Asphyxia: Absolute Control

[NemoAlia]

N, and didn't you say you were getting over all the things that weren't good for you?

No, and I would never say something like that! Silly man. Once mutual respect has been established (like between E and me), I don't worry about losing my soul or jading myself.

 

[MechaBlade]

I would be very afraid to engage in breathplay. You really have to know the signs, and you should also know cpr. I'm sure that's how most people die during bdsm.

I have done some autoerotic asphyxiation (in a very safe way) and it has heightened my orgasms, so I can see the appeal. And I also fantasize about strangling. But I would be apprehensive performing it in real life on another person.

 

[SophieUK]

you really are a sweet one

i dont mind asphyxia as long as its not for too long...i think my body just gets really nervous if its for too long.

Does being choked by a cock count? cos technically you cant breathe then...if so i quite like that.

I just know you're a good girl

 

[IsabellaSnow]

i had a partner who would put his hand around my throat. it was a choking gesture and i felt pressure, but he never seriously restricted my breath. it was more of a threat, as in if he wanted to he could apply just a little more pressure. often he used it to control my head and sometimes my movements.

I dig this too.

But not with everyone, for sure.

IMHO the dangers of asphyxiation make it not worth engaging in. The heightened senses are just as easily acheived by holding your breath. The more you practice the better the orgasm.

And you can't hold your breath to death.

 

[Musing]

My Sir does hold my mouth and nose or throat quite often during play. He observes a few basic protocols.

- He is always able to see my eyes, never ever does this from behind
- He moves in slowly which gives me a second to inhale first
- I am never bound when he does this so am free to gesture
- It's only for a few seconds and for less time if I'm standing compared with lying down
- He doesn't use a rope or stocking or anything because it could get tangled
- He ensures he's not resting his weight on me at the time

We haven't had any problems and my previous Sir and I kept to these rules and had only one moment of concern when he caught me as I exhaled (hence no air in lungs) I failed to gesture (no idea why) and fainted.

And yes, my Sir does know CPR, just in case.

 

[John Doe]

Not particularly interested in breath control, though I do find the thought of just putting my hand firmly over her mouth or around her neck quite appealing.

 

[jadefirefly]

See, that's the awesome bit for me; it doesn't always require an actual restriction of breath. Just the feeling that it COULD be restricted is often more than enough.

 

[saw_man1]

Not particularly interested in breath control, though I do find the thought of just putting my hand firmly over her mouth or around her neck quite appealing.

I agree whole heartedly.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Very interesting read here.

Shy - While I can understand why Pure singled out your post, I have to agree that it was a rather intense post. Very well written and ... just ... wow.

I have never had my breathing completely restricted so that I stopped breathing, and I am pretty sure I would panic if I did. I have a big issue with claustrophobia. However, I do really like other levels of breath play. No hands or hoods over my mouth and nose, that panics me more than excites me. But the hands around the neck, arm across the neck are things I enjoy. I've had my breath restricted to the point of seeing stars, but still was able to breathe raggedly. For me, maintaining eye contact is essential to the enjoyment of this. Also keeps my panic - that fight or flight instinct - down. And quite frankly, it's pretty hot to stare into each other's eyes while his hands are around your throat.

Would I do this early in a relationship? Depends. This is something reserved for a deep level of trust. If that level of trust is there early on, then maybe I would. But only I am a good judge of just what is safe for ME. However, to back up what was said earlier in the thread about size, quite frankly, it's really not much more dangerous than being tightly bound by someone you don't know. I'm 5'2" and fairly petite. Just about any man I go out with could hurt me, without engaging in any BDSM activity whatsoever. It is up to me to do what I can to be as safe as possible.

 

[neonflux]

I have never had my breathing completely restricted so that I stopped breathing, and I am pretty sure I would panic if I did. I have a big issue with claustrophobia. However, I do really like other levels of breath play. No hands or hoods over my mouth and nose, that panics me more than excites me. But the hands around the neck, arm across the neck are things I enjoy. I've had my breath restricted to the point of seeing stars, but still was able to breathe raggedly. For me, maintaining eye contact is essential to the enjoyment of this. Also keeps my panic - that fight or flight instinct - down. And quite frankly, it's pretty hot to stare into each other's eyes while his hands are around your throat.

Would I do this early in a relationship? Depends. This is something reserved for a deep level of trust. If that level of trust is there early on, then maybe I would...

I have never engaged in breath play to the degree that some have mentioned here. However, breath (and to a lesser extent knife) play combined with eye contact seems to be the one thing that will put me into sub space , a place that is normally very difficult for me to get to (one of the reasons that my BDSM partner, also switch, is convinced I'm more Domme than sub). There is something about the trust that is necessary to keep the scene going in this situation that brings me to a point of real surrender. Like you, BeachGirl, the eye contact is essential.

Interestingly, it is not something I enjoy when Topping - I think because of my fear of going too far (mixed perhaps my experiences with asthma as a child). Then again, the first BDSM-themed film I ever saw wasn't O but In the Realm of the Senses, and if you've seen it, you know how that turned out...

Neon

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

me and my ex-lover experimented with it alittle bit, there was one time where i was being so subby that i just wasn't gonna say anything luckily he let go of my neck i had a massive migrane for like 3 days after, needless to say after that incident he never put his hands up near my neck again LOL