Are online d/s relationships a good thing?

[ThornDaddy]

~
~ An o/l (online) D/s relationship is safer, yes.

I think there are exceptions to that. People on the Internet can pretend to be something they're not more easily than they can in real life.

Meeting people in real life, in a public place, allows you to use your radar to check them out before they "get their hooks into you". I've heard of people having long online D/s relationships and then being stalked by the person, in the flesh, after finding out the person was very much NOT who they said they were.

I've played in the flesh with five women I've met on the Internet, and all of them were good. I haven't done any online D/s, but I've certainly had fucked-up stalkers on the Internet.

Here's a good article on safely meeting people in person that you've met on the Internet. It's called "Acid Test For Doms":
http://www.aslavesheart.com/subscorner/acidtest.html

I recommend everyone read it, Doms, subs, even vanilla folk. Some great stuff in there.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Are online d/s relationships a good thing

NO! They suck.

 

[MechaBlade]

I know I have posted a thread on this topic before, but this time I just wanted to hear experiences on the matter, plus any advice for the sub on how they should react and how the dom should treat/punish the sub at appropriate times. It seems like a fun thing to enjoy with someone else online, but obviously it is limited when it comes to teasing and punishing and I just want to know the best ways to go about it..

Thanks for your time

I think pretty much any online relationship is a waste of time (for me). however, I can see myself getting into an online bdsm relationship just to train myself as a dom. I'll probably do this when I have more time.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm sorry to hear of the pain and the negative comments on here lately. I know how that feels and it does suck. *hugs*

However for me, right now?

*sings*

I'm loving it!

Fury

 

[siren319]

I'm not really into online relationships for all the reasons mention and a million more, but I can see there value too. Like getting a little bit of an idea of what you're getting into if you think you like D/s. If it doesn't sound good in theory, in fantasy then it will probably suck ass for you in real life. BDSM can get dangerous especially if two people underestimate the risk of certain activities. Let's not forget the legal reprocussions that can come from something as small as forgetting a safe word. Totally for online BDSM groups, even relationships for some .

 

[Sweetness_15]

An online D/s relationship is just as valid as the integrity of people who partake in them.

BDSM is a state of mind that one lives & craves with every fiber of their being.

Try to tell a Dom male who gets wood every time his sub pops up in the chat window it's not real.......or the willing female sub who soaks her panties when she gets completes a sexual task her Dom has requested.......it can be almost spiritual to those who can trust and be trusted.

Online D/s relationships are as intense as the emotions of the Dom or sub allows them be and the only limitations on the activities or scenes are due to the lack of imagination of those involved.

Due to logistics,marital status or many other factors online may be the only outlet for some within the BDSM lifestyle.

When a set of well thought out limits are set into place that protect the privacy of those involved it can be very satisfying to be able to share intimate secrets and fantasies with others...........secrets that are not socially acceptable in most of mainstream society.

I will admit the posers & users who continually jump from one relationship to another just for the shock and awe factor of seeing what a sub will do to please them has given online D/s relationships a bad name.

But as in RL,build as base of trust & take it slow........posers or BS artist won't hang around to go the distance,therfore avoiding much heartache in the long run.

Excellent and so true. Thank you for posting.

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

I think there are exceptions to that. People on the Internet can pretend to be something they're not more easily than they can in real life.

Meeting people in real life, in a public place, allows you to use your radar to check them out before they "get their hooks into you". I've heard of people having long online D/s relationships and then being stalked by the person, in the flesh, after finding out the person was very much NOT who they said they were.

I've played in the flesh with five women I've met on the Internet, and all of them were good. I haven't done any online D/s, but I've certainly had fucked-up stalkers on the Internet.

Here's a good article on safely meeting people in person that you've met on the Internet. It's called "Acid Test For Doms":
http://www.aslavesheart.com/subscorner/acidtest.html

I recommend everyone read it, Doms, subs, even vanilla folk. Some great stuff in there.

~ Thank you for the link ThornDaddy. I hope others check it out as well.

 

[Sprinkles22]

I'm sorry to hear of the pain and the negative comments on here lately. I know how that feels and it does suck. *hugs*

However for me, right now?

*sings*

I'm loving it!

Fury

I agree with you Fury .... I'm loving it, and life, as well. Count down has begun for online to meet reality, and I have sweet expectations.

BTW ... my Master passed the 'Acid Test' offered a few posts above. I had no doubt he would

 

[FurryFury]

I agree with you Fury .... I'm loving it, and life, as well. Count down has begun for online to meet reality, and I have sweet expectations.

BTW ... my Master passed the 'Acid Test' offered a few posts above. I had no doubt he would

Acid test?

*scratches head*

Fury

 

[Sprinkles22]

Acid test?

*scratches head*

Fury

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=17508304&postcount=151

It really IS a good article.

 

[FurryFury]

https://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=17508304&postcount=151

It really IS a good article.

Thanks!



Fury

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Thanks!



Fury

*POUNCE!!*

 

[Sprinkles22]

I see Tigger is in the building

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

I see Tigger is in the building

*LMAO!*

 

[snowman4664]

I agree

An online D/s relationship is just as valid as the integrity of people who partake in them.

BDSM is a state of mind that one lives & craves with every fiber of their being.

Try to tell a Dom male who gets wood every time his sub pops up in the chat window it's not real.......or the willing female sub who soaks her panties when she gets completes a sexual task her Dom has requested.......it can be almost spiritual to those who can trust and be trusted.

Online D/s relationships are as intense as the emotions of the Dom or sub allows them be and the only limitations on the activities or scenes are due to the lack of imagination of those involved.

Due to logistics,marital status or many other factors online may be the only outlet for some within the BDSM lifestyle.

When a set of well thought out limits are set into place that protect the privacy of those involved it can be very satisfying to be able to share intimate secrets and fantasies with others...........secrets that are not socially acceptable in most of mainstream society.

I will admit the posers & users who continually jump from one relationship to another just for the shock and awe factor of seeing what a sub will do to please them has given online D/s relationships a bad name.

But as in RL,build as base of trust & take it slow........posers or BS artist won't hang around to go the distance,therfore avoiding much heartache in the long run.

As I learn more about this topic I can agree totally.

 

[mr_demon]

just a thought, once again I can only speak from personal experience.

I live at the end of the world, this place has no established BDSM community, therefore my contact has been mostly with individuals travelling here for vacations or when I have travelled to Europe.

Online is basically what has kept me warm at night inbetweens visitors. Online is as safe as the user makes it, we all have heard horror stories about it.

Now, I do think online is a good way of exploring what things appeal to you, with the obvious consideration that it is online and therefore not necessarily bound by the laws of reality. the progression from online to real is a logical one, once you have spent enough time reading, researching, asking questions, discovering your needs, etc. you can look for a real life encounter in earnest.

I dont need to go into the whole "do it safely" thing because I feel its has been discussed sufficiently. my only recomendation is that if you are beginning online, look for people who are respected in their online communities, ask lots of questions, do not enter a chatroom and fall to your knees in front of the first dweeb that posts "Kneel before me because I am your Master now", take your time, explore and discover.

I don't know a single Dom/me who I respect who has an online persona that collars a sub right off the bat (unless its someone you know in real).

drat, my opinion turned into a rant LOL

 

[FurryFury]

*POUNCE!!*

Oh my!!!

*giggles*

Fury

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Oh my!!!

*giggles*

Fury

~ Welllllllllllll???? *giggles* I couldn't think of any other way - short of jumping up and down and waving - to get your attention. Do you have news for me? Did my suggestion work?

 

[FurryFury]

~ Welllllllllllll???? *giggles* I couldn't think of any other way - short of jumping up and down and waving - to get your attention. Do you have news for me? Did my suggestion work?

Darlin' I'm sure it did but I'm not sure which suggestion we are talking about. PM me?

Fury

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Darlin' I'm sure it did but I'm not sure which suggestion we are talking about. PM me?

Fury

*nods, scurries off, then returns* Sent!

 

[FurryFury]

*nods, scurries off, then returns* Sent!

Thanks! This lil ole brain isn't up to snuff lately.



Fury

 

[Victoria_2001_02769]

Thanks! This lil ole brain isn't up to snuff lately.



Fury

*heh heh* Nor is mine, dear... nor is mine.

 

[Sprinkles22]

The thread's title? My answer is :

ABSOLUTELY YES​

 

[FurryFury]

*heh heh* Nor is mine, dear... nor is mine.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

As I learn more about this topic I can agree totally.

Southern Dom hits the nail on the head. The best thing about online relationships is that, in the world of the IM or PM screen, everything can be exactly what you want it to be.

Trust me, I create fantasies for a living. People like fantasies, people cherish fantasies, people create fantasies. Not just online either.

Real life meetings can be good or bad, regardless of whether you met first online or not. But being able to enter a fantasy world where you and your partner(s) are perfect in each others minds can be just as fulfilling as a RL relationship, be it sexual or not.

Two of my closest friends are women I met on the net. One, I've met face to face, the other I haven't. We talk on the phone frequently and I am blessed to have met them and to call them friend.

And yes, there are those who take it too far, who become stalkers and dangerous. But those happen in RL, as well.