cymbidia
unrepentant pervert
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In my life and my mind and my heart and body and soul, "sex" is most assuredly not limited to that which will produce an orgasm by rubbing any of the primary sex organs, e.g., oral sex, intercourse, anal sex, hand jobs, etc.P. B. Walker said:I think some people are being too broad by saying sex goes with BDSM. What I mean by that is that BDSM is very broad and includes many different activities. Some of these activites go naturally with sex. By sex I mean, oral sex, intercourse, anal sex, handjobs, etc... basically... someone is having an orgasm. I know that's pretty broad, but that's just how I think about sex.
In my life, a flogging is sex.
In my life, trimming those manly fingernails is tinged with sexuality.
In my life, D/s involves sex because it is sex.
In my life, when i am bound tightly, whether or not i am then going to get fucked in the ass, i am already in a sexual suitation; in essence, i am already having sex because to me, bondage is a facet of my sexuality.
I understand that you draw lines, PWB, and you, too, Rubes, between BDSM play and overtly sexual touching. On one side is (usually) non-sex and on the other side is sex.
Those lines are different in my world.
Can you see that?
For many of us who claim BDSM sexuality at our core, as the defining concept of who we are as sexual people, there is no difference between sex and BDSM. To many of us, sex = BDSM = sex and "getting fucked" often doesn't have much at all to do with penetration.