Anyone into bdsm have aspergers or is autistic

[WakoJako]

Its just I probably have aspergers and im wondering does anyone into bdsm have either disorder and how do you deal with it?

yes i suffer from Aspegers syndrome, although i wasnt diagnosed until 5 years ago. I also suffer from dyspraxia if anyone has heard of that.


Because i am new to the scene i dont know how to deal with it but i too would like to hear how people deal with it.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

yes i suffer from Aspegers syndrome, although i wasnt diagnosed until 5 years ago. I also suffer from dyspraxia if anyone has heard of that.


Because i am new to the scene i dont know how to deal with it but i too would like to hear how people deal with it.

I am aware of dyspraxia, though the term covers such a broad spectrum. Using the definition exclusively ( as in most comparative terminology ) really gives no insight as to how that impacts for you WakoJako . If you wished to be more specific then perhaps others here may make some suggestions or at least lead to an ongoing discussion .

Naturally your choice to do so or not is respected

 

[WakoJako]

Nah i have no problem talking bout it,

I suffer on the motor-neurone side, meaning i like organizational activities but its hard for me to do them in that precise order, even though i try too. It gives me bad hand-eye co-ordination although it has improved over the past few years. Basically i crave structure and regulations, but sometimes i am unable to do with them in the correct way. I guess thats why i like dom/sub

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Nah i have no problem talking bout it,

I suffer on the motor-neurone side, meaning i like organizational activities but its hard for me to do them in that precise order, even though i try too. It gives me bad hand-eye co-ordination although it has improved over the past few years. Basically i crave structure and regulations, but sometimes i am unable to do with them in the correct way.

Well that makes a lot more sense, thank you. Also demystifies the terminology somewhat for others reading that are less familiar. Only things that come to mind may be pursuits that fall into an occupational safe & hazard area from a BDSM perspective due to the potential impact of eye hand co-ordination . Perhaps also effectively communicating the areas that are challenged from a perceptual organizational manner with any future partners , so that not only safety but issues with compliance to specifics ( or not ) are registered from an accurate source.

My philosophy with developmental issues is if there is a will there is a way. positive attitude, good self esteem , some lateral thinking for addressing issues that come up , throw in some good clear communication and the World may in fact be your oyster.

How do you see the dyspraxia impacting negatively for you ?

 

[WakoJako]

How do you see the dyspraxia impacting negatively for you ?

Well unlike aspergers, i was diagnosed with it at a very young age, and i used to attend a specialist when i was young.

Yes the hand-eye is a bad thing, and also i used to furious strops and rages at school and even hit another student (although i got off when the teachers didnt believe him because i was the top of the class geek!) However, since 16 i have calmed down a lot and dont throw strops at all now.

Nowadays i dont let it affect me, although i still prefer to be secluded from others at times and find that online is such a release for me from the real world (which led me to this site in the first place) and that talking to people does help, as they are independent, as to my friends, who will only say what i want to hear.

I also saw on the news today about how there are more speciallist areas in schools for autistic people where people can talk to other sufferers, and i support have offered at my old school to help people who suffer from autism if they need any help with dealing with this.


Sorry if im gettin a bit deep and leading away from the topic.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Sorry if im gettin a bit deep and leading away from the topic.

I'm multi tasking currently, it's wonderful what you are sharing WJ, I can only do silly mode currently , so I'll return to this thread with my attention is undivided

 

[doveofserenity]

Both my children are autistic, and the oldest also has Aspergers w/Tourette Syndrome.

So i have learned to adjust myself to more calmer ways to work with each child to keep them somewhat in check with their different problems in life.

So with that adjustment, i had noticed that the calmer ways have become a major part of me; not just dealing with them, but as a submissive, person, and mother. In all realms of my life, those ways are now a part of me.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Its just I probably have aspergers and im wondering does anyone into bdsm have either disorder and how do you deal with it?

I have many of the symptoms of Asperger's, including an emotional distance I feel between me and anyone else in the rest of the world, even those I am supposed to love. But I've never been formally diagnosed with it. I'm to adept in social situations to be be autistic, but internally I always feel cut off from the rest of humanity.

The only real sense of kinship I've ever felt was with the BDSM community, it's certainly never existed with any of my blood relatives and only a couple of 'nilla friends over the years. How do I deal with it? I do what I do. I'm a creature of habit. I'm not obsessive-compulsive about it tooo much, but don't fuck with my routine. Unless you really want me to get medievally sadistic on your behind...

 

[catalina_francisco]

Will have to get back to reading the thread and catching up on lots here, but my personal experience and professionally given advice from those helping me to learn more about it is that no 2 people with Asperger's are the same, nor do they exhibit the same aspects of the condition. It is this which makes it still a difficult condition to convince some people, even medical ones, that it is very real. There are similarities, but none which can be said to be seen in 100% of those living with Asperger's. Most with Aspergers are either highly intelligent or in genius status, and the sooner it is diagnosed and supported, the better for the one who has it.

Catalina

 

[AvaAdore]

Will have to get back to reading the thread and catching up on lots here, but my personal experience and professionally given advice from those helping me to learn more about it is that no 2 people with Asperger's are the same, nor do they exhibit the same aspects of the condition. It is this which makes it still a difficult condition to convince some people, even medical ones, that it is very real. There are similarities, but none which can be said to be seen in 100% of those living with Asperger's. Most with Aspergers are either highly intelligent or in genius status, and the sooner it is diagnosed and supported, the better for the one who has it.

Catalina

Definitely true! A girl in my class in high school had Asperger's, and I don't think she'll ever be able to fully function socially. I've also met other people who make up for it enough that you wouldn't know unless they told you. Also there was a guy who sometimes would be perfectly normal, and other times he'd completely withdraw and just sit in a corner at a party or somewhere and not talk to anyone (but he wouldn't want to leave either). So yeah, it really depends!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Definitely true! A girl in my class in high school had Asperger's, and I don't think she'll ever be able to fully function socially. I've also met other people who make up for it enough that you wouldn't know unless they told you. Also there was a guy who sometimes would be perfectly normal, and other times he'd completely withdraw and just sit in a corner at a party or somewhere and not talk to anyone (but he wouldn't want to leave either). So yeah, it really depends!

Yep, I can identify with the party thing. My son has been assessed as a genius, and now is also diagnosed as having Asperger's (much later than would have been ideal) and I remember well when he was a child how not only would he retreat to a corner on his own when attending playgroup as a crawling baby, but it was usual if we gave him a birthday party, for him to disappear during the party and be found playing on his own in our back yard with no desire to interract with his friends who had come to celebrate. He has his worker's stumped as to what to do as he is far more complicated than their other clients. We are now looking at taking steps toward him moving into his own place (if we can convince his support workers it is a good decision to trial) as he wants to try it, and as strange as it seems in that with us he is almost totally dependent, if we go away and leave him in charge of the house, pets, and anything that comes up, he copes much better and actually begins to take some control or at the very least will contact us to let us know what is happening. I tend to think living alone would help him gain some sense of confidence and independence, not to mention remove his difficulties with living in a house with us or anyone and having to try and suppress his difficulties to some extent just so he can function and live.

Catalina

 

[Xelebes]

I'm not formally diagnosed with Aspergers, however I do know that I share many traits that they do. I come from a family with Aspergers rife on my mother's side - my yongest brother has the most severe and my older sister has it a little bit. My grandfather had it and I am usually compared to my grandfather by my mother and my grandmother. I do have "raptor-foot" and am sometimes found "rolling". So I may be a low-grade specimen, if you were bothering to know.

Socially, I'm sometimes awkward. I really love my privacy and my time to be quiet to myself. Withdrawal is often the case but other times I will like to engage once the courage and mental stamina is up. However, I love physical-social interaction - cuddling and the sort, as opposed to many other Aspies.