Adult onset bisexuality

First some background. My wife was raised in a very conservative Christian home. I knew she had a kinky streak but it took a few years to work through her repressed sexuality. She eventually become very comfortable with expressing herself, and we started expanding our activities. Eventually she got comfortable sharing her fantasies. Which is where we pick up the story..

We were driving home from a friend's house when she asked me to pull into a parking lot so we could talk. Once we were parked, she nervously looked at me, and said she wanted to ask me something but I had to promise not to get upset or angry. I assured her I wouldn't. She nodded, and then proceeded to ask me if I would be willing to make her favorite fantasy come true, even if it was something I didn't want to do. I told her as long as it didn't involve body mutilation or physical harm, there wasn't anything I wouldn't do to make her happy. She nodded.

'Okay, I want you to suck a cock with me. A real cock, another man's cock'

That was not what I was expecting. I am sure the look on my face could not have been encouraging.

She pleaded with me, telling me how long she has had fantasy of watching a guy suck another guy, and sharing with him. How she knew it could never happen, but thought that maybe I might be willing since I had been so encouraging her in escaping her repressed past.

After some discussion, I agreed that I would consider it but I wasn't committing to it. To be honest, it wasn't really something I was interested in but I also wanted to continue encourage my wife in her sexual journey. So I eventually agreed that if we could find someone we were both comfortable with I would try it one time.

It took a while and a lot of time on hookup apps and websites, but eventually we met 'Rob'. After several texts and chats we agreed to meet at a hotel bar for drinks. We were all nervous at first, but we quickly developed a good rapport. I gave her the nod and we all agreed to head to our room.

Once there, things happened really fast. My wife and Rob started making out while I watched. The quickly undressed each other and she started fondling his cock and balls. She then started kissing me while she unbuttoned pants and told me to get naked. While I undressed, she continued to play with Rob's now hard dick. Once I was fully undressed she started stroking me as well. She pulled us closer together and then got on her knees and started sucking our cocks, switching back and forth. After a few minutes of this, should pushed Rob onto the bed and motioned for me to join her. I knelt down next to her, my heart beating a hundred miles an hour.

She held Rob's dick in her hand, looked at me intently and whispered 'Lick his dick, baby.'

I reached out with my tongue and slowly licked his shaft from her hand to the head.

'Oh my God. Baby this is so hot.' she said as I continued to lick up and down with my tongue.

My wife eased me away from his erect penis, as she then started to suck his cock. After a few seconds, she stopped and said 'Now you're turn. Suck Rob's cock for me.'

I hesitated for just a moment, then leaned over, opened my mouth, and wrapped my lips around the head of his cock. I then begin to give another man a blowjob for the first time in my life. I bobbed up and down on him while my wife continued to whisper encouragement to me. She was really get turned on, and eventually joined me as we took turns to Rob's great enjoyment. After several minutes of sharing, my wife joined Rob and the bed and said she wanted to watch me suck my first cock. They started kissing, while I continued to pleasure him. After several more minutes, Rob said "Your husband is doing a great job, but I really need to fuck right now".

My told Rob we had not really planned on going that far, but I told her I was okay with it if she was. At this point, I really did want to watch Rob fuck my wife (my own secret fantasy). So we changed positions and I got to watch another man fuck my wife for the first time and I loved it. At one point, Rob positioned my wife on her knees and asked me to get underneath and eat her pussy. He then proceeded to fuck her doggy style, and I got my first fucklicking experience. We soon got into rhythm where he would fuck her for several seconds, then pull out and feed me his cock. Then he would resume fucking her. The experience ended with my wife giving Rob a hand job to completion.

After Rob left, we proceeded to have the hottest sex we had every had. After that, I asked her if the experience had met her expectations. She said it had blown her mind and was way better than she had ever imagined. She wanted to know how I felt and I was honest. I told I enjoyed it was more enjoyable than I expected but it wasn't earth shattering. I told I would be open to a repeat if she wanted to, which she eagerly agreed to.

Skip forward about ten months. We had had a few more experiences with Rob, and another guy. And then we met 'Jay'. After a few times meeting for drinks there was some definite chemistry between the three of us and we agreed to meet at his house. It didn't take long before we were all naked and playing with each other. Jay was the first guy to give me a blow job, and I reciprocated. And he had amazing stamina. After at least two hours, my wife needed a break. While we recuperating, my wife was slowly stroking his cock when she smiled at me and then asked Jay if he only fucked wives or if he did husbands too. I was pretty shocked at this, since we had never discussed it. I wasn't a complete novice when it came to butt play, as my wife had used her fingers and a couple of toys on me. But this was definitely new territory, but I was curious to see where this would go.

Jay replied that he had never done that before, but he was willing to try. My wife looked at me and I just shrugged my shoulders. So she got some lube and started preparing my ass while she had me play with Jay. After a couple of minutes, she had me lay an my back while Jay got in position and she held my legs. Soon I felt the head of Jay's cock against my ass and I took a deep breath and tried to relax. My wife was watching with pure lust as Jay slowly pushed into me. I was actually surprised at how easy it was for Jay to enter me, there was some uncomfortable pressure at first but after the first few inches it started to feel really good.

'Oh baby, he's actually fucking you. I can't believe it. This is amazing.' my wife said as she watched us. 'Do you like it baby? It looks so hot!'

I had to admit, I was actually enjoying this. 'It feels so good. Your cock feels amazing.' I said.

Jay didn't need any further encouragement, and he proceeded to fuck me in earnest. My wife moved up and started kissing him while he continued to plow my ass, and it just felt better and better. I was amazed at how good it felt, and was surprised to find my dick rock hard and leaking precum. I moaned when Jay grabbed my dick and started stroking me as he continued his fucking as he and my wife made out. It didn't take long before I reached the point of no return.

'Oh fuck, I'm going to cum' I said as I started having one of the most amazing orgasms ever. I shot four or five ropes of cum over my chest and stomach as I blew my load. It wasn't long before Jay got to that point as well, and asked where he should cum.

'Cum inside him, I want you to cum inside him' my wife said. Jay looked at me and I nodded. Three of four strokes later and I could feel him stiffen and then shoot his load into my ass.

We played for a long time that night..

And that is the story is how my wife took me from a straight man to a cock loving bisexual horndog.
 
I have been criticized for using the term adult onset bisexuality. Many feel that it implies a pathological condition. That was not my intent, but I see how many feel that way. Perhaps the better term would be adult emerging bisexuality. That seems more neutral and perhaps a bit positive.
 
I have been criticized for using the term adult onset bisexuality. Many feel that it implies a pathological condition. That was not my intent, but I see how many feel that way. Perhaps the better term would be adult emerging bisexuality. That seems more neutral and perhaps a bit positive.
I don't think so personally, I took it as you intended and didn't think twice about it. Some people like things there way or to them it's the "correct" way to say something, But whatever, your point is understood. My urges have only gotten stronger as I have aged..
 
The three guys sounds like fun. Two weeks ago I was chatting online with a guy & he wants to do a 3some with me and someone else. I don't know anyone I would want to have a 3some with. He said he didn't know anyone either. it goes back to the difficulty of meeting like minded men who have the same need for discretion.
A three-way stroke, or joust, with two other jolly gents, is real fun time
 
I've also know I was bi for a long time, my early teens. I've read quite a few posts on different websites where men in their late 40's and 50's suddenly begin having gay fantasies. Many guys act on it and many don't. I read one post on another website where a therapist said he has about 10 men who are experiencing this sexual change. He argues that it is based on changing hormonal levels as men age. He holds a once a month group therapy session for these guys. I can imagine what that's like.

Why not? As these guys get older they want male companionship. If sex is a part of that then more power to them! Does anyone know these guys & have their email address? I'm just asking for a friend. ;)
Don't know but like to meet them
I'm married twice my ex and my present wife were no really interested in sex,
Have been with men and loved it
Now I'm 67 and would love sex with another man have sent photos also love to show off,as I live in a small place it's hard to find someone my fantasy is a three some love to be filled both ends.
 
I’ve always been bi and known I was so I can’t comment for myself but one of the guys I met at the sauna today told me while we were in the bar that he has only started experimenting recently. He’d watched some hay porn and jerked off with a friend but that’s the sun total of his experiences. His wife has gone off sex and he’s frustrated and horny. So he’s started to release his frustration by using the sauna and expanding his horizons (and my hole) he’s found a whole new side of himself and is loving being sexually active, he doesn’t see it as cheating on his wife as he says he still loves her and just needs to experience his pleasure
You are doing his wife a real service by satisfying his very natural sexual needs in a discrete and non-demanding way, while also getting the benefit of his horny cock yourself, everyone is a winner...
 
I like the term in the subject. Not long ago I saw some trans woman photos here that got me really turned on (in the distant past, just the thought of it repelled me… either I evolved or opened up or something), and it did occur to me that they have a penis and may expect quid pro quo, if it were. From there I read some comments about how a mouth is a mouth, which got me wondering about having a man suck me off. So for probably two months now I’ve been trying to manage that without any luck! There have been probably… well six guys I was in contact with who just stopped responding at one point, and at least another six guys who I’d made plans to meet up with who when the time came, cancelled at the last minute or just ghosted me entirely. I’ve been getting told I have a nice looking cock, if possibly challenging due the thickness, but like I said, nothing’s actually happened yet. I almost wonder if I should just go to the last adult bookstore here in town and get a booth and see if there’s a glory hole there or if some guy wants to come in, just to find out if I’d like it or not, but that kind of feels a bit “ick” to me, you know? If I enjoyed it, after a few times I’d probably be ready to go on from there (my leaning is toward topping, even though I’d probably be willing to bottom for a trans woman — we all have our little idiosyncrasies don’t we?
 
I can commit to this. As a happily married guy in his 50s, this is now a thing for me. Over the years, I'd go through brief spurts of thinking that maybe, just maybe I'd be up for head from or to a guy, then it'd go away. Then, just very recently, I rationalized it as, I'm not really attracted to guys, just think the idea of serving another cock is hot. Jerking off, frot, oral, just hot. And of course, imagine when I find out that there are TONS of us out there.
Simultaneously, as a devoted hubby and dad, I made peace with the fact that my role in the family is very submissive. I do everything for everyone, but I get value out of it. With the kids, I get the joy of giving them happiness my parents couldn't give me, and with the wife, I get the satisfaction of not having her rag on my ass. She likes control, she gets it, I get peace. LOL.
These two self realizations made me admit to myself that there is definitely some queerness in me. I had to come out to myself. I don't have to come out to anyone else....the sheer levity, lightness, and relief I gave myself by accepting a part of myself that was always there but just needed to introduce itself to me, is just so amazing and freeing.
 
I can commit to this. As a happily married guy in his 50s, this is now a thing for me. Over the years, I'd go through brief spurts of thinking that maybe, just maybe I'd be up for head from or to a guy, then it'd go away. Then, just very recently, I rationalized it as, I'm not really attracted to guys, just think the idea of serving another cock is hot. Jerking off, frot, oral, just hot. And of course, imagine when I find out that there are TONS of us out there.
Simultaneously, as a devoted hubby and dad, I made peace with the fact that my role in the family is very submissive. I do everything for everyone, but I get value out of it. With the kids, I get the joy of giving them happiness my parents couldn't give me, and with the wife, I get the satisfaction of not having her rag on my ass. She likes control, she gets it, I get peace. LOL.
These two self realizations made me admit to myself that there is definitely some queerness in me. I had to come out to myself. I don't have to come out to anyone else....the sheer levity, lightness, and relief I gave myself by accepting a part of myself that was always there but just needed to introduce itself to me, is just so amazing and freeing.
That's inspiring and well stated. Hope you find some satisfying experiences, going forward.
 
Also, I re-read my post and it comes off as very self-absorbed and selfish. I think of it more as being very personal.
 
I'm surprised there aren't more female responses to this. Personally, I didn't use to think about women as potential sex partners at all, but gradually became more and more bi-curious over the years. After chatting and eventually sexting with many on various platforms, I even felt a desire to try this out in real life (which I haven't acted on yet).
I've had open adult chats with lots of 40+ women, and this seems to be a fairly common experience - mid-life bisexuality isn't just for guys :)
It happened to me if you would like to chat about it
 
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