Do Family, Friends, Co-Workers know you're into BDSM?

[nothingatall27]

no no one knows of my bdsm

We know

 

[zcraft5]

We know

we know



.is this a good thing

 

[Eyelevel]

we know



.is this a good thing

Some say yes and some would say no. Here yes.

 

[nothingatall27]

we know



.is this a good thing

It's hot that you have that adventurous side and nice that you have a safe place to discuss it.

 

[Jerryteroga]

As far as i know just my neigbors and my wifes sister because she told them and now it feels akward around them

 

[shewantsmore]

Some know yes my coworkers have no idea.

 

[Playwithmee]

They don’t. I love everyone thinking I’m the perfect gentleman in public, only to be a kinky fuck in private.

 

[nutoseen]

MIL knows i like her knowing i have small penis and she brings it up at least once every time we visit. love her control. gets me riled.

 

[lucy__b]

Only my best friend knows

 

[Boat1]

I think my captain knows, as all of my internet is running through his WiFi/router, but I'm fine with that, as we're as close as brothers on a personal level.

 

[lisaharlot]

Friends yes, but not all of them. Family and co-workers no. Although, I think sex and kink positive people do give off a certain vibe that lets people know they’re GGG even if the specifics are somewhat vague.

 

[Boat1]

Friends yes, but not all of them. Family and co-workers no. Although, I think sex and kink positive people do give off a certain vibe that lets people know they GGG even if the specifics are somewhat vague.

I agree! It "shows up" in the pheromone cloud and is palpable, IMHO.

 

[SpicyMama38]

No. I had a quite embarrassing experience trying to communicate my needs to my partner, so I keep my needs hidden from those close to me.

 

[tabber]

Only my best friend knows

My theory I've learned after working with teenagers and young women for years: You can tell your best friend your secret, knowing you can trust her with anything. BUT she will tell one of her best friends YOUR secret because she can trust her with anything. Then that friend tells HER bestie...and it goes on and on. Soon, everyone knows your secret, but they're all "keeping it."

 

[Boat1]

My theory I've learned after working with teenagers and young women for years: You can tell your best friend your secret, knowing you can trust her with anything. BUT she will tell one of her best friends YOUR secret because she can trust her with anything. Then that friend tells HER bestie...and it goes on and on. Soon, everyone knows your secret, but they're all "keeping it."

That's where I'm soooo blessed to have the Lovely Domme Wife that I do... I'm soooo proud of Her, proud to be Hers, that she could put it on a billboard, or truss me up and whip me on the town square and I'd be just fine with it!

 

[Just4you2use44]

I have a few "friends" who know because they have been involved with me.

Otherwise, no, my friends and family dont know...not even my wife

 

[kathyisgr65]

Close friends know.. everyone else just assumes im a freak

 

[Boat1]

I have a few "friends" who know because they have been involved with me.

Otherwise, no, my friends and family dont know...not even my wife

WOW!
I'm not being critical of you, I'm just trying to wrap my head around the concept....

I really don't want to exclude my Lovely Domme Wife from anything... as I might miss something beautiful...

 

[base10]

To the extent of it: one friend who I met here a long time ago, and a current play partner met through a regular dating up (like minds recognized each other)

 

[MakeMeSayPlease]

My mom did, we lived together for a long time, so some things came to light over the years. The same way I know she was also in the lifestyle, though I avoided learning the extent

My brother might also have an idea after an unfortunate incident where a text that was meant for my husband went to him instead

 

[Just4you2use44]

WOW!
I'm not being critical of you, I'm just trying to wrap my head around the concept....

I really don't want to exclude my Lovely Domme Wife from anything... as I might miss something beautiful...

Not feeling judged.

Essentially, I have been fascinated by and into BDSM since my early 20s. I ended up marrying a wonderful woman who just happens to be very vanilla...like dont even add toppings vanilla.

That is the short version....I am very happy for you to have a Domme Wife...and maybe a bit envious as well.

 

[pollock0]

I don't flag my kinks or fetishes at all. Some friends know that D/s interests me but that is all. I think in a lot of work contexts it could quickly become problematic. I wouldn't want my dean or university students to know for example because it could be used against me, etc. I think it wouldn't take a long time before students did formal complaints if they heard anything about BDSM to be honest.

Plus, as someone else mentioned I do prefer to seem pleasantly normal, controlled, elegant in public and something completely different in private with the right people.

 

[Lucien_Al]

Most of my friends and a number of work mates know that we have a sex room and there is quite a lot of BDSM equipment in there. One or two close friends know that we are dabbling in BDSM.

 

[kinkbunny]

I was wondering if anyone close to you knows that you are into bdsm? How did they find out? Do you share your experiences with them?

Once upon a time I was at a convention with a female business associate who happens to be vanilla in nature. Somehow the topic of handcuffs with sex came up and she asked me if I ever did that? Then I shared with her my life as a domme. I told her about a few of my subs who are into it. We then talked and joked about some of the stories I shared.

Kindly feel free to share yours.

No. Most of them don’t even know I’ve had sex and think i am a virgin still.

 

[andthighbootsforall]

I dabbled in bdsm before I got married and have never mentioned to my wife. My wife and a few friends know that I have a boot fetish. My friends have no idea that I wear them.

A guy I know who works for a friend of mine who knows sent me a PM one night. He is in the military and was shining his boots. He says “I know you like leather boots. What do you think of these?”

I was totally stunned. Had my friend shared my fetish with him?? I was really scratching my head to wonder how the hell he knew.

Turns out I had joined a public boot lovers group on social media and his wife noticed I liked several posts and commented on a couple. She was like…..I think ATBFA’s account got hacked. Me: ROFLMAO

Public group. I’m such a dumb ass!