Kajira Callista
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Hmmmm seems like there are a whole bunch of Dom/Masters/Mistresses who have somehow overlooked the thread....wonder if i should go out there and find them?
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Originally posted by Kajira Callista
Well hello there riddler, thanks for your kind words. I have to say you are one of the sweetest ppl ive met on lit .*hug*
Kajira Callista said:You always do put things into words so beautifully Shadowsdream Ma'am. Do you feel a slave is inferior or powerless...i would love to know your thoughts on this. Miss your posts.
Shadowsdream said:Hello again
...is a slave inferior or powerless? ...YES
I agree .. There is a Power exchange given by the slave/sub to their Dominant but it is up to the individuals within that M/s relationship as to what levels of play they mutually agree upon.. I feel Respect is the Key word here.. if a scene goes badly and the slave/sub tells her Dom/me that she didnt like it , then that Dom/me should respect the feedback and either modify the scene in future to suit or no longer indulge in that particular play,,, but there is also the matter of boundaries and pushing those boundaries.. and again I repeat myself,,"with Respect"..
but abuse is a NO, NO..
And.. as Mr Blonde posted ....
1. acting out of pure malice or hatred
2. major loss of respect for the sub/slave
3. major loss of self-control...
then the Dom/me IS just an ABUSER and should not be called a dominant at all.
The Dominant should maintain control of the situation at all times and that includes of themselves
In the wild you never see an Alpha Male attacking his mate/s purely out of malice or loss of control it is simply to assertain dominance ..once done ..***** goes on as normal ...in co-operation and with respect..
But we are Human,, and sadly some are not fit to be part of our species and our legal systems tries its best to deal with abusers,,,yet fails..
If abused...I say Walk ..Hell ,,,Run...and Keep safe
Catalina once posted a wonderful table on the difference between dominant and an abuser.. perhaps she would be kind enough to post it again... some could well do with learning from it..
Merry Xmas and Blessed Be
Merry Christmas to you and Yours. Mindset is an often overlooked piece of the BDSM puzzle.catalina_francisco said:Love your answer Shadowsdream....for a circumstance limited answer it describes the slave mindset I believe is right for me no matter how hard it may be at times. The rewards far outweigh the difficulties. Hope your Christmas is a beautiful one.
Catalina
Master_Wiccanman said:[BCatalina once posted a wonderful table on the difference between dominant and an abuser.. perhaps she would be kind enough to post it again... some could well do with learning from it..
Merry Xmas and Blessed Be [/B]
catalina_francisco said:
catalina_francisco said:
Master_Wiccanman said:Yes Cata;ina that is thae one.. Thank You for the link again...
I am sure it will help those that need to clafify the differences between Dominant and Abuser..
Blessed Be
Kajira Callista said:Thank you Netzach, i read, thought and reread your post...It is all about the Dominants limits...at least to me. I would like to ask one thing though, in your eyes are slaves inferior ppl or powerless. Im not talking about during play or at certain times when its the dominants choice to have them in that position, im talking about in a general sort of way.
Netzach said:No they're not inferior as people or powerless as people, 'course not. But they become that in relation to me once they decide to go there. Once you ask to "be my slave" you are putting yourself into an inferior position with regards to me, bottom line.
Netzach said:No they're not inferior as people or powerless as people, 'course not. But they become that in relation to me once they decide to go there. Once you ask to "be my slave" you are putting yourself into an inferior position with regards to me, bottom line.
Netzach said:No they're not inferior as people or powerless as people, 'course not. But they become that in relation to me once they decide to go there. Once you ask to "be my slave" you are putting yourself into an inferior position with regards to me, bottom line.
Master_Wiccanman said:I Agree with you... They are not inferior or powerless as a Person..only within the D/s relationship and after the power exchange... perhaps I should have made myself more clear in my previous post.. my Appologies
Kajira Callista said:...in a million different ways. I like that!
A Desert Rose said:Callista, I've told you a kazillion times to stop exaggerating. ;-)
Etoile said:[...]Abuse happens when there is a pattern - a pattern is when it happens consistently for no reason.
Etoile said:In a BDSM context, hitting someone out of anger is not necessarily abuse. It can be a very suitable punishment in some situations.
I hope that made sense.
If they aren't mature enough to handle themselves properly, they have no right being in a relationship...jeez, isn't this stuff really obvious? You have to be at least intelligent enough to understand your own limitations, and the lack of that sort of self-knowledge seems to be the cause of most problems in ANY relationship.Kajira Callista said:Ok, what if someone doesnt fully understand the responsibilites of a Master, if they are just as new as the slave? How do they know where the line they shouldnt cross is?
Johnny Mayberry said:If they aren't mature enough to handle themselves properly, they have no right being in a relationship...jeez, isn't this stuff really obvious? You have to be at least intelligent enough to understand your own limitations, and the lack of that sort of self-knowledge seems to be the cause of most problems in ANY relationship.