**Confessions of a Wife**

[vibes]

So what does your day look like so far @Malbec_Girl ? Where I live it is pretty miserable this morning, weather-wise

 

[Malbec_Girl]

This does happen, lots. It’s not a reflection of the woman (or the man when the roles are flipped), her desirability or pure sexual attractiveness.

Familiarity can dampen the deepest of attractions, and throw on top of that a stressful and busy life or burn out, and it’s amazing what the brain will do.

Anyway, it sounds like you’ve found a fun outlet….

Thanks. It doesn't seem difficult to overcome stresses of life as things become more real over time. You don't worry about life struggles when you are dating.

Having said that there are a few people who live happily in marriage so there must be a balance somewhere

 

[Malbec_Girl]

How old is he?
Yes, the stress has a huge impact on and can cause temporary ED, so it needs proper stress management, regular exercises and meditation.
The biggest problem is the mental health part and how he feels, lack of confidence, performance compulsion, etc.
It is hard to fix without a patient and helping partner.
If he won't fix it, it is a high risk of prostate cancer.


It depends on the age and health conditions but it is not normal. He and you shouldn't accept it!

Yes, these are the mental parts.

He is mentally fine and physically too. We both are.
I'm not sure I can pinpoint to one reason why we ended up just going through the motions. It happened over time and for a long while I didn't even want to think about sex as I wasn't getting satisfied.

I am not putting the blame entirely on him by the way. It's happened over time

 

[subdudeme13]

What a rude comment. I see why people put you on ignore.

And I did! Thanks for the suggestion.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

So what does your day look like so far @Malbec_Girl ? Where I live it is pretty miserable this morning, weather-wise

I am going shopping later but it is miserable so will see. Nothing exciting, just a trip to IKEA

 

[vibes]

just a trip to IKEA

That would be a punishment to me

It doesn't seem difficult to overcome stresses of life as things become more real over time.

I was thinking it isn't difficult until it becomes that way: it's all very subjective and individual characters, circumstances, chain of events matter ... plus we (more or less all) have a tendency to take things for granted and that more often than not turns out to be a mistake

 

[firefox27eros]

Good morning everyone

Good morning beautiful!

 

[SSCoops8421]

You getting some meatballs while ur there then? Lol we have snow in my area

 

[Malbec_Girl]

That would be a punishment to me


I was thinking it isn't difficult until it becomes that way: it's all very subjective and individual characters, circumstances, chain of events matter ... plus we (more or less all) have a tendency to take things for granted and that more often than not turns out to be a mistake

Yeah it's a easy trap to fall in I guess.

Maybe we are broken

 

[Malbec_Girl]

You getting some meatballs while ur there then? Lol we have snow in my area

I have never had them from there

 

[Gman1911]

Yeah it's a easy trap to fall in I guess.

Maybe we are broken

Maybe so but that doesn't mean life isn't meant to be lived and enjoyed

 

[vibes]

Maybe we are broken

Trying to work on should be worth it, an effort due at least to the happiness that was there before ... but alas it doesn't always work, admittedly, and it takes at least two

 

[Fufumberuk]

Good morning everyone

I missed this. Good evening

 

[johnwyne007]

I am going shopping later but it is miserable so will see. Nothing exciting, just a trip to IKEA

Oh ikea can be fun. Had some grabby grab with a sexy woman before in ikea. It’s fun place with the right person

 

[Fufumberuk]

Oh ikea can be fun. Had some grabby grab with a sexy woman before in ikea. It’s fun place with the right person

I think that involves a different type of meat balls? Lol

 

[firefox27eros]

He is mentally fine and physically too. We both are.
I'm not sure I can pinpoint to one reason why we ended up just going through the motions. It happened over time and for a long while I didn't even want to think about sex as I wasn't getting satisfied.

Have you communicated that you were not satisfied?
What was his reaction, has he tried to change something to improve or solve it?
Have you tried to suggest some changes/improvements?
Have you requested professional help to solve together the problem?

 

[Malbec_Girl]

I think that involves a different type of meat balls? Lol

Not Sweden ones?

 

[firefox27eros]

@Malbec_Girl Good morning, gorgeous!

 

[Malbec_Girl]

@Malbec_Girl Good morning, gorgeous!

Good morning

 

[Malbec_Girl]

Have you communicated that you were not satisfied?
What was his reaction, has he tried to change something to improve or solve it?
Have you tried to suggest some changes/improvements?
Have you requested professional help to solve together the problem?

We tried everything to be fair. That's why I'm dealing with my affair better this time.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

Good morning everyone.

I hope you guys are having a great week so far.
It's been a while...

 

[Toro1886]

Good morning everyone.

I hope you guys are having a great week so far.
It's been a while...

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worth the wait!

 

[Gr82meetu2]

Always nice to see a post from you

 

[firefox27eros]

Good morning everyone.

I hope you guys are having a great week so far.
It's been a while...

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My great week just started right now with your amazing cleavage!
I hope you having a wonderful week so far!

 

[firefox27eros]

We tried everything to be fair.

In this case what was the final outcome/agreement/what ever of those trials?

How did you finally handle/solve this situation?

Does everyone handle their own happiness/sex life as their want with or without the concens of the other spouse?
Open marriage?