Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[lil_jenni]

Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mommas in this thread!

Indeed! Happy Mother's Day!

 

[stickygirl]

*sigh*
I hope the Moms are not having monotonous sex

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Happy mother's Day

 

[EvaLane]

*sigh*
I hope the Moms are not having monotonous sex

Thank you for sharing that absolutely loved it.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I kept seeing similar posts about not being my same self today that I was in my past...
So here's a great one:

https://imgur.com/a/TaJbEhd

 

[JennyCapricorn]

*sigh*
I hope the Moms are not having monotonous sex

Mmmmmmmm… Nope!

 

[sweet_mandy]

I am not, genuinely, upset about the lazily dehumanising lines like "so what's your cup size" or "get on your knees slut" or porn links in lieu of hello. Those are easily ignored. I'm not even all that miffed about men who "take the time to get to know us" and despite a fairly pleasant back and forth they immediately block us when we don't turn out to share their kink. About Doms who ignore our limits, repeatedly, or insist we submit when we've already politely explained that we're just not feeling it.

Don't get me wrong, everything above is annoying as hell, but it's a faceless screenname we've barely started engaging with; we'll recover.

What really sticks in the gut are the long-time chatters. The ones you're always happy to see online. You hit it off right away and they are so easy to talk to. You've talked about all sorts of shit from sexy to fun to serious to really personal. You don't exchange photos (hell, maybe you do) but you have a pretty good idea what they look like. You even imagine being friends in real life. They become the main reason you log onto LIT and the first thing you search for.

They had you thinking you were friends. That the Internet is a pretty cool place when anonymous strangers can build a comfortable connection of trust.

Then one day they flip out at you. Go off on you for not asking about them enough. For not being in the mood to talk sexy one day, or for RP-ing with other chatters but not with them. You find yourself arguing--actually arguing--with a stranger on LIT, defending yourself for god-knows-what.

And this little corner of the Internet loses its gleam again. It was never a safe space where you were seen as an actual human being. You've just received a shitty reminder of the dingy, shameless, single-minded glory hole that it really is, where all you're good for is turning someone on and getting them off or GTFO, and hate yourself for being naive.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

And this little corner of the Internet loses its gleam again. It was never a safe space where you were seen as an actual human being. You see it for the dingy, shameless, single-minded glory hole that it really is, where all you're good for is turning someone on and getting them off of GTFO, and hate yourself for being naive.

This right here is the worst part.

There are some wonderful people on here (those of you on this thread for instance!) but the constant worry that even the most sociable and of partners doesn’t see you as fully human is so draining and demoralizing.

<hugs> Mandy I’m so sorry you have to go through this bullshit. That any of us do

 

[Barbelle]

Aw, that blows, Mandy. Sorry you’re dealing with that disappointment.

 

[lil_jenni]

Then one day they flip out at you. Go off on you for not asking about them enough. For not being in the mood to talk sexy one day, or for RP-ing with other chatters but not with them. You find yourself arguing--actually arguing--with a stranger on LIT, defending yourself for god-knows-what

Yeppers. This is one of the reasons I keep up my emotional barriers. I had similar experiences my first year or two here, and I learned to keep things casual. So while I share a lot in the forums (kind of verbal exhibitionism sometimes), I can be standoffish in PMs because I don't want to get close like that. We have to protect ourselves first.

 

[sweet_mandy]

Thanks everyone. I'm still open to making friends on LIT but getting better at applying a filter. Have fun and be safe out there x

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Just the usual BS over in the LGBTQIA threads ...
Plus life, work, food... and sex I guess

Behind the scenes BS is making me question staying a mod over there. It’s just one person, I keep telling myself.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Behind the scenes BS is making me question staying a mod over there. It’s just one person, I keep telling myself.

We do appreciate the work the mods do on this site!

 

[stickygirl]

Behind the scenes BS is making me question staying a mod over there. It’s just one person, I keep telling myself.

Hmm
Well for what it’s worth - thank you for modding

 

[genzsub]

Behind the scenes BS is making me question staying a mod over there. It’s just one person, I keep telling myself.

I know the women here greatly appreciate what you do. While it's none of my business, your statement about "just one person" does make me curious what you are referring to.

 

[genzsub]

I discovered this anonymous quote yesterday and just wanted to share it:
"My body may be a temple, but I am the goddess to whom it is devoted. Do not presume to tell me how I may decorate my altar."

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I know the women here greatly appreciate what you do. While it's none of my business, your statement about "just one person" does make me curious what you are referring to.

It’s a tough situation. I think the individual means well. I keep typing more and deleting it as I don’t want to bash or misconstrue.

 

[stickygirl]

I know the women here greatly appreciate what you do. While it's none of my business, your statement about "just one person" does make me curious what you are referring to.

If it's who I think, I've had them on iggy for years because the thread is swamped otherwise. They either have OCD or they're a bloke

( didn't see anything, missus. Must've imagined it )

 

[babybird35]

Happy to have found this today! I hadn’t been on in a while and all of the old threads I used to visit have definitely lost some steam over time. I have never replied to a man on here (that I’m aware of )—but they sure are prevalent in every thread I’ve ever enjoyed.

Are there any others any of you recommend??

 

[stickygirl]

Happy to have found this today! I hadn’t been on in a while and all of the old threads I used to visit have definitely lost some steam over time. I have never replied to a man on here (that I’m aware of )—but they sure are prevalent in every thread I’ve ever enjoyed.

Are there any others any of you recommend??

This is the only one that is strictly man-free. The mod is helpful in making sure that's how it stays.
You hunt with the pack elsewhere

 

[babybird35]

This is the only one that is strictly man-free. The mod is helpful in making sure that's how it stays.
You hunt with the pack elsewhere

Noted!

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Behind the scenes BS is making me question staying a mod over there. It’s just one person, I keep telling myself.

@ToPleaseHim , the women of this thread have voted. You are allowed to resign as Mod over there, but you MAY NOT resign as our Mod! You are the best.
Kidding, not kidding. We couldn’t stop you, and you need to do whatever your heart calls you to do, but you ARE the best.
Sending Bunny snuggles.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

In order to lighten the mood, I just hope all my sisters on this thread are feeling sexually fulfilled as I am at this very moment.

(in case you’re wondering, we were alone in the house, long enough for me to be able to properly scream.)

 

[JennyCapricorn]

 

[stickygirl]

Stockholm Syndrome - more BS
I'd heard the story too - the female hostages who 'fell in love with their abductor' and has since been used by the media and any other bad actor that wants to victim blame.

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The Wiki page is interesting too.