your dream girl/guy

[Brave Maximus]

*pops head in*

Hey X,

Friend was surfing around and spotted this thread - she sent it to me with a "This girl" to the answer to your thread question.

*pops out*

 

[Xectxny19X]

I am so confused!

 

[Brave Maximus]

A friend of mine was surfing around Lit on my account

She told me "The guy\girl of my dreams" would be this girl.

I saw the thread was yours, so I thought I'd pop in and say hi.

That's about it

 

[sxxyblueyes]

I believe I have found my perfect girl!
She is EVERYTHING I want!

beautiful, romantic, sensual, caring, smart, sexual, sexy as all hell, drug free, fun, outgoing, loves to laugh, great sense of humor... just an all out amazing woman!

 

[Xectxny19X]

Brave! aw!

Sxxy! Congrats sweetie! So um, does she have a sister for me? hehe.

 

[interfacial]

Right now in my life, I'm only looking towards other women for love.

Simple and realistic: She would have to be capable of leading the relationship and being the extrovert. I do my best to be an extrovert in real life, and I work hard pull it off so that I can meet new people and do new things, but I don't do it by some natural thing I have. She would have to have that thing, and being around her would make it every bit as natural for me.

Completely indulgent impossible fantasy:
She is a slim natural redhead with pale skin and freckles, with breasts that aren't too large. She would be very feminine, but in actuality be a fully functional hermaphrodite who could satisfy my every bisexual whim hehe. She would have that aura/thing I mentioned above of course, making her the perfect companion in any situation. She would have a medical degree and be so experienced with every aspect of physical therapy she could give the pefect massage. She would be cool and popular while simultaneously being a huge nerd I could watch my sci-fi and anime with, and she would understand everything.

 

[Xectxny19X]

sounds like you know what you want! I wish I had more of a clear/concrete idea of what qualities I'm looking for in a girl.

For now, I'll steal one of your must-haves. I'd want my dream girl to like anime/manga or at least not ask me if a manga is a magazine(someone actually asked me this!).

 

[interfacial]

Well, it's easy to find what you want in a person sexually, which was pretty much every part of my fantasy woman, so it's no amazing thing hehe. But, what we are all looking for is someone who we can understand, and can understand us. Not just the person we appear to be, but who we really are. We want someone who in understanding makes us understand ourselves.

As far as Manga goes, I've met people in Japan who didn't recognize the word. They certainly weren't young, but they were in a store that sold manga, and it just blew my mind.

 

[Xectxny19X]

You've been to Japan?!! I want to go there one day, but I should probably learn some Japanese first!

hm...that's great you mention about wanting someone to understand you, & you understand that person. I think that takes a lot of time. For me, it always seem that everyone always has an impression of me from the very first meet, & then filter their every perception of me afterwards to 'fit' that impression. Have you had that happen to you? Or is it just my weird self?

 

[L_homme]

Interesting topic

Who didn't grow up w/ some sort of partial or complete list of what qualities they'd want in a significant other?

Well, I have a very partial list, but it's also difficult to find. I always thought it would be impossible to find a girl w/ those qualities AND happen to like girls! Oh...how I was wrong! Such a girl popped into my life yesterday! The thing that surprises me is that I'm not even interested or wasn't enthusiastic about it. I mean it was nice knowing there's a girl who likes girls out there who completely fits my list, but I can only see friendship coming out of this.

I'm not sure what kind of msg. I'm trying to impart here, but I guess whatever you're looking for is out there...it's really not that impossible to find someone who has the qualities you deem important. The thing is actually meeting that person might make you have second thoughts about your little list.

Thoughts & insights please.

Making lists about the qualities or looks to ideally look for is problematic. There have been times when I thought I found an ideal only to discover that it wasn't what I was looking for or vice versa. I guess, it's easy to say that there is no problem with having an ideal type, but in my experience, it tends to limit your choices.

 

[Xectxny19X]

Very true -- about having a list limiting choices, AND it's not as if we have too much to pick from our limited GLBT community either.

I'm not very picky about looks, but I'm still trying to figure out how compatible I want my dream person to be w/ me. I guess I'm analytical that way & tend not to believe in "falling in love." I'm more into *choosing* to love. That probably didn't make any sense. But like I've been discussing w/ grungalanga(my schnookie patookie on here), I don't think love is about not being able to live w/o the person. For me, love is more about me & the person being able to live w/o each other but *choosing* to be w/ each other lovingly.

Any thoughts?

 

[interfacial]

I think most people do get a first impression and try to make everything you do reflect that. It's bad, but it's hard not to do so. I mean, the only thing you know about other people is what they present to you, so that first impression holds so much weight. They identify you by that experience. It's what made them know your face (and possibly your name). Sometimes, in order to help them get past that, you yourself have to re-interpret their experience for them. That or just knock some sense into them

As far as love, maybe there's a whole broad spectrum of love and people need something different. On top of that, since they are different people, not only would they be going for somewhere else on the spectrum, everybody would have to find a different person to even reach the same points on that spectrum anyway. So, not only may people know exactly what they want, they might not even know about where they are coming from. That's why I said something that can be as broad as understanding someone else and through it understanding yourself. Really, that can mean anything.




Talk about thread hijacking! - I went to Japan just last year, actually. I took Japanese all 4 years of my highschool, but I only took it one year in college. I missed my chance to go on a summer Japanese trip in highschool, because we couldn't get enough host families or adult chaperones. A lot of us felt really connected to the program, so we have stayed in contact with our teachers and how the program has changed over the years. Last year, I found out that they didn't have enough adult chaperones, so I talked to some of the other people who really felt screwed by how we missed our chance to go to Japan, and we decided to become adult chaperones. I normally don't hide myself, but I didn't want to have to deal with being bisexual while not being able to communicate myself. My Japanese is very rusty. Spent a week hanging with a 17 year old Japanese girl, who was very cute. First time I had to feel akward around teenage girls since I was one myself. I just convinced her that american women don't see each other naked at all, so she didn't change while in the room we were sharing. I spent the whole trip feeling like a child, I was so shy all the time. This was especially true when we went to a book store around the main shopping area aroudn her home town, and there were all these highschool girls openly looking at pornography, and nobody around thought it unusual at all.

 

[Xectxny19X]

It's not thread jacking! I did ask you about Japan afterall.

Oh hehe! I think I understand that feeling about being shy all over again, although we've experienced so much & are older than we once were. You'd think we'd be less shy w/ age. How old were you, when you were the 'adult chaperone?'

Talking about people looking at pornagraphy -- know the video stores w/ the section? It seems as though most people are very embarassed to walk in & pick out their videos in there! Well, at least in my area! So nice to hear there were some girls looking at pornagraphy, & no one seem to care! I think I'd be surprised by that too but would eventually smile & think to myself -- maybe I should relocate!

I'm actually shy myself when it comes to most things sexual! I just admire those who can be open about themselves & be who they are as long as it doesn't hurt others. Also, I've got to appreciate those who just don't care what it is you do as long as you're not hurting them! They might not be into the same things you are, but they're respectful & open-minded enough to let you be who you are! How awesome is that?

Too bad I won't be learning Japanese right now, b/c I'm learning Spanish. I want to master it by the end of the year. At least, I want to be familiar w/ everyday speaking Spanish.

Oh & look at me digress from my own thread topic.

 

[Tymeless]

xect after catching up on this thread your my dream girl heh to bad i was born with a penis. I'm currently learning japanese i am slowly becoming more and more obsesses with anime/manga/doushin and eroge gaming! i'm staring my own online comic here shortly kinda learning the manga style artwork! well i wish you luck in finding that special someone i hope to find one myself someday!

 

[interfacial]

Last year I was 25. So, just hanging around a highschool half the day again felt weird. Plus I was a foreigner who didn't have a uniform. I was also at least 5 inches taller than most of them, with few exceptions.

I felt much worse for one of the students who came on the trip, he's 6'2, kept hitting his head on everything and his feet didn't fit on any of the stairs. It was hilarious to see him walking around though, because women would see him and look so frightened, and if you followed him he could walk through a crowd and never have to slow down. He had bruises all along his forehead by the time we got home and his mom threw a fit, in front of everyone at the airport.

Very important: Never eat sea urchin. Ever. Just don't.

 

[Brave Maximus]

I've actually been giving it a lot of thought recently as to what my dream or ideal other half is. I've come to the realization (probably because I'm getting older, because it's certianly not wiser) that I have no idea. There are obvious physical features that one finds attractive, but they're not (really) important, at least, not in the long run. But that's not to say that physicallity isn't important. Same with personality - though it's a little easier for me to figure out what I like and don't like there.

So, enough stalling: The Dream girl:

Personally, I prefer taller women, only because it hurts the neck to kiss someone who's over a foot shorter than you (in one case of a girl I dated almost 2 feet!). I love long hair, and tend to be attracted to women with darker hair colour. Eyes and smile, though, are what do me in every time. Pale eyes and a good smile, and I'm done.

More than that, I want someone who likes the same things, and doesn't expect me to change too much. I mean, if I met someone who wanted me to change my career, hair style and attitude - it certianly wouldn't last.

I also find that I'm becoming more attracted to east indian and latin women.....
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I do find Japan rather facinating and am a bit of an Anime and manga fan, though not to an obsessive level (that's right, no seeing Brave dressed up as Vampire Hunter D any time soon...... Akuma maybe, but not D). But more than that, I find the social cross over very interesting. They seem (from my conversations, visits and friends) to be as obsessed over there with our (western) culture as we are with theirs. And it's just as warped over there. Meaning it's a reflection of the culture through media and not a reflection of the actual culture.

Personally, I'd just like to find someone who, if they're not going to watch anime with me, at least tollerates me watching D, 08th MS, or Slayers.....

 

[briar_rose]

wow so many of you are hot and love anime! *overload* wow.... hehe well i dont tend to specify much feeling that, if i meet someone and the vibe is right i can work from there and see how it goes. But at the moment the one i day dream of 'hypothetically' is assertive, feminine and experienced, who could encourage me to come out of my shell and show me a few things. Long dark hair, and a willowy figure wouldnt hurt some one who would love to model for my art.

 

[AsianThongSlut]

My Dream Guy

6'4"
athletic bod (broad shoulders, defined chest, and abs are a MUST)
clean cut hair
shaven (face, legs, balls, cock)
killer smile

whoops... that's my boyfriend I'm talking about.

 

[wantonthoughts]

Hmmmm...

Well i'm still waiting for Bryan Adams to knock on my door dammit! I would follow him anywhere!

 

[bi golly]

I saw my dream guy today. He was in his 40's, tall, blond and very good looking. I saw him in a resturant and realized this is the kind of guy who turned me on. I go to gay bars and clubs and most of the guys there leave me cold. This guy looked like a nice guy and if I could have had sex with him, I would.

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I thought I had met my dream guy and married him. I'm separating from him now and trying to find my dream girl. Figures I'd figure out I was a lesbian after getting married. *shakes head*

My wish list?

1. She's got to be willing to be spoiled and to spoil me in return.
2. Communication..I want to be able to talk to her about anything and wonder where the time went when hours have slipped by.
3. Someone who is willing to chase after her dreams and inspire me to follow mine
4. Enjoy some of the things I do and have enough not in common to keep the relationship solid
5. Committed and faithful
6. Understanding and thoughtful
7. Someone who either has a similiar religious background or is understanding and not judgemental of my faith.
8. Loves animals...especially cats. My cat is my baby. lol

Seems like a lot, doesn't it? All my relationships have been bad, of course, I didn't know I didn't like guys at the time. That does make a lot of difference.

 

[PredatorSmile]

sweet !

 

[playwithlezli]

I thought I had met my dream guy and married him. I'm separating from him now and trying to find my dream girl. Figures I'd figure out I was a lesbian after getting married. *shakes head*

My wish list?

1. She's got to be willing to be spoiled and to spoil me in return.
2. Communication..I want to be able to talk to her about anything and wonder where the time went when hours have slipped by.
3. Someone who is willing to chase after her dreams and inspire me to follow mine
4. Enjoy some of the things I do and have enough not in common to keep the relationship solid
5. Committed and faithful
6. Understanding and thoughtful
7. Someone who either has a similiar religious background or is understanding and not judgemental of my faith.
8. Loves animals...especially cats. My cat is my baby. lol

Seems like a lot, doesn't it? All my relationships have been bad, of course, I didn't know I didn't like guys at the time. That does make a lot of difference.

Hey it's possible! Your description of a dream gal pretty much sums up the woman i love, except for maybe the part about cats-she doesn't like mine much, wait a minute, neither do i-of course they aren't really mine, they were left behind when i finally kicked my abusive boyfriend's sorry ass out of the house.

ehmmmm, sorry, not usually so negative. Keep dreaming-it really can happen!

 

[Night_Jasmine]

I hope it does. I have to admit, it gets lonely with just the four legged companion of the feline persuasion to cuddle with at night. Not to mention better conversations. LOL!!!

But I will keep dreaming and hoping.

 

[Gi_Venus]

My ideal woman or guy would be:

Smart
affectionate
tolerant(rolling my eyes)
poetic
empathic
generous
Love nature
Love music
Love dancing
love the idea of personal growth
Willing to listen to my endless philosophizing and explorations on the meaning of life or the lack of meaning....grin

and the big one, willing to put up with my chaotic nature

Gianna