Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[DarkSimian]

Today was a day I just wanted to curl up and cry in frustration.
I would have given anything for lap time, chocolate sundae and a spanking to help me release all my upset and anxiety.

Doing my part....

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[LostGirlTink]

<slides in wearing stripey socks>

Look here girls! ~~> https://www.sockdreams.com/

<slippy slides back out>

Doing my part....

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Those socks are amazing and I might actually stab someone for that sundae right now
In other news I have been an adult far too long, I appreciate the opportunity but I believe actual adulthood is not something I wish to pursue further

 

[barefootgirl69]

Those socks are amazing and I might actually stab someone for that sundae right now
In other news I have been an adult far too long, I appreciate the opportunity but I believe actual adulthood is not something I wish to pursue further

It's a bit overrated, except having a driver's license. I love to drive and go places. When I was 12, I wanted to be a truck driver.

 

[DarkSimian]

Those socks are amazing and I might actually stab someone for that sundae right now
In other news I have been an adult far too long, I appreciate the opportunity but I believe actual adulthood is not something I wish to pursue further

Can I self identify as a child so I don't have to go back to work?

 

[MaBelle3120]

Can I self identify as a child so I don't have to go back to work?

Tried it once, my Excused Absence note didn't work
10/10 would not recommend again

 

[barefootgirl69]

Tried it once, my Excused Absence note didn't work
10/10 would not recommend again

They didn't accept mine, either! Said the crayon was a dead giveaway!

 

[barefootgirl69]

Heyyyyyy!

(Echoes)

*gets popsicle from the fridge and plops in a bean bag*

 

[cascadiabound]

Heyyyyyy!

(Echoes)

*gets popsicle from the fridge and plops in a bean bag*

Heyyyyyyyy! (Echoes)

Perfect day for a popsicle. I'll join you.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Heyyyyyyyy! (Echoes)

Perfect day for a popsicle. I'll join you.

Hi, cb! It is a perfect day!

How are you? Busy as ever?

 

[cascadiabound]

Hi, cb! It is a perfect day!

How are you? Busy as ever?

Indeed I am. All kinds of extra busy-ness this time of year.
Had a great weekend though. Got to participate in a historical re-inaction. I am nerdy that way.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Indeed I am. All kinds of extra busy-ness this time of year.
Had a great weekend though. Got to participate in a historical re-inaction. I am nerdy that way.

I've always found those interesting, but never got involved. I'm glad you had fun! What a great way to escape the busy week and just have fun!

 

[DarkSimian]

Hey lovelies

Any tips for littles self-care when you find that you’re alone/daddy-less and things are rough?

Hubby is not and hasn’t ever really been a alpha type but with current medical issues it’s less than ever, and someone that I used to lean on in this capacity has been more and more distant and we’re disconnected.

All I want to do is be taken care of atm but it’s up to me to comfort/soothe myself

Tips? Tricks? Advise?



Also, if anyone is interested, I have boozy popsicles in my freezer

Not even close, but I'm always available for furry snuggles

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Hey lovelies

Any tips for littles self-care when you find that you’re alone/daddy-less and things are rough?

Hubby is not and hasn’t ever really been a alpha type but with current medical issues it’s less than ever, and someone that I used to lean on in this capacity has been more and more distant and we’re disconnected.

All I want to do is be taken care of atm but it’s up to me to comfort/soothe myself

Tips? Tricks? Advise?



Also, if anyone is interested, I have boozy popsicles in my freezer

This is rough. I'm sorry.

I'm going to tell you what I've learned through years of not getting that need met. It's not going to be pretty, but maybe it will be useful.

As much as you possibly can, take it upon yourself to meet your own needs in this area. No, it's not the same. No, it doesn't feel good. No, it's not easy. It sucks, and it seems unfair, and you shouldn't have to live without it.

Go ahead and let yourself feel all of those feelings. Cry and stomp and flounce and pout and cry some more. And then pick yourself up, grit your teeth, and determine to be a badass. I personally hate that part the most. I don't want to have to be a badass. I want to be soft and sweet and focus all of my adoration on someone who will handle the ugly shit, so that i can be his pretty.

Sadly, that is not real life. I may or may not be a bit of a late bloomer figuring that out.

As unappealing as it sounds, purpose to be independent, self-sufficient, not needful of a Daddy, or any Daddy-like person.

I know. I know. One of the hardest things ever.

Put 'little shy' away for a while, where she'll be safe while you make a good home for her. Let yourself grieve, but work to avoid being any more angry and bitter than you have to be. I had to put my inner little away for a long time, years, and am now finally learning how to let little whispers of her out in a way that doesn't drag me under. I had to get to a place where i truly didn't need a Daddy before i could allow myself to enjoy the idea of it again. I'm cutting this short bc i have a Dr's appt, but you get the idea.

I know it's not warm and fuzzy, but maybe it will save you some pain and suffering. We're here for you.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Hey lovelies

Any tips for littles self-care when you find that you’re alone/daddy-less and things are rough?

Hubby is not and hasn’t ever really been a alpha type but with current medical issues it’s less than ever, and someone that I used to lean on in this capacity has been more and more distant and we’re disconnected.

All I want to do is be taken care of atm but it’s up to me to comfort/soothe myself

Tips? Tricks? Advise?



Also, if anyone is interested, I have boozy popsicles in my freezer

A nice long bubble bath, a good book or an activity to keep my mind focused.

 

[MaBelle3120]

Hey lovelies

Any tips for littles self-care when you find that you’re alone/daddy-less and things are rough?

Hubby is not and hasn’t ever really been a alpha type but with current medical issues it’s less than ever, and someone that I used to lean on in this capacity has been more and more distant and we’re disconnected.

All I want to do is be taken care of atm but it’s up to me to comfort/soothe myself

Tips? Tricks? Advise?



Also, if anyone is interested, I have boozy popsicles in my freezer

Definitely use the boozy popsicles as necessary.

Try making a list of small goals/chores/random things you need to accomplish, whether that be "adulting" things, or things just for your self-care. That will create some accountability and order, which I know are some of the things that usually soothe me. And then create a reward system, (aka boozy popsicle treats for a job done)
Also think up short activities that comfort you... some sort of videos, stories, music, etc.

Hope this helps *hugs*

 

[Mei5ter]

Hey lovelies

Any tips for littles self-care when you find that you’re alone/daddy-less and things are rough?

Hubby is not and hasn’t ever really been a alpha type but with current medical issues it’s less than ever, and someone that I used to lean on in this capacity has been more and more distant and we’re disconnected.

All I want to do is be taken care of atm but it’s up to me to comfort/soothe myself

Tips? Tricks? Advise?



Also, if anyone is interested, I have boozy popsicles in my freezer

You will appreciate I’m not well qualified to speak as a little - I operate on the other end of the hairbrush. But may I suggest that writing something about the needs you feel, and how you would like them resolved or satisfied, may help clear your head?

Beyond that? I agree with the suggestion of tasks. Except I guess that if you’re a little then you’re used to someone else setting them. So why not identify three physical and three emotional tasks which an ideal D would instinctively appreciate would settle you? Don’t do them, but write about why they would help and how completing them would ground you.

Diaries can be like partners, except less prone to leave dirty laundry in unfortunate places and better at listening to you.

 

[cascadiabound]

self care graphic

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[cascadiabound]

types of self care

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Good luck Shy.
Sorry you are in an unhappy place.

As much as it is wonderful to have someone look out for you, in the end the person we can most reliably count upon is ourselves.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

cas, you always find good stuff!

Here's a site I've found to be a helpful resource, it's called Highly Sensitive Refuge.
https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/

 

[cascadiabound]

cas, you always find good stuff!

Here's a site I've found to be a helpful resource, it's called Highly Sensitive Refuge.
https://highlysensitiverefuge.com/

Thanks Honey

 

[tasteyourthighs]

Hmmm

Morning all! Taking time off from work and plan on going to the lake for a day or 3 . However , my hunny wants to go shopping at Edmonton and the mall , the daughter likes that but wants to get sum sun and do fishing. Either way , someone is going to be not liking my decision. But both look good in a bikini on the beach tanning.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Morning all! Taking time off from work and plan on going to the lake for a day or 3 . However , my hunny wants to go shopping at Edmonton and the mall , the daughter likes that but wants to get sum sun and do fishing. Either way , someone is going to be not liking my decision. But both look good in a bikini on the beach tanning.

The beach sounds good in the heat, but this isn't an incest thread. Have a nice day!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

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[PrettyLilPussy19]

You know, I'm not a little and I don't have a Daddy but I can certainly relate to the idea of someone making your self care as a priority.

Yesterday, was a totally awful day and by 6pm (when I was done with my paid job and off to hang out with kids for 4 hrs) I had literally only eaten a pear and drank one cup of tea all day. While talking to Meister, he was like - "No, stop. Even cars needs fuel. Drink some water. Eat some real food. Something green with a modicum of nutritional value."

It's not that I don't know that. I'm an adult with a lot of balls in the air at any given time (not those kind of balls, pervs) but sometimes we can get caught up in work or stress and it's nice to have someone care enough to say - take care of yourself. I'm lucky to have someone who cares.

Shy, everyone else has said it and you know but... take care of yourself.

 

[barefootgirl69]

You know, I'm not a little and I don't have a Daddy but I can certainly relate to the idea of someone making your self care as a priority.

Yesterday, was a totally awful day and by 6pm (when I was done with my paid job and off to hang out with kids for 4 hrs) I had literally only eaten a pear and drank one cup of tea all day. While talking to Meister, he was like - "No, stop. Even cars needs fuel. Drink some water. Eat some real food. Something green with a modicum of nutritional value."

It's not that I don't know that. I'm an adult with a lot of balls in the air at any given time (not those kind of balls, pervs) but sometimes we can get caught up in work or stress and it's nice to have someone care enough to say - take care of yourself. I'm lucky to have someone who cares.

Shy, everyone else has said it and you know but... take care of yourself.

Exactly this.