**Confessions of a Wife**

[Malbec_Girl]

I’m sure those smiles are saying a lot! And as we all know, a glance at you shows plenty…

That’s probably a defence mechanism I’m sure he’s smart enough to know it’s not a happy, Hollywood marriage if you’re sitting in the bar!

He is very smart and into art...like proper art. Sometimes I actually feel intimidated by him. He is so tall, like 6 ft 4 but not lanky. He has a presence about him and a very deep voice. His smile is fucking outrageous.

 

[drobert44]

Yes, I agree with what you are saying. I have come to the realisation that if I was happy, it wouldn't have happened. In truth, it could have happened years ago but I resisted. I just couldn't cope anymore and gave in finally.

I do suspect that my husband has had his fun down the line genuinely, I'm not saying this as an excuse. It drove me insane thinking about it for years and I was too scared to check his phone or do some detective work because thinking and not knowing he was unfaithful was a better reality for me.

Marriage is hard. People may judge me( like on other sites) but it's my reality not theirs.

Anybody judging you is someone to be ignored.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

Anybody judging you is someone to be ignored.

Maybe, but by putting myself out there maybe I am asking to be judged

 

[drobert44]

Maybe, but by putting myself out there maybe I am asking to be judged

They arent living your life, screw them. For me, Lit is a great place to share, cheap therapy, and mostly full of decent people.

 

[Lost_Writer01]

He is very smart and into art...like proper art. Sometimes I actually feel intimidated by him. He is so tall, like 6 ft 4 but not lanky. He has a presence about him and a very deep voice. His smile is fucking outrageous.

Sounds like the kind of assertive, dominant man that a lot of women would like.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

Sounds like the kind of assertive, dominant man that a lot of women would like.

He is very sexy to me.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

They arent living your life, screw them. For me, Lit is a great place to share, cheap therapy, and mostly full of decent people.

Haha, yes god I need some therapy

 

[drobert44]

Haha, yes god I need some therapy

Unless you are a nutcase, most everyone here will support you. I dont know many married couples that are satisfied with their sex life. Most just dont fuck anymore, and stay together due to $, the kids, etc.

 

[Celticlight]

Maybe, but by putting myself out there maybe I am asking to be judged

The very existence of this thread is a therapist's field day, of course But I'll spare you more of my amateur analysis for now.

And yes, sorry - wrong of me to question your intuition wrt your husband, for sure. You know the situation/nuances/his behaviour and manner infinitely better. That feeling of 'it's better not to know' must be brutal, to be scared of finding out what you expect is the truth - like you say, these things are so hard and I definitely appreciate that simply not going there may have been/felt the best option. But similarly, it's only going to brew suspicion or resentment at this thing that never quite came to a head.

Like you say, relationships are so hard - there's a temptation to start totting up grievances and act like you're owed something in return. I guess it's always worth trying to reflect on what positive things you get from this shared bond, too.

And in that context, take your indulgences where you can... here, often

 

[Celticlight]

He is very smart and into art...like proper art. Sometimes I actually feel intimidated by him. He is so tall, like 6 ft 4 but not lanky. He has a presence about him and a very deep voice. His smile is fucking outrageous.

I wonder what he would be saying about you, if he was asked in a comparable forum somewhere..

 

[Malbec_Girl]

I wonder what he would be saying about you, if he was asked in a comparable forum somewhere..

I have no idea

 

[Malbec_Girl]

Unless you are a nutcase, most everyone here will support you. I dont know many married couples that are satisfied with their sex life. Most just dont fuck anymore, and stay together due to $, the kids, etc.

I am learning this to be true in most cases

 

[Celticlight]

I have no idea

I have little doubt that it would be positive and nor should you. Enjoy that fact (for that's what it is), turn that frown upside down and give him competition for that 'outrageous' smile of his

 

[Malbec_Girl]

The very existence of this thread is a therapist's field day, of course But I'll spare you more of my amateur analysis for now.

And yes, sorry - wrong of me to question your intuition wrt your husband, for sure. You know the situation/nuances/his behaviour and manner infinitely better. That feeling of 'it's better not to know' must be brutal, to be scared of finding out what you expect is the truth - like you say, these things are so hard and I definitely appreciate that simply not going there may have been/felt the best option. But similarly, it's only going to brew suspicion or resentment at this thing that never quite came to a head.

Like you say, relationships are so hard - there's a temptation to start totting up grievances and act like you're owed something in return. I guess it's always worth trying to reflect on what positive things you get from this shared bond, too.

And in that context, take your indulgences where you can... here, often

It's true that id rather not know. Actually, more so after my night of passion. This has actually calmed me down. Now, I don't worry about it too much.

When you are together and have all the worries that life throw at you then it can take its till on you quite easily. Sometimes, without even knowing.

I stopped feeling desired, wanted and sexy. That has changed, even if it isn't by my husband.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

I have little doubt that it would be positive and nor should you. Enjoy that fact (for that's what it is), turn that frown upside down and give him competition for that 'outrageous' smile of his

I am enjoying the past few weeks more than ever to be honest

 

[Ben40]

I’m sorry to hear that you stopped feeling desired, wanted or sexy. It kills you, but all of them are untrue you are very desirable, wanted greatly and extremely sexy

 

[Malbec_Girl]

I’m sorry to hear that you stopped feeling desired, wanted or sexy. It kills you, but all of them are untrue you are very desirable, wanted greatly and extremely sexy

Thanks Ben. Means alot

 

[Ben40]

It’s true

 

[Celticlight]

Yes, I daresay this site has a dual purpose in that regard. Something tells me you're not short of palpable feelings of desire - on here, in your new favourite pub,or when you're reminiscing about that night of cheating and just how incredibly affecting it was and and turned on it made you feel.

It's like you're getting the free, amateur well-meant therapy mentioned above.. but in an environment where the therapist keeps admiring your figure everytime you show it off in a teasingly sexual picture or outfit All very healthy for all concerned, clearly!

 

[drobert44]

Yes, I daresay this site has a dual purpose in that regard. Something tells me you're not short of palpable feelings of desire - on here, in your new favourite pub,or when you're reminiscing about that night of cheating and just how incredibly affecting it was and and turned on it made you feel.

It's like you're getting the free, amateur well-meant therapy mentioned above.. but in an environment where the therapist keeps admiring your figure everytime you show it off in a teasingly sexual picture or outfit All very healthy for all concerned, clearly!

So obvious that you could walk into a bar, sit down, and with a smile and a look.......have a man in a minute.

 

[Celticlight]

I am enjoying the past few weeks more than ever to be honest

Simply because of just how fun it is to be flirting and mutually admiring with this new gent,and free to imagine the possibilities therein?

Either way, enjoying yourself never sounds like a bad thing whatsoever, so that's certainly good to know

 

[Malbec_Girl]

Yes, I daresay this site has a dual purpose in that regard. Something tells me you're not short of palpable feelings of desire - on here, in your new favourite pub,or when you're reminiscing about that night of cheating and just how incredibly affecting it was and and turned on it made you feel.

It's like you're getting the free, amateur well-meant therapy mentioned above.. but in an environment where the therapist keeps admiring your figure everytime you show it off in a teasingly sexual picture or outfit All very healthy for all concerned, clearly!

I think that's the key. It's an healthy outlet. I feel this is important for me to thrive.

I'm grateful for this channel where I can be myself and post my thoughts without fear of being judged.

I never knew this existed but I'm glad that it does

 

[drobert44]

I think that's the key. It's an healthy outlet. I feel this is important for me to thrive.

I'm grateful for this channel where I can be myself and post my thoughts without fear of being judged.

I never knew this existed but I'm glad that it does

My most trusted advisor is a Lit lady I met 10 years ago, 5 dates and still friends......married and a thousand miles away.

 

[Celticlight]

Truly, it's what I like most about this site - the chance to speak to people you simply never would otherwise, and in an environment where the default is fairly open, tolerant, understanding.

I never knew it existed either until a couple of months ago, but it's been a delight - your good selves included.

 

[Malbec_Girl]

My most trusted advisor is a Lit lady I met 10 years ago, 5 dates and still friends......married and a thousand miles away.

It really is a small world