Why don't I have a sub?

[celticsunspiral]

Not if you spray your yard.

 

[DVS]

Not if you spray your yard.

Have you tried using that spray on some of those creep Doms? Just a thought.

 

[celticsunspiral]

No, chemicals just don't work so well across Internet lines.

If they did, you could try pheromone spray to attract a subbby.

 

[graceanne]

*hugs*

 

[Marquis]

It's not easy dude, it really isn't.

 

[WriterDom]

Are you out in the sticks or something? I found 54 Subways in Albuquerque alone.

 

[graceanne]

I have to echo what twysted said.

You've been going through a lot of emotional turmoil lately- you need to focus on you and sort yourself out. When you've done that, you'll be able to stand tall and present a 'together' version of yourself... which is right now in the making.

Taking on a submissive at this point would be damaging for both you and her, I believe.

I have to say I agree. You know I'm worried about you (betticus) getting into a rebound relationship.

The women here have absolutely nothing to offer me that interests me.

Well, shoot. I was gonna fuck K to death, then show up on your front step. *sigh*

There goes that plan.


Seriously. Don't now, or at anytime, understand why you and DVS are single. You're both HOT. All I can figure is that it's HARD to find a relationship when you're vanilla, and you've got a pretty large group of people to choose from, then. By narrowing the field to kinky folk, you're making it even more difficult to find 'the one'.

 

[graceanne]

Are you out in the sticks or something? I found 54 Subways in Albuquerque alone.

He's a bit closer to the border of New Mexico. Serious BFE.

 

[ataxia.girl]

BOT, patience can often lead to finding what you were looking for, especially if you decide to enjoy life as it comes while you're being patient. And sometimes a decision to quit "looking" in an active sense and just enjoy life will do the same. I can't count the number of times I've heard and read people discussing the irony of finding their partner after they'd quit actively seeking one. Best of luck to you, Betticus. I'm sure that when the right partner finds you, it will be a wonderful thing for you both.

i think this is wonderful advice, advice i intend to take to heart for myself right now. Especially the part about enjoying life while being patient. i need to work on that one.

 

[pink]

You are incredibly sexy, and the problem is not you. i will agree with some of the others though that say, maybe, this is just your time to be alone and heal. The nice thing about being alone is, it never, ever lasts forever. Keep that in mind, it's only temporary.

 

[graceanne]

Not if you spray your yard.

Taken out of context this post definitely made me double take.

 

[Netzach]

Is it because I live in the asscrack of New Mexico

This tends to cramp the style of most sexual minorities, bud.

 

[Marquis]

I'm not even sure how long I can stand living in Ft Lauderdale.

As far as subs go Bett, just get a cute chick to fall madly in love with you and slowly incorporate the BDSM stuff. I'm telling you, this is the way to go.

 

[rosco rathbone]

. I don't care how goddamned good she is in bed if that cunt thinks she can push me around the door is very close by and she's welcome to be shoved right out of my house. On the other side there are the doormat type of girls and I can't stand that either. I also don't want the constant drain of having to incessantly prove dominance over some girl who is going to test me 24/7, that bitch can hit the fucking road too...

Good luck with that! lol

 

[intothewoods]

Are you out in the sticks or something? I found 54 Subways in Albuquerque alone.

As in Subway Sandwiches? BWAH HA HAHA! Come on, I only wore my corset there once!

Good luck with that! lol

My sentiments exactly.

I don't care how goddamned good she is in bed if that cunt thinks she can push me around the door is very close by and she's welcome to be shoved right out of my house. On the other side there are the doormat type of girls and I can't stand that either. I also don't want the constant drain of having to incessantly prove dominance over some girl who is going to test me 24/7, that bitch can hit the fucking road too...

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say I that I think I sense some anger issues.

 

[WriterDom]

"The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain."

Gibran

Read the Prophet. It's good for your soul.



http://pal.net/gibran/works/prophet/prophet.html

Just wait it out, dude. Someone will come along that will make you very happy for a while. Then she too will rip out your heart and stomp it with her 5 inch stilettos. Or maybe you'll live happily ever after.

But that's life. You aren't the first cowboy to sleep alone. Don't be a whiner. Women hate that. Most women have been shit on by so many guys they enjoy your pain.

 

[simply_subbie]

Life always suck.

i disagree with this statement with all my being.

life can be hard, unfair, and downright mean, but you choose how to react to it. ive been through some times that i thought would do me in, but somehow i made through, and learned along the way.

life is not easy, its the hardest test we take, but its not the answers that matter. what matters is how you find those answers. it wont be easy. you may have to grow and learn along the way, and that can be painful, but if you dont give up youll find your answers and be a better person for it.

Betticus, dont get down, youll find her. just make sure you are ready for her when you do.

 

[Homburg]

You've been single for how long now? C'mon, bro, less pom-poms, more shouderpads. I know guys that have been single WAY longer than you. Of course they're no-life losers, but, damn, you have most of alife. Be a little patient, a little less angry, and keep your eyes open.

Or you can just give up on women altogether. That worked for me before. You give up, truly stop caring, and one or more will get intrigued by your lack of give-a-shit and try to figure out why. It also helps you lose that starving wolf wibe you are probably putting out right now.

"Desperate" is NOT a good scent to wear.

 

[graceanne]

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say I that I think I sense some anger issues.

I don't know where you're seeing this. Must be a figment of your imagination.

 

[the_mgp]

All I can really offer is my personal experience... which was that pretty much as soon as I stopped looking, something awesome just happened to land in my lap. Totally didn't see it coming.. took me a while to even realise what was happening but yeah.. just take each day as it comes, you never know what's around the corner.

 

[Sharon_]

Kentucky, huh? Nice part of the country, but man...the skeeters there are HUGE!

GUFFAW

Not our state bird, I think that's Wisconsin...but they are...um..."enthusiastic" here.

One evening last week in the garden I was having to stop and swat them, a half dozen at a time, they ran me back inside in short order.....and when I go into the woods to pick the wild rasp- or black- berries? well, some years you can hear them swarm like a squadron of bombers

 

[EmpressFi]

GUFFAW

Not our state bird, I think that's Wisconsin...but they are...um..."enthusiastic" here.

One evening last week in the garden I was having to stop and swat them, a half dozen at a time, they ran me back inside in short order.....and when I go into the woods to pick the wild rasp- or black- berries? well, some years you can hear them swarm like a squadron of bombers

no, mosquitos are the state bird of New Jersey...the armpit of America....

 

[graceanne]

no, mosquitos are the state bird of New Jersey...the armpit of America....

I always heard they were the state bird of Minnesota. Mom says they used to sit on the screens and you could HEAR them breathe.

 

[EmpressFi]

i disagree with this statement with all my being.

life can be hard, unfair, and downright mean, but you choose how to react to it. ive been through some times that i thought would do me in, but somehow i made through, and learned along the way.

life is not easy, its the hardest test we take, but its not the answers that matter. what matters is how you find those answers. it wont be easy. you may have to grow and learn along the way, and that can be painful, but if you dont give up youll find your answers and be a better person for it.

Betticus, dont get down, youll find her. just make sure you are ready for her when you do.

I couldnt agree more. Life is hard, and it's unfair that some lives seem easy, seems like for some good things fall in their laps while the rest of us struggle for every morsel. But it's how you choose to react to it. And yet, when I feel it's worthless, that there's no point to even trying, I hear the voices of my parents, my siblings, my loved ones who've died saying.. beats the alternative..I can choose to wallow in my pain or I can hurt for a while, then push it aside and realize how lucky I am to be here...

Bett... I know how lonely you are... I've been there, and I've also been so lonely that I jumped on the first marriage proposal I was given. And 5 years later, was miserable. Take care of you.. she'll come along.. you're a wonderful guy... believe in that

 

[EmpressFi]

I always heard they were the state bird of Minnesota. Mom says they used to sit on the screens and you could HEAR them breathe.

Sure those werent loons? (the birds..not crazy people)Damn the states with large bodies of water... We dont let our cats out for fear the mosquitos will steal them away