Cock Talk

[hotoldrguy]

Just have three steel ones, they usually stay in my toy box... ha ha

I never realized that sounding was a female thing as well as a male thing. Of course since you mentioned it, I Googled... WOW!

 

[subdudeme13]

Just have three steel ones, they usually stay in my toy box... ha ha

I hear they can make finger banging a really immersive experience. Now that I figured out what it means. LOL I really never heard the term.

 

[Endless_Night]

Ladies:
Has your male partner ever admitted to sucking a cock or being curious about it?
No.

How would (or did) you feel if he did?
Hmmm, slightly weirded out as it's never come up before.

Are you aroused by guy on guy action, but don’t want your guy involved in it?
Nope.

Would you like to see your partner with a cock in his mouth?
Nope.

A bi-guy friend surprised me once when he said an M/M/F threesome would interest him, butt a F/F/M would not. I was surprised. Personally, I don't think I've know a guy who did not find the idea of two females arousing. When asked why, he said: There's nothing there for me.

We didn't explore the reasoning further, but it's still a pretty good answer. For whatever reason, there's just nothing there for me.

Why does it seem like most women don’t want guy on guy?
Don't they? Based on the reaction of my lesbian girlfriends and the women on Lit I'm not sure that's a true statement.

If in a ‘two guys and a girl’ threesome, do you only want the guys paying attention to you, or are you interested in seeing them plow each other too? (And none of that “whatever makes us all happy” garbage. I’m asking what you and only you want. )
Hmmm. I am not sure. I mean, I would say, just paying attention to me, but that seems so situational, surely? And wildly dependent on the people involved. Too, I am not really a group sex-er. . . .

I'm going with I don't have enough information or experience to answer this question.

If your guy wanted cock, would you overthink yourself to death wondering all kinds of stuff, or would you be happy that you have a guy who is comfortable enough with you to be open?
I'd certainly want them to be open. Nothing worse than having to curtail your words and thoughts for fear of judgement. Eesh.

And, yes, I would absolute overthink, because I live to overthink.

 

[Endless_Night]

This is kind of a dick thing to say.

And possibly untrue. A quick perusal makes it seem like more men than women answered.

 

[subdudeme13]

From what I see on Lit there are a lot of men that identify as heterosexual that fantasize about sucking another man’s dick. These men, can in theory, get there dick sucked by their female partner but they do not have a dick to suck in their heterosexual relationships.

If you are blindfolded how would you know who is sucking your dick?

 

[lavendersilk]

I think this is all first date stuff. Actually, it’s before first date.

In a non sexual way, I tend to subvert people’s expectations of me. It seems most people consider me to be a nice guy, polite, kind, courteous, etc. then when they find out all the juicy stuff, my penchant for dark comedy, boldness and raw sexual desires they are usually shocked (hopefully in a good way).

I have come to realize this and so, when I meet someone new, I try to throw a little of all of that “dark and juicy” in right away so they can think this guy is not what he seems.

I think it would be great if a couple could sit down and share all their sexual proclivities right off the bat, so there are no (unpleasant) surprises and then maintain that honesty as things progress.

The problem, of course, is that people hear and think what they want to even when you flat out tell them the opposite is true.

Often, people who know me only in a public setting will say “Melvin . . .” (That’s not really my name, but we will pretend it is for the sake of this comment), they say, “Melvin, you’re a really nice guy, you never get upset about anything, do you?” To which I respond (in a monotone voice) “I live in a constant state of uncontrollable rage”. This always gets a laugh because they think I’m joking.

They think that.

I relate to this so much. Mostly because I've tried it both ways and they only hear what they want to. 100%

Also, smiles can be deceiving.

 

[lavendersilk]

If you are blindfolded how would you know who is sucking your dick?

Lol, this reminds me of a video I watched where the guy was blindfolded and he had to guess if the girl or the guy was giving him oral... he guessed correctly every time.

 

[subdudeme13]

Lol, this reminds me of a video I watched where the guy was blindfolded and he had to guess if the girl or the guy was giving him oral... he guessed correctly every time.

It is the opposite of a blind taste test. I would love to set that up sometime. I did have a hot sexy kiss form a trans one time. I didn't know she was a trans an at the time I didn't care. Now I wish I had pursued a closer relationship.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I am more interested in the answer most women won’t give (probably) for fear of being called a somethingaphobe. I am interested to hear from the women who are not into it to figure out why. I used to think it was because it could, in a way, make for a type of “feminization” of the guy and most women want manly men. But now I think it has more to do with her wanting the attention on herself more than the 2 guys with each other.

I'll take a crack at it... So male on male action isn't my go to fantasy. Its not something that really does much for me other than I like the idea of a partner who doesn't have a lot of inhibitions and would try anything.

I can't pinpoint why it's not sexy to me. I can think of some theories but I have no idea what is really working in my head to not make it a big turn on.

It is so interesting to me that the thought of two men getting it on is less sexy to me than two women together because in general I'm more attracted to men. So maybe the attractiveness of men to me might depend on the interaction of men with women. It might also be that Im self centered and scenarios that do not involve my gender are less of a turn on because it is harder to feel/ imagine myself as part of the action.

But then again, Queer as Folk was pretty hot. So maybe I do like it and just not when it involves my partner? But I also don't seek out gay porn so maybe I don't like it. Now I feel like I need a psychologist to explain it to me.

 

[lavendersilk]

I'll take a crack at it... So male on male action isn't my go to fantasy. Its not something that really does much for me other than I like the idea of a partner who doesn't have a lot of inhibitions and would try anything.

I can't pinpoint why it's not sexy to me. I can think of some theories but I have no idea what is really working in my head to not make it a big turn on.

It is so interesting to me that the thought of two men getting it on is less sexy to me than two women together because in general I'm more attracted to men. So maybe the attractiveness of men to me might depend on the interaction of men with women. It might also be that Im self centered and scenarios that do not involve my gender are less of a turn on because it is harder to feel/ imagine myself as part of the action.

But then again, Queer as Folk was pretty hot. So maybe I do like it and just not when it involves my partner? But I also don't seek out gay porn so maybe I don't like it. Now I feel like I need a psychologist to explain it to me.

We like what we like. You don't have to put a stamp on it. There is so much out there to choose from.

 

[Endless_Night]

The problem, of course, is that people hear and think what they want to even when you flat out tell them the opposite is true.

Thank you for calling attention to this again, @lavendersilk.

This is so true. People never believe what you tell them. Like, ever. You can tell them twenty-five ways from Sunday and standing on your head. Nope.

Are they hoping? Not listening? Projecting?

That last possibility always makes me suss.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

We like what we like. You don't have to put a stamp on it. There is so much out there to choose from.

Yea I think it can be as simple as we like what we like.

But I think it also gets a little wild when you try to figure it out. A lot of what I like isn't super logical.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Yea I think it can be as simple as we like what we like.

But I think it also gets a little wild when you try to figure it out. A lot of what I like isn't super logical.

But that's ok. And should be OK to anyone.

 

[Endless_Night]

I'll take a crack at it... So male on male action isn't my go to fantasy. Its not something that really does much for me other than I like the idea of a partner who doesn't have a lot of inhibitions and would try anything.

I can't pinpoint why it's not sexy to me. I can think of some theories but I have no idea what is really working in my head to not make it a big turn on.

This.

It is so interesting to me that the thought of two men getting it on is less sexy to me than two women together because in general I'm more attracted to men.

This, also. I'm not attracted to women sexually, but two women is more appealing than two men. I do sometimes find women pretty, and can find them visually appealing . . . but men are also physically appealing, so . . . yeah, no idea what's going on.

So maybe the attractiveness of men to me might depend on the interaction of men with women. It might also be that Im self centered and scenarios that do not involve my gender are less of a turn on because it is harder to feel/ imagine myself as part of the action.

This is inspired. I will be giving it more thought.

 

[justanotherguy80]

Yea I think it can be as simple as we like what we like.

But I think it also gets a little wild when you try to figure it out. A lot of what I like isn't super logical.

There’s almost certainly some psychological explanation behind certain parts of our sexuality and desires.

I think provided those desires aren’t things that you’re uncomfortable or unhappy about, it’s best to just leave them well alone.

When I’m horny and turned on by something, I want to enjoy that moment and feeling. I don’t want Freud on my shoulder analysing my perversions

 

[lavendersilk]

There’s almost certainly some psychological explanation behind certain parts of our sexuality and desires.

I think provided those desires aren’t things that you’re uncomfortable or unhappy about, it’s best to just leave them well alone.

When I’m horny and turned on by sometime, I want to enjoy that moment and feeling. I don’t want Freud on my shoulder analysing my perversions

Do Legos turn you on?

 

[justanotherguy80]

Do Legos turn you on?

I did get a semi when I saw the new Jaws set.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Do Legos turn you on?

Are you kink shaming?

I did get a semi when I saw the new Jaws set.

As you should, good sir

 

[Azuldrgon]

This week's topic was a deep one.
And I attempted to answer the questions, but it became difficult.

Thing is everyone is different. We're wired differently. We have our own preferences.
We shouldn't judge based on it, but some do for whatever reason.
I'm not into guy on guy, but it's not fair to anyone else for shaming someone who is.
Just not my thing.

 

[hotoldrguy]

This week's topic was a deep one.
And I attempted to answer the questions, but it became difficult.

Thing is everyone is different. We're wired differently. We have our own preferences.
We shouldn't judge based on it, but some do for whatever reason.
I'm not into guy on guy, but it's not fair to anyone else for shaming someone who is.
Just not my thing.

We all do have our on likes and dislikes. One of the things I love about this thread is that everyone can be open and honest about their feelings and desires without being shamed or judged.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I don’t want Freud on my shoulder analysing my perversions

But can I do it?

I think as long as it doesn't hurt either people, we should just accept and go with whatever turns us on. But the why is something interesting to ponder about when not in the moment.

Just like pondering about how much money is enough for you to give that blowjob and if it's something we can crowd source to make it happen

 

[justanotherguy80]

But can I do it?

You don’t want to go there. Trust me.

Just like pondering about how much money is enough for you to give that blowjob and if it's something we can crowd source to make it happen

You’re going to need to find some deep-pocketed benefactors for that. We’re talking about the sort of money that would mean I never had to work again. Not just enough for a nice steak supper.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I don’t want Freud on my shoulder analysing my perversions

Some people are into that kink.

This week's topic was a deep one.
And I attempted to answer the questions, but it became difficult.

Thing is everyone is different. We're wired differently. We have our own preferences.
We shouldn't judge based on it, but some do for whatever reason.
I'm not into guy on guy, but it's not fair to anyone else for shaming someone who is.
Just not my thing.

Yeah, I tried to word it so we didn’t go down the shaming, judging path. That stuff doesn’t interest me.

I’m more fascinated by the why of it. Basically what @OrdinaryPerson was talking about. That complexity of why people feel the way they do, more than is it judgmental, etc.

But thanks for trying!

One of the things I love about this thread is that everyone can be open and honest about their feelings and desires without being shamed or judged.

What the hell is that supposed to mean!

Not just enough for a nice steak supper.

Why would you need a steak dinner when you just ate sausage?

 

[justanotherguy80]

Why would you need a steak dinner when you just ate sausage?

Sometimes the full mixed grill is required.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Curiouser and curiouser . . .

There are a lot of guys (straightish even) who fantasize about sucking on a cock. More than I ever thought there would be. These are guys who (apparently) aren’t really bi, who only want a relationship with a woman, but still wonder about cock.

We can also say that a lot of these guys are in relationships with women who are not at all into it.
(Based on intense research )


We’re gonna split this one up into two categories:

Ladies:
Has your male partner ever admitted to sucking a cock or being curious about it?
How would (or did) you feel if he did?
Are you aroused by guy on guy action, but don’t want your guy involved in it?
Would you like to see your partner with a cock in his mouth?
Why does it seem like most women don’t want guy on guy?
If in a ‘two guys and a girl’ threesome, do you only want the guys paying attention to you, or are you interested in seeing them plow each other too? (And none of that “whatever makes us all happy” garbage. I’m asking what you and only you want. )
If your guy wanted cock, would you overthink yourself to death wondering all kinds of stuff, or would you be happy that you have a guy who is comfortable enough with you to be open?

Guys:
Have you ever sucked a cock? If so, what was the circumstance?
Do you want to blow a dick, or ever at least considered it?
Do you trust your partner enough to talk to her about it, or will it be a deal crusher?
Do you feel the same about sucking a dick today as when you were (let’s say) in your twenties?
Is your desire to suck a dick out of pure curiosity, or do you want to do it with your partner?
Have you ever sucked, or tried to suck, your own cock?
How sexually open minded are you, in your opinion? What would others say?

What do you want to know about guy on guy?

(I fully suspect the “Guys” portion of this to go mostly unanswered )

Ladies:
Has your male partner ever admitted to sucking a cock or being curious about it?
No, he's not homophonic by any means, a d back in the day he was propositioned quite a bit, but it's never really been an interest for him that I'm aware of.

How would (or did) you feel if he did?
Shocked would be an understatement

Are you aroused by guy on guy action, but don’t want your guy involved in it?
I have seen guy-on-guy that I found sensual & erotica. I think largely because no one is being objectified. It's so different from straight porn. It's not my go-to pornhub category, but I get the appeal.

Would you like to see your partner with a cock in his mouth?
No, not a fantasy of mine. The vision doesn't really do anything for me

Why does it seem like most women don’t want guy on guy?
I don't have a great explanation other than preference

If in a ‘two guys and a girl’ threesome, do you only want the guys paying attention to you, or are you interested in seeing them plow each other too? (And none of that “whatever makes us all happy” garbage. I’m asking what you and only you want. )

I'm unsure. I think two men, like two women, would intrinsically know what the other will like, only on account of having the same body type. I'd be afraid that I'd be ignored, or worse, just a tool, a means to an end rather than getting the anticipated erotica thrill of full participation.

Few enough guys care if their partners cum, or even enjoy sex (my fellow freaks on Lit excluded, of course) having two guys that are into eachother in a threesome would put me on edge. I'd need to be fairly well acquainted with both men, feel comfortable & safe to lower my inhibitions and let go. At the first sign of indifference I'd probably panic and bolt.

If your guy wanted cock, would you overthink yourself to death wondering all kinds of stuff, or would you be happy that you have a guy who is comfortable enough with you to be open?

My guy can barely bring himself to peek out of his missionary comfort zone. I don't know if I'd be ecstatic that he actually had fantasies rolling around that pretty head of his, or if I'd be terrified that none of those fantasies included me. I'm unlikely to ever be in that situation, but if I do, I'll return with a full report