Bandit's Blurt and Vent Thread

[Bandit58]

Oh joy. It's 2 years since I had my last mammogram and pap smear so guess what I am doing next week....

I get my boobs squashed next Tuesday and my other bits looked at on the following Thursday (2 days later). Amazing because I could have got in sooner had I wished (for both things) but wanted to make sure Sir was better before I made the appointments. The good thing is, after all the tests I have had I won't need to have any more for another 2 years!

Sir is doing a shorter dialysis today. Because He is sick He hasn't been eating very much at all, and has only put on a litre (or a kilo in weight) since the last dialysis on Monday. So we decided to do 6 hours instead of the usual 8, especially as He has been dialysing every 2nd day for the last couple of weeks anyway.

I need to catch up on my sleep. I've not been sleeping too well, because first I was sick and now Sir is which means He is restless and I keep waking up (I have my "Sir radar" on especially if He's sick)....oh dear it's certainly a vent thread today!!

 

[kayte]

We put Sir's dry weight up again by 0.5 kg (just over a pound). The palms of His hands were wrinkled and a dint on a fingertip took ages to fill out again. So He went to the dialysis ward to ask the question and one of the nurses said oh yes you are too dry you need to put your weight up...and she also jokingly said that I should stop feeding Him so well!

Yesterday was the first dialysis at the new weight. He came off feeling a lot better than He had been. No blood pressure crashes, no cramping, no feeling really washed out. We probably should have done this sooner but He didn't want to feel He was gaining too much weight. This puts Him at 88.5kg (195lbs) with clothes.

Summer is coming too so I think He should have a little fluid left on anyway to allow for sweating, especially at the speedway when He wears fireproof underwear as well as a heavy protective suit. He can lose around 2 litres in sweat some nights

{{{{{{{Bandit&Gil}}}}}}}

I'm so happy to hear you found out why Gil was crashing. And I think you are more than right about summer and the sweating that will go on while out on the track. Hope your summer is a fantastic one.

The weather prognosticators are projecting some of that four letter "s" word tomorrow. Nothing that will stick too much, but seeing the white coming down...

 

[kayte]

Someone has sandpapered my throat I haven't had so much as a sniffle for over a year - and it's supposed to be spring/summer. Couldn't get sick over winter like everyone else could I!

Oh well hopefully it won't last long. My friend and I had plans to play this afternoon but I'm sick so I messaged her only to find she had to cancel too as her hubby has hurt his back. Her immune system is dodgy (she has rheumatoid arthritis) so I don't want her to catch my bugs. We've re-scheduled for Friday that gives me 4 days to get better!

Sir is ok apart from aches and pains, the weather has sucked this weekend with rain and storms which seems to cause more aches. Speedway was cancelled so we will be doing dialysis every 2nd day for a couple of weeks - crash crew aren't needed next weekend as the speedway is being used to host a Monster Truck show.

Sir has been to the doctor and He has bronchitis. He's got some pretty powerful antibiotics to take for a couple of weeks.

I'm almost over the head cold I've had since last Monday which has kept me away from the gym (I hate when that happens!). I can't believe we got through the winter without getting sick but it's almost summer and we both are crook - go figure

{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}

I'm so sorry to hear about your throat and Gil's diagnosis too. At least you are getting better and the antibiotics he is taken will get rid of his infection.

Hope this will be it as far as illness goes and that you will be able to enjoy every nice summer day.

 

[kayte]

You didn't mention your playmate above but you didn't mention that you girls got together for some fun on Sunday.

I'm feeling fairly rotten at the moment but as I tell BANDIT I've been getting sick for many years before her & I'm still here so stop all the worry, I have no plans on going anywhere so she is stuck with me.

BANDIT did get to the gym last night & made it through OK so that os a good thing for her.

{{{{{{{{{{{Gil}}}}}}}}}

It is nice to see you here but I'm sorry you are feeling rotten. Hope the antibiotics are kicking in by now.

Glad to hear {{{{{Bandit}}}}} did get to the gym.

 

[kayte]

Oh joy. It's 2 years since I had my last mammogram and pap smear so guess what I am doing next week....

I get my boobs squashed next Tuesday and my other bits looked at on the following Thursday (2 days later). Amazing because I could have got in sooner had I wished (for both things) but wanted to make sure Sir was better before I made the appointments. The good thing is, after all the tests I have had I won't need to have any more for another 2 years!

Sir is doing a shorter dialysis today. Because He is sick He hasn't been eating very much at all, and has only put on a litre (or a kilo in weight) since the last dialysis on Monday. So we decided to do 6 hours instead of the usual 8, especially as He has been dialysing every 2nd day for the last couple of weeks anyway.

I need to catch up on my sleep. I've not been sleeping too well, because first I was sick and now Sir is which means He is restless and I keep waking up (I have my "Sir radar" on especially if He's sick)....oh dear it's certainly a vent thread today!!

{{{{{{{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}}}

Hope you've caught up on the rest you've missed out on and hope that Gil's feeling better as well.

Yes getting the boobs squished and all gets done by me every year. It is just something one does. I think it starts next year the boob squish will only be covered every other year unless one is at risk. The Pap every year.

We all want to know how you are doing and how Gil is sweetie.

 

[Noor]

Oh joy. It's 2 years since I had my last mammogram and pap smear so guess what I am doing next week....

I get my boobs squashed next Tuesday and my other bits looked at on the following Thursday (2 days later). Amazing because I could have got in sooner had I wished (for both things) but wanted to make sure Sir was better before I made the appointments. The good thing is, after all the tests I have had I won't need to have any more for another 2 years!

Sir is doing a shorter dialysis today. Because He is sick He hasn't been eating very much at all, and has only put on a litre (or a kilo in weight) since the last dialysis on Monday. So we decided to do 6 hours instead of the usual 8, especially as He has been dialysing every 2nd day for the last couple of weeks anyway.

I need to catch up on my sleep. I've not been sleeping too well, because first I was sick and now Sir is which means He is restless and I keep waking up (I have my "Sir radar" on especially if He's sick)....oh dear it's certainly a vent thread today!!

I had my first mammogram in maybe 15+ yrs in June. It was a digital one and didn't really hurt or bruise me, I was very impressed. I passed too.

I hope Gil gets well quickly and you get tons of sleep.

 

[Bandit58]

We all want to know how you are doing and how Gil is sweetie.

He's doing a bit better but still coughing up goop and not much appetite. We decided to have a 2 day break from dialysis (yesterday and today) instead of the weekend because again he's only put on a litre. I've got the repeat script filled for the antibiotics (doc did say he'd need it) and bought some probiotic capsules to repopulate the good bacteria in the bowel. Sir hates yoghurt plus it's dairy which is mucus forming.

No speedway tomorrow even if it's fine. Subbie has spoken

As for me, I had a headache for 24 hours yesterday which only eased around 7pm, so I didn't make the pump class at the gym last night. So I went this morning while Sir had a nap - I might need a nap myself this afternoon I slept better last night than I have done lately too.

I hope Gil gets well quickly and you get tons of sleep.

Thanks Noor, we do too!

 

[Bandit58]

Sir has two more days of antibiotics left, He's getting better but it's a slow process Even though it's fine I don't think we will be going to speedway tonight - there's a chance of thunderstorms and the last thing He needs is to get wet.

I still have a niggling tickle in my throat which sees me forever clearing it, although Sir did say that He has a cure....apparently a cock down the throat has wonderful healing powers We did that the other day for the first time in ages, I've been worried that He'd have a coughing fit when He came (He tends to forget to breathe ) but all was well although He did get a bit breathless....

 

[kayte]

Sir has two more days of antibiotics left, He's getting better but it's a slow process Even though it's fine I don't think we will be going to speedway tonight - there's a chance of thunderstorms and the last thing He needs is to get wet.

I still have a niggling tickle in my throat which sees me forever clearing it, although Sir did say that He has a cure....apparently a cock down the throat has wonderful healing powers We did that the other day for the first time in ages, I've been worried that He'd have a coughing fit when He came (He tends to forget to breathe ) but all was well although He did get a bit breathless....

{{{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}

Still smiling at your line in an earlier post of yours.... "Subbie has spoken. " Yes there are times even that is appropriate.

I too have been told that balm has marvelous healing powers.

Glad to hear everything "came" out all right.

I do believe breathlessness at that time is just the way of things.

Hoping "The Subbie has spoken" kept him home again and out of the rain one more time.

Sending Hugs and es to the both of you.

 

[Bandit58]

Sir is finally better but energy levels are still low. Not sure if we will make it to speedway this week either.

He had a massive hypo (low blood sugar) on Thursday and I had to call an ambulance because like a previous occasion it just would not come back up. It did go up slightly but crashed again Thank god for the magic sugar gel which brought Him back quickly - and the apple juice I had in the fridge. He doesn't remember anything of me trying to get Him to eat sweets (he did manage to chew about 8 soft ones but they did jack shit ). I might have to get some of that gel for times like these!

His weight has dropped because He's been ill so we've put it back by a kilo - I already had put it back 1/2 kilo but He saw His renal doc on Monday and another 1/2 kilo drop was ordered. Blood pressure is a bit too high because of excess fluid. He's down to 87.5kg now but I'm prepared for it to have to go back up when His appetite gets back to normal - which it is, I joke that He has a tapeworm that's woken up you should have seen what He ate for dinner, and afterwards!

 

[FurryFury]

*hugs*

Thinking of you both, Bandit and sending you both my best love, most positive thoughts and energy.

*HUG*

FF

 

[Bandit58]

*hugs*

Thinking of you both, Bandit and sending you both my best love, most positive thoughts and energy.

*HUG*

FF

Thank you FF Hugs and good thoughts are always welcome, as it does get difficult sometimes, for both of us

 

[Bandit58]

I am going back to NZ - for a quick 2 day visit to my mum and brother and his family in Christchurch in mid January. That's as long as I can be away between dialysises (is that a word??).

Mum is a bit disappointed that it's not for longer but I told her that it was 2 days or you won't see me at all - and I haven't seen her since Dad's funeral in March 05. I won't have time to see the kids either but maybe I can schedule another visit in a few months' time.

It will be tiring but Sir says I need to see my mum as she's getting older and He feels guilty that we can't travel. I've said that it can't be helped and I will make do with occasional quick trips back, and the kids are adults and can travel to see me instead

 

[catalina_francisco]

Hope things are in the improve for both of you....sometimes a short visit is better as you make sure you make the most of it instead of laying back and then finding you are almost out of time and stilll have lots you want to say and do.

Catalina

 

[kayte]

I am going back to NZ - for a quick 2 day visit to my mum and brother and his family in Christchurch in mid January. That's as long as I can be away between dialysises (is that a word??).

Mum is a bit disappointed that it's not for longer but I told her that it was 2 days or you won't see me at all - and I haven't seen her since Dad's funeral in March 05. I won't have time to see the kids either but maybe I can schedule another visit in a few months' time.

It will be tiring but Sir says I need to see my mum as she's getting older and He feels guilty that we can't travel. I've said that it can't be helped and I will make do with occasional quick trips back, and the kids are adults and can travel to see me instead

{{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}

Hope it was a good trip for you. Thinking about both of you and I keep you both in my prayers.

 

[Bandit58]

{{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}

Hope it was a good trip for you. Thinking about both of you and I keep you both in my prayers.

Haven't been yet kayte, not until 18th January when most of the double and mid week speedway meetings are over. There aren't as many as in previous years though which is good!

It's been hot and very humid the last few days. Luckily we have a portable air conditioner for when Sir is on the machine, it can get very overheated in that room.

Also Sir and I celebrated 4 years of happy marriage yesterday. We had a nice lunch out and He bought me flowers Next month we will be celebrating 7 years of being together. I love that Man

 

[kayte]

Haven't been yet kayte, not until 18th January when most of the double and mid week speedway meetings are over. There aren't as many as in previous years though which is good!

It's been hot and very humid the last few days. Luckily we have a portable air conditioner for when Sir is on the machine, it can get very overheated in that room.

Also Sir and I celebrated 4 years of happy marriage yesterday. We had a nice lunch out and He bought me flowers Next month we will be celebrating 7 years of being together. I love that Man

{{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}
I'm sure it will be a great time in January

Glad to hear you are able to keep that room cool while he is on the machine, We are into the snow season right now. Oh well, it is December.

Happy Anniversary to both of you. I think I remembered on His thread. It is so marvelous the two of you found each other. I smile every time I see a post from either one of you.

 

[FurryFury]

*HUGS* to you both!

Happy Anniversaries!

 

[Bandit58]

I am going back to NZ - for a quick 2 day visit to my mum and brother and his family in Christchurch in mid January. That's as long as I can be away between dialysises (is that a word??).

Mum is a bit disappointed that it's not for longer but I told her that it was 2 days or you won't see me at all - and I haven't seen her since Dad's funeral in March 05. I won't have time to see the kids either but maybe I can schedule another visit in a few months' time.

It will be tiring but Sir says I need to see my mum as she's getting older and He feels guilty that we can't travel. I've said that it can't be helped and I will make do with occasional quick trips back, and the kids are adults and can travel to see me instead

Going through a bit of a rough patch right now. This is a vent thread after all, so I'm gonna vent

My daughter recently got herself a boyfriend and lost her virginity (at 22). The guy is slightly older than her (around 30). All seemed fine and dandy up until the other day, when she rang me when I was getting ready for dialysis - of course I made time to talk to her and it turns out boyfriend has been acting jealous over her friendship with her male workmate and has been behaving like a bit of an ass when he's been drinking. Well not "a bit of" really, more like a total ass She's upset about it as you can imagine and he's promised not to do it again (yes I can see your eyes rolling from here, as mine were).

She's asked to take a time out from the relationship while she sorts her feelings out, he's agreed to that so that's where they are right now. She's also just started taking the contraceptive pill and she's been having some side effects (spotting, discharge, mood swings) and I've told her to go back to the doctor, she may need to change brands. I wonder if she might not have even developed thrush (it sounds suspiciously like it, she says she's a bit itchy and she's probably been having a lot of sex, as you do when you're in a new relationship).

So that's where we're at right now - she's gone shopping today and we're going out later so might be tomorrow before I get any more news.

But what really upset me was her getting upset with me because I'm going to see Mum and my brother in Christchurch and not going up to see her and her brother. I've explained that I can only take a couple of days away and it came down to a choice, and I haven't seen my mum or other family for nearly 6 years, whereas she was here for a visit in July. Sir reckons it's because she's upset and she took it out on me a bit, but it still hurts that she thinks I don't care enough to go and see her.

She's seen what our lives are like, first hand. She knows the state of Sir's health. She knows I am responsible for the dialysis and that He has to have regular treatment, and the time between treatments is a maximumof 2-3 days. I told her, I would love to see you but it's just not possible this time and I will probably be able to take some more time back in NZ in a few more months....and then it will be your turn.

That night I woke up around 3am and couldn't get back to sleep. I got up and made a hot drink but found myself on the couch sobbing under a blanket which is where Sir found me about 15 minutes later. We'd had problems with cannulation that day too which made things worse. Some kisses and cuddles and talking helped, along with a couple of "kiss cones" which relaxed me enough to fall back to sleep snuggled into Sir's back.

I am feeling better now although a bit nervous about tomorrow's cannulation - we might have to start another new venous buttonhole which means using sharps for a few days as I've posted about before.

We had a late night last night (a friend's birthday party which saw us getting home at 1am) and we have speedway today/night, so I think I will now sign off and go back to bed for a while

 

[catalina_francisco]

That night I woke up around 3am and couldn't get back to sleep. I got up and made a hot drink but found myself on the couch sobbing under a blanket which is where Sir found me about 15 minutes later.

Hugs from one mum to another who has been going through similar with an upset daughter this week...bad enough face to face, 1,000 times worse when oceans are between us. Thank the universe we both have the most wonderful PYL's who talk sense and donate their shoulders' to cry on....now if only she would email me the update she promised and has not so far so I know if there is more to worry about or can relax for awhile.

Catalina

 

[Bandit58]

Hugs from one mum to another who has been going through similar with an upset daughter this week...bad enough face to face, 1,000 times worse when oceans are between us. Thank the universe we both have the most wonderful PYL's who talk sense and donate their shoulders' to cry on....now if only she would email me the update she promised and has not so far so I know if there is more to worry about or can relax for awhile.

Catalina

Thank you for the hugs Catalina, and sending some back to you as well

I had a call this morning from daughter, things seem to be going along ok - she's changed pill brands and is feeling a lot better, I spoke to the boyfriend and got his side of the story and it seems daughter's workmate is crossing the line and she needs to set some boundaries now she's in a relationship. I think it will all work out in the end and she seemed a lot happier than when we spoke on Thursday.

She also apologised for upsetting me which has made me feel a lot better and not so guilty that I can't be there in person for her this time. Kids....lol doesn't seem to matter how old they are they still need their mums don't they!

Sir is on dialysis as I type. I used a sharp to start a new buttonhole, missed on the first attempt but got it on second go. Not my fault - the fistula is at an awkward angle not straight up and down and I have to be careful to get it right. He's running the pump a bit slower than usual but we might be able to boost it up in a couple of hours or so.

 

[Noor]

Hugs Bandit!

 

[kayte]

{{{{{Bandit}}}}}}

I'm happy to read things are look like they are headed in the right direction. You were going through some really rough things, and all at once.

Leaving lots of prayers for you and your Sir. (yes Gil, I mean you)

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thank you for the hugs Catalina, and sending some back to you as well

I had a call this morning from daughter, things seem to be going along ok - she's changed pill brands and is feeling a lot better, I spoke to the boyfriend and got his side of the story and it seems daughter's workmate is crossing the line and she needs to set some boundaries now she's in a relationship. I think it will all work out in the end and she seemed a lot happier than when we spoke on Thursday.

She also apologised for upsetting me which has made me feel a lot better and not so guilty that I can't be there in person for her this time. Kids....lol doesn't seem to matter how old they are they still need their mums don't they!

LOL, yes they do. I had a similar call from my daughter this morning so all is good for now.

Sir is on dialysis as I type. I used a sharp to start a new buttonhole, missed on the first attempt but got it on second go. Not my fault - the fistula is at an awkward angle not straight up and down and I have to be careful to get it right. He's running the pump a bit slower than usual but we might be able to boost it up in a couple of hours or so.

I admire you for being there for him always, and taking all this in your stride. I think he is going to miss you sorely, even though you are only going to be gone for a couple of days.

Catalina

 

[marieR19]

*HUUUUGS for Bandit!*

For the last... four months, now?... I've had constant nausea. Every single day, sometimes it's not all that bad but sometimes I can't even drink water without gagging. Been throwing up at least once a week, too.

Had multiple blood tests, x-rays and scans, etc, and now I have to have an endoscopy. Which, okay, I've never had anything like that done before so I'm nervous as it is, but it's gotten to the point where I just want the cause of this found and fixed, whatever has to be done, yunno?

Except the people at the Endoscopy Center are JERKS. I went last week for the procedure and, due to lack of communication and lack of instructions on their part, had to have an IV to get fluids in me before the procedure could be done. I was already mega-nervous, and I really don't do well with needles at all... I originally thought it'd be okay 'cause they'd only have to put the IV in when they needed to give me the numbing/soothing meds, but no, the fluids took roughly 20 minutes.

And then when I got into the procedure room they gave me the numbing meds and *didn't even wait for them to take effect* before trying to shove the whatever-it-was down my throat. ..... And then they act all pissy about it and say they can't do it because I'm too tense. Well no duh!

So I have an appt Wednesday to "discuss my options", which includes endoscopy at the hospital where they'll knock me out completely instead of just numbing/soothing/whatever, or... I'm not sure what else. *sigh*