Any older women that like younger men out there?

[Aviator1976]

Thank you, but no cigar.

Well I happen to enjoy a nice cigar every now and again. Not that it has anything to do with the conversation.

 

[LadyVer]

Well I happen to enjoy a nice cigar every now and again. Not that it has anything to do with the conversation.

True. Just thought I'd throw that in the conversation. I guess one needs to stand upright to better enjoy a good cigar?

 

[Aviator1976]

True. Just thought I'd throw that in the conversation. I guess one needs to stand upright to better enjoy a good cigar?

It does help increase lung capacity by standing upright, which does help with breathing.

 

[LadyVer]

It does help increase lung capacity by standing upright, which does help with breathing.

I tried a cigar once. I thought I was going to pass out.

 

[Aviator1976]

I tried a cigar once. I thought I was going to pass out.

They are definitely an acquired taste. I might have one a month with a drink on a Saturday evening

 

[WastelandVoice]

OP-

As a younger guy who is currently in a relationship with an older woman I can tell you that these ladies do indeed exist although many of them don't go around announcing that fact.

The best advice I can give you is to try and not come off as weird about it. I happen to like older women very much but if you treat it and present it like a fetish you may turn a lot of women off. (perhaps not the kinky ladies of lit though ;-) )

As many of the other ladies on here have said, many woman, especially the older ones, are self-conscious or hung up on their bodies. Most women aren't going to believe you if you tell them you find their C-section scar sexy so don't make it weird. They'll think you're crazy or creepy for it. My girlfriend obsesses about her hands (you can see her veins a little bit) and while I don't find it sexy per se, it flat out doesn't bother me. I like her hands and I kiss them all the time but I don't say "oh baby I'm a younger guy who finds that sexy." That's just weird and most women aren't going to find that appealing.

Point is- don't go on a big ol search for "the sexy older woman." Just go looking for a woman you find attractive and hope to find one a few years older than you who happens to like younger guys.

 

[sereneone4u]

Well...I'm not quite old enough to be replying, but I will venture a guess as to why you don't get many replies anyway.

Generally speaking (very generally) women's self esteem takes a hit as they age. For me, becoming a mother very much ruined my stomach and I want to cry when I see it.

Having sex with older men feels ok, because they're not perfect either. Age hits men too. Especially if it's the man that GOT you pregnant, because you can reasonably expect a measure of understanding from him.

Having sex with a younger man is asking a woman to have the self-confidence to show her (possibly significant) imperfections to not only a new person, but a young, unblemished, beautiful person. Someone who will remind you that you, too, we're once young, tight-bodied, and un-stretchmarked.

Personally I would be fine with a younger man (within reason!) but when I think about exposing my nakedness to him, I cringe.

Please excuse what is probably the least sexy post EVER on this board, but there it is, my opinion in its bleeding insecurity and all.

I have to say in all sincerity, speak for yourself. I don't have the body of my twenties, but so what? Everyone has their flaws regardless of their age and if someone is attracted to me, and I them, then age (as long as we are both legal, I am 41) should not matter. I hope this did not come off rude, because I sincerely do not mean it to be. I would say maturity is a factor. I don't want to be a teacher and I do not want any drama or games.

 

[sereneone4u]

OP-

As a younger guy who is currently in a relationship with an older woman I can tell you that these ladies do indeed exist although many of them don't go around announcing that fact.

The best advice I can give you is to try and not come off as weird about it. I happen to like older women very much but if you treat it and present it like a fetish you may turn a lot of women off. (perhaps not the kinky ladies of lit though ;-) )

As many of the other ladies on here have said, many woman, especially the older ones, are self-conscious or hung up on their bodies. Most women aren't going to believe you if you tell them you find their C-section scar sexy so don't make it weird. They'll think you're crazy or creepy for it. My girlfriend obsesses about her hands (you can see her veins a little bit) and while I don't find it sexy per se, it flat out doesn't bother me. I like her hands and I kiss them all the time but I don't say "oh baby I'm a younger guy who finds that sexy." That's just weird and most women aren't going to find that appealing.

Point is- don't go on a big ol search for "the sexy older woman." Just go looking for a woman you find attractive and hope to find one a few years older than you who happens to like younger guys.

I agree, I can't stand it when a younger guy keeps bringing up that he is my young lover or that I am a cougar. Total. complete. turnoff. It has only really happened with guys younger than their mid-twenties and I rarely go that way, they are just too young. I don't go out of my way to be with younger men, I just get an influx of men in their late twenties, early thirties.

 

[WastelandVoice]

I have to say in all sincerity, speak for yourself. I don't have the body of my twenties, but so what? Everyone has their flaws regardless of their age and if someone is attracted to me, and I them, then age (as long as we are both legal, I am 41) should not matter. I hope this did not come off rude, because I sincerely do not mean it to be. I would say maturity is a factor. I don't want to be a teacher and I do not want any drama or games.

I think there are many reasons why someone (man or woman) would want to be with someone older or younger. It can just be what you're attracted to/find appealing, or there can be some issues there that push you that way. And I would just caution anyone looking for that kind of relationship to be careful you don't dive headfirst into a steaming big pile of drama.

I, for one, have never been too hung up on physical appearances. I'm as hot-blooded a man as any other and certainly appreciate an attractive woman, but I've never been one to be turned off by those little flaws that everyone has. Stretch marks happen, crows feet happen, etc. There's not much anyone can do about it- it just happens to everyone eventually and while I cautioned earlier not to make a big deal or fetish out of it, I would be lying if I said that those signs of age, experience, and maturity weren't appealing on some level. Not necesserily sexually but emotionally or mentally.

 

[LadyVer]

My ex was just a couple of years younger than me so that's my total experience with a "younger" man. Too bad that age has to be such a defining qualifier for having relationships. I would like to see that some day age is irrelevant. Personally, I'm attracted to both younger and older men, but I have a hard time being attracted to someone who's the same age as my kids (24 and 27).

Lots of great comments in this thread.

 

[WastelandVoice]

My ex was just a couple of years younger than me so that's my total experience with a "younger" man. Too bad that age has to be such a defining qualifier for having relationships. I would like to see that some day age is irrelevant. Personally, I'm attracted to both younger and older men, but I have a hard time being attracted to someone who's the same age as my kids (24 and 27).

Lots of great comments in this thread.

I'm 29 and my girlfriend is 44. She has kids but they're not near my age. I'm sure it'd be a bigger issue if they were closer to my age. I'm sure that'd be weird so I get where you're coming from on that one.

I do agree about age difference being a defining qualifier but that's not without merit. At a certain point that age diff. becomes much more noticeable. I look my age, more or less, but she looks fantastic for 44 and could probably pass for mid-late 30's. At a certain point that won't be the case though. Not to mention the obvious differences in interests, priorities, and life situations that come with growing older. The older person will retire first, etc. I mean, in terms of my situation that all won't happen for a while and who knows if we'll even still be together. 29 and 44 sounds fine and all and it doesn't look or seem all that odd just yet. 40 and 55 might be different. 50 and 65, etc. Regardless, I think it's hard to avoid people looking at the two of you and wondering what's going on. Does she/he have money? What's the attraction? What's the situation? Is he the dad, the mom, etc.. I think it's human nature to people watch and wonder. Like I said I don't think people look at my girlfriend and I and see a huge age difference but she's clearly older and I see people looking at us quite a bit... although she's smokin' hot so it's likely they're just looking at her

In all reality I guess it depends on the two people and if they're okay with it but whose to say it won't become a problem, even if its an irrational one, later on. My sister also married an older man and things are fine now but it's hard to predict what will happen as that age gap becomes more apparent. It's not an unrealistic worry, is what I'm saying, if the relationship is founded on something more than just banging an older/younger partner. If it's all about the sex then who cares.

That whole "age is just a number" argument only goes so far. There are realistic issues with dating someone a significant number of years older or younger and people who get into that type of relationship should be prepared for it at some point.

 

[LadyVer]

I'm 29 and my girlfriend is 44. She has kids but they're not near my age. I'm sure it'd be a bigger issue if they were closer to my age. I'm sure that'd be weird so I get where you're coming from on that one.

I do agree about age difference being a defining qualifier but that's not without merit. At a certain point that age diff. becomes much more noticeable. I look my age, more or less, but she looks fantastic for 44 and could probably pass for mid-late 30's. At a certain point that won't be the case though. Not to mention the obvious differences in interests, priorities, and life situations that come with growing older. The older person will retire first, etc. I mean, in terms of my situation that all won't happen for a while and who knows if we'll even still be together. 29 and 44 sounds fine and all and it doesn't look or seem all that odd just yet. 40 and 55 might be different. 50 and 65, etc. Regardless, I think it's hard to avoid people looking at the two of you and wondering what's going on. Does she/he have money? What's the attraction? What's the situation? Is he the dad, the mom, etc.. I think it's human nature to people watch and wonder. Like I said I don't think people look at my girlfriend and I and see a huge age difference but she's clearly older and I see people looking at us quite a bit... although she's smokin' hot so it's likely they're just looking at her

In all reality I guess it depends on the two people and if they're okay with it but whose to say it won't become a problem, even if its an irrational one, later on. My sister also married an older man and things are fine now but it's hard to predict what will happen as that age gap becomes more apparent. It's not an unrealistic worry, is what I'm saying, if the relationship is founded on something more than just banging an older/younger partner. If it's all about the sex then who cares.

That whole "age is just a number" argument only goes so far. There are realistic issues with dating someone a significant number of years older or younger and people who get into that type of relationship should be prepared for it at some point.

I hear what you're saying and agree somewhat. My issue is that too many people make age something more than it should be. Any relationship is going to have conflicts to deal with. Why should age be such a major issue? My point is that age is made to be a greater issue than it should be. If someone has a problem with their partner aging as time goes on, why bother getting into a relationship then. Maybe I'm naive but if there are certain issues one doesn't like or want in a partner why get into a relationship with someone who sooner or later is going to have those issues?

 

[WastelandVoice]

I hear what you're saying and agree somewhat. My issue is that too many people make age something more than it should be. Any relationship is going to have conflicts to deal with. Why should age be such a major issue? My point is that age is made to be a greater issue than it should be. If someone has a problem with their partner aging as time goes on, why bother getting into a relationship then. Maybe I'm naive but if there are certain issues one doesn't like or want in a partner why get into a relationship with someone who sooner or later is going to have those issues?

Well I agree that if the age difference bothers you then you probably shouldn't get into that kind of relationship in the first place. But then again, someone who already knows that'll bother them probably isn't likely to enter that type of relationship anyway.

I just think the age difference doesn't bother people initially but as time goes on theres a greater chance for the age gap to become more noticeable and present more problems, perhaps ones that weren't thought of or weren't even anticipated. Or maybe they didn't think it would bother them but then it does.

Shrug. There's lots of things people don't think about when they're busy falling in love or having great sex. I do agree that society makes a bigger deal out of it than it should be but I also think it's just in our nature to be judgmental and it's in a lot of people's nature to worry what others think about them.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

In my 40's. Sadly I am not unattached. But I love younger guys. So, supporting this thread and letting you know women like me are out there.

This is not being said out loud as an invitation for messages into my inbox.

I generally find and initiate talking to the younger ones I'm interested in.

I only keep talking to the ones whose personalities I like, whatever their age is.

 

[Alcinder]

I have always been attracted to guys a bit younger than me. Not exclusively, but I tend to tilt that way.

I attribute this to being a generational cusp, and identifying more with Ys than Xs. I also tend to make younger friends easier than older ones, though I do have friends who are older than I am as well.

The whole cougar/MILF thing is just gross. Using either of those terms is a dealbreaker for me. The first thing I think of is, geez, he takes porn way too seriously.

 

[nikeguy]

Than you

Thanks for all the insight. Aviator makes a good point along with the ladies on here. I do not see it as a fetish. I just find myself much more attrachted to older women. I have also been a relationship with someone 14 years older than me. Originally I thought it would be less drama as well being in a relationship but figured out that is not the case it just follows some people and they thrive on it. I also do not care if she has stretch marks or wrinkles. If I am attracted to you and like you I will let you know how beautiful you are everyday.

 

[LadyVer]

I have always been attracted to guys a bit younger than me. Not exclusively, but I tend to tilt that way.

I attribute this to being a generational cusp, and identifying more with Ys than Xs. I also tend to make younger friends easier than older ones, though I do have friends who are older than I am as well.

The whole cougar/MILF thing is just gross. Using either of those terms is a dealbreaker for me. The first thing I think of is, geez, he takes porn way too seriously.

Agree about the cougar/MILF characterization. Although I enjoy reading the MILF stories, I found out quickly that to put that in my profile was a big mistake. I was getting so many pm's I couldn't even keep up with them, and most of them I didn't even want to reply to.

 

[CayleeBug71]

Hello to all the younger guys out there, 42/F here.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

I love older women. I'm almost exclusively attracted to them, not that i seek them out. It's just what I usually seem to find. My first was a woman who was 30 years by senior. Since then...

 

[jacklangston]

Hello to all the younger guys out there, 42/F here.

Hello, Caylee! Interested in a 21 yo?

 

[CayleeBug71]

Feel free to message me on yahoo Jack, I am there now.