Do Family, Friends, Co-Workers know you're into BDSM?

[CurvyCutie_212]

My Coworkers, about 3 men and 2 women, all shared different techniques with restraints and positioning. We sell furniture... So discussing the possible uses of our bedroom sets have been discussed... Common for one of us to make a comment about a new headboard looking perfect for anchor points.

 

[DpropertyofR]

I don’t think anybody but my Master really knows. My sister suspects, I think. She helped me move last year, and she noticed certain things and commented on them, such as packs of large cable ties lying around and 6-inch stiletto heels next to my bed. The last time she was here, she got a glimpse of my recently purchased Lovense sex machine. Her reaction was kind of funny. She said it looked like a machine gun.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

You should have demonstrated it for her…

 

[Smoothshavendad]

She would have gotten very turned on. So would you…

 

[DpropertyofR]

She would have gotten very turned on. So would you…

The Lovense sex machine is double ended, so it can be used by two people at the same time.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

The Lovense sex machine is double ended, so it can be used by two people at the same time.

You really need to pm me…

 

[oneguy4fun]

Haven’t told anyone but FLR is a lifestyle for us so I’m pretty sure our closet friends know there is a dom/sub dynamic between us.

 

[Silvergrizzly31]

Hell no and it would shock some people to an untimely demise lol. I am a professional in Real life and love the secret identity of being into what I am into. There was one co worker that knew my hidden side, only because I could sniff her sub side out and we mingled

 

[LittleBabyNothing]

Close friends know

 

[SavannaT]

Two of my husbands cousins know. Not sure if they told the others

 

[ridemybeard69]

Two of my husbands cousins know. Not sure if they told the others

Making up my own scenario here as to how they found out

 

[SavannaT]

Making up my own scenario here as to how they found out

They caught me watching porn on my phone while at a family event, my face was red and my nipples were hard enough to see through my top, they exchanged a look and said “so you’re that type of woman, dully noted”

 

[SPARTAN047]

Just the trans friends I go out with know I'm into spanking and BDSM. I've attended a lot of BDSM clubs with them when possible, though I couldn't go to an excellent party this year due to one friend working so I couldn't get a ride.

They probably DK I'm heavily into being a chastised limp clitty sissy cuck, and they probably will at the next BDSM party because I plan to go to the next one in a chastity cage.

 

[OddLove]

As far as I know nobody knows. The only way friends or family would know is if they snooped around my computer or phone. So I'd be really upset if any of them knew. As far as theyre concerned I'm just a boring generic straight male.

The only way I would even consider being open about my kinks is if I was in a serious relationship with someone who wanted to celebrate their kink at an adult only pride pirade event.

 

[_krista_]

Close friends know

 

[13Fantasies]

No. Family is old fashioned and highly religious in some areas. I'm not really someone that shares that information

Friends is a no too. Most are too straight laced for it. The others? Too talkative.

I've tried to tell my wife ,but that never works either.

So you all know. I think my former therapist might as well

 

[Submissivepat]

Two couples we were close to not only knew of my submissive needs but took part in dominating me. As far as family, my father and stepmother knew.

 

[switchersm]

We live cuckolding and total male chastity with cock cages. Three friends of my wife knew about me being caged permanent. After my wife's steady lover had started to stay overnight all weekends at our home, we couldn't hide our special sexlife from our small and close by living family. So my mom, my son, my wife's daughter and her parents know it.

 

[OtherwisePrint6210]

We live cuckolding and total male chastity with cock cages. Three friends of my wife knew about me being caged permanent. After my wife's steady lover had started to stay overnight all weekends at our home, we couldn't hide our special sexlife from our small and close by living family. So my mom, my son, my wife's daughter and her parents know it.

I’d love to hear more. When did it all start?

 

[SPARTAN047]

We live cuckolding and total male chastity with cock cages. Three friends of my wife knew about me being caged permanent. After my wife's steady lover had started to stay overnight all weekends at our home, we couldn't hide our special sexlife from our small and close by living family. So my mom, my son, my wife's daughter and her parents know it.

Since this is a cuckolding and chastity kink I'm also curious.

 

[thetiesthatbindme]

NOPE. I'm a Christian woman who goes to.church every Sunday bible study on Wednesday night and volunteers whenever I can. Nobody knows but I watched a YouTube video where a pastor was asked if BDSM is ok for Christian couples
(Married)
The answer was yes as long as both parties were consenting and no other people were added although the pastor didn't understand why person would want to hurt their spouse if they loved them. Of course we all know it's not abuse and why we love it,but nobody knows I'm a submissive

 

[Lost_Writer01]

Some of my friends do, yes. Current co-workers, no. Though some in past companies have known.

 

[lilmissdarling]

If they do, they haven't said anything.

 

[dkak001]

The answer was yes as long as both parties were consenting and no other people were added although the pastor didn't understand why person would want to hurt their spouse if they loved them. Of course we all know it's not abuse and why we love it,but nobody knows I'm a submissive

I've been thinking about this post for a while. So much going on here. But really it's the fact that you have two very opposing forces in your life, yet have a strong affinity for both. The struggle to balance the two is not trivial, methinks.

No one other than my wife knows what I'm into. We have some friends and I think the wife has picked up on just a little bit of it. Only one comment, "Oh, you're into that!", about an offhand joking remark I made once. She's a very astute person, so if anyone would figure it out, it would be her...

 

[zcraft5]

I was wondering if anyone close to you knows that you are into bdsm? How did they find out? Do you share your experiences with them?

Once upon a time I was at a convention with a female business associate who happens to be vanilla in nature. Somehow the topic of handcuffs with sex came up and she asked me if I ever did that? Then I shared with her my life as a domme. I told her about a few of my subs who are into it. We then talked and joked about some of the stories I shared.

Kindly feel free to share yours.

no no one knows of my bdsm