BBW's and Lovers…are you one?

[blackhillsbbw]

Bbw Ladies are the sexiest. Love all those curves. And so very passionate

OH so passionate….baby, you got that right….with a lot of stamina to keep on going!

 

[CanadianM]

Dani

Not only in this but in so many things your voice echos my thoughts ..thank you so very much for the open confident way you express yourself ...you always make me smile along with you or nod my head in agreement your coments stir emotions in all of us


Along the lines of your comment ... One of the things about society in general that bothers me most about us Big n Curvy girls is their acceptance it is fine to mock us openly...i have gotten off an elevator and had grown men openly coment "oh I am not sure I want to get onthere fter her" or the age old and never funny Mooooove over escpecially when there is plenty of room the list goes on and on but the fact if no bystander ever steps up and says something in our defence ...tht is why we are either strong or crushed or a mixxed up combo because we fight our own battles and always have..heck I can tell you of a sad night I actualy was attacked by two guys who when questioned afterwards about hitting a woman said I didnt count I was just a fatty

So thank you again for carving out a place for us
Marie

Any man that would say or do things like that is not really a man. And I am sure there are those of us who would say something or intervene, and it is unfortunate you have not encountered any...

 

[CanadianM]

Wow Marie, thank you so much and you are so welcome! I am so sorry for those things and I know you don't want pity. That is what makes us stronger…but it's that crap that you shared that I'm talking about.

I know people are cruel in this world, SHIT look at all the children hurt, molested, and elderly …oh the list is endless. But truly, with all the talk about RUBENSQUE women being so accepted, preferred, desired in medieval days…how did we go so stray to hear crap from others (all ages, all genders) and FEW willing to jump to the defense of those? I do not get it.

I remember a friend of mine (I might have referred to him in another post) who's name is Rich who left his wife because she was not big. That's a condensed version, but basically that was why. But then he has told me that he sits around watching sports on tv with his cronies and they make a crack about a sizable woman and he won't say a word!!! Isn't there something wrong in this or is it just me??? Like a double standard, or talking out of both sides of him mouth?? I love the guy dearly, but it's crazy mixed up. Why not defend big women to those friends of his? Anyway…I digress.

15 years ago there were Yahoo BBW Chat rooms but there was not the acceptance that there is today…. I see that it's growing and I'm thrilled about that.

But with all this said…
I still know that with all the confidence that I do have and my ability to be myself in the bedroom, it's ME that needs to ACCEPT me. I have a huge mental block that will not allow me to see in myself what many of my men friends see.

Wow, these thoughts were all over the place tonight! I've not been here in over a week and I'm pretty tired. But, all these comments always thrill me because I above all else love to be made to think! You all thought I was going to say 'cum' weren't you….NOPE wrong….THINK!!!

As I have said before Dani... you speak your mind and that is important.. and using your mind is the most important...

 

[CanadianM]

I saw this and thought it might be worthwhile to post on this thread...

 

[nervousandshy]

I just signed up to reply to this thread. I'm not a bbw. I hate that term. I'm a woman who is overweight. I wasn't always and I'm lucky my partner has always made me feel cherished and sexy ( when we met I was not overweight, and very sexually confident, and quite gratingly assured of my own attractiveness ) I also get attention from elsewhere sometimes but I find I don't know how to handle it now I am not, in my eyes, attractive. In fact, it makes me as scared as a kitten in a room of growling dogs.

I really admire women who feel comfortable in these bodies. I'm fine with curvy, when I get back to curvy I'll strut my stuff proudly. I am not fine with beyond that. So much so I'm looking into surgery. ( I already to the fasting thing, have low carbed etc etc.)

I think the ladies here look lovely, the op's avatar is very pretty.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Any man that would say or do things like that is not really a man. And I am sure there are those of us who would say something or intervene, and it is unfortunate you have not encountered any...

Yes, it would be nice if some guys were intervene, but apparently it doesn't happen very often.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

As I have said before Dani... you speak your mind and that is important.. and using your mind is the most important...

I'm not shy! I might be unpopular sometimes in my thinking, but I share to stimulate conversation and hope for discussion! Thanks hon!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I saw this and thought it might be worthwhile to post on this thread...

Nice quote…and so true!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I just signed up to reply to this thread. I'm not a bbw. I hate that term. I'm a woman who is overweight. I wasn't always and I'm lucky my partner has always made me feel cherished and sexy ( when we met I was not overweight, and very sexually confident, and quite gratingly assured of my own attractiveness ) I also get attention from elsewhere sometimes but I find I don't know how to handle it now I am not, in my eyes, attractive. In fact, it makes me as scared as a kitten in a room of growling dogs.

I really admire women who feel comfortable in these bodies. I'm fine with curvy, when I get back to curvy I'll strut my stuff proudly. I am not fine with beyond that. So much so I'm looking into surgery. ( I already to the fasting thing, have low carbed etc etc.)

I think the ladies here look lovely, the op's avatar is very pretty.

Thanks for posting…I appreciate this topic from all angles.
I've said it all here…I can relate to what you shared.
I appreciate you not like the term "BBW" and I can tell you hate being the size you are. Perhaps you'd admit that you have a bias towards your size and the labeling?

You have a partner and so perhaps you don't need the label of BBW. I do. I know there are men out there that could care less about the size of a woman. There are also men out there that only want the Sport's Illustrated Swimsuit body. Because of my insecurities with my size, i want the man to know what he's getting…a big gal.

I could say more, but I guess i'm kind of tired right now. I don't think i'll make much sense. lol Thanks for the compliment.

 

[RjThoughts]

For as long as I can remember I've been attracted to women with fierce curves, as one of my college roommates would tell us when asked to describe her body-shape. I've been married to one for over 29 years, one that knows of my "dog tongue hanging" lust for other curvaceous women. To me, though, a woman is not defined by her body, but by her attitude. Yes, the shape and size will get my attention, but if she's not confident or is self-loathing, it's a no-go with the friendship.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

For as long as I can remember I've been attracted to women with fierce curves, as one of my college roommates would tell us when asked to describe her body-shape. I've been married to one for over 29 years, one that knows of my "dog tongue hanging" lust for other curvaceous women. To me, though, a woman is not defined by her body, but by her attitude. Yes, the shape and size will get my attention, but if she's not confident or is self-loathing, it's a no-go with the friendship.

Yes, I know that self-confident affects everything really. It should, or hopefully should seep out of our pores. Self-loathing…, hmmm….that's a toughy. I'm quite sure that many can be self-loathing but they are very good at keeping it hidden from others. Lack in confidence however I think would be harder to hide.

I also believe that one can be an anomaly with both sides…confidence and lack there of. I am an anomaly I think. I love myself in the bedroom with men that love my body and curves…there is no stopping me. I adore sex and cock and men loving all my nooks and crannies. And, I can put myself totally into it and I've had a number of admirers and lovers because of that. But deep down inside, I don't get what men see. Pretty pure and simple. BUT…it does not stop me from being a sexual vixen in bed!

Thanks for sharing here!!

 

[RjThoughts]

Yes, I know that self-confident affects everything really. It should, or hopefully should seep out of our pores. Self-loathing…, hmmm….that's a toughy. I'm quite sure that many can be self-loathing but they are very good at keeping it hidden from others. Lack in confidence however I think would be harder to hide.

I also believe that one can be an anomaly with both sides…confidence and lack there of. I am an anomaly I think. I love myself in the bedroom with men that love my body and curves…there is no stopping me. I adore sex and cock and men loving all my nooks and crannies. And, I can put myself totally into it and I've had a number of admirers and lovers because of that. But deep down inside, I don't get what men see. Pretty pure and simple. BUT…it does not stop me from being a sexual vixen in bed!

Thanks for sharing here!!

Some women are good at hiding self-loathing, especially at work, but it's other women that have directed me to it. Sometimes I can be a typical male: Clueless when it comes to women LOL

Confidence can be more of an aphrodisiac than chocolate and oyster, combined!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Some women are good at hiding self-loathing, especially at work, but it's other women that have directed me to it. Sometimes I can be a typical male: Clueless when it comes to women LOL

Confidence can be more of an aphrodisiac than chocolate and oyster, combined!

Yes, I am learning that…

 

[bullus]

BBW lover here. Always have been!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

BBW lover here. Always have been!

Can you tell us when you first knew that about yourself? It's not that common in adolescence I don't think.

 

[bullus]

Can you tell us when you first knew that about yourself? It's not that common in adolescence I don't think.

I got made fun of in school for dating bigger girls. I played football and my friends always dated cheerleaders and bone thin girls; I tried that too a couple times. Obviously it's the woman herself and not the size of her body...but I just had better luck personality-wise with thicker and bigger girls. My wife is a big girl.

Personally, I love the softness of a big girl. I love to cuddle and not feel bone. No offense to thin women...this site prooves that there are some very beautiful thin women. It's just my preference, I'm not prejudice against thin.

 

[RjThoughts]

Yes, I am learning that…

Great!!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I got made fun of in school for dating bigger girls. I played football and my friends always dated cheerleaders and bone thin girls; I tried that too a couple times. Obviously it's the woman herself and not the size of her body...but I just had better luck personality-wise with thicker and bigger girls. My wife is a big girl.

Personally, I love the softness of a big girl. I love to cuddle and not feel bone. No offense to thin women...this site prooves that there are some very beautiful thin women. It's just my preference, I'm not prejudice against thin.

Hah! You seem more concerned here about saving your bacon about liking thin girls than presenting your case for loving big girls! You can relax, I don't believe too many thin girls read this. Besides, I wish I was thin too. Which ever case, Thx for posting.

 

[CanadianM]

Saw this and I thought of you Dani..

 

[Spider1]

I've been a Big Girl fan since my pre-teens (sorry I can't share the story on Lit). I've loved women of all shapes and sizes but give me thick soft thighs, big boobs, a bountiful, fat spankable ass, a cute belly and soft arms. I'm a proud Big Girl lover.

 

[DanD86]

I have been watching videos of dominant bbw recently, and it has become consuming!

 

[austinwhacks]

Videos

I'd like to see some of those.


Can you post some links, Dan?

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I'd like to see some of those.


Can you post some links, Dan?

Maybe ask that person personally, as theyve not posted here before I don't think.

 

[blackhillsbbw]

I've been a Big Girl fan since my pre-teens (sorry I can't share the story on Lit). I've loved women of all shapes and sizes but give me thick soft thighs, big boobs, a bountiful, fat spankable ass, a cute belly and soft arms. I'm a proud Big Girl lover.

Pre-teens even, wow. I'm glad you are spider!

 

[blackhillsbbw]

Saw this and I thought of you Dani..

Yes!! I love that one too! Thx sweetie!