Anal Intimacy

[wicked woman]

Originally Posted by wicked woman
I've always thought anal sex was more intimate than PIV and I think TBK you've hit on a number of my reasons. The trust required, the vulnerability, the potential for harm, the respect. There are people I'd have PIV sex with that I wouldn't have anal sex with but not vice versa.

Having said that though....my mind almost says there's another 'kind' of intimacy and with this 'kind', PIV is more intimate. I can't quite put the words around what I'm trying to explain though.

Please try!

I'm tempted to suggest that to some extent the first intimacy is more physical, while the other is emotional...or maybe it's degrees of emotions. Perhaps it's that for me, PIV can be 'sex' without lovemaking...that it takes an extra intimacy for me to move from PIV to oral sex to anal sex with a person...but that when PIV is lifted from 'sex' to lovemaking...that special intimacy surpasses the intimacy of anal sex.


Perhaps some of it subconciously relates to the possibility of creating a life as SweetErika mentioned. Even when conceiving was not technically an option, I've paused after lovemaking...during that peaceful, contented time...and fantasized lovingly, what if...........

Maybe that's just been my experience...maybe I'm wrong. Just rambling trying to find the words behind the sentiment I was feeling.