Why the stigma for men?

[2wayroad]

I have a lot of color in my closet. Lavender, shades of orange, coral, pinks, light blues, quirky prints. They allow me a way to express, while still dressing “normal”.

The funny thing is, that when I wear such colors, it’s women who complement me the most. Straight guys, go get some pastel, or funky printed shirts, then let the women come to you.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I refuse to wear ties and not just because I can’t tie one properly. Someone asks me why and I will gladly chew them out about how idiotic it is to voluntarily put a noose around your neck. I may not get in fights that often, but that doesn’t mean I want to set myself up for an easy defeat in one. I’m not suffering serious heat days (we have quite a few of them every year where I live) wearing long sleeves for the sake of someone else’s idea of propriety either. I know a woman who feels similarly about high heels. She refuses to compromise her comfort for someone else’s standards. Never would have gotten a job as a stripper if they didn’t allow shoes with better support than one might expect. Heh.

Not everyone appreciates such standards, of course.

I remember back when I was still working, we bought a company with five offices in TX. The first time I went there to acclimate their salespeople with our product line I wore a dark suit, which is typical in NYC. It may not have been August, but it was hot as hell and I was dying of the heat!
Around 10:00 AM we made our first sales call and the business owner was insistent... he "don't do business with a man dressed in a suit!"
I removed my tie and jacket, top few buttons of my dress shirt, and we wrote a deal worth half a million dollars!

I never wore a suit in Texas again!

There was a famous place around Phoenix where if you had a tie on, they would cut it in half and staple it to the wall!!! I forget the name, but I am sure some of you folks have heard of it!

 

[chapter6plan]

Cowboy boots hold your feet tightly and help shape your calves nicely ... and they are easier to walk in than women's heels.

 

[none2_none2]

Cowboy boots hold your feet tightly and help shape your calves nicely ... and they are easier to walk in than women's heels.

I wear what is comfortable. I wear for me -- not to show off. I confess that with numbness in my feet (diabetes) I usually anymore just wear something I can slip on.

I also love running shoes. They hold your feet as tightly as you wish to tighten the shoestrings. I've never owned hiking boots, but it is my understanding that they can be laced up pretty tight too.

As to woman's heals, have you ever noticed that women don't wear heals as much as they use to, and especially when they want to get things done? You don't see women (or girls) in a rec center wearing such. You don't see senior aged women wearing them at all.

Years ago a lady who used to frequently cut my hair, talked about teen girls getting ready for a prom. Her girl and her girl's friends were all weirded out about putting on nylons and high heals because it was so foreign to them. Most of the time they just wore blue jeans.

Something funny just popped in my head... Imagine if cheerleaders wore heals. I doubt with such a configuration they would win any cheerleading competition with such.

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I do this when dressing gender expected in public. I noted after reading your post that I have a lot of pastel shirts in my closet. Lavender, shades of pink, coral, light blue, purple. I never realized how many I’ve collected, and will usually grab one of those first. Never a snide look or even a comment, unless it’s a compliment from a woman telling me she wishes her husband would wear that color.

I have the same taste in pastels, and have experienced the same thing from women's comments! My male dermatologist commented on the coral color panties I was wearing a few years back.

 

[none2_none2]

 

[Sounding22]

This is funny, you like I wear women clothing yet do you know how many women hate wearing them? It’s we that are in a time warp. I know all to many that do not like the shoes, shaving,bras,skirts etc.
it’s men with the twisted view~~~

 

[BlueChamisa]

I just read that people, both men and women, are freaked out because Chicago Bears quarterback Caleb Williams paints his fingernails.

That’s how fucking pathetic, stupid and insecure our society is.

 

[cdstefi]

I just read that people, both men and women, are freaked out because Chicago Bears quarterback Caleb Williams paints his fingernails.

That’s how fucking pathetic, stupid and insecure our society is.

Agreed. I'd love to paint my nails, not as an outright expression of my bisexuality (although that's how it'd be seen) but just as a little personal flamboyance and expressiveness.

Problem being, my work environment is very male-centred and macho (lots of straight middle-aged rough and ready blokes) and if I did it once I'd forever be getting the "ooh lala, get you!" treatment and barely concealed homophobia.

Oddly, because most of them are boomer-aged like me, I think they'd be more accepting of a 20-something lad wearing nail varnish and just be like "it's what the kids all do nowadays" but me being "one of theirs" in age would trigger them.

 

[Sounding22]

I’ve thought about this for some time.
Not all males are meant to reproduce, some men know from early ages their sissy’s others find out later.
I knew very young but still got married. It was the EX that put me in my place.

 

[SammiStarr]

So here I am, I love women, and love playing the part of a woman to please men. But I can't help but be frustrated that as a "man" in my day to day life I will be viewed differently if I wear a skirt, or stockings, or makeup, or most importantly, heels.

It isn't changing who I am. But I love the constricting nature of women's clothes. All of their clothes are constricting and I love it!

Heels hold your feet in tightly, and shape them how I feel they should rest naturally. Stockings and panty hoes hug your legs tightly, panties and thongs hug to your body snuggly, bras wrap your torso tightly, make up gives a feeling of your face being layered and looking good.

As a man... And yes I have my sissy side. I really want to wear all of this, and more day to day without it automatically pointing to me being "gay" or "less of a man". Like yes I sometimes, often times want to feel like a woman and please men. But in the between times I want to wear sexy tight clothing. Can we as a society not change this view point.

Maybe we need men to wear COMFORTABLY fitting heels once to see the appeal, or a pair of stockings etc. Everything women get to wear is so much more fun than what men get.

And to top it all off why do we care what gets us off? Sex is for reproduction. But we do it for fun and want to avoid reproducing. So who cares if you cum from looking at a cantelop and I cum from licking watermelons. Literally the whole thing is to make a kid. And a large percentage of us have sex for anything but that. So why worry what anyone gets off too. Society is stupid! Lol. Minus the pedo peeps of course. We need to have real consent to our pleasures. But past that why does anyone care?

I bet the people who talk crap about people wanting dick in their ass sit there and jerk off to monkeys eating bananas, or diesel trucks blowing black smoke all over. But they can't accept people want to feel good all and every day and cum to whatever they want, how they want, when they want.

I have come to love having a masculine and feminine side living alongside eachother. But I completely agree that they can't do it as publicly as I would like for fear of judgement. As my cross dressing journey continues though, I am doubting myself dressing a bit more flamboyantly when I'm a "man"! It would be nice to be able to blur the two more of course.

 

[JuicyLittleKitty]

People should dress as they please, even if I look mildly crazy in a corset and Dr Martens. Over here we have Grayson Perry, an artist who wears women's clothes. And try telling a Scotsman in all his kilt finery that he looks ridiculous. You might be unalived.

 

[Felicity_Fellatio_CD]

So here I am, I love women, and love playing the part of a woman to please men. But I can't help but be frustrated that as a "man" in my day to day life I will be viewed differently if I wear a skirt, or stockings, or makeup, or most importantly, heels.

It isn't changing who I am. But I love the constricting nature of women's clothes. All of their clothes are constricting and I love it!

Heels hold your feet in tightly, and shape them how I feel they should rest naturally. Stockings and panty hoes hug your legs tightly, panties and thongs hug to your body snuggly, bras wrap your torso tightly, make up gives a feeling of your face being layered and looking good.

As a man... And yes I have my sissy side. I really want to wear all of this, and more day to day without it automatically pointing to me being "gay" or "less of a man". Like yes I sometimes, often times want to feel like a woman and please men. But in the between times I want to wear sexy tight clothing. Can we as a society not change this view point.

Maybe we need men to wear COMFORTABLY fitting heels once to see the appeal, or a pair of stockings etc. Everything women get to wear is so much more fun than what men get.

And to top it all off why do we care what gets us off? Sex is for reproduction. But we do it for fun and want to avoid reproducing. So who cares if you cum from looking at a cantelop and I cum from licking watermelons. Literally the whole thing is to make a kid. And a large percentage of us have sex for anything but that. So why worry what anyone gets off too. Society is stupid! Lol. Minus the pedo peeps of course. We need to have real consent to our pleasures. But past that why does anyone care?

I bet the people who talk crap about people wanting dick in their ass sit there and jerk off to monkeys eating bananas, or diesel trucks blowing black smoke all over. But they can't accept people want to feel good all and every day and cum to whatever they want, how they want, when they want.

When I was going through my various stages of xdressing but still living as male, I'd enjoy going to work in a tight short skirt and dark tights, ladies heels etc but top half still.male, just because I could really and to make a statement.

Besides a bit of gossiping and a few odd looks, it went without a hitch really.

I must say part of the attraction of living full time as a woman now is the vast choice of shoes and clothes women have.

Men just have black, brown shoes and shirts, I luv the huge array of women's shoes and can't help myself buy a pair everytime I go shopping.