Ages?

[voo]

I'm 29. My Master is 25.

I first realized that I was a submissive when I was 25. A whole new world was opened up to me and I haven't looked back since. I'm not sure how old my Master was when he realized he was a Dominant. We both have always shown characteristics fitting to our roles and have always enjoyed activities that fit therein. For example, I have always been very keen on being judged and graded, and I have always had a deep rooted desire to please those around me, especially those in authority. My Master has always had control issues, wanting to control every detail of the world around him and feeling unsatisfied if things weren't done his way.

Good topic!

 

[Shankara20]

I was just thinking that I have yet to see any women on this board my age. However I can sing that Shanky is olderrrrrrr.

Eb

and I dress like a woman, does that count?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Pardon me but if you're younger than Shank, you can't be that much older than me.

I was just thinking that I have yet to see any women on this board my age. However I can sing that Shanky is olderrrrrrr.

Eb

 

[Voronez]

23 yo. guy.

Since I hit puberty I had tried to get my hands on some porn, which wasn't easy. We had no cable, no internet or such, so I had to wait for my friends to get some even remotely erotic material. Well, when I was 15 and the star were right my parents finally decided to get cable. Now there weren't actually any channels that would show porn but some late night programs had more or less "erotic" features. One night a program showed some BDSM related material (girl got flogged, thight PVC corset and such) and I found it strangely attractive. After this my-new-fantasy-show I managed to flip a channel that showed a uncensored(!) piece of pornmovie.

I almost fucking creamed my self. It was girl on girl scene and the another fucked and dominated the other /w strapon. I had no idea that such thing ever existed but for some reason it was absolute blast for me. I have had never been so strongly aroused. It wasn't technically BDSM but the D/s element was clearly there. Once my household got internet I tried to find similar material but I didn't succeed. Girl-girl porn /w toys was easy to find but it was lacking something. Only when I stumbled to BDSM site I found my brand.

To me BDSM isn't must. I like vanilla but elements of BDSM makes the experience much more exiting and fulfilling.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I was always emotionally oriented towards this for relationships, and have had sadistic fantasies for as long as I can remember having fantasies. However, except for a short relationship I had while in college, no one I was involved with ever had any interest in persuing a relationship that moved in these circles. I'm not very interested in porn, so I was never exposed to BDSM other than the occassional "SM caricature" villian in movies or TV.

I was introduced to BDSM as a life/love/playstyle in the fall of 1997. I never looked back. I'm 45 now, and I'll be 46 in June...

 

[Etoile]

I'm 26, have been involved in BDSM since 19.

 

[Ebonyfire]

and I dress like a woman, does that count?

Of course!

 

[Ebonyfire]

I was always emotionally oriented towards this for relationships, and have had sadistic fantasies for as long as I can remember having fantasies. However, except for a short relationship I had while in college, no one I was involved with ever had any interest in persuing a relationship that moved in these circles. I'm not very interested in porn, so I was never exposed to BDSM other than the occassional "SM caricature" villian in movies or TV.

I was introduced to BDSM as a life/love/playstyle in the fall of 1997. I never looked back. I'm 45 now, and I'll be 46 in June...

A mere babe! LOL

 

[neonflux]

I was just thinking that I have yet to see any women on this board my age. However I can sing that Shanky is olderrrrrrr.

Eb

I recently met a woman Domme at a queer play party who is in her 70s. She was there with a younger lover and she was absolutely magnificent...

P.S., I will be 51 in June, so I am only a hop, skip or (not and) jump behind you

 

[Arianna22]

Thanks guys... all of you for replying and its lovely to see so many people chatting about it. It really does cover a whole range of ages... I'm quite surprised!

Oh, and thanks to everyone who wished me a happy Birthday... I had a lovely day and I even finished my stats!

 

[Shankara20]

I recently met a woman Domme at a queer play party who is in her 70s. She was there with a younger lover and she was absolutely magnificent...

P.S., I will be 51 in June, so I am only a hop, skip or (not and) jump behind you

Does she still have those clothespins connected with the leather straps that she puts on your nipples and her nipples while she fists you?

just asking....

 

[neonflux]

Does she still have those clothespins connected with the leather straps that she puts on your nipples and her nipples while she fists you?

just asking....

Sad to say, I don't know!?! (I didn't get to watch her play - she did it in a more private space, and I was having my own adventures )

 

[Shankara20]

Sad to say, I don't know!?! (I didn't get to watch her play - she did it in a more private space, and I was having my own adventures )

she is incredible

 

[neonflux]

she is incredible

I suspect, yes, that we are talking about the same person. I was quite taken aback, actually. I was waiting for another friend to come that we both know. The Domme in question walked up to me and introduced herself (I suspected who she was before she greeted me) and told me that she felt she should know me. I introduced myself and told her that no, I was relatively new to the scene. She replied that "I looked good, that I fit." I felt like I'd just been touched by royalty.

 

[Shankara20]

I felt like I'd just been touched by royalty.

just wait till she slips a hand into a private body place while you are suspended in and tied to a leather sling with about 30 people watching and she uses those leather connected clothespins to connect all four nipples, your and hers, together...

 

[neonflux]

just wait till she slips a hand into a private body place while you are suspended in and tied to a leather sling with about 30 people watching and she uses those leather connected clothespins to connect all four nipples, your and hers, together...

LOL

 

[FaeryFire]

I'm 20, still with my first sexual partner, and have known I'm submissive for the past year and a half, maybe more. It's slow progress intergrating into our lives but I think knowing what you want, and not being afraid to ask for it really counts. I think once you stop worrying about what others might think you enjoy life a lot more.

I grew up in a family where sex was ok, even encoraged (which was slightly freaky, I was a late developer) Bi-sexuality and BDSM are two things which are taboo though - actually anything other than straght sex is considered taboo, including oral and anal. lol

But I stoped careing. The family you create yourself (I feel) is more important than the family you are born into, and there comes a time where you realise you can't please everyone, so you may as well try and make yourself happy at least. Lets face it, when it comes to sex, it's no-one's business but yours unless you want it to be!

 

[gingermango]

I'm 38 (about to be 39 in roughly six weeks). I've been fascinated by what I now know to be kink since I was a small child. I was married at 22 to a woman who turned out to be very repressed sexually and very non-accepting, as well as unadventurous. After 10 years, that relationship ended and I began exploring myself in earnest. I'm now very happily married (for well over 5 years) to my dominant Goddess. While I very much wish I could have figured out some of these things earlier in life, I'm not one to dwell much on regrets. For now, we're too busy having fun together to worry much about "might have beens."

 

[Ebonyfire]

Pardon me but if you're younger than Shank, you can't be that much older than me.

I am 57. I should add that all of my submissives are younger because they need to be to keep up with me.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Funny that you mention that as I am the same way with my Doms.

d

I am 57. I should add that all of my submissives are younger because they need to be to keep up with me.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Funny that you mention that as I am the same way with my Doms.

d

I don't blame you one bit, lol.

 

[twosidesmeet]

I'm 33, been a practicing Dominant male for 12 years now.

I've found, from previous subs and vesting others out over the years, that many people definitely do separate fantasy from reality. Some people are fine having their "bad" desires in their head only to think about them when they are masturbating or some such thing. Others fear taking the chance meeting and exploring it with someone. BDSM takes ALOT of trust and it's hard, especially for the submissive, to just throw themselves into something with a Dom. they don't know/trust. Trust takes time and in my experience many people just want kinky sex and don't want to put the time in.

On the other hand many people don't live the BDSM life 24/7. Therefore it's not a side of them that comes out to most. They may have a vanilla relationship and be fine with it. That gives them all they want and/or need. It could be a matter of not meeting the right person, with the correct experiences, to fall into a relationship that is non-vanilla.

Or, it could be psychological. I've known and met many people who thought of their BDSM desires as wrong or dirty and tried to deny them for as long as they could. it's hard on some and finally they reach the tipping point when they don't want to wait anymore and decide to jump in.

It's hard to say anything firmly though, as the BDSM community is fairly large and the tastes/desires within it are vast and all over the place. That is part of the problem too. Finding another with the same tastes/desires as you. You can't force fit BDSM things together. Even less so than vanilla things....

 

[BeachGurl2]

I always love reading these threads and seeing 'who' everyone is.

I'm 41, divorced with 2 girls - 20 and 12. While I haven't actively been in the lifestyle for more than the last few years, I've always been submissive. Just didn't have the terminology for it. Even as a child, like most others here, my Barbies didn't like Ken, they preferred GI Joe. They were often tied up and spanked and generally manhandled. My reading tastes in junior high and high school centered on novels about pirates or Wild West cowboys kidnapping, tying up, and generally ravishing the girl. Then, of course, there were the true crime magazines hidden in my mom's nightstand that I often stole.

My family is very matriarchal, so I spent most of my younger years thinking there was something seriously wrong with me. The women in my family wear the pants, if you know what I mean. It took me a long time to work that all out in my mind and realize that there wasn't anything wrong with me.

In my house, we're very open about sexuality. There is no taboo subject. While I don't talk about my specific sexual interests because that is private, my girls know that whatever their own leanings, they are perfectly okay. We have a wide variety of gay, bi, and straight friends, and they've been raised in a fairly sexually open household. (By that, I don't mean that people are openly sexual, I mean that they have been raised to believe that whatever someone's sexual orientation or proclivities, it's all good.) As I tell my girls, if God hadn't wanted us to enjoy sex, he wouldn't have made it so pleasurable.

 

[WriterDom]

A BeachGurl sighting!

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I'm currently 41 and Daddy is 40.

I also found this thread that has some nostalgic info in it along this same topic, thought some might enjoy the read... An Identification Thread Please