Why so driven about sexual thoughts?

[Encaea]

Yes but sadly , some of us in the position we're in they wont let us add flavors... Sadly i love to "spice things up "

I tried to hint at it a few times discussing new things to try, but she clammed up quick, and redirected to how important monogamy is to her.

I'm a monogamist, I didn't think a threesome disqualified you.

 

[devakama469]

Why is my mind so sexual? Always thinking about sexual thoughts. Intimacy, touching, doing sexual acts and the feeling of how it makes my body feel. Giving pleasure to a woman. Why is it so strong? Gene ? Isnt like i saw it as a kid, just the opposite. And you? why are you driven to come to Lit? Sometimes i wish it wasnt so strong, it clouds my thinking

I can relate so deeply to what you're expressing here, as I cannot let my mind loose for a bit or it'll go into a sexual high gear with the kinkiest of thoughts, desires, and fantasies! Any time of the day, even as I'm falling asleep or just waking up, any day of the week!

My childhood was pretty decent, some might say even privileged, fortunately without being exposed to anything that could cause trauma and explain out-of-the-norm adult behaviors… yet here I am, quite the horndog, always thinking how amazing it'd be to have a group of close friends I could swap couples with, or being naked at the beach having some good hot sex, or all the threesome kinks and variations I'd love to try.

I came to Lit not too long ago after reading about this site on Reddit, and man have I found a gold mine of like-minded people here!

I think the only difference I can point out is that I do NOT wish my sex drive wasn't so strong, but on the contrary that I had realistic and tangible opportunities to make all my fantasies come true!

 

[devakama469]

I don't think it's necessarily gender specific..cuz I'm a chic and the pres of the pervy friends united club .ok 8 made it up . but always have a sexual innuendo or tone or thought going through my mind..no exaggeration... and I don't think it's genetic unless the rest of the family are just closeted pervs...
Maybe life and free will made us this way?

Always love to meet like-minded people with such a high sex drive and kinky thoughts always roaming around in their minds!

 

[devakama469]

Humans like to think of themselves as above animals. They are not. Basic primal instincts to breed are there and always will be. Nature will not be denied nor beaten. Whether it's the power of the weather or nature within. Mother nature ALWAYS wins...work with her or lose..simple

Right on!

 

[devakama469]

I have always been sexual minded. I was brought up around sex and it's imprinted in my mind, daily. Everyone in my young life had been sexual and I was a teen when I wanted to and did lose my virginity.
I was promiscuous as a young woman...

Makes me think that most people just don't admit to their own urges?

I am certain that there are people who are just more sexual than others… even a *lot* more sexual than others. But I do think there's also a lot of this goin on, people just not admitting, or maybe even not even facing, their own sexual desires out of a myriad of societal reasons.

 

[devakama469]

I tried to hint at it a few times discussing new things to try, but she clammed up quick, and redirected to how important monogamy is to her.

I'm a monogamist, I didn't think a threesome disqualified you.

A lot of people view the suggestion of a threesome as "I'm not enough for you", which immediately kills all discussion about it.

 

[Iwillgo]

I have been married over 3 decades , I love my wife dearly however she never had a high level of sexual energy, I would say no sexual energy. There are reasons which made intercourse painful for her and because I love her I’m still with her and always will be. She is very affectionate and I appreciate that I’ve often felt we were sexually incompatible and without writing a book here, I would say that is true. I had a brief bisexual experience at an early age which encouraged another side of me which for the last several years I have been looking to explore with a trusted friend… I’m not sure if I will ever fine that friend or be satisfied, but I’m not giving up. I feel like my sexual thoughts will be with me until I stop living.