BBW's and Lovers…are you one?

[BeeLou]

Absolutely makes sense! I'm the same way. I use to have men beg to see it! lol I still like don't believe them and I hate that about me, it negates them and their opinions. But it's about me and how I feel, not meaning to not believe them. But I could and really, STILL, have a hard time. But I'm understanding more and more that the hangups are ours and not theirs….IF they are BBW LOVERS. BUT, the point is is that you too are learning to accept it and their loving it as well. And I still HATE Mine!!! lol

Glad that it made sense..I am the same way I don't believe either...yes you are right it is our hangups not theirs...LOL It is hard to learn to accept and like. Even harder to believe it is liked..lol

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Glad that it made sense..I am the same way I don't believe either...yes you are right it is our hangups not theirs...LOL It is hard to learn to accept and like. Even harder to believe it is liked..lol

So true hon!! I know of groups where they want to see BBW post just their bellies….can you believe that??? haha

 

[BeeLou]

So true hon!! I know of groups where they want to see BBW post just their bellies….can you believe that??? haha

Oh wow..WOW..wow..could not do that..

 

[Lisalit13]

Mmmm BBW horny today...

 

[CanadianM]

Tell me here what you guys think of a big girl's tummy?

• Is it a turn on?

• Do you like it big, round and soft??

• Is your favorite part or not so?

Ok BBW ladies, Now what do you think about yours? Are you totally cool with it because men you know love yours?

If you love big beautiful women, then their tummy is a part of that and just another bit to caress and enjoy...

 

[repeehc]

Sorry to change subject a little

I apologize I have not read every page and every post but I think a lot differently about this issue. To me it is all about the persons personality. You can have a 26 inch or a 62 inch waist and either have a great personality or be a total douche. I love a big set of real tits but if the personality is bad then it doesn't make a difference her cup size. Being a large man, I also know what it is not to be thought of as sexy, but if a lady gets to know a lot of walls come down including a few cloth items. We just all want to liked for who we are not what we aren't.

 

[DarkrSide]

Super Dooper Dark…glad to hear it. I always feel great when I hear someone else speak up and say it. Thanks for commenting.

Well it's true. BBW's are super sexy. I know I posted this in another BBW thread, and it's still true....

 

[DarkrSide]

If you love big beautiful women, then their tummy is a part of that and just another bit to caress and enjoy...

I couldn't agree with you anymore, CanadianM

 

[CanadianM]

Well it's true. BBW's are super sexy. I know I posted this in another BBW thread, and it's still true....

Good one...

 

[DarkrSide]

Good one...

Thanks. I thought a) it's appropriate. b) it's true.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Good one...

LOVE IT!!! hehehe

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Thanks. I thought a) it's appropriate. b) it's true.

Yayyyyyy!!! I always love to hear the truth!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Mmmm BBW horny today...

GET RID of her…I DO NOT LIKE HER! WHERE the HELL IS THE DELETE BUTTON!!! :caning:

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I apologize I have not read every page and every post but I think a lot differently about this issue. To me it is all about the persons personality. You can have a 26 inch or a 62 inch waist and either have a great personality or be a total douche. I love a big set of real tits but if the personality is bad then it doesn't make a difference her cup size. Being a large man, I also know what it is not to be thought of as sexy, but if a lady gets to know a lot of walls come down including a few cloth items. We just all want to liked for who we are not what we aren't.

Great post and thank you.
I think we all like and desire what we like. That's a good thing as we aren't cloned and there are so many options out there.

I take a great risk in my online/offline affairs. I'm unfaithful not by choice, but feel I've been pushed into a corner. So with that risk, I have decided I can either take on every cock there is and get fucked every which way…like a charity pussy. OR, i can pick and choose what I really desire and what turns me on the most.

But, this thread was started basically because MOST 'offline' BBW's do not know they are desired, hot, craved, etc. I am not exaggerating either. Most do not know that men love their bodies, their tits, their tummies, there butts, their attitudes. For so many years BBW's have been the brunt of jokes, bullied, made fun in sitcoms or by men in bars, and slammed for our sizes. Perhaps you can relate as a BHM probably? But in this life, BHM's have been accepted by our culture, I believe, because Hollywood accepts(ed) them---John Candy, John Belushi, John Goodman, Chris Farley, etc. How many women have been stars? Yes, Oprah but she went on a big diet, Queen Latifah and she had to slim down too, Kirstie Alley also got criticized all the time for her weight gain, Camryn Mannheim (where did she go?), but now there is Melissa McCarthy and she's leading the way in movie roles. Yes there are other BBW's that have gotten roles, but how many make it big and stay their size without the pressure from the press? So I guess i'm saying is we do all want to be liked for what we are.

But I also know that what I like, I like and want.

I also feel like I feel validation when a thin man loves me as a big woman. I think that is sick on my part. I don't feel like I deserve a guy-type that I desire. It's all because a number has been done on us, 'larger women'.

 

[DarkrSide]

Yayyyyyy!!! I always love to hear the truth!

Well I speak nothing but the truth, especially when it comes to the praise of BBW's

 

[CanadianM]

Great post and thank you.
I think we all like and desire what we like. That's a good thing as we aren't cloned and there are so many options out there.

I take a great risk in my online/offline affairs. I'm unfaithful not by choice, but feel I've been pushed into a corner. So with that risk, I have decided I can either take on every cock there is and get fucked every which way…like a charity pussy. OR, i can pick and choose what I really desire and what turns me on the most.

But, this thread was started basically because MOST 'offline' BBW's do not know they are desired, hot, craved, etc. I am not exaggerating either. Most do not know that men love their bodies, their tits, their tummies, there butts, their attitudes. For so many years BBW's have been the brunt of jokes, bullied, made fun in sitcoms or by men in bars, and slammed for our sizes. Perhaps you can relate as a BHM probably? But in this life, BHM's have been accepted by our culture, I believe, because Hollywood accepts(ed) them---John Candy, John Belushi, John Goodman, Chris Farley, etc. How many women have been stars? Yes, Oprah but she went on a big diet, Queen Latifah and she had to slim down too, Kirstie Alley also got criticized all the time for her weight gain, Camryn Mannheim (where did she go?), but now there is Melissa McCarthy and she's leading the way in movie roles. Yes there are other BBW's that have gotten roles, but how many make it big and stay their size without the pressure from the press? So I guess i'm saying is we do all want to be liked for what we are.

But I also know that what I like, I like and want.

I also feel like I feel validation when a thin man loves me as a big woman. I think that is sick on my part. I don't feel like I deserve a guy-type that I desire. It's all because a number has been done on us, 'larger women'.

Well said Dani... you are open and honest about your thoughts and feelings and I appreciate that...

 

[repeehc]

Great post and thank you.
I think we all like and desire what we like. That's a good thing as we aren't cloned and there are so many options out there.

I take a great risk in my online/offline affairs. I'm unfaithful not by choice, but feel I've been pushed into a corner. So with that risk, I have decided I can either take on every cock there is and get fucked every which way…like a charity pussy. OR, i can pick and choose what I really desire and what turns me on the most.

But, this thread was started basically because MOST 'offline' BBW's do not know they are desired, hot, craved, etc. I am not exaggerating either. Most do not know that men love their bodies, their tits, their tummies, there butts, their attitudes. For so many years BBW's have been the brunt of jokes, bullied, made fun in sitcoms or by men in bars, and slammed for our sizes. Perhaps you can relate as a BHM probably? But in this life, BHM's have been accepted by our culture, I believe, because Hollywood accepts(ed) them---John Candy, John Belushi, John Goodman, Chris Farley, etc. How many women have been stars? Yes, Oprah but she went on a big diet, Queen Latifah and she had to slim down too, Kirstie Alley also got criticized all the time for her weight gain, Camryn Mannheim (where did she go?), but now there is Melissa McCarthy and she's leading the way in movie roles. Yes there are other BBW's that have gotten roles, but how many make it big and stay their size without the pressure from the press? So I guess i'm saying is we do all want to be liked for what we are.

But I also know that what I like, I like and want.

I also feel like I feel validation when a thin man loves me as a big woman. I think that is sick on my part. I don't feel like I deserve a guy-type that I desire. It's all because a number has been done on us, 'larger women'.

You make some good points but the overweight men you mentioned were all comedians. They first had to make people laugh before they were accepted. I disagree that a overweight man is acceptable but I think he is accepted quicker than an overweight female or as a black person. As a big man I have not been accepted immediately until I have proven my value whether it's in business or socially. Don't get me wrong, I do believe woman have a tougher time being criticized for there weight, especially if they lose then gain it back. Our society has placed a stigma on overweight people no matter what their gender. One thing that women have over men is they control the sex in most relationships. Women on a site like this is accepted quicker no matter what her size if she is willing to flirt and share pictures. While a man isn't accepted as quick unless they have a picture of a six pack stomach.

 

[LondonSnap]

BBW's and Lovers of BBW…

When did you decide you loved or preferred plus size gals?
Are you in the closet still with that preference or desire or are you out with it?

I've always had a preference for the "fuller figure".

Personally, until about 15 years ago when I got online, I had no idea men (or women) loved big gals. NO freaking idea! Boy was I shocked when I discovered it and my friends worked really hard to convince me that I had something they loved.

Media, Hollywood constantly do a number on us. Any other big girls out there can relate to this? Any men out there want to share your first experience deciding that you loved women with curves?

I'd love to hear…
Dani

From my perspective, there are far too many women that are forever chasing the rainbow of the "Hollywood" or "Vogue" version of the "perfect body". Are they ever really happy? Not in my experience.

I find the larger, natural girls to be much happier, confident and self-assured - and hopefully, just my type... Ahem!

 

[CB42DDD]

agrees

Dani

Not only in this but in so many things your voice echos my thoughts ..thank you so very much for the open confident way you express yourself ...you always make me smile along with you or nod my head in agreement your coments stir emotions in all of us


Along the lines of your comment ... One of the things about society in general that bothers me most about us Big n Curvy girls is their acceptance it is fine to mock us openly...i have gotten off an elevator and had grown men openly coment "oh I am not sure I want to get onthere fter her" or the age old and never funny Mooooove over escpecially when there is plenty of room the list goes on and on but the fact if no bystander ever steps up and says something in our defence ...tht is why we are either strong or crushed or a mixxed up combo because we fight our own battles and always have..heck I can tell you of a sad night I actualy was attacked by two guys who when questioned afterwards about hitting a woman said I didnt count I was just a fatty

So thank you again for carving out a place for us
Marie

Great post and thank you.
I think we all like and desire what we like. That's a good thing as we aren't cloned and there are so many options out there.

I take a great risk in my online/offline affairs. I'm unfaithful not by choice, but feel I've been pushed into a corner. So with that risk, I have decided I can either take on every cock there is and get fucked every which way…like a charity pussy. OR, i can pick and choose what I really desire and what turns me on the most.

But, this thread was started basically because MOST 'offline' BBW's do not know they are desired, hot, craved, etc. I am not exaggerating either. Most do not know that men love their bodies, their tits, their tummies, there butts, their attitudes. For so many years BBW's have been the brunt of jokes, bullied, made fun in sitcoms or by men in bars, and slammed for our sizes. Perhaps you can relate as a BHM probably? But in this life, BHM's have been accepted by our culture, I believe, because Hollywood accepts(ed) them---John Candy, John Belushi, John Goodman, Chris Farley, etc. How many women have been stars? Yes, Oprah but she went on a big diet, Queen Latifah and she had to slim down too, Kirstie Alley also got criticized all the time for her weight gain, Camryn Mannheim (where did she go?), but now there is Melissa McCarthy and she's leading the way in movie roles. Yes there are other BBW's that have gotten roles, but how many make it big and stay their size without the pressure from the press? So I guess i'm saying is we do all want to be liked for what we are.

But I also know that what I like, I like and want.

I also feel like I feel validation when a thin man loves me as a big woman. I think that is sick on my part. I don't feel like I deserve a guy-type that I desire. It's all because a number has been done on us, 'larger women'.

 

[snoopydaddy59]

There is nothing more seductive than a thick curvy girl!!! Beautiful, Voluptuous, and Sexy as Hell !!!!!!!!!

 

[waldo0321]

Bbw Ladies are the sexiest. Love all those curves. And so very passionate

 

[blackhillsbbw]

You make some good points but the overweight men you mentioned were all comedians. They first had to make people laugh before they were accepted. I disagree that a overweight man is acceptable but I think he is accepted quicker than an overweight female or as a black person. As a big man I have not been accepted immediately until I have proven my value whether it's in business or socially. Don't get me wrong, I do believe woman have a tougher time being criticized for there weight, especially if they lose then gain it back. Our society has placed a stigma on overweight people no matter what their gender. One thing that women have over men is they control the sex in most relationships. Women on a site like this is accepted quicker no matter what her size if she is willing to flirt and share pictures. While a man isn't accepted as quick unless they have a picture of a six pack stomach.

Well said. You are right and caused me to think. They were comedians, but not all of them. If Hollywood validates them, they're usually accepted. But the fact about what you said about women controlling the sex regardless of her size. That is true and if we, as BBW are willing to put out, maybe it doesn't matter about our full figures, guys will lap it up. I'm not sure how to feel about that. In someways that would say that guys will tell you anything you want to hear as long as he gets the goods. And that is probably somewhat true because men do have that hunter, sex crazed side of him (i love that about me!), so they don't care maybe who they get it from. So then I, and other females, need to discern about this in men which I feel I do quite well.

I almost feel as though I can be more accepting of men lying about loving my size to get what he wants, versus lying to get my friendship. Does that make sense? I met a guy here really early on. I THOUGHT we were friends and chatted a great deal here even though I was clear that I did not like PM's to pull me aside. I trusted him far more than I should have I guess, because he felt like I didn't give him back what he was giving me. I didn't ask for anything from him. But because of that he dumped me completely. Dumped might not be the right word, but I'm loyal to friends…very little will make me dump them as friends IF I CHOOSE to let them be a friend. He just threw it away. So…my debate within my self is maybe I can tolerate a guy giving me 'a line' to get in my panties even if it's a lie, more than a guy who pretends to be my friend. It's past midnight, i'm beginning to wonder if this makes sense at all! loll

Great comments tho, thanks for posting. I prefer to think about things more than anything else!
Thanks!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Well said Dani... you are open and honest about your thoughts and feelings and I appreciate that...

Is there any other way to be hon? Not for me. I probably am too honest here and outspoken but why be something I am not? I'm just glad you enjoy it!!

Well I speak nothing but the truth, especially when it comes to the praise of BBW's

I'll always appreciate that.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I've always had a preference for the "fuller figure".



From my perspective, there are far too many women that are forever chasing the rainbow of the "Hollywood" or "Vogue" version of the "perfect body". Are they ever really happy? Not in my experience.

I find the larger, natural girls to be much happier, confident and self-assured - and hopefully, just my type... Ahem!

haha, AMEN to that AHEM!!!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Dani

Not only in this but in so many things your voice echos my thoughts ..thank you so very much for the open confident way you express yourself ...you always make me smile along with you or nod my head in agreement your coments stir emotions in all of us


Along the lines of your comment ... One of the things about society in general that bothers me most about us Big n Curvy girls is their acceptance it is fine to mock us openly...i have gotten off an elevator and had grown men openly coment "oh I am not sure I want to get onthere fter her" or the age old and never funny Mooooove over escpecially when there is plenty of room the list goes on and on but the fact if no bystander ever steps up and says something in our defence ...tht is why we are either strong or crushed or a mixxed up combo because we fight our own battles and always have..heck I can tell you of a sad night I actualy was attacked by two guys who when questioned afterwards about hitting a woman said I didnt count I was just a fatty

So thank you again for carving out a place for us
Marie

Wow Marie, thank you so much and you are so welcome! I am so sorry for those things and I know you don't want pity. That is what makes us stronger…but it's that crap that you shared that I'm talking about.

I know people are cruel in this world, SHIT look at all the children hurt, molested, and elderly …oh the list is endless. But truly, with all the talk about RUBENSQUE women being so accepted, preferred, desired in medieval days…how did we go so stray to hear crap from others (all ages, all genders) and FEW willing to jump to the defense of those? I do not get it.

I remember a friend of mine (I might have referred to him in another post) who's name is Rich who left his wife because she was not big. That's a condensed version, but basically that was why. But then he has told me that he sits around watching sports on tv with his cronies and they make a crack about a sizable woman and he won't say a word!!! Isn't there something wrong in this or is it just me??? Like a double standard, or talking out of both sides of him mouth?? I love the guy dearly, but it's crazy mixed up. Why not defend big women to those friends of his? Anyway…I digress.

15 years ago there were Yahoo BBW Chat rooms but there was not the acceptance that there is today…. I see that it's growing and I'm thrilled about that.

But with all this said…
I still know that with all the confidence that I do have and my ability to be myself in the bedroom, it's ME that needs to ACCEPT me. I have a huge mental block that will not allow me to see in myself what many of my men friends see.

Wow, these thoughts were all over the place tonight! I've not been here in over a week and I'm pretty tired. But, all these comments always thrill me because I above all else love to be made to think! You all thought I was going to say 'cum' weren't you….NOPE wrong….THINK!!!