Cock Talk

[hotwords229_A]

A bi-guy friend surprised me once when he said an M/M/F threesome would interest him, butt a F/F/M would not. I was surprised. Personally, I don't think I've know a guy who did not find the idea of two females arousing. When asked why, he said: There's nothing there for me.

Strange that he would want the F in the MMF at all then.

scenarios that do not involve my gender are less of a turn on because it is harder to feel/ imagine myself as part of the action.

This is interesting. You may have something here.

 

[hotwords229_A]

My guy can barely bring himself to peek out of his missionary comfort zone. I don't know if I'd be ecstatic that he actually had fantasies rolling around that pretty head of his, or if I'd be terrified that none of those fantasies included me. I'm unlikely to ever be in that situation, but if I do, I'll return with a full report

But I assume if it was a turn on for you to see him blow a guy, and you knew he was hesitant, but willing to do it for you and with you, it would then be an amazing turn on?

 

[MindYaBitness]

But I assume if it was a turn on for you to see him blow a guy, and you knew he was hesitant, but willing to do it for you and with you, it would then be an amazing turn on?

Maybe? The thing is, I'm just enough of a sub, that I'm usually turned on by doing whatever is turning my partner on. If it wasn't a turn on for him, and I knew he wasn't enjoying it, then it would ruin the thrill of it for me. However, if this was a fantasy of his, and he could articulate how it was hot to him, I'm pretty sure I'd jump on board with the idea pretty quickly

 

[UnquietDreams]

I think this is all first date stuff. Actually, it’s before first date.

In a non sexual way, I tend to subvert people’s expectations of me. It seems most people consider me to be a nice guy, polite, kind, courteous, etc. then when they find out all the juicy stuff, my penchant for dark comedy, boldness and raw sexual desires they are usually shocked (hopefully in a good way).

I have come to realize this and so, when I meet someone new, I try to throw a little of all of that “dark and juicy” in right away so they can think this guy is not what he seems.

I think it would be great if a couple could sit down and share all their sexual proclivities right off the bat, so there are no (unpleasant) surprises and then maintain that honesty as things progress.

The problem, of course, is that people hear and think what they want to even when you flat out tell them the opposite is true.

Often, people who know me only in a public setting will say “Melvin . . .” (That’s not really my name, but we will pretend it is for the sake of this comment), they say, “Melvin, you’re a really nice guy, you never get upset about anything, do you?” To which I respond (in a monotone voice) “I live in a constant state of uncontrollable rage”. This always gets a laugh because they think I’m joking.

They think that.

I run into this because I am so different from one place to the next. If you meet me, or outside one specific venue, I am quite amiable. In the bedroom, with a woman who is interested in that, I am dominant, and can be very much so. As in "put my teeth to your neck and claim you as mine" dominant, if my partner is interested in submitting that way. But nowhere else.

I have a friend who is a dominatrix, professionally, and she is always in control.

 

[Wand3rlust]

This is what I mean though. Meeting people is hard enough. Unless you meet them through somewhere like here, or fetlife, or feeld or something, then how do you bring up the things that excite you without sometimes them running a mile?

I guess it depends on what is important to people.

My 'primary' relationship is over. I've had kids, and that's not what I look for now. As you get older what you look for, what you want is different.

This time IS all about me. And exploring.

And maybe it is selfish to want to be the f in a mfm rather than the f in a mmf, but... that's where I'm at.

Picking up on something @OrdinaryPerson said earlier... when I read the stories here. I DO put myself in the position of the guy, a LOT of the times. I imagine how worked up he is feeling, how turned on he gets, the feeling of touching a woman, and all the soft bits that go with that, and how good a hot wet pussy or arse would feel around a cock.

Everyone does that, right?

 

[morelikeasong]

Ladies:
Has your male partner ever admitted to sucking a cock or being curious about it?

He has barely admitted curiosity about anything. So, no.

How would (or did) you feel if he did?

I would be glad he was open about it and the wheels would start turning about how this might lead to some level of opening our marriage/sex life

Are you aroused by guy on guy action, but don’t want your guy involved in it?

I’m not super aroused by guy on guy. Though, I have been, so it’s not out of the question. My guy? Idk. It’s so hard for me to imagine.

Would you like to see your partner with a cock in his mouth?

No. This would not be a turn on to me. I understand that giving oral is not a submissive act in itself but the gut reaction I have to this question is that it would turn me off to see him being submissive in that way.

Why does it seem like most women don’t want guy on guy?

Hm, I think similar to what OP said. Hard for them to picture their participation maybe.

If in a ‘two guys and a girl’ threesome, do you only want the guys paying attention to you, or are you interested in seeing them plow each other too? (And none of that “whatever makes us all happy” garbage. I’m asking what you and only you want. )

I have a lot of threesome fantasies. My biggest ones are FFM or MFM where all the attention is on me. What can I say? I like attention .
That being said, with time I’ve started to get more flexible on this. I used to think I could only have one that way because of my own insecurities. Now I think I’d enjoy watching a little. So I think I could get down with watching them get it on.

If your guy wanted cock, would you overthink yourself to death wondering all kinds of stuff, or would you be happy that you have a guy who is comfortable enough with you to be open?

I’d definitely be happy that he was comfortable enough with me to be open. I haven’t managed to overthink myself to death yet, so I think I’d survive the situation but overthinking is just part of the package with me. I’d absolutely be wondering lots of things about if/how it had played a part in the issues with our sex life thus far. But if he was open to tell me that he was interested, hopefully he’d be open to discussing all that, too.

 

[hotwords229_A]

And maybe it is selfish to want to be the f in a mfm rather than the f in a mmf, but... that's where I'm at.

Nothing selfish about it. Everyone wants what they want and should feel free to ask for what they want.
As for how and when to bring it up, there is no right answer. But if they run when you ask, consider that you just dodged a bullet.

 

[lavendersilk]

Picking up on something @OrdinaryPerson said earlier... when I read the stories here. I DO put myself in the position of the guy, a LOT of the times. I imagine how worked up he is feeling, how turned on he gets, the feeling of touching a woman, and all the soft bits that go with that, and how good a hot wet pussy or arse would feel around a cock.

Everyone does that, right?

*nods*

 

[Thirsty_Hellcat_J]

And maybe it is selfish to want to be the f in a mfm rather than the f in a mmf, but... that's where I'm at.

Ummh! What's the difference between fmm, mfm, mmf?

I think I just worked it out, ha ha

 

[LadyLascivious1]

The problem, of course, is that people hear and think what they want to even when you flat out tell them the opposite is true.

I think most people who know me on a personal level offline probably wouldn’t be surprised by much. Work aside because I do keep things professional, all it would take is one family dinner or BBQ and someone would likely have a fair idea of my sexual, religious, and political leanings. That’s more about my sense of humor and what I would joke about than the specific conversation.

But people know it’s not just joking because I get 3am calls about sex toys gone wrong or anal sex questions

I like the idea of a partner who doesn't have a lot of inhibitions and would try anything.

I can't pinpoint why it's not sexy to me. I can think of some theories but I have no idea what is really working in my head to not make it a big turn on.

I fell into this camp for a long time. I didn’t overthink it. But then…

I accidentally bought a MM romance/erotica book. I remember being disappointed because it just wasn’t an interest of mine. I eventually read it. Fuck

I think the format as well as specific book have contributed greatly to what I enjoy most about MM. I’ve always found the written word more compelling than visual - a book can make me tear up when tv and movies aren’t capable of that. It allows my imagination to fill in a lot instead of telling me everything which probably engages subconscious preferences that I might not even be aware of. Then the plot itself was two masculine guys, one of which wasn’t into men and slowly opened up to the idea. I find that kind of situation extremely hot. The reluctance of things you’ve never been into, recognizing the situation is everything and there’s a possibility you just haven’t encountered those circumstances yet, and being open enough to acknowledge it if it happens. People being authentic in general and with their sexuality turns me on.

I think it was a Pandora’s box for me. Once I read that book and found it really turned me on, I knew the topic could be hot and found lots of other things in that genre that I also found hot. Had I tried to just imagine it or watch MM porn I doubt I would have left the “it’s not my thing” camp.

So maybe I do like it and just not when it involves my partner?

Oddly, I rarely think about my partner(s) in this scenario. It’s about me and what I would enjoy watching. Then again, I have a very voyeuristic kink so that part is not shocking

Would you like to see your partner with a cock in his mouth?

I’m not against it, but that probably isn’t the highest on my MM activities list. I’ve been considering why that is and I think it’s two things. One, there’s often not a lot to see or imagine with blow jobs. Many heads look alike and they block the view. Two, it’s a bit less boundary pushing. I mean, who doesn’t enjoy a blow job?* But seeing another guy’s hands on you? Or their cock? There’s no mistaking what you’re doing and enjoying even if your head and body aren’t entirely agreed on it all.

*I know this is not universally true, but it’s rare and I’m exaggerating to make a point

 

[Alfie71]

I’ve been in MFM as my esteemed friend above termed it and it is by FAR the best combination of those three letters. I’m not averse to touching or being touched, but making her the centre of everything is a huge turn on, as is watching how she reacts. Can’t wait to try it again some day…

MFF, never done it. I would one day love to have mine show a trusted other how I like to be ‘treated’ there, but I would also not want her to feel anything other than central and that’s much harder in that kind of triangle.

 

[Thirsty_Hellcat_J]

I've only done MF, FF, FFF and FFFF. I'm usually the F in the middle. I've never sucked a cock either. My partner has never even touched one.

 

[UnquietDreams]

I think most people who know me on a personal level offline probably wouldn’t be surprised by much. Work aside because I do keep things professional, all it would take is one family dinner or BBQ and someone would likely have a fair idea of my sexual, religious, and political leanings. That’s more about my sense of humor and what I would joke about than the specific conversation.

But people know it’s not just joking because I get 3am calls about sex toys gone wrong or anal sex questions





I fell into this camp for a long time. I didn’t overthink it. But then…

I accidentally bought a MM romance/erotica book. I remember being disappointed because it just wasn’t an interest of mine. I eventually read it. Fuck

I think the format as well as specific book have contributed greatly to what I enjoy most about MM. I’ve always found the written word more compelling than visual - a book can make me tear up when tv and movies aren’t capable of that. It allows my imagination to fill in a lot instead of telling me everything which probably engages subconscious preferences that I might not even be aware of. Then the plot itself was two masculine guys, one of which wasn’t into men and slowly opened up to the idea. I find that kind of situation extremely hot. The reluctance of things you’ve never been into, recognizing the situation is everything and there’s a possibility you just haven’t encountered those circumstances yet, and being open enough to acknowledge it if it happens. People being authentic in general and with their sexuality turns me on.

I think it was a Pandora’s box for me. Once I read that book and found it really turned me on /snip

I have done research for writing romance novels and this is very common. People who would never watch MM porn will happily read it. A lot of it, especially if no one else knows what the are reading, so ebook MM romance with lots of sex are very popular with women readers.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I get 3am calls about sex toys gone wrong or anal sex questions

I told you I’m going to try to stop calling you so early or late.

Then the plot itself was two masculine guys, one of which wasn’t into men and slowly opened up to the idea. I find that kind of situation extremely hot. The reluctance of things you’ve never been into, recognizing the situation is everything and there’s a possibility you just haven’t encountered those circumstances yet, and being open enough to acknowledge it if it happens. People being authentic in general and with their sexuality turns me on.

Okay. I have to admit, this is the thing that gets me hard. I have no real interest in sucking a cock, or being with a guy at all. However, showing off, pushing boundaries, “performing” in a way that I’m reluctant to, but secretly want to try, this is my blowjob kink.

A situation where we are all horny and things get out of control and into my mouth—!
A group of women with their hands on the back of my head, easing me down onto a thick, stiff cock and whispering in my ear how much I’m going to like it, giggling and laughing as I open my lips and let it slid in. Their gasps of excitement at seeing me cross a line I never expected to cross. Commenting on how hard I am sucking a cock for all of them to see. And knowing that I probably lost the bet on purpose to get myself into this exact position . . . I . . . will be right back . . . In about ten minutes.

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Lol, this reminds me of a video I watched where the guy was blindfolded and he had to guess if the girl or the guy was giving him oral... he guessed correctly every time.

 

[Endless_Night]

Strange that he would want the F in the MMF at all then.

He was bi, but skewed towards women as his primary interest.

I am now confused as to whether I used the threesome tags correctly. MMF? MFM? FMM?

It. Is. All. So Technical.

 

[Endless_Night]

The reluctance of things you’ve never been into, recognizing the situation is everything and there’s a possibility you just haven’t encountered those circumstances yet, and being open enough to acknowledge it if it happens. People being authentic in general and with their sexuality turns me on.

I think this, in some form, is what drives most people who adventurize sex. Whether it be the boundary of trying something new yourself or initiating the experience for another.

Oddly, I rarely think about my partner(s) in this scenario. It’s about me and what I would enjoy watching. Then again, I have a very voyeuristic kink so that part is not shocking

This boggles. As much as anything learned on Lit. I am just so not exhibitionistic. Or voyeuristic.

I WOULD BE SO EMBARRASSED.

I told you I’m going to try to stop calling you so early or late.

Okay. I have to admit, this is the thing that gets me hard. I have no real interest in sucking a cock, or being with a guy at all. However, showing off, pushing boundaries, “performing” in a way that I’m reluctant to, but secretly want to try, this is my blowjob kink.

A situation where we are all horny and things get out of control and into my mouth—!
A group of women with their hands on the back of my head, easing me down onto a thick, stiff cock and whispering in my ear how much I’m going to like it, giggling and laughing as I open my lips and let it slid in. Their gasps of excitement at seeing me cross a line I never expected to cross. Commenting on how hard I am sucking a cock for all of them to see. And knowing that I probably lost the bet on purpose to get myself into this exact position . . . I . . . will be right back . . . In about ten minutes.

Whoa.

And I mean that.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I think this, in some form, is what drives most people who adventurize sex. Whether it be the boundary of trying something new yourself or initiating the experience for another.

Why does “adventurizing sex” sound like an affliction?

This boggles. As much as anything learned on Lit. I am just so not exhibitionistic. Or voyeuristic.

I WOULD BE SO EMBARRASSED.

I know

To be fair, a bit of embarrassment can make it hotter

Whoa.

And I mean that.

I almost sent you a warning message when I read his post

 

[Endless_Night]

Why does “adventurizing sex” sound like an affliction?

Well, I mean, I am kinda afflicted when it comes to sex.

I know

To be fair, a bit of embarrassment can make it hotter

Umm, maybe?

But baby steps. BABY STEPS.

I almost sent you a warning message when I read his post

That would have been . . . appreciated.

 

[hotwords229_A]

To be fair, a bit of embarrassment can make it hotter

 

[Endless_Night]

That's it? That's your response? Just a devil?

 

[hotwords229_A]

That's it? That's your response? Just a devil?

What would you have me say?

 

[Endless_Night]

What would you have me say?

Oh.

On second thought, the devil alone is just fine.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

That's it? That's your response? Just a devil?

What would you have me say?

The way I imagine it, words aren’t necessary

 

[hotwords229_A]

The way I imagine it, words aren’t necessary

Not to mention with a cock in your mouth . . . how?