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BeachGurl2
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[mini-hijack]WriterDom said:
Hiya, darlin. I've been around, lurking. Just haven't been posting lately. How've you been?
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SirFace
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Ebonyfire said:
And I you! Been very busy with work and at great risk using this puter as they have net tracking methods that I have been unable to overcome so far. Kinda put a damper on my computer fun while on the road. We are still doing great, not been having much fun lately due to way too much going on but the boat is in and that will change soon. How about you?
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Ebonyfire said:
Ahh, good for you. We have been very un fun lately and that needs too stop soon. Toys are heading for the boat this weekend. Its too easy to get complacent and too involved with other stuff at this age. Both of us recovering from bad colds right now.
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24. I've been interested in embarrassment and one partner being shyly submissive since as long as I can remember. What do I mean? I mean I was always turned-on but also emotionally affected by acts which may cause a sub to be embarrassed (putting ego aside) but which was also completely worth it for her for the sake of love. These were the fantasies I have always had, and they have expressed themselves in my past relationships in the form of bedroom light bondage, bedroom dominance, and being called daddy, etc. in otherwise vanilla relationships. Socially I have always been a dominant male (though not a control-freak type at all-- and in fact very laid back and down-to-earth).
Now that I have started to THINK more about my leanings, I have come to realize I am emotionally and not just sexually drawn to a certain brand of femininity: one of intelligent decision to fully submit. I also don't see myself being with anyone that is outside of the relationship non-functional (no social life, no career path, etc.) In this sense I am attracted to the stereotypical 'modern career woman' but one who has orthodox leanings in terms of male-female power relations IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS. When I say orthodox, I don't mean adherence to a traditional dogma (though I don't think I would reject this) but am more attracted to a 'intelligent decision' to give up power for the sake of unity, stability, structure, etc.
I don't see anything attractive about being dominant for exploitation sake (for pure sensual or sadistic pleasure) nor do I find anything attractive about being dominant for the sake of ego or to feel power. Nor would I judge anyone in this sort of relationship. I simply do not think this sort of thing would be healthy for me or my partner. In my opinion, there are also fighting-back subs that want a stronger Dom and a natural sub with no real inclination to fight back (or one that does so passive-aggressively). I have always been attracted to the natural sub, but lately I have also found an interest in the other pesonality as well.
There is something special in my mind (not just about sex) when it comes to an otherwise independent partner willing to put full trust and willing to give up power to submit fully with hopes (as well as uncertainties, and fears as well) that her chosen partner would be responsible, gentle, loving, and approving. I have always felt a special bond in relationships where I have been assigned the role to give structure, guidance, and (dis)approval. At the same time I am very much put off by drone-like behavior (submission where everything must be directed). A micromanager-mindless-drone relationship holds less interest for me.
Lately I have most associated with TiH, and power-differential relationships based on love, respect, care, and a healthy range of emotions. The BDSM bits are kinky extras which I am somewhat impartial to at the moment (except collaring and spanking which I think have special meaning).
24. I've been interested in embarrassment and one partner being shyly submissive since as long as I can remember. What do I mean? I mean I was always turned-on but also emotionally affected by acts which may cause a sub to be embarrassed (putting ego aside) but which was also completely worth it for her for the sake of love. These were the fantasies I have always had, and they have expressed themselves in my past relationships in the form of bedroom light bondage, bedroom dominance, and being called daddy, etc. in otherwise vanilla relationships. Socially I have always been a dominant male (though not a control-freak type at all-- and in fact very laid back and down-to-earth).
Now that I have started to THINK more about my leanings, I have come to realize I am emotionally and not just sexually drawn to a certain brand of femininity: one of intelligent decision to fully submit. I also don't see myself being with anyone that is outside of the relationship non-functional (no social life, no career path, etc.) In this sense I am attracted to the stereotypical 'modern career woman' but one who has orthodox leanings in terms of male-female power relations IN ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS. When I say orthodox, I don't mean adherence to a traditional dogma (though I don't think I would reject this) but am more attracted to a 'intelligent decision' to give up power for the sake of unity, stability, structure, etc.
I don't see anything attractive about being dominant for exploitation sake (for pure sensual or sadistic pleasure) nor do I find anything attractive about being dominant for the sake of ego or to feel power. Nor would I judge anyone in this sort of relationship. I simply do not think this sort of thing would be healthy for me or my partner. In my opinion, there are also fighting-back subs that want a stronger Dom and a natural sub with no real inclination to fight back (or one that does so passive-aggressively). I have always been attracted to the natural sub, but lately I have also found an interest in the other pesonality as well.
There is something special in my mind (not just about sex) when it comes to an otherwise independent partner willing to put full trust and willing to give up power to submit fully with hopes (as well as uncertainties, and fears as well) that her chosen partner would be responsible, gentle, loving, and approving. I have always felt a special bond in relationships where I have been assigned the role to give structure, guidance, and (dis)approval. At the same time I am very much put off by drone-like behavior (submission where everything must be directed). A micromanager-mindless-drone relationship holds less interest for me.
Lately I have most associated with TiH, and power-differential relationships based on love, respect, care, and a healthy range of emotions. The BDSM bits are kinky extras which I am somewhat impartial to at the moment (except collaring and spanking which I think have special meaning).
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Chris_Xavier
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39.. and was a late bloomer in all that it means. I was very sheltered in terms of sex and the world in general.
Like a few others here, the internet opened up a whole new world of ideas and information to me and I found that I like being a Dom.
Like a few others here, the internet opened up a whole new world of ideas and information to me and I found that I like being a Dom.
catalina_francisco
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Bump....
myinnerslut
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my answer hasnt changed but ill bring it up to this page...
DeservingBitch
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I'll be turning 30 at the end of January.
I've always liked my sex to be on the rough and dirty side, always had BDSM-related fantasies from what I can remember, but I thank porn and academia (thank you queer/sexuality studies!) for opening my eyes to the wonderful world of BDSM about two years ago.
Getting into BDSM to me was like eating spicy food for the first time: the only reason why I had not been consumming it so far is because I had never been exposed to it. And since then, my motto for sex is the same as with food: if it doesn't hurt a little, it's because you're not doing it right.
I've always liked my sex to be on the rough and dirty side, always had BDSM-related fantasies from what I can remember, but I thank porn and academia (thank you queer/sexuality studies!) for opening my eyes to the wonderful world of BDSM about two years ago.
Getting into BDSM to me was like eating spicy food for the first time: the only reason why I had not been consumming it so far is because I had never been exposed to it. And since then, my motto for sex is the same as with food: if it doesn't hurt a little, it's because you're not doing it right.
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I'm 23 now, and have been really into aspects of BDSM for probably about three years. I've always been submissive in nature when it comes to anything sexually related or really men in general. Some pain associated with sexual pleasure came about in my teens, and I started fantasizing about being tied up about five years ago. My first online D/s relationship started about a year ago, with all previous relationships or experiences just flirting with it but never fully indulging. I learned that I get the most sexual satisfaction out of being a sub and having a good Dom (and by good Dom, I mean one that's a good fit for me, and I'm a good fit for Him). At the time being, I've only had one real life D/s relationship, which was short-lived because we were wrong for each other. While I enjoy being on equal footing as far as day-to-day important decisions go, if I trust Him (which is essential in a relationship anyway), then I'll take His lead in anything.
I'm 23 now, and have been really into aspects of BDSM for probably about three years. I've always been submissive in nature when it comes to anything sexually related or really men in general. Some pain associated with sexual pleasure came about in my teens, and I started fantasizing about being tied up about five years ago. My first online D/s relationship started about a year ago, with all previous relationships or experiences just flirting with it but never fully indulging. I learned that I get the most sexual satisfaction out of being a sub and having a good Dom (and by good Dom, I mean one that's a good fit for me, and I'm a good fit for Him). At the time being, I've only had one real life D/s relationship, which was short-lived because we were wrong for each other. While I enjoy being on equal footing as far as day-to-day important decisions go, if I trust Him (which is essential in a relationship anyway), then I'll take His lead in anything.
HottieMama
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Rereading this thread has REALLY made me miss Neonflux.
catalina_francisco
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Fluff-Fairy
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I am fluff.
I am ageless, almost.
I am not as old as dirt,
but, I am older than the dust bunnies which hide under the BDSM mods' desks.
I am ageless, almost.
I am not as old as dirt,
but, I am older than the dust bunnies which hide under the BDSM mods' desks.
catalina_francisco
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I'll have you know there are no dust bunnies under my desk...they can not survive the 5 times a week I vacuum there!!
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I'm 28 and my Master is 24. We haven't found the toyboy thing an issue. I have the greatest respect for him as a man, as my Dom and as my life partner.
I have always been slightly kinked but a religious upbringing made me consider it a flaw and a byproduct of the 'thou shalt' mentality that men at my church had towards women.
I have been kink curious for years, actively so for 18 months or more and with my Master for a little over a year. We met online in the Lit chatroom and have never looked back.
Now I am a 24/7 TPE slave and we are settling into new roles with that, growing together and pushing envelopes as he seeks my full potential and vice versa.
This is an interesting thread.
I have always been slightly kinked but a religious upbringing made me consider it a flaw and a byproduct of the 'thou shalt' mentality that men at my church had towards women.
I have been kink curious for years, actively so for 18 months or more and with my Master for a little over a year. We met online in the Lit chatroom and have never looked back.
Now I am a 24/7 TPE slave and we are settling into new roles with that, growing together and pushing envelopes as he seeks my full potential and vice versa.
This is an interesting thread.
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SubKekiLee
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I am 37 now but have been submisive most of my life, My sir is 3 months younger than me..... but he is still my Dom... .
I dont care about age.... we fit together like PBJ.....
I dont care about age.... we fit together like PBJ.....
sexycaz22
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I am 27 here. From an early age, I always had fantasies of having rough sex with a guy, and being tied up etc. I also had a fewer fantasies, but still good, with ordering guys around the house doing chores in the nude.....*whistling*
Anyway...as I was growing up, my parents never talked to me about sex, never gave me the "sex talk" - it was only at school where I learnt a few things about safe sex and things like that. I was a boarder at school, and it have helped me greatly in being open minded about sexual interests, and we have talked about "kinky" play, but never related it to the BDSM.
Until a few years ago, I always felt a part of me were missing, but then I signed up with a few vanilla dating sites, and chatted with a couple of guys online, where we did roleplays with a Master and sub, and I performed for them (separate times) on webcam - but at the time I was going through a rough patch, so didn't really know much about what it meant to me, it was like being in a robot mode or something. So, took a backseat on the BDSM until about 6 months ago (wow is it 6 months?? bloody hell!) when I talked with a good friend about his interests in BDSM and I observed a conversation between him and his sub, and I remembered my chats with the 2 guys a few years before and came to realise and linked it to BDSM, and I decided to do some more research and as I researched the more I found, the more I realised that I am a very kinky person, possibly a Switch...but mostly a bottom at the moment.
I have a regularly PYL who I see for a session of spanking and flogging, but currently is not in any long-term relationships. I am dating at the moment, and going on dates with guys, both Doms and subs (I am going on one with a sub tomorrow!!)
Anyway...as I was growing up, my parents never talked to me about sex, never gave me the "sex talk" - it was only at school where I learnt a few things about safe sex and things like that. I was a boarder at school, and it have helped me greatly in being open minded about sexual interests, and we have talked about "kinky" play, but never related it to the BDSM.
Until a few years ago, I always felt a part of me were missing, but then I signed up with a few vanilla dating sites, and chatted with a couple of guys online, where we did roleplays with a Master and sub, and I performed for them (separate times) on webcam - but at the time I was going through a rough patch, so didn't really know much about what it meant to me, it was like being in a robot mode or something. So, took a backseat on the BDSM until about 6 months ago (wow is it 6 months?? bloody hell!) when I talked with a good friend about his interests in BDSM and I observed a conversation between him and his sub, and I remembered my chats with the 2 guys a few years before and came to realise and linked it to BDSM, and I decided to do some more research and as I researched the more I found, the more I realised that I am a very kinky person, possibly a Switch...but mostly a bottom at the moment.
I have a regularly PYL who I see for a session of spanking and flogging, but currently is not in any long-term relationships. I am dating at the moment, and going on dates with guys, both Doms and subs (I am going on one with a sub tomorrow!!)
RuffStuff76
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I'm 31...Have been involved in BDSM for a few years, specifically with my former partner. I think we all have a different view of what BDSM is, and I prefer not to define it. There are subcultures and specifications that each person is comfortable with-or uncomfortable with. For me, I do not go by titles, just what is right-for me and the one I am with.
It is almost a need I feel inside me, and I fear not being able to connect to someone on that level again. I have become involved in a somewhat "vanilla" relationship-as in my partner is not as into BDSM as am I. He will get rough with me, but I don't believe there will be an understanding for the deeper sides of this lifestyle. I do not need to lead it all of the time, but when it is time for that connection, I desire to find someone who can share it with me, who can give it to me, and whom I can give back to.
Forgive me for going on and on. I'm just thrilled to have actually found a forum where I can openly discuss this.
Thanks.
It is almost a need I feel inside me, and I fear not being able to connect to someone on that level again. I have become involved in a somewhat "vanilla" relationship-as in my partner is not as into BDSM as am I. He will get rough with me, but I don't believe there will be an understanding for the deeper sides of this lifestyle. I do not need to lead it all of the time, but when it is time for that connection, I desire to find someone who can share it with me, who can give it to me, and whom I can give back to.
Forgive me for going on and on. I'm just thrilled to have actually found a forum where I can openly discuss this.
Thanks.
northwoods_sub
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I am 32 my Sir/Husband is 39. I have always been a bit submissive, when I was a little girl I always wanted to play war so that I could be captured and tied up. I don't want to play war anymore but I still really like being captured and tied up.
During the early years of my sexuality, there were signs of my submissive nature, but being male and having been taught that the male was the stronger, more dominent sex, I didn't believe it. Luckily, I didn't have to wait until I was thirty or forty to discover my true nature. I was twenty-two and just out of the air force when I met Lady Isabelle.
Lady Isabelle was nearly twice my age and did not merely play BDSM games. It was her life and while I was allowed to remain wih her, it was also mine. For almost two years I lived for the sole purpose of pleasing her and when she sent me away, I spent the next several years looking for someone to replace her. Eventually, it was no longer the primary goal of my life. I lived a "normal" life. On occasion I played at submitting to a dominant lover, mostly males, and was lucky to married a woman who, though not dominant in nature, would play the role from time to time in order please me. I good life; a GREAT wife!
I guess I've gotten away from responding to the thread and have wandered a bit. I've spent a few minutes wondering: "Should I post this or not?" I guess I'll post it.
Lady Isabelle was nearly twice my age and did not merely play BDSM games. It was her life and while I was allowed to remain wih her, it was also mine. For almost two years I lived for the sole purpose of pleasing her and when she sent me away, I spent the next several years looking for someone to replace her. Eventually, it was no longer the primary goal of my life. I lived a "normal" life. On occasion I played at submitting to a dominant lover, mostly males, and was lucky to married a woman who, though not dominant in nature, would play the role from time to time in order please me. I good life; a GREAT wife!
I guess I've gotten away from responding to the thread and have wandered a bit. I've spent a few minutes wondering: "Should I post this or not?" I guess I'll post it.
