Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[barefootgirl69]

*wanders thru* Hello everybody!

Hey, chicken little

 

[DarkSimian]

Hey, chicken little

I hear you had another quake...you ok?

 

[barefootgirl69]

I hear you had another quake...you ok?

Yes, I was awake already but it wasn't too much bigger than yesterday's. Surprised it made the news!

 

[Nzerxx]

Yes, I was awake already but it wasn't too much bigger than yesterday's. Surprised it made the news!

Oh BFG I feel for you. We had major earthquakes in 2011 right under my city and we are still halfway through a rebuild. I hate earthquakes

 

[barefootgirl69]

Oh BFG I feel for you. We had major earthquakes in 2011 right under my city and we are still halfway through a rebuild. I hate earthquakes

It's the big ones last week that were scary! These are little tremblers that you usually feel and just say, oh! But not scary until you think...what if it's leading up to something.

 

[cascadiabound]

Wow ^^^ that looks amazing SNG
I'd love to have some. A perfect summer dessert - YUM!!!

I think everyone is mostly just busy with summer stuff. It seems quiet all over the board.

Everyone doing okay? Anyone need encouragement or a hug?

Hugs all around from me, whether you think you need one or not.

cb

 

[Nzerxx]

Wow ^^^ that looks amazing SNG
I'd love to have some. A perfect summer dessert - YUM!!!

I think everyone is mostly just busy with summer stuff. It seems quiet all over the board.

Everyone doing okay? Anyone need encouragement or a hug?

Hugs all around from me, whether you think you need one or not.

cb

Back at ya CB

 

[Dominant_Hand]

We made it to our SECOND EDITION!

This thread is for all those Daddies and Little Girls. DD/lg is NOT about incest, but of a loving relationship, filled with trust and love and caring.

If you are going to post pictures, please read the rules. The most important rules are nothing with copyright or names on the pictures, and no overly explicit pics (ie anything with an erection!).

If you see something that violates the rules, please contact the poster and ask them to change it, and if they don't, contact the moderator. This thread has to be self policed. There was previous thread taken down because this was not done!*

Thank you,

~bfg~

Another Dom Daddy here. curious to hear from other Dom Daddies about good ideas for excursions into the big world, with their littles. Fun and unique ways to spice up sexy time with the little ones.

 

[MutualMatureMike]

It’s been awful quiet in here, I hope everyone is doing well.

Here’s a delicious summer fruit tart to share


https://i.imgur.com/z3ta8CK.jpg

Mmmm, I do love a fruity tart!

 

[cascadiabound]

Trust

https://whyy.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/pulse-trust-768x512.jpg​

What about trust?

Obviously, it is very important. How much stock do you put in it? Is it the highest value for you or is something else more important (Love? Loyalty? Something else?)

When you feel that your trust has been broken – how do you feel? How do you handle it? Does it mean a necessary break in your relationship or can you forgive and move on?

For me, trust is essential in a D/s relationship. It is earned slowly over time, but it can be lost in an instant and very hard or impossible to re-establish. I also think that past experiences with broken trust tend to color new ones. If you have been bullied, or gas-lighted or have had confidences betrayed, or lied to in the past… similar ways of breaking trust may garner a bigger reaction than the facts might objectively require.

I reiterate - trust is essential in any intimate relationship - more so in one that has components of control and BDSM.

Betrayal of trust comes in many forms. It is always upsetting when we feel betrayed. Bullying, gas-lighting, lying, failing to respect hard limits, unauthorized disclosures, demeaning, non- consent humiliation, broken promises, are all versions of trust breaking. I think that one of the things about being submissive is because we have "given to leash" to another, we are sometimes blind-sided by behaviors that break trust and fail to recognize them in the moment. I think we beat ourselves up for not seeing things because we are blinded by the intensity of our feelings for our PYL. And then - when we DO see it... the next hour, the next day, the next month, the next year, the next decade... it requires processing and sometimes becomes a trigger when we brush up against it again, both when we experience it personally, or when we see someone we care about being subjugated to it.

What about the rest of you? Do you think trust matters more to littles/subs than it does to daddys/ Doms? Do we expect different things in matters of trust or respond differently when trust is broken?

Anyone want to chime in?

cb

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[barefootgirl69]

Trust

Obviously, it is very important. How much stock do you put in it?
Is it the highest value for you or is something else more important (Love? Loyalty? Something else?)

I put a lot of stock in it. Love and loyalty are important, don't get me wrong, but they don't mean a thing of there's no trust. I can still be faithful to someone who's been unfaithful to me, I can even love him --- but, I won't ever trust him.

When you feel that your trust has been broken – how do you feel? How do you handle it? Does it mean a necessary break in your relationship or can you forgive and move on?

Devastated. Heart broken...because I've trusted someone, whether friend or lover, and I've given a part of myself to them. Lately, it means I need to step back from that friendship to give myself time to get over the initial hurt. I can try to be friends but it's hard to allow myself to fully give myself again...if ever.
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What about the rest of you? Do you think trust matters more to littles/subs than it does to daddys/ Doms? Do we expect different things in matters of trust or respond differently when trust is broken?

I would love to say that it's equally important to both sides of the slash, but a part of me tends to think littles/subs are more sensative to those things. Maybe it's one of the reasons we are pyl; or maybe because we're pyl that we're more sensative.
Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

 

[MaBelle3120]

I think trust is essential in any relationship, but even more so in a DD/lg relationship where you are trusting your partner/Dom to make decisions that are in the best interest of their Little's wellbeing and in the best interest of the relationship.

Likewise, the Dom has to trust that their Little is being open and honest and trusts them enough to respect their decisions.

 

[Dreamliner]

Without trust a sub cannot have confidence her Dom will do the right thing when it counts. I have seen and heard about enough D/s "relationships" that are really about the guy abusing her, and not as a D/s relationship.

Building trust is critical in a D/s dynamic. I don't think D/s is 24/7, so there are everyday living that goes on, interaction. Such as simple things in life, talking over dinner or coffee in the morning, taking the time to do things together, the house, garden, friends over for dinner, socialising. Being together means doing everyday activities that may have no connection with D/s.

 

[Nzerxx]

Without trust a sub cannot have confidence her Dom will do the right thing when it counts. I have seen and heard about enough D/s "relationships" that are really about the guy abusing her, and not as a D/s relationship.

Building trust is critical in a D/s dynamic. I don't think D/s is 24/7, so there are everyday living that goes on, interaction. Such as simple things in life, talking over dinner or coffee in the morning, taking the time to do things together, the house, garden, friends over for dinner, socialising. Being together means doing everyday activities that may have no connection with D/s.

So agree with this but I also think that even those little everyday things can help build trust and build that connection even deeper

 

[Moochienanu]

Trust is a hinge
If you find a chink,
Pull the pin from it,
An entire connection can be lost.

For me, the line between trust
And disclosure
Is a fine one.

Sometimes I wish
I didn’t need as much
From my partner
As I feel I do -
Like I’m asking too much sometimes...
I’m needy
(Especially when I’m feeling like
We keep missing each other
On some intangible level)
And want as much
From my PYL as they are willing to disclose.
I don’t think I’m pushy,
Although I feel I am close sometimes
(That look in Daddy’s eye when
I’ve asked something He doesn’t want to answer
Is a sinking feeling in itself),
But it is usually about what I need
To feel safe
And build trust
(Which He knows).

Trust takes a long time
To weld into place
Connecting two
And allowing them
Movement together
As a unit.

Time and cultivation.
Honesty and clarification.

Trust is the hinge
In the middle of any relationship.

 

[cascadiabound]

<snip >

Trust is the hinge
In the middle of any relationship.

I love this, Moochie

 

[DarkSimian]

I love this, Moochie

((((((((((((((((((MEGAhugs)))))))))))))))))

 

[Moochienanu]

I love this, Moochie

((((((((((((((((((MEGAhugs)))))))))))))))))

The whole topic is a bit fortuitous...
I’ve been feeling really off
And I don’t really know why.
So when this happens,
Because it does,
I look for a cause
In myself,
In my work,
In my relationships,
And I try to assess for a why.

Sometimes I find one,
But usually I don’t,
And I wait for it to pass.

I let Daddy know
About my “offness” as soon as I felt something awry,
And He offered everything including
Support and understanding.
Days later, when we were together,
I asked one of my odd,
Personal questions...
One of the little trust things that make me feel safe,
He answered it.
And made me smile.

So thank you, for reminding me
In the midst of my troubled water
Where I leave my anchor
Is very important.

 

[Moochienanu]

It seems I kill more than my own thread these days... ummm... Anyone want to join me for a tea party complete with little cakes? Who will you bring?

http://www.cashadvance6online.com/data/archive/img/221053314.jpeg

 

[PNWKitten]

It seems I kill more than my own thread these days... ummm... Anyone want to join me for a tea party complete with little cakes? Who will you bring?

http://www.cashadvance6online.com/data/archive/img/221053314.jpeg

I'd love to have a tea party with you.

 

[Thatdurtydawg]

It seems I kill more than my own thread these days... ummm... Anyone want to join me for a tea party complete with little cakes? Who will you bring?

I would bring myself, but I would have cookies too

 

[barefootgirl69]

It seems I kill more than my own thread these days... ummm... Anyone want to join me for a tea party complete with little cakes? Who will you bring?

http://www.cashadvance6online.com/data/archive/img/221053314.jpeg

That looks scrumptious! I would bring E, of course. He loves sweet things and tea.

 

[DarkSimian]

*wanders in, checks the fridge* hmmm, someone needs to go grocery shopping...

 

[cascadiabound]

It seems I kill more than my own thread these days... ummm... Anyone want to join me for a tea party complete with little cakes? Who will you bring?

You did NOT kill the thread. It's just summer.

I loved you poetic response.

I kinda thought we might get more people chiming in about trust so if anything I might have "killed" the thread with my seriousness.

That tea party looks amazing!

 

[lilmissdarling]

*wanders in and checks the place out*