and ear lobes, your shyness will fly away. Those sweet lips of yours would set me on fire too. (to the guy asking the questions about how to lose his shyness: begin by establishing what you are good at. Know that and believe it. Then, in the correct setting, share that confidence by subtle comments or suggestions. Soon, you will have developed many things you are good at doing. This confidence will get you an open, accepting audience with even the best of girls out there. Display confidence in your body language, sentence construction and attitudes.)
Frank

 

[ShiningEyes]

You won't need any stimulant or drugs if you choose to have a night out with me. I have always been able to make anyone feel right at home. Once I begin nuzzling your neck and ear lobes, your shyness will fly away. Those sweet lips of yours would set me on fire too. (to the guy asking the questions about how to lose his shyness: begin by establishing what you are good at. Know that and believe it. Then, in the correct setting, share that confidence by subtle comments or suggestions. Soon, you will have developed many things you are good at doing. This confidence will get you an open, accepting audience with even the best of girls out there. Display confidence in your body language, sentence construction and attitudes.)

You're absolutely right on that!! You seem like the type of person that I would feel very comfortable around no matter what. And I really like it when a man tries to make me feel at home! I'd love to have dinner with you anytime!

And some wonderful advice given as well!!

 

[zetacon4]

I was too polite to say it,,,,

You're absolutely right on that!! You seem like the type of person that I would feel very comfortable around no matter what. And I really like it when a man tries to make me feel at home! I'd love to have dinner with you anytime!

And some wonderful advice given as well!!

But for his sake,,,,I just showed him a good example of how to approach a girl and get her attention...Compliments (from the heart...you really have to mean them.) and show them that you could treat them with loving respect. The proof is in the small details. Learn good communication skills. That builds great confidence in that strength alone. Then add more to that.

SE, I would love to cook a simple and yet elegent meal for the two of us. You tell me your preferences, I will dream up a true original. Cooking is really one of my strong points. I have made many a fine sit-down for 8 or more people. Cooking for two is a lot more fun. So let me try.

 

[ShiningEyes]

But for his sake,,,,I just showed him a good example of how to approach a girl and get her attention...Compliments (from the heart...you really have to mean them.) and show them that you could treat them with loving respect. The proof is in the small details. Learn good communication skills. That builds great confidence in that strength alone. Then add more to that.

Those are some good points! Confidence and communication are the biggest things when first meeting people. Women are drawn to men that are confident and show they are confident. And communication is the key to everything!!

SE, I would love to cook a simple and yet elegent meal for the two of us. You tell me your preferences, I will dream up a true original. Cooking is really one of my strong points. I have made many a fine sit-down for 8 or more people. Cooking for two is a lot more fun. So let me try.

mmmmmm That sounds absolutely wonderful! I love a man that knows how to cook and likes doing it as well! I love italian, but I am not a picky person either!! I'm southern and love southern foods!!! But. I enjoy being surprised. And to tell the truth(so sad), I've never really had a romantic dinner cooked for me. Once is about it. I'm so used to cooking for others, or my bf's cooking for a lot of people. The last bf I had make dinner for me took me to a lake dam. Was wonderful!

 

[zetacon4]

That is sad... maybe I can gladden your day.

Those are some good points! Confidence and communication are the biggest things when first meeting people. Women are drawn to men that are confident and show they are confident. And communication is the key to everything!!

mmmmmm That sounds absolutely wonderful! I love a man that knows how to cook and likes doing it as well! I love italian, but I am not a picky person either!! I'm southern and love southern foods!!! But. I enjoy being surprised. And to tell the truth(so sad), I've never really had a romantic dinner cooked for me. Once is about it. I'm so used to cooking for others, or my bf's cooking for a lot of people. The last bf I had make dinner for me took me to a lake dam. Was wonderful!

Let's start with a light salad with vinegrette dressing. And hot finger rolls to eat with the salad.
For the main course, let's be southern about it. Cornbread with blackeyed peas that have been steamed and covered in a light sauce. Candied sweet potatos topped with marshmellows roasted on top. And if you are into meat, a beautiful veal cutlet breaded and covered in light gravy. Pink Lemonaid to drink. And Apple pie ala mode to finish up. Are you hungry yet?

 

[ShiningEyes]

Let's start with a light salad with vinegrette dressing. And hot finger rolls to eat with the salad. For the main course, let's be southern about it. Cornbread with blackeyed peas that have been steamed and covered in a light sauce. Candied sweet potatos topped with marshmellows roasted on top. And if you are into meat, a beautiful veal cutlet breaded and covered in light gravy. Pink Lemonaid to drink. And Apple pie ala mode to finish up. Are you hungry yet?

mmmm Very hungry!! Sounds wonderful!

 

[zetacon4]

Take a look in a mirror...

mmmm Very hungry!! Sounds wonderful!

And give me a hint what I would be having for dessert (no, not the apple pie)!!!! But I could put some whipped cream on it!!!

 

[ShiningEyes]

And give me a hint what I would be having for dessert (no, not the apple pie)!!!! But I could put some whipped cream on it!!!

The apple pie or the dessert?? hehe you could add some hot chocolate to that dessert also! What would you like?

 

[wkdclwn]

I feel ya

Girls don't seem to find me attractive either. Least I don't find any that do. Just don't look for someone and maybe they will find you eventually. That is what I do. I never go looking for anyone, but then again I am not that great looking to go out and look anyway. Oh well. Good luck. Later.

 

[boreing me]

just me

thanks everyone and anyone who gave the advice on hear i will have to go out and try this, then again i will have to try so other stuff i have learned from reading this messages that i have seen, thank you again, and shinning eyes i'm from canada

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[ShiningEyes]

Love is everywhere. Close your eyes, open your heart and you will hear it.

From a spiritual/religious point of view, God Loves You, Jesus Loves you, and the mother earth loves you.

From a more pragmatical point of view, I know your friends love you. Don't give them up, you'll regret it.

As for the one special love, I did find mine back in 1995. I have been happily married since August, 1997. I can't tell you where to find yours; Keep looking and enjoy the ride. My philosophy, it isn't who you want to go to bed with, it's who you want to wake up with.

Have fun, off to work.

Hun....that's some of the best advice you've given!!!!!!!!!! And your right!!!!!! Being around my friends and family always makes me happy! And there's soooo much love between us!!!!!!!!! It's when I'm not with them and feel very alone do I wish I had that special someone. And as I'm sure, everyone goes thru it!

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[ShiningEyes]

Occasionally I am inspired, especially when I care about someone, like you. And yes dear I belive we all do go through it. Big

Awwww Your soo sweet!!!!!! You have a way with words and are very kind hearted!! That goes a long way in my book. You are something special! ~hugz and kisses~