Bi Married and closeted

[MountainCuck]

Sounds like you had a great experience oralgami, if only I could be so lucky

 

[cuck72]

I think this happens to many mid life married guys when their wives biological urges wane. I think many naturally try to find a female replacement/suppliment and later realize over time that the men are more interested but many women aren't as much. Over time we get used to the idea. I've had a few experiences and once you get over the stigma they can be exciting and rewarding. I am surprised and frustrated by how many men respond on the bulletin board that they have the urge but cannot take action on any level.

I'm one of those guys, a cock sucking wannabe. First I worry about meeting up with a stranger, I think that would be hard because of not knowing anything about his sex life. Thinking the usual, If he's a clean healthy guy, if he's disease free. I masturbate my old daddy dick a lot thinking of guys I know, and wanting to suck them off. But like they say, the fantasy is not the real thing. I guess you can say, just take the time to get and know the stranger. But wouldn't that be tough too, with you both knowing you're there because you want to suck cock. Maybe it would be safer with me, because being an older guy 60's I'd be looking for an older guy, so you would think their cleaner. That's just my guess. Plus I don't like the idea of cheating on my wife of over 40 years.

 

[klippert]

I'm one of those guys, a cock sucking wannabe. First I worry about meeting up with a stranger, I think that would be hard because of not knowing anything about his sex life. Thinking the usual, If he's a clean healthy guy, if he's disease free. I masturbate my old daddy dick a lot thinking of guys I know, and wanting to suck them off. But like they say, the fantasy is not the real thing. I guess you can say, just take the time to get and know the stranger. But wouldn't that be tough too, with you both knowing you're there because you want to suck cock. Maybe it would be safer with me, because being an older guy 60's I'd be looking for an older guy, so you would think their cleaner. That's just my guess. Plus I don't like the idea of cheating on my wife of over 40 years.[/QUOTE]

that is the key...conscience. What I believe everyone is looking for 'is' the perfect conditions. as we fantasize...we want the guy who is our mirror opposite.
the guy that NO ONE would even suggest they, you, we, me would be interested in homosexual activity
That guy you go play golf with, or go fishing or hunting with. No one suspects that behind the 14th where the wood obscures any view... where you or he takes his cock our for a quick oral treat...

 

[carln3346]

I'm one of those guys, a cock sucking wannabe. First I worry about meeting up with a stranger, I think that would be hard because of not knowing anything about his sex life. Thinking the usual, If he's a clean healthy guy, if he's disease free. I masturbate my old daddy dick a lot thinking of guys I know, and wanting to suck them off. But like they say, the fantasy is not the real thing. I guess you can say, just take the time to get and know the stranger. But wouldn't that be tough too, with you both knowing you're there because you want to suck cock. Maybe it would be safer with me, because being an older guy 60's I'd be looking for an older guy, so you would think their cleaner. That's just my guess. Plus I don't like the idea of cheating on my wife of over 40 years.[/QUOTE]

that is the key...conscience. What I believe everyone is looking for 'is' the perfect conditions. as we fantasize...we want the guy who is our mirror opposite.
the guy that NO ONE would even suggest they, you, we, me would be interested in homosexual activity
That guy you go play golf with, or go fishing or hunting with. No one suspects that behind the 14th where the wood obscures any view... where you or he takes his cock our for a quick oral treat...

I felt guilty and ashamed after I did it the first time. But, I realized it didn't change my relationship with my wife at all. We (the men) were experiencing something a husband and wife cannot. After about 2 weeks the negative feelings subsided, and I wanted to experience the thrill again. Luckily, so did the other man.

 

[Samsacks]

When I had a mistress, I felt guilty because she wanted the attention of a wife. With the men I've played with, it's all sex and no regret.

 

[carln3346]

When I had a mistress, I felt guilty because she wanted the attention of a wife. With the men I've played with, it's all sex and no regret.

It can be a difficult emotional adjustment at first

 

[jackbird]

I think this happens to many mid life married guys when their wives biological urges wane. I think many naturally try to find a female replacement/suppliment and later realize over time that the men are more interested but many women aren't as much. Over time we get used to the idea. I've had a few experiences and once you get over the stigma they can be exciting and rewarding. I am surprised and frustrated by how many men respond on the bulletin board that they have the urge but cannot take action on any level.

Yes been there done that. My wife's biological urges passed with menopause. I am in my 60's and growing up was taught gay sex was not right. I was having gay sex in my teens loved it but with the stigma felt guilty after each encounter. After I got married in 1989 I stop having sex with guys but struggled with wanting to suck. Stopped having sex with the wife 10 years ago. About 15 years ago I was working nights and with the exposition of the internet discovered gay porn. I would get naked surf porn while masturbating slowly. Then I discovered yahoo messenger when they had all the chat rooms. I would go into the bi or gay rooms. I started chatting with a guy in his 60's, I was in my 50's. We started camming all new to me. He was retired and lost his wife a few years before we chatted. I went to his place he gave me the best blow job. We became oral lovers. He had a hot uncut cock I enjoyed a lot. He was shaven and had a hot set of hanging balls I could not get enough of. He died in his 70's and I miss him. I been looking for a lover I really want to be fucked as I never had anal yet still looking for a steady.

 

[ComfortablyBi]

After 30 minutes of openly discussing our deeply held shared secret with each other. He asked if I was ready to try it. I was, If anyone is interested in the details of how everything unfolded - ask and I'll give you the details. Suffice to say, it was intense and I left with no regrets.

I for one would love to hear the details. For me the first few minutes of a new meeting, the nervous introduction, tentative handshake, the qualifying questions, the decision to move forward and the stripping off of clothes can be the hottest part of meeting up with a new partner.

 

[Sigmund7]

I'm not at all forward in terms of meeting either women or men and I share the feeling that being with a woman other than my wife would be too fat across the line. I would probably be a pushover for any guy who made an advance, however.

 

[Writer_FM]

I think there's a lack of bi men in pop culture. Think how many women have.
L Word
Orange is the New Black
Everything Kristen Stewart has made since Twilight
Stumptown
Gotham
Grey's Anatomy

And on and on. More every season. But where are the bi men. And how many of the ones on TV and film now are caricatures that make us want to hide rather than come out.

 

[CastillianKnight]

I had experiences with men before I was married and some of them were really good.

I miss having a special friend to meet every now and them.

 

[sexfan23]

I for one would love to hear the details. For me the first few minutes of a new meeting, the nervous introduction, tentative handshake, the qualifying questions, the decision to move forward and the stripping off of clothes can be the hottest part of meeting up with a new partner.

Agreed. I'd like to hear the details as well, especially about the initial contact.

 

[badonkadoku]

I for one would love to hear the details. For me the first few minutes of a new meeting, the nervous introduction, tentative handshake, the qualifying questions, the decision to move forward and the stripping off of clothes can be the hottest part of meeting up with a new partner.

Agreed. I'd like to hear the details as well, especially about the initial contact.

Count me in, too -- I think we have a quorum!

 

[2wayroad]

I think there's a lack of bi men in pop culture. Think how many women have.
L Word
Orange is the New Black
Everything Kristen Stewart has made since Twilight
Stumptown
Gotham
Grey's Anatomy

And on and on. More every season. But where are the bi men. And how many of the ones on TV and film now are caricatures that make us want to hide rather than come out.

Because with many men (and a lot of women) a bi man might as well be gay. Or he’s totally and just not coming to terms with it. One experience-gay. Likes to get sucked off-gay. Like to suck cock-more gay.

As far as stigma goes, I am clear when messaging someone to meet or meeting in person that I am there to suck cock. We both know what we want, so no real need for small talk. It seems to alleviate a lot of awkwardness. I no longer have any shame about it. Though many I have sucked off want to split ways as soon as they cum, almost as if they are guilty or shameful about it.

 

[gk6h]

Nice to know I am not a lone...My wife said she always knew when she caught me watching gay porn and said just waiting for you to admit it...if anyone ever wants to chat feel free...love the thread...

 

[carln3346]

Nice to know I am not a lone...My wife said she always knew when she caught me watching gay porn and said just waiting for you to admit it...if anyone ever wants to chat feel free...love the thread...

No, you're not alone by a long shot

 

[CuriousGuyVa]

When I was in my mid-40's and involuntarily celibate due to marital woes I became extremely frustrated and bitter about being forced to return to the sexual outlet of my adolescence - and my mind began to wander. I had a few encounters with some secretaries at the office - all married, horny and extremely jealous - but that was just way too dangerous. I have always been very oral but my wife made sure that if there were any pleasures I enjoyed, she did her best to make sure I wouldn't have them.

As my mind wandered, the thought that there had to be many other guys in my situation had me considering something I never allowed myself to consider before - would I be willing to discreetly get together with another guy and take care of each others needs? I stopped avoiding the gay porn sites and eventually accepted the fact that the idea of exchanging oral sex with another guy under circumstances that were safe and discreet turned me on.

After a few months of contemplating the idea I realized that I could either do something to make it happen or I could spend the rest of my life fantasizing about what it was like. Long story short, I put a very honest post on CL explaining that I had no experience with this type of thing and that I was looking to find another married guy who could give me the opportunity to trade oral sex with each other.

Long story short, I got lucky. After weeding out scores of responses that were clearly not at all what I was looking for or would be comfortable meeting, I found one guy who seemed perfect. He had been in my situation several months earlier and understood how difficult it was to transform such a taboo fantasy into a reality.

A few days later I found myself knocking on a stranger's door. As I heard the latch being unlatched I knew it would be immediately followed by the doorknob turning that the door would then open and for the first time someone would see me for the first time as a man who wanted to suck another man's dick.

After 30 minutes of openly discussing our deeply held shared secret with each other. He asked if I was ready to try it. I was, If anyone is interested in the details of how everything unfolded - ask and I'll give you the details. Suffice to say, it was intense and I left with no regrets.

Nice story, was it a one time thing with him?

 

[Curious1969paul]

This is a great topic and thread.
I never even considered myself bi until I broke up with my girlfriend and was invited over to a couples house that we’re friends of hers. Ok she broke up with me, and the couple were more acquaintances of hers than good friends. When we were dating she had warned me they were into swinging and she just tolerated them because of so many mutual friends.
Anyway, this couple invites me over, we have a few drinks and talk about my ex and how they know plenty of other women they could hook me up with. After a bit one thing leads to another and the wife is on her knees in front of me giving me a blow job. The husband is telling me how he likes watching his wife in action. Before long he is fucking her doggie style while she’s blowing me. At this point he starts telling me how he’d like to fuck my ex and he’s pretty sure they could get her involved and we both could fuck my ex one night. That thought really got me turned on and we all came and called it a night.
A few days later I was invited over again. This time the wife is giving us both blow jobs as we sat side by side on the couch. A lot of talking was going on about my ex and the best way to get her over and involved. The wife also wanted some action with my ex and became pretty descriptive about what she would like to do with her.
I’m not exactly sure how it happened but she talked me into kissing her while she was giving her husband a blow job. Before I knew it she was holding his dick telling me to suck it and if I did she would make sure next time my ex was here and we’d all party together. I needed a little more convincing but eventually I did suck his dick and the three of us had an all out sex fest.
I had pretty mixed emotions that night but ended up going back every time they called so deep down I was ok with it.

 

[Pines]

This is a great topic and thread.
I never even considered myself bi until I broke up with my girlfriend and was invited over to a couples house that we’re friends of hers. Ok she broke up with me, and the couple were more acquaintances of hers than good friends. When we were dating she had warned me they were into swinging and she just tolerated them because of so many mutual friends.
Anyway, this couple invites me over, we have a few drinks and talk about my ex and how they know plenty of other women they could hook me up with. After a bit one thing leads to another and the wife is on her knees in front of me giving me a blow job. The husband is telling me how he likes watching his wife in action. Before long he is fucking her doggie style while she’s blowing me. At this point he starts telling me how he’d like to fuck my ex and he’s pretty sure they could get her involved and we both could fuck my ex one night. That thought really got me turned on and we all came and called it a night.
A few days later I was invited over again. This time the wife is giving us both blow jobs as we sat side by side on the couch. A lot of talking was going on about my ex and the best way to get her over and involved. The wife also wanted some action with my ex and became pretty descriptive about what she would like to do with her.
I’m not exactly sure how it happened but she talked me into kissing her while she was giving her husband a blow job. Before I knew it she was holding his dick telling me to suck it and if I did she would make sure next time my ex was here and we’d all party together. I needed a little more convincing but eventually I did suck his dick and the three of us had an all out sex fest.
I had pretty mixed emotions that night but ended up going back every time they called so deep down I was ok with it.

I really enjoy hearing about your experience with them. I have several friends who are couples that I would love getting an invite from.

 

[Curious1969paul]

So a couple of people have asked what happened next.

Actually I ended up seeing them regularly for a few months until I started dating a woman they introduced me to.

He never did suck my cock. It wasn’t his thing. He got off on being the dominant one in charge with his wife second in charge.
By our 3rd date he was sitting on the couch with myself and his wife kneeling in front of him. She was showing pictures of my ex to her husband (I could see the pics too) and telling him to imagine it was my ex giving him a blow job while actually it was me sucking him off. She was pretty good at narrating and had us both pretty turned on. She would be stroking my cock with her hand, kissing my ear and cheek and taking turns sucking her husband off. Sometimes he would cum in my mouth and sometimes in hers, either way she would kiss me right after shoving her tongue deep down my throat.
They wouldn’t let me fuck her but I was allowed to eat her while he fucked her and after he was done.
It was a very interesting relationship. I don’t think I would have ever done any of it if she wasn’t involved though.

 

[Pines]

So a couple of people have asked what happened next.

Actually I ended up seeing them regularly for a few months until I started dating a woman they introduced me to.

He never did suck my cock. It wasn’t his thing. He got off on being the dominant one in charge with his wife second in charge.
By our 3rd date he was sitting on the couch with myself and his wife kneeling in front of him. She was showing pictures of my ex to her husband (I could see the pics too) and telling him to imagine it was my ex giving him a blow job while actually it was me sucking him off. She was pretty good at narrating and had us both pretty turned on. She would be stroking my cock with her hand, kissing my ear and cheek and taking turns sucking her husband off. Sometimes he would cum in my mouth and sometimes in hers, either way she would kiss me right after shoving her tongue deep down my throat.
They wouldn’t let me fuck her but I was allowed to eat her while he fucked her and after he was done.
It was a very interesting relationship. I don’t think I would have ever done any of it if she wasn’t involved though.

Nice erotic story.

 

[Curious1969paul]

Nice erotic story.

Thanks but I was hoping for a little feedback, two way conversation maybe.
The girl I’m with now doesn’t know about the bisexual stuff. She does think I was involved in a 3 some with the couple and the four of us have fooled around a bit.
Anyway I often think about my bi encounter and it’s a huge turn on. But I don’t know if I could do it without a woman present.
I wonder how many other guys think the same way I do and if they overcame that need for a female presence?

 

[Pines]

Thanks but I was hoping for a little feedback, two way conversation maybe.
The girl I’m with now doesn’t know about the bisexual stuff. She does think I was involved in a 3 some with the couple and the four of us have fooled around a bit.
Anyway I often think about my bi encounter and it’s a huge turn on. But I don’t know if I could do it without a woman present.
I wonder how many other guys think the same way I do and if they overcame that need for a female presence?

I know exactly what your feeling. But on the other hand she would need to be very special and understanding in order to reveal that bi side too.

 

[cuck72]

Ready to tell her

I'm so proud of myself, taking baby steps. I use to just eat my wife and mention to her about licking up her well fucked, cum filled pussy. There are guys that I know that I think about sucking off when I think of eating their cum from my wife. So I eat her and will open up about my clean up cuckold fantasy. But never mentioned sucking that guys cock clean in my fantasies. But last night we fooled around, and I love her just rubbing me off in my undies as we kiss, it makes me feel like such a cuckold. And I took another baby step. This time I said MY PANTIES! We kissed and I moaned, " you want me to cum in my panties" she said yes, I said " oh! your going to make me cum in my panties." Then I got up and straddled her thigh, I looked down at her in her baby doll nightie, and at her mature hairy pussy. I let it out as I masturbated on her, saying " I'm going to cum in my panties as I think of a real man fucking you so good. I said " I love thinking of a real man fucking you as I cum in my panties. " She moaned as I squirted on her nightie.

Now I know the next time, probably when I'm eating her and she's ready to orgasm. I will mention licking her lovers cum from her and sucking him clean in my panties.."

Don't know how I could ever tell her about my sucking BBC's fantasies.

 

[Writer_FM]

I'm so proud of myself, taking baby steps. I use to just eat my wife and mention to her about licking up her well fucked, cum filled pussy. There are guys that I know that I think about sucking off when I think of eating their cum from my wife. So I eat her and will open up about my clean up cuckold fantasy. But never mentioned sucking that guys cock clean in my fantasies. But last night we fooled around, and I love her just rubbing me off in my undies as we kiss, it makes me feel like such a cuckold. And I took another baby step. This time I said MY PANTIES! We kissed and I moaned, " you want me to cum in my panties" she said yes, I said " oh! your going to make me cum in my panties." Then I got up and straddled her thigh, I looked down at her in her baby doll nightie, and at her mature hairy pussy. I let it out as I masturbated on her, saying " I'm going to cum in my panties as I think of a real man fucking you so good. I said " I love thinking of a real man fucking you as I cum in my panties. " She moaned as I squirted on her nightie.

Now I know the next time, probably when I'm eating her and she's ready to orgasm. I will mention licking her lovers cum from her and sucking him clean in my panties.."

Don't know how I could ever tell her about my sucking BBC's fantasies.

Love your dirty mind.