Man ism that the truth. I find myself mildly bi curious. Not interested in the man at all only the sex. But am absolutely terrified of being found out.
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Man ism that the truth. I find myself mildly bi curious. Not interested in the man at all only the sex. But am absolutely terrified of being found out.
mtsnowrider
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Seems to be a lot of us in this situation.
Lots and lots and still more.
We need to get a grant from a foundation to fund an in-person meeting at a great site in the countryside. I'd certainly like to meet everyone who posts here. Thanks to all.
Until that grant gets approved, how about if everyone says where they're from and whether they travel without they're wives. I'm in south central PA. I don't travel.
Texas, small town 65 miles south of Dallas on I35.
NE Atlanta, Ga suburbs. I can travel around north Georgia.
This thread is totally me
40s, married bi curious / bi guy. I’ve had a few experiences over the years, mostly when I was younger, but as I age, I crave cock more and more. I chat online but find the conversation unfulfilling. There never seems to be a place to meet like minded, sane guys to have a good time with. I’ve gone to a few make masseuses and that was amazing. Also love to phone chat with other older, married guys.
40s, married bi curious / bi guy. I’ve had a few experiences over the years, mostly when I was younger, but as I age, I crave cock more and more. I chat online but find the conversation unfulfilling. There never seems to be a place to meet like minded, sane guys to have a good time with. I’ve gone to a few make masseuses and that was amazing. Also love to phone chat with other older, married guys.
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65 bi married , some oral experiences 10 years ago but too worried about being caught.
Ontario , Canada
Ontario , Canada
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There are still some safe local parks too
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For those of us for whom the anonymous park encounter is not an appealing option there ought to be a recognizable system, like - red tee shirt at the gym on Wednesday or rear tables at Starbucks at 4pm on Thursdays. It's interesting to chat here but geography is a bit of a problem
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I like those ideas - it should be easier to connect. So many married men want it
I have a group on Kik for just that. Married bi and curious men
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Sign me up for this
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I recently accepted this about myself after refusing to indulge in my teen years but I am now married and must keep this quiet. Lit is my only source of relief other than my writing and I feel guilty that I do this because it's not fair to my husband.
As I get older my bi side seems to get stronger and while I am still deeply attracted to female beauty in all its forms I fond that I am drawn to other mature men in order to explore these thoughts. My wife who I love very much) is not interested in matters sexual now...
Do these thoughts seem strange?
Do these thoughts seem strange?
I don't think so as I got older my urge to have sex with men really kicked in I'd say about my late 30's when my ex started me crossdressing
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I think this happens to many mid life married guys when their wives biological urges wane. I think many naturally try to find a female replacement/suppliment and later realize over time that the men are more interested but many women aren't as much. Over time we get used to the idea. I've had a few experiences and once you get over the stigma they can be exciting and rewarding. I am surprised and frustrated by how many men respond on the bulletin board that they have the urge but cannot take action on any level.
I think this happens to many mid life married guys when their wives biological urges wane. I think many naturally try to find a female replacement/suppliment and later realize over time that the men are more interested but many women aren't as much. Over time we get used to the idea. I've had a few experiences and once you get over the stigma they can be exciting and rewarding. I am surprised and frustrated by how many men respond on the bulletin board that they have the urge but cannot take action on any level.
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I do love an organized mind. Let me know when you come up with a system and a meeting place.
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I have read this with great interest. While thinking of a meeting place I think a good idea would be a place like McDonald’s that’s commonplace in most small towns across America.
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Interesting idea, I would love this kind of gathering place.
When I was in my mid-40's and involuntarily celibate due to marital woes I became extremely frustrated and bitter about being forced to return to the sexual outlet of my adolescence - and my mind began to wander. I had a few encounters with some secretaries at the office - all married, horny and extremely jealous - but that was just way too dangerous. I have always been very oral but my wife made sure that if there were any pleasures I enjoyed, she did her best to make sure I wouldn't have them.
As my mind wandered, the thought that there had to be many other guys in my situation had me considering something I never allowed myself to consider before - would I be willing to discreetly get together with another guy and take care of each others needs? I stopped avoiding the gay porn sites and eventually accepted the fact that the idea of exchanging oral sex with another guy under circumstances that were safe and discreet turned me on.
After a few months of contemplating the idea I realized that I could either do something to make it happen or I could spend the rest of my life fantasizing about what it was like. Long story short, I put a very honest post on CL explaining that I had no experience with this type of thing and that I was looking to find another married guy who could give me the opportunity to trade oral sex with each other.
Long story short, I got lucky. After weeding out scores of responses that were clearly not at all what I was looking for or would be comfortable meeting, I found one guy who seemed perfect. He had been in my situation several months earlier and understood how difficult it was to transform such a taboo fantasy into a reality.
A few days later I found myself knocking on a stranger's door. As I heard the latch being unlatched I knew it would be immediately followed by the doorknob turning that the door would then open and for the first time someone would see me for the first time as a man who wanted to suck another man's dick.
After 30 minutes of openly discussing our deeply held shared secret with each other. He asked if I was ready to try it. I was, If anyone is interested in the details of how everything unfolded - ask and I'll give you the details. Suffice to say, it was intense and I left with no regrets.
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