Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[velona]

I love flirting but I’ve been hesitant because I don’t want any PMs from men right now…

 

[EvaLane]

I love flirting but I’ve been hesitant because I don’t want any PMs from men right now…

I love engaging on the threads, especially when I’m feeling this way (which, honestly, is often lately). I try to stay polite and respond when I can, but sometimes it starts to feel a bit… chore-ish. Like there’s this expectation baked in.

Maybe I’ve just been lucky, but the few people I’ve been chatting with lately have been super chill about it. They seem to genuinely enjoy when I’m having fun, even if it’s not 1 on 1.

So yes, be selfish. Flirt freely. Ignore whoever pushes for more than you’re comfortable giving. The right ones will get it. The wrong ones weren’t going to be any fun anyway

 

[redsnowbunny]

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Do you own a colored dressing gown?
And did you bring cheesecake???

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[genzsub]

Me too, I mean you have fun a little then your inbox is littered, lawd give me strength!

You know...you don't just have to flirt with men.

 

[redsnowbunny]

You know...you don't just have to flirt with men.

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[Cruel_summer]

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Spill the tea ️

 

[stickygirl]

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https://forum.literotica.com/threads/women-of-lit-a-safe-place-to-share.1600512/

As the OP post says quite clearly - this is a thread for women only. Please delete your post. Thanks a mill

 

[SoReadyNow]

Agreed!

I am brand-spanking new to Lit (and any online chat site), so I'm just going with my gut here, but can anyone give me guidance on responding to PMs? I have been incredibly sex-crazed lately, and enjoy exchanging hot messages, but is there anything I should know? I do maintain anonymity, and don't give much personally identifiable info out. I've had some really great and hot exchanges with some thoughtful and imaginative men. So I guess there's that...

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I am brand-spanking new to Lit (and any online chat site), so I'm just going with my gut here, but can anyone give me guidance on responding to PMs? I have been incredibly sex-crazed lately, and enjoy exchanging hot messages, but is there anything I should know? I do maintain anonymity, and don't give much personally identifiable info out. I've had some really great and hot exchanges with some thoughtful and imaginative men. So I guess there's that...

First - you don’t owe any of them anything. If you start developing a friendship with them that’s different and you can consider cutting slack, but during the initial exchanges the moment - I mean the MOMEMT - they get creepy cut it off. Blessedly the “ignore” button works long term in Forum (rather than Chat where it is just that session)

Second some will say no pictures at all but definitely not your face.

Third, if they PM you out of the blue you double don’t owe them anything.

 

[SoReadyNow]

First - you don’t owe any of them anything. If you start developing a friendship with them that’s different and you can consider cutting slack, but during the initial exchanges the moment - I mean the MOMEMT - they get creepy cut it off. Blessedly the “ignore” button works long term in Forum (rather than Chat where it is just that session)

Second some will say no pictures at all but definitely not your face.

Third, if they PM you out of the blue you double don’t owe them anything.

Hey, thanks Jenni. I have to say, apparently I've been lucky so far; no obvi creepsters have landed in my inbox, and the exchanges have been welcome and sex-positive. I'm definitely not sharing pix or any other identifiable info. (I'm just fine with the written word, I find it very hot. I mean, it's called Literotica, right?) But every person who's approached me has via PM, outta the blue. How else do people connect here?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Hey, thanks Jenni. I have to say, apparently I've been lucky so far; no obvi creepsters have landed in my inbox, and the exchanges have been welcome and sex-positive. I'm definitely not sharing pix or any other identifiable info. (I'm just fine with the written word, I find it very hot. I mean, it's called Literotica, right?) But every person who's approached me has via PM, outta the blue. How else do people connect here?

I really prefer PMs from people I’ve interacted with in any of the forum threads or chat rooms. I may be more harsh than others under that but I’m a lot more comfortable with people who start with a public interaction before going to PM. I’ll be a little more forgiving if it’s “I saw your comment on X forum and wanted to say….” Because it means they were at least near me first.

My out of nowhere PMs all either pay no attention to my profile or start with how they are also swingers, considering to be swingers, wife wasn’t interested in being swingers, and it just gets boring. Imagine the bar where every man has the exact same come on line. At least if they chatted with me in a forum or chat room we have some other topic to start with.

 

[SoReadyNow]

Each time I've been on a forum or chat room, it's been ... underwhelming. Maybe it's just my timing, but the quality of conversation often seems near-monosyllabic. I never know what to say in those, feel like I'm interrupting mildly dull conversations in the middle of the discussion. What am I doing wrong?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Clearly your problem is not hanging out in this threads!

Conversation ebbs and flows inside and across threads but once you’ve been in a few threads the “what’s new” button will show you where people have been talking.

I know some people <cough!> @genzsub <cough!> don’t care for chat rooms for just that reason but some can have good conversations from time to time, or let you meet people for private chats. I will recommend Emily’s Escorts in the chat rooms.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I never go in the chat rooms... Half the time they don't work for me connection wise..

I prefer getting messages from people I've already conversed with too ... Or at least I have seen them liking the posts on my thread.

 

[genzsub]

I know some people <cough!> @genzsub <cough!> don’t care for chat rooms for just that reason but some can have good conversations from time to time, or let you meet people for private chats. I will recommend Emily’s Escorts in the chat rooms.

One caveat, @SoReadyNow, Emily's Escorts is just for women. So if that's not your thing, maybe try a different room. I find them too fast-paced for an in-depth conversation. Too much pressure for my enjoyment.

I never go in the chat rooms... Half the time they don't work for me connection wise..

A lot of people have tech issues with the chat rooms; you're not alone!

For me, a little witty flirting in the forums is a great starting point. Emphasis on 'witty.' If they can't flirt in an interesting way in a forum, then I probably won't enjoy a PM.

 

[SoReadyNow]

One caveat, @SoReadyNow, Emily's Escorts is just for women. So if that's not your thing, maybe try a different room. I find them too fast-paced for an in-depth conversation. Too much pressure for my enjoyment.


A lot of people have tech issues with the chat rooms; you're not alone!

For me, a little witty flirting in the forums is a great starting point. Emphasis on 'witty.' If they can't flirt in an interesting way in a forum, then I probably won't enjoy a PM.

An excellent point. I guess I've just been lucky so far (what, five or so chats in?), everyone has been witty, giving, and even - gasp - literate. So, is Emily's Escort open to bi women?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

One caveat, @SoReadyNow, Emily's Escorts is just for women. So if that's not your thing, maybe try a different room. I find them too fast-paced for an in-depth conversation. Too much pressure for my enjoyment.

Further clarification: men can be in Emily’s they just can’t hit on anyone. It’s not like this thread where they just aren’t welcome.

A lot of people have tech issues with the chat rooms; you're not alone!

Oh heavens no!

For me, a little witty flirting in the forums is a great starting point. Emphasis on 'witty.' If they can't flirt in an interesting way in a forum, then I probably won't enjoy a PM.

That’s also a great point.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

An excellent point. I guess I've just been lucky so far (what, five or so chats in?), everyone has been witty, giving, and even - gasp - literate. So, is Emily's Escort open to bi women?

Oh yes indeed. I’ve wasted (and been wasted) many an afternoon there….

 

[Lorelei907]

Men will tend to poke their noses in wherever and when ever they can. The best thing to do is ignore them.

I’ve been into the chats a couple time but can’t say it’s my cup of tea either. Most of the time it didn’t seem like much was going on or so much chatter that my own message got drowned out. Threads can be fun but DMs can be a lot more intimate.

 

[Cruel_summer]

Thought of the day…officially done putting my self-worth on the line. I am beyond sick of only being good enough in certain situations and being the only one putting in effort. This is the case for friendships and relationships.
End rant *sips wine*

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Thought of the day…officially done putting my self-worth on the line. I am beyond sick of only being good enough in certain situations and being the only one putting in effort. This is the case for friendships and relationships.
End rant *sips wine*

Amen, sister.

 

[velona]

Thought of the day…officially done putting my self-worth on the line. I am beyond sick of only being good enough in certain situations and being the only one putting in effort. This is the case for friendships and relationships.
End rant *sips wine*

Totally agree! Easy to see who your real friends are when you stop reaching out first all the time. Wish I could pull back a bit in family relationships too but just too complicated for that at the moment…

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Just venting

So, I got put in someone's friend zone, and I'm crushed
I felt the most rejected yesterday by this person after my attempts to flirt. This is a person I've been sexy friends with since last summer... It hurts.... Really bad.

 

[Strixaluco]

Just venting

So, I got put in someone's friend zone, and I'm crushed
I felt the most rejected yesterday by this person after my attempts to flirt. This is a person I've been sexy friends with since last summer... It hurts.... Really bad.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Just venting

So, I got put in someone's friend zone, and I'm crushed
I felt the most rejected yesterday by this person after my attempts to flirt. This is a person I've been sexy friends with since last summer... It hurts.... Really bad.