Are you a lurker?

[smtst5]

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[Melissa2]

It gets even more fun (usually) when you start posting and interacting. I've met some pretty good people here, and one really truly good friend.


Thanks Cookiecat, I agree - I have met some really incredible people so far... I just need to jump in to these posts more

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Feels like there ain't much discussin' at all 'round these parts.

Lit used to be such a great distraction. Now though, life is busier. But also feels itchier. It's not as fun. One of those ebbs and flows? I think it's more me. My brain doesn't have the capacity for pervy talk.

I guess, too, I've lost the desire to discuss. To interact, to connect and form relationships. Partly because I've been here a few years and I feel like Okay, I've done that. What's next? and partly because I want to be doing those things in person, not online.

 

[seela]

Feels like there ain't much discussin' at all 'round these parts.

Lit used to be such a great distraction. Now though, life is busier. But also feels itchier. It's not as fun. One of those ebbs and flows? I think it's more me. My brain doesn't have the capacity for pervy talk.

Yup. This.

There isn't much discussion going on anymore.

A lot of the time I don't have the energy or interest to engage in discussions here, but the times I feel like doing that, there's not a lot to contribute to. And it's sad. Right now I feel like talking a lot, but I don't have any thread ideas in mind, so, no talky-talk.

Discussion boards are a dying breed and I guess I just have to accept it. Pics and gifs have replaced the talking for the most part.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Discussion boards are a dying breed and I guess I just have to accept it. Pics and gifs have replaced the talking for the most part.

That's a shame. It fills an important need for so many people.


I lurk and I stalk. I'm more likely to stalk a person than I am to spend a long time lurking in a thread, unless I'm doing research. So it usually looks like this: stalk, find an interesting thread, read through it, go back to stalking, and the cycle repeats.

 

[midwestyankee]

I'll echo cookie, Wild Honey and seela. Lately I tend to lurk much more than I post. The Tumblrfication of Lit has irritated me to be candid. I like hot images as much as the next guy, but to me this has always been a place for conversation. I wish it could be again.

 

[Acktion]

I readily admit that I'm guilty as fuck of posting a pic or gif in discussion threads and twenty-screen theses in pic threads once upon a time.

Actually, I still do when I can be bothered to de-lurk.

I sowwy.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Feels like there ain't much discussin' at all 'round these parts.

Lit used to be such a great distraction. Now though, life is busier. But also feels itchier. It's not as fun. One of those ebbs and flows? I think it's more me. My brain doesn't have the capacity for pervy talk.

Yup. This.

There isn't much discussion going on anymore.

A lot of the time I don't have the energy or interest to engage in discussions here, but the times I feel like doing that, there's not a lot to contribute to. And it's sad. Right now I feel like talking a lot, but I don't have any thread ideas in mind, so, no talky-talk.

Discussion boards are a dying breed and I guess I just have to accept it. Pics and gifs have replaced the talking for the most part.

Have we reached the “back in the good old days” stage? I agree entirely. Lit really used to be an active discussion board, and there is definitely an ebb and flow, but I don’t know that we will get back to what is was. There are fewer and fewer voices, more intolerance (I genuinely worry about new posters feeling welcome, it’s hard to get noticed when you’re new and people are very quick to jump on those with differing opinions rather than discuss), social media offers a lot of options, and people just have shorter attention spans.

 

[midwestyankee]

I’ll try to do better with the newbs.

I remember cookie and I getting insulted when we first got active and everyone talked about the good old days. I get it.

However, when cookie and I first got active, BDSM was pretty active. A whole slew of intelligent women have left, as well as Necro, DGE, primalex, yank... Men that were very vocal on this forum at that time.

This is a recurring issue and I now figure that it's an inevitable part of the community-building that happens on discussion boards. There will always be some resistance to new people because their participation changes the group, even if only in a small way. In January of 2015 I started a thread on how this forum tends to resist new members. It's an interesting read to see how people responded to it at the time.

I'm still here and I do still like the place. I just don't find as much reason to join in the activities as often as I used to.

 

[schizochick]

Are you a lurker? Do you spend time reading, perhaps even messaging people but never really post? Or maybe you post a lot in one forum but lurk around in others?

I have to admit I'll read through a thread, which takes me to another thread, which takes me to someone's profile and suddenly an hour's gone by.

Fess up.... do you lurk?

I dont do many forum posts in general. I love being a lurker. I like to read. Im a new member here though i have known this place for a while. I like to read stories. I bumped into the forums last day and made an account. Im not very social, They say im a.. Difficult person to deal with and people dont have much.. Patience. So i dont bother messaging anybody. I read through a few threads in this specific forum but i dont think im going to post anything because i know shit about bdsm lifestyle. I have seen fifty shades though. Im kinda afraid of my.. "dark side". I have not consciously explored it with anybody before. I think im going to lurk im this forum. Im curious about bdsm lifestyle. So i will read through the threads i guess.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

This is a recurring issue and I now figure that it's an inevitable part of the community-building that happens on discussion boards. There will always be some resistance to new people because their participation changes the group, even if only in a small way. In January of 2015 I started a thread on how this forum tends to resist new members. It's an interesting read to see how people responded to it at the time.

I'm still here and I do still like the place. I just don't find as much reason to join in the activities as often as I used to.

The Insider or Outsider thread. Yes, that was one necessary thread!

My early posts in this forum were encouraged by someone who was a regular at the time. He has long since stopped posting here, but without his encouragement and the folks who were quite welcoming to me at the time, I would have never gotten past the lurking stage.

 

[LonelyK3]

New here and a reader/lurker.

 

[twister947]

Most of the time, I have the sense to not let an opportunity to keep my mouth shut slip through my lips.

 

[Plane_Guy]

Only when I'm here perusing the boards and not posting.

 

[midwestyankee]

I remember you bumping that thread once before and soooooo many people got pissed off!

If I recall correctly, when it first was active that thread led to a couple of regulars deciding that they'd be happier elsewhere. I miss them but they felt insulted by the discussion and chose to leave. At the time, my thought was "If the shoe fits..."

The Insider or Outsider thread. Yes, that was one necessary thread!

My early posts in this forum were encouraged by someone who was a regular at the time. He has long since stopped posting here, but without his encouragement and the folks who were quite welcoming to me at the time, I would have never gotten past the lurking stage.

Thanks for the kind words and I'm glad you stuck around.

 

[cookiecat]

Have we reached the “back in the good old days” stage? I agree entirely. Lit really used to be an active discussion board, and there is definitely an ebb and flow, but I don’t know that we will get back to what is was. There are fewer and fewer voices, more intolerance (I genuinely worry about new posters feeling welcome, it’s hard to get noticed when you’re new and people are very quick to jump on those with differing opinions rather than discuss), social media offers a lot of options, and people just have shorter attention spans.

When the "old" folks would say how great things used to be, it bugged me because I'd be trying to get discussion posts going. Now I'm one of the old folks?? I remember Farah and I would comment that if the old folks wanted better discussion, then help provide it. But now, I feel like I don't have much to say.

For sure it's ebb and flow. Feels like the bdsm forum is an ebb. It might be flowing for others!!

More, though, I think it's the advent of tumblr, memes, gifs. If you look at that very first Oral Servitude thread Roscoe Rathbone started years ago, people couldn't even figure out how to post an image. Discussion was all anyone could do.

The first Oral thread I did was tons of discussion. It was great. But how much can we yak about how great oral is? Is that thread in its fourth go-round?

It's always pleasantly surprising when playground folks post in a thread like PLP's Inquiring Minds. There are lots of kinky people out there. It's great to hear different insight and experience.

I never really liked Kash Almighty's threads in the Talk section, but I have to give him credit for starting threads that seemed to have a life and brought out new voices.

Anyways. I'm riding the ebb. Hopefully I'll feel the flow again.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

Mhm. I suppose I am sometimes. I have nostalgia for better days and warm memories here.

 

[Acktion]

Speaking as one with a dick, there can never be too much said about oral despite it being the fifth iteration. (Although, I'm not exactly sure "yak" was the... recommended word choice in that context unless you intended to make me giggle.)

Back to lurking.

 

[gracie920101]

I've always felt Talk was the site for in-depth discussions and hashing out various viewpoints.

Here in the Cafe, I want to sit back and put my feet up, read the latest Daily Onion and sip my wine being careful not to snort it out of my nose at some of the articles.

 

[Orchidea73]

This is a recurring issue and I now figure that it's an inevitable part of the community-building that happens on discussion boards. There will always be some resistance to new people because their participation changes the group, even if only in a small way. In January of 2015 I started a thread on how this forum tends to resist new members. It's an interesting read to see how people responded to it at the time.

I'm still here and I do still like the place. I just don't find as much reason to join in the activities as often as I used to.

I'm curious to read that. lol

 

[Orchidea73]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1139519

Love this woman.

 

[Orchidea73]

Have a report on my desk by 1700, EST.
Wear a pencil skirt.

Ahahahhahaha.

You are spot on with the pencil skirt though. It is my favorite.

 

[Orchidea73]

Now, how did I know?

Cause you're a witch!

 

[Orchidea73]

/me is made of wood and floats and weighs as much as a duck.

 

[cookiecat]

I've always felt Talk was the site for in-depth discussions and hashing out various viewpoints.

Here in the Cafe, I want to sit back and put my feet up, read the latest Daily Onion and sip my wine being careful not to snort it out of my nose at some of the articles.

I get this. Often times I can't even think of the words to say. Pictures say it for me.