Are gay or bi men interesting to women?

[Britva415]

Of course I love women they are absolutely gorgeous and beautiful.

Uh huh, not really what the question was about, but

 

[Smileyouronnow]

Someone commented in a completely unrelated thread in a completely unrelated forum:

Sure, I've seen this. But it made me think of some of the reactions that I (bi guy) have seen which weren't excessively weird but were still surprising.

After I dropped out of college and "went back" as an unenrolled person just to hang out with friends and party, I was fuckbuddies with a bi girl. After I spent the night with her in her dorm single, and her dorm friends met me the next day, she introduced me as gay to everyone. I was like "teehee, sure" and went along with it. After a few weeks of regular overnight visits, I realized she had a boyfriend in the dorm and was covering up for me. Teehee!

Another girl was like, "Is my pussy good enough for you?" I was like, "hell yeah, of course." I hadn't even brought up anal sex at all and she thought it was inevitable that I would. Keep in mind this was >40 years ago, before every straight porn went anal before the end.

One time I was at a bar and three girls I knew from around, came to hang out and drink with me. One of them liked me but her girls told her, sotto-voce, "Good luck with that, he sucks dick." I think they figured they wouldn't offend me because I was "out" and it wasn't any secret, but I'm not sure if they thought I was gay or were told I was bi and didn't quite get it. Anyway, I whispered in the one girl's ear, "I'll eat you out and fuck you, too." She ignored her friends after that and we went home together that night.

I love bi girls and through no particular effort on my own part, a majority of the women I dated or had sex with before my wife turned out to be bi. I guess I have a "type" and my bi-dar works unconsciously?

I was in a LTR with a gay man. For several years, he was a huge pain in the ass about constantly being insecure and fearful that I would cheat on him and/or leave him for a woman. I never did* but had at least 6 different opportunities - with very forward women who all knew I was in a gay relationship.

And a bi woman in a lesbian relationship made me her fuckbuddy. These two had an agreement that, if someone wanted cock, then outside sex with a gay man would be OK. I never knew whether her partner was aware I was bi and not gay, or that we were even doing it at all.

I don't know, just seems like I've seen a lot of horny eyes for the queer guy.

How about all you-all?

* Not until the very end, anyway, when things were already very clearly falling apart. It wasn't over a woman at all, there were other reasons, and I didn't leave him, he was the one who left rather than lift a finger to work things out, but I did cheat with a woman before it officially ended, and she and I wound up together afterwards.

Years ago after I got divorced, I was hanging out with a long time friend who I knew was gay. We had fooled around once when he found out that I was getting divorced.

He told me that he had a crush on me and had always fantasized going down on me and asked if that would be possible.

Four or five beers in, he rubbed with his hip on my groin and I got hard. Once he saw and felt that I was erect, he did it again several times until I was full hard on.

He smiled at me and said "well what do you think" with his hand rubbing up against my hard throbbing tool.

When I smiled back, he undid my shorts and went down to his knees and took hold of my tool and rubbed it on his face as he looked up at me before he stuck his tongue out to lick the precum off the crown.

In one slow movement, he inhaled my hard-on all the way down his throat and I shuddered in ecstasy right on the edge of orgasm.

That night I shot down into his throat and later that night I topped him really good and hard.

About 2 weeks later he invited me out for drinks and we met up at a alternative club. From the attention, I could see that he was hoping for the same treatment after the club.

We mostly kept ourselves while we were up at the bar. There were several female couples all around the bar watching us like Hawks and seemingly turned on to watching us just talking.

We were obviously friends, but I think they were hoping and fantasizing that we are way more.

We were approached by two couples of women, and they chatted us up buying us a couple of rounds of drinks.

To my surprise, one couple invited us to go home with them to play. The other couple saw that and seemed rather disappointed that they hadn't asked first.

The second couple commented "You could go home with us if you prefer!"

So I agree that a lot of women, especially out at alternative clubs fantasize about being with some seemingly gay guys.

Try going out to an alternative club with another guy and focus on each other infront of women couples. You will notice them watching you trying to be subtle.
If you hold or touch each other as my friend and I did, it will turn on many female eyes.

 

[Mike302]

I know my wife found me more interesting once I came out to her and started having gay sex. My openess led to her to be more open about her sexual needs. I did my best to meet those needs. The upshot was cunnilingus to orgasm became our most common form of sex. Her orgasms became more common and more intense. I found out that masturbating to orgasm after making her cum was more satisfying to me than cumming in her vagina without her cumming.

Interesting. Mine isn't interested in me having sex with anyone else.

Like you, the cunnilingus became the mainstay of love making many years ago. Sometimes after she comes she doesn't want penetration, she's done, so she'll let me know and I'll get myself off with my mouth still on her. When she does want the penetration, I'll normally fuck her until I come, but I don't always. It bothered me more than her, but now we've come to the understanding that it's okay either way.

I always cum when she pegs me or gives me a BJ, though.

My point being is her orgasm takes a long time to get to and I'm just in heaven the whole time she's using my mouth. That's what it is, and it makes me feel usefull and desired. When she comes I'm riding every wave with her and it takes very little for me to come, then! Her orgasm feels like I had one though, often, like we came together, and I wish she'd just let me. Sometimes she does. If I don't in the next couple minutes though I cool down. I still have an erection and can fuck, but my brain has moved on, as "done" as she is.

I "let her" give me BJ's 1-3 times a week because I need to be drained and she says it's emotionally bonding for her. It's an easy, quick way to have sex, too. She makes hints she wants to do it and says, "thank you" afterwards. I could probably live off cunnilingus and getting pegged / fucked / sucking dick and be satiated.

 

[Smileyouronnow]

That sounds pretty hot. I wish mine was at a open-minded.
Ex-wife was close to that open mindedness. She wanted to see me play with another married bi guy so badly. She set up several scenarios for achieving just that.

 

[drobert44]

That sounds pretty hot. I wish mine was at a open-minded.
Ex-wife was close to that open mindedness. She wanted to see me play with another married bi guy so badly. She set up several scenarios for achieving just that.

I would not date a close-minded woman.

 

[Kimrobinson]

Wife’s out of town, but would love to be with her this moment. Instead, and she of course knows, so other things will happen.

 

[SmoothAndSweet]

Some women for sure. In college some of my girlfriends were interested and wanted to experiment. When they found that I had my own little gurly they became very interested

 

[SPARTAN047]

There seem to be very few women who like bi guys.

Gay guys sleep with guys so they don't count, but I've heard so many stories of gay guys trying pussy.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

When I was younger, no. I was way too insecure. But now that I'm older and have a better understanding of the real adult world, I'd be open to having a relationship (casual or long term) with a bi man.

 

[dkak001]

When I was younger, no. I was way too insecure. But now that I'm older and have a better understanding of the real adult world, I'd be open to having a relationship (casual or long term) with a bi man.

I think we all have all experienced the young insecurities thing. Some of us have even sort of grown out of it!
I can't help but think this newest generation is lucky in that regard. It's a lot less frowned upon to experiment sexually, than when some of us were young adults.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I think we all have all experienced the young insecurities thing. Some of us have even sort of grown out of it!
I can't help but think this newest generation is lucky in that regard. It's a lot less frowned upon to experiment sexually, than when some of us were young adults.

Somethings just come with experience, but yes, I agree that things are getting much better in regard to sex positivity.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Somethings just come with experience, but yes, I agree that things are getting much better in regard to sex positivity.

I think we all have all experienced the young insecurities thing. Some of us have even sort of grown out of it!
I can't help but think this newest generation is lucky in that regard. It's a lot less frowned upon to experiment sexually, than when some of us were young adults.

Very much so, and that's great. I don't mean we should all sleep around with everyone and if you're in a committed relationship, break hearts, but it's great to experiment with changing your gender and sleeping with the same sex if you want to. There's nothing wrong with either gay or straight relationships, or bi.

 

[Britva415]

When I was younger, no. I was way too insecure. But now that I'm older and have a better understanding of the real adult world, I'd be open to having a relationship (casual or long term) with a bi man.

That's super interesting. I never had a girlfriend who was insecure about me liking another gender, but I had a boyfriend who was insecure about it and it was a real pain. He was pretty immature and it was his first gay relationship, but he constantly whined about fearing I'd leave him for a woman or cheat on him with a woman.

 

[Britva415]

There seem to be very few women who like bi guys

What have you experienced?

For me, I always disclosed real early and I never once got rejected because I'm bi. Quite a few of them turned out to be bi, themselves, not that I knew that before getting together.

 

[SPARTAN047]

What have you experienced?

For me, I always disclosed real early and I never once got rejected because I'm bi. Quite a few of them turned out to be bi, themselves, not that I knew that before getting together.

I wasn't bi at first. I would reveal later when I became bi that perhaps I enjoyed cocks as well, and I seem to have been rejected more than accepted by women for it.

They also seemed to expect that I'd accept their bisexuality or lesbianism much more than they'd accept mine.