Why I hate bi-curious men.

[magic_rat]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

 

[easyoff]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

That's why I like to play with gay couples.

 

[Bi4Older84]

I think that there are a LOT of guys who are bi-curious until the moment after they cum-that's when the guilt kicks in.

I didn't become curious about bi until 25 or start exploring m2m until 35. I had to overcome a lot of internalized homophobia, and once that was done, it was more difficult for me to find the right scenario (safe, discreet, mutual attraction, chemistry, etc) to take the dive.

I agree that there are plenty of guys who will receive a blowjob or touch another cock in a group scenario, but won't reciprocate-and that does feel pretty selfish. There are also a lot of guys (married/involved) who don't feel the freedom to really explore. I wish more people realized that bisexuality isn't just "diet gay" and that a man can enjoy both without having to identify as something he doesn't feel comfortable. That's why I like the ideas of "heteroflexible" or "bisexual, but heteroromantic." Lots of guys are attracted to cocks or man on man sex, but not to men in any sort of romantic sense.

 

[KingDavid234]

I can totally relate. I first became bi curious at around age 35. Years ago, I used to go into chat rooms on America Online. My favorite was "Women who love bi men". I became fascinated with women who loved to watch 2 men suck each other off, and I loved chatting with those women and other guys. It led to my curiosity about being sucked off by another man, and then eventually into curiosity of sucking a cock. Years later, I have gradually explored. I have been sucked off several times by other men and I have sucked maybe 4 or 5 cocks. I totally enjoy it, and I crave more. I do identify as bi curious, I guess mainly because I have very limited bi experience and I don't have many opportunities.

 

[Yarglenurp]

This is one of those things of the label being intentionally inaccurate… the real label would “guys who want to get their dicks sucked by other dudes and not have it affect their personal or professional life in any way”

But that’s probably too long for the profile. And the shorthand of “selfish prick” isn’t really a hot seller.

 

[Ggnlee]

Easier said than done I think. I label myself as bi curious. I look forward to having a MMF scenario with my wife and another, or a MM scenario with her watching.

Meeting a male would can be discreet is a difficult first step. A bi couple would be ideal doing a same sex swap. But it all comes down to taking that first step.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

I never understand guys that complain that can't find someone. I can get online and get dick just about anytime I want. Of course I definitely understand guys being nervous to try, and looking for a certain situation.

 

[UnderMyKilt]

I never understood "bi curious" anyhow. Unless they're looking for at least a bisexual threesome, like an MMF or something, they're not looking for "bi" sex but rather "gay" sex. Right? Why isn't it "gay curious". I mean, how could you possibly be bi, unless you've tried the "gay"?

 

[Yarglenurp]

I never understood "bi curious" anyhow. Unless they're looking for at least a bisexual threesome, like an MMF or something, they're not looking for "bi" sex but rather "gay" sex. Right? Why isn't it "gay curious". I mean, how could you possibly be bi, unless you've tried the "gay"?

Hmmm… there are gray zones. Fucking a pre-op transsexual, maybe?

Or like, what if you dress up in a full woman suit, and then have sex with dude?

 

[Escierto]

I can understand how people have difficulty reconciling their sexual desires with how they see their own sexual orientations.

I, myself, used a Get Out of Gay Jail free card by claiming that the cock I was sucking and fucking was on a trans woman and therefore it didn't count. So much denial.

 

[Britva415]

"Bi-curious" is a code for "married, cheating and unavailable."

On the other hand, I'm conflicted about being seen in public dunking on the "bi-curious" because it's too easy for readers to transfer it to all bi's, and bi's already suffer enough misunderstanding and erasure.

 

[Bisnjguy]

To me bi-curious left when I had my first experience with a guy. It was many years ago at a porn shop here in town. Then I finally had my first time sucking a guy.

Now days I am still in a relationship but no sex. So all my sex is with a few guys I’ve known for a while. 1 is bi and married. 2 are gay. I haven’t been with a woman in a long time. But I wouldn’t turn the chance away, if I did. I would then be assured that, yes I am gay.

I hope that makes sense.

 

[magic_rat]

I became fascinated with women who loved to watch 2 men suck each other off, and I loved chatting with those women and other guys.

I consider myself incredibly lucky to now have a swing partner who loves seeing me play with other guys. She's seen me suck, be sucked and fucked, and loved every minute of it. Seems there are plenty of other women in the swing scene who find bi play between guys erotic.

 

[magic_rat]

I hope that makes sense.

All makes complete sense, thanks for sharing.

 

[magic_rat]

Easier said than done I think. I label myself as bi curious. I look forward to having a MMF scenario with my wife and another, or a MM scenario with her watching.

Meeting a male would can be discreet is a difficult first step. A bi couple would be ideal doing a same sex swap. But it all comes down to taking that first step.

So do you label yourself bi-curious because you don't know if you'll actually like it until you try it? Or because you don't feel you qualify until you've had that first experience?

 

[magic_rat]

Hmmm… there are gray zones. Fucking a pre-op transsexual, maybe?

Or like, what if you dress up in a full woman suit, and then have sex with dude?

If you're fucking trans women (or men come to that) maybe the label 'pansexual' is more suited to you. I consider myself pan now because I'll play with anyone regardless of gender identity (as long as there is mutual attraction of course).

If you fetishise trans people (I fucking hate the label 'shemale' as do all my trans friends) that's a whole different ballpark and not a 100% pleasant one (in my very humble opinion, of course). I'd love to look inside the head of those people.

If you're cross-dressing, it doesn't change your gender. You're still a cock in a frock.

 

[tristantrotsky]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

It's all a matter of taste and predilection. There's no 'must', no hard-&-fast rules of obligation. I have been content to be in relationships with married men trapped in sexless marriages, where I was strictly the cocksucker, with a clear understanding that there was to be no reciprocation. That situation suited us both.
Why feel the need to pressure men to do something they're not happy with?

 

[magic_rat]

Why feel the need to pressure men to do something they're not happy with?

I'm not pressuring anyone to do anything. I just don't understand the label (once you're tried it you're no longer curious, right?).

And on the swing scene it's an annoying form of misleading advertising. If I invite an ostensibly bi guy into bed with me and my partner, I expect a certain degree of interaction.

Same goes for women too apparently. A lot of couples label the wife as bi-curious when they're really not, but the husband wrote the profile and is hopeful that she'll turn. Or the female equivalent of the guy who'll let someone go down on them but won't reciprocate. They call them pillow princesses.

 

[drobert44]

Maybe that means they havent sucked one yet; and for sure, one will do it; says this cocksucker.

 

[magic_rat]

That's why I like the ideas of "heteroflexible" or "bisexual, but heteroromantic." Lots of guys are attracted to cocks or man on man sex, but not to men in any sort of romantic sense.

Good point; heteroflexible at least manages expectations. In those criteria I'd definitely describe myself as pansexual but heteroromantic.

 

[magic_rat]

Maybe that means they havent sucked one yet; and for sure, one will do it; says this cocksucker.

That's what it should mean, for sure; a willingness to try. But once you've sucked a cock and decided you like it, why not drop the curious part?

 

[drobert44]

That's what it should mean, for sure; a willingness to try. But once you've sucked a cock and decided you like it, why not drop the curious part?

Hell yes, who wants to waste time on some curious dude; let's get gay and suck/fuck.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I'm not pressuring anyone to do anything. I just don't understand the label (once you're tried it you're no longer curious, right?).

And on the swing scene it's an annoying form of misleading advertising. If I invite an ostensibly bi guy into bed with me and my partner, I expect a certain degree of interaction.

Same goes for women too apparently. A lot of couples label the wife as bi-curious when they're really not, but the husband wrote the profile and is hopeful that she'll turn. Or the female equivalent of the guy who'll let someone go down on them but won't reciprocate. They call them pillow princesses.

Of course, I know what you mean.
It is a form of false advertising.
Maybe he/she loses their nerve at the last moment? Perhaps they fully intend to try sucking your cock, but lose their nerve when they come face-to-face with the reality? There must always be space for an opt-out clause...

 

[drobert44]

Of course, I know what you mean.
It is a form of false advertising.
Maybe he/she loses their nerve at the last moment? Perhaps they fully intend to try sucking your cock, but lose their nerve when they come face-to-face with the reality? There must always be space for an opt-out clause...

Maybe coz its so damn hard to tinker with ones' profile? I fucked with mine once and lost Lit for months.

 

[magic_rat]

Of course, I know what you mean.
It is a form of false advertising.
Maybe he/she loses their nerve at the last moment? Perhaps they fully intend to try sucking your cock, but lose their nerve when they come face-to-face with the reality? There must always be space for an opt-out clause...

The opt out clause is there already. It's called honesty. If a guy approaches us and my partner is attracted (she has right of veto in these situations obviously) and says I've never done xyz, kind of want to try, kind of scared, I'd be really happy about that. No bullshit and we can tailor the play to give him the option without any expectation. Been there. A guy we've had several 3somes with in the past has 'straight' on his profile but has revealed that he'd be into seeing what happened if we all just go with the flow. Not happened yet, but it will, and I'm curious to klmow where it may (or may not) go.