What is it with younger women liking older men?

[fearless1969]

Not to be crass but if that’s you in your profile pic: that’s why they’re hitting one you.
I’m in the dating world right now at 37 years old and the dating pool of men who take care of themselves is limited. I recently had a fling with a 51 year old, smoke show of a man because he was smart, witty, fit, and smelled so good that I wanted to eat him up.
Older men who are well put together just do something to me. Every other guy in my age range dresses like Adam Sandler in the early 2000s. It’s not sexy.

I totally agree with you that some younger guys don't know how to dress, have bad manners and women don't ever know if they're going to have to pay for dinner. Having said that, when I was single and dating, there were many women who had given up. Some of them were out of shape, pessimistic, and really didn't like men very much. I think, regardless of age, if you are somewhat fit, dressed well, and have a positive attitude, that's the attraction

 

[DrKinks]

Somewhere warm, it’s cold here in the Midwest, debauchery would abound.

Hawaii would be perfect! Very pleasant right now ;-)

 

[Dimented]

Hawaii would be perfect! Very pleasant right now ;-)

I like Hawaii, it’s been a long time since I was there.

 

[kitten_needs]

one word: maturity

 

[chrisatb5]

one word: maturity

See, that's where I'm afraid of let you down.

 

[kitten_needs]

See, that's where I'm afraid of let you down.

oh some slight immaturity and humor is always expected. so let me change it to say: being responsible and grounded.

 

[chrisatb5]

oh some slight immaturity and humor is always expected. so let me change it to say: being responsible and grounded.

Okay, whew, I have whole afternoons where I'm capable of that!

 

[ChloeOfCascadia]

oh some slight immaturity and humor is always expected. so let me change it to say: being responsible and grounded.

THERE we go.

I actually like younger women because I feel like I can join them in feeling free to be silly and fun loving with fewer judgments about how I am not acting my age.

Age is a number and what is in my heart is fun, and love, and whatever makes us laugh.

 

[Maya_Vakker]

Oh where oh where to begin!

Most men’s brains don’t finish developing until they are 27-29 years old, and it shows. I think there are many reasons, but I can narrow it down to two groups that I have encountered the most.

The first group. Once they reach 40+, they finally start to figure out how to treat a woman with respect, kindness, and acceptance. Usually through failed relationships they eventually evolve past the yo-bro stage of being self centered. These guys usually describe themselves as “dom’s”, but don’t have the first clue as to what that really means. They blame everything and everyone else, but never self actualize.

The second group and the sweet, socially awkward, and introvert guys. They just cannot get out of their own way. Good intentions, but bad execution. They usually lack self confidence, and therefore don’t peruse an opportunity. They have a difficult time engaging in a meaningful conversation. They get friendzoned a lot. Most the time they figure out how to have the conversation that leads to better interactions. But it’s not natural.

I know this is a super high level generalization, but these two group have a tendency to turn off women in their 20’s. They get feed up with the games or lack of clarity. Then they run into an older guy that has a decent look, is mentally mature, stable, funny, and has something interesting to say. I’m sure you can see why they find that man attractive.

Then of course there are the women who are straight up gold diggers or have a daddy kink. Those women have nothing for ya, avoid at all costs… unless that is your kink also.

My husband is 51 but looks 38-40. When he’s out with his guys it’s funny how many 20 somethings hit on him.

 

[knowhergne]

I've probably said it before on here, but I'm 33 and I completely get it

 

[Lamia03]

I think this whole thread was some evil way to get all the older gentlemen to post... .

Absolutely!

 

[SirSparky]

Any younger women that want to chat to an older gentleman of 54, welcome to DM

 

[Lamia03]

"What is it with younger women liking older men?"​

Generally, once men get to an age where young women no longer worry their friendliness will be misconstrued as romantic interest, they will be more chatty and friendly with them. That's all that's goin' on guys.

Sometimes I’m left with having had a friendly chat with a older gentleman I came across while shopping, etc.
Other times, my friendliness can have some flirt just to send out feelers. But yeah that’s how it starts….