Curious question about sexual partners...

[ShinigamiSama]

I'd need to lose much much more than that. -.- Some people talk like it's so easy to just lose the weight. I really need to just shut up and do it though.

I'm genticly predispositioned to have fat thighs
and that pisses me off
guys dont need fat thighs...
if I had the time lossing it wouldn't be that hard
I"d grab a personaly trainer and go to a dietition
but with 40hour school weeks plus studying and projects and limited funds thats kinda on the back burner

maybe we should take this to a PM eh?
sted of threadjacking?

 

[College_geek]

I'm genticly predispositioned to have fat thighs
and that pisses me off
guys dont need fat thighs...
if I had the time lossing it wouldn't be that hard
I"d grab a personaly trainer and go to a dietition
but with 40hour school weeks plus studying and projects and limited funds thats kinda on the back burner

maybe we should take this to a PM eh?
sted of threadjacking?

Probably...

Back to the topic of sexual partners...

 

[txnstud21]

Ooh, you're the worst then. Although I suppose the women who love assholes end up being happy? Who knows. I guess I'm into the perverted nice guys...are they so rare?

finally someone who appreciates me honestly though it does seem like nice guys finish last lately.....kinda sucks

 

[Vandren]

Hmm. That's an easy question. Two. Though I'm not sure if I should count the first, since she was effectively using me and that part of our relationship to get back at her divorced parents (and she was completely unresponsive). *shrug*

 

[cockslave]

guess i must be the exception to the rule then. i have had 49 ,7 serious relationships and the rest one night stands. i was always brought up to believe in equality.......whats good for the goose good for the gander sort of thing. if i was in the mood for sex that nioght i would find someone. out of all those there is only 1 i can't remember his name. i should add i never 2 timed anyone and have been faithful to my hubby now for about 18 yr. but who knows what the furture holds!

 

[sexychik69]

I was having a discussion with a friend earlier and we couldn't cum to an agreement.

The debate: most people have had well over 50 sexual partners. Especially people between the ages of 20 to 35.

The question: how many partners, in all honesty, have you had?

I've had 9... well, 11 if you count oral only sex.

 

[Damariscotta]

I've had 11.

 

[cockslave]

i know some will thing i am a slut....in all honesty i probably was. i should also add that i have regular blood tests for , hiv, hepatitus and std . even now. since i know i wasn't always the most safety conscious person in those days. it was pre aids awareness and being aged 19-23 i had never thought of consequnces. have been extremely fortunate and if i was that age again i would either be a bit more selective or definitely insist on a condom.

 

[Damariscotta]

i know some will thing i am a slut....in all honesty i probably was. i should also add that i have regular blood tests for , hiv, hepatitus and std . even now. since i know i wasn't always the most safety conscious person in those days. it was pre aids awareness and being aged 19-23 i had never thought of consequnces. have been extremely fortunate and if i was that age again i would either be a bit more selective or definitely insist on a condom.

You know what? You're the only one who needs to judge that. The past is the past. I'm sure we all have regrets or have things we wish we could have done differently. I have little patience for people who judge others, especially on a board. Just be happy with you, that's all that matters ultimately.

 

[bgr]

I've had more

 

[Abombs]

I am in the range of about 35-40??? That is just women that I have slept with. I can't even begin to think about how many women that we did everything but have sex. Maybe 100 or so?

 

[RawHumor]

You could have just made this a poll to make things easy.

 

[cockslave]

You know what? You're the only one who needs to judge that. The past is the past. I'm sure we all have regrets or have things we wish we could have done differently. I have little patience for people who judge others, especially on a board. Just be happy with you, that's all that matters ultimately.

oh don't get me wrong wabbit . i dont regret a single one. all added to the experience i call life! made it interesting..learned so much about people ......their characters.......what can make one tick and another sick. I hope it has helped me become an opened minded person..willing to live and let live no matter how different anothers views are.

 

[Damariscotta]

oh don't get me wrong wabbit . i dont regret a single one. all added to the experience i call life! made it interesting..learned so much about people ......their characters.......what can make one tick and another sick. I hope it has helped me become an opened minded person..willing to live and let live no matter how different anothers views are.

I'm glad you feel that way. My post was directed mostly at your first sentence. I don't regret any of my past partners, but I do sometimes regret the length of time we spent (or didn't spend, in a couple of cases) together.

 

[LucyLoo75]

I am 31, never married, and have had 50-something. I would have to sit down and really think about it, but I know I passed 50. I like sex and I am safe about it. However, I don't normally tell people how many I have been with. It is generally frowned upon by most whether they are women or men.

And in case you are wondering, I was not really active as a teen. These were mostly adult encounters.

 

[artistgonewyld]

I am 31, never married, and have had 50-something. I would have to sit down and really think about it, but I know I passed 50. I like sex and I am safe about it. However, I don't normally tell people how many I have been with. It is generally frowned upon by most whether they are women or men.

And in case you are wondering, I was not really active as a teen. These were mostly adult encounters.

The debate started simply by me and my friend saying that most of the people we knew had had well over 50 sexual partners (intercourse). I told him that I thought those number were due to the lives we had led and where we were from. He said he thought people everywhere were about the same, give or take... I sort of agree with him because of all the conversations I've had about it.. Like Lucyloo, most people feel awkward about it. Many will say 10, even though it's been 100 because that is what society expects them to say or wants them to do. Obviously there are exceptions to every rule, but I am beginning to agree that most adults these days have near to or over 50 sexual partners. I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If a person loves or likes wqho they are, and their experiences made them who they are (at least partly), then the experiences cannot be a bad thing. People need to be who they need to be.

 

[alwaysAmber]

you also want to consider that posting this question here isn't really the best way to go about getting an accurate representation of the population. anyone who's taken statistics knows what I mean - I'm thinking that there aren't too many in betweens on here. for Lit members it seems to be either many or few.

 

[brandis_man]

I am 31, never married, and have had 50-something. I would have to sit down and really think about it, but I know I passed 50. I like sex and I am safe about it. However, I don't normally tell people how many I have been with. It is generally frowned upon by most whether they are women or men.

And in case you are wondering, I was not really active as a teen. These were mostly adult encounters.

You totally have to have at least 1 really hot story to share on my Risky Business thread - be sure to do so soon

 

[cockslave]

The debate started simply by me and my friend saying that most of the people we knew had had well over 50 sexual partners (intercourse). I told him that I thought those number were due to the lives we had led and where we were from. He said he thought people everywhere were about the same, give or take... I sort of agree with him because of all the conversations I've had about it.. Like Lucyloo, most people feel awkward about it. Many will say 10, even though it's been 100 because that is what society expects them to say or wants them to do. Obviously there are exceptions to every rule, but I am beginning to agree that most adults these days have near to or over 50 sexual partners. I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If a person loves or likes wqho they are, and their experiences made them who they are (at least partly), then the experiences cannot be a bad thing. People need to be who they need to be.

i couldn't asgree more with your last sentence hun
we do need to be happy with the person we are. our faults or imperfections as well as our good points.

 

[brandis_man]

Okay, so I agree that the whole 50 number has to be an exception - especially in the 25-35 range. I am 28 and started having sex way too young - I won't say how many partners I've had (my husband reads this and would be uncomfortable so out of respect to him I won't) but I can say it was waaaayy less than 50. I would say in my age range for a woman the average number is probably closer to 20-25. I agree with Cockslave in that I don't really regret my experiences because they have made me who I am and I have developed my sexuality and talents because of my past experience.
Now, my husband and I are having a debate about men. He says that most of them have had a ton of partners and he has not had many (I got him young and raised him right) and he thinks he is the exception. Some of the guys who have posted up here have proved my point but I'd love to hear from more guys who have had few partners (I'm a bit competitive). He has had head by several but actual intercourse is few.

P.S. This post reminds me of a book I am reading now called 20 Times A Lady by Karyn Bosnak - it is hysterical - I highly recommend it.

 

[alwaysAmber]

agreed, brandis. not a male so I can't respond to your question, but as far as 20 - 25 being closer to the actual range, I think that's probably more accurate. of course, maybe I just agree because I fall into that category.

 

[aim2plz412]

as a 30yr male, i can state that i have been with more than 30 but less than 50.

 

[jonstable]

I'm 24 and have had 10 partners, 2 of which were (one still is) serious partners; the rest were one night stands. The sex in relationships was and always has been better than one night stands. Though saying that, with a random you can just totally lose all inhibitions. For the record, my girlfriend's the same age as me and has only had 2 previous partners, both of whom were flings.

 

[angelkitty7888]

i'm an 18 year old female and i have had one partner who i have been with for two years. we played other ways besides (more than a few inch) penatration until i turned 18 (4 months ago)

other than that i had a boyfriend that didn't even want to kiss me... he asked me out but when we were watching a movie on his couch he wouldn't even let me snuggle into him! he was a strange one...

i wouldn't know about stereotypes but my friends (who are all within 2 years of me and i'm their relationship therapist) have had 1-2 partners... my neice is 13 though and has had over 25 boyfriends (i don't know how far she went with any of them but i know my sisters have gotten her birth control so i'm guessing the current one is unfortunately serious... She's 13!!! it's really scary... she acts like she's 20 already... *sigh*)

 

[elizabeth22673]

I was having a discussion with a friend earlier and we couldn't cum to an agreement.

The debate: most people have had well over 50 sexual partners. Especially people between the ages of 20 to 35.

The question: how many partners, in all honesty, have you had?

I will only answer that by saying prior to this spring, two.