Depression. Anxiety. Panic Attacks. etc

[Quoll]

{{{{SJ}}}} I know the feeling well.

Hang in there, my dear.

Could you please stop saying what I'm saying before I say it.

 

[bobsgirl]

Could you please stop saying what I'm saying before I say it.

Could you please stop following behind me and saying the same thing?


Hi, papaquoll. How's little Master LF?

 

[dirty_hankey]

How did you admit your problems to your peers?

How did you admit your problems to your peers?

 

[silverwhisper]

dirty hanky: does your employer offer counseling services? you sound like you could use someone who won't judge you and help you sort out what's going on in your head.

ed

 

[dirty_hankey]

I left my employer.

 

[silverwhisper]

that puts you in a very difficult position, obviously.

would you feel comfortable discussing it here? given that you have all of 10 posts, nobody here really knows you, do they?

ed

 

[Mazuri]

How did you admit your problems to your peers?

I don't, really. Various people know bits and pieces about me and that's it. *shrugs*

 

[bobsgirl]

How did you admit your problems to your peers?

If by peers you mean friends and acquaintances, those I consider close friends know my situation. Some know it in more detail than others, but I don't hide it.

In a work environment, why would you feel the need to tell co-workers? Not that you'd want to be dishonest, but personal problems are just that--personal. As long as you do your job, as far as I can tell, they don't need to know. But I don't have a lot of experience about this, so I'm hoping someone else will chime in.

 

[Quoll]

How did you admit your problems to your peers?

Do you need to?
I tend to treat it as a need to know basis, some of my family and friends know, but otherwise I tend to keep it pretty much to myself, but then again that is the nature of the beast.
If you feel you need to define your situation I don't think it is all that hard to determine someone's feelings on the matter. Usually just mentioning depression in a conversation will bring some standard responses.

The "It's all in your head" response. Well duh.

The "Just suck it up and get on with your life" response. In kinder moments I give these people the benefit of the doubt and assume they are confusing having a bad day with having a bad life. In my not so kind moments these are the ones who will most make me break my silence, either by grabbing them around the throat and saying "Now you suck it up. Oh you can't huh." (Ok not really but I would so love to.) Or by launching into a rant and giving them both barrels for being the ignorant idiots that they are.

The "I don't know much about it, but..." response. Possibly a suck it up responder who has been grabbed around the throat once or twice and who has at least learnt to keep their mouth shut, I see a glimmer of hope in this type, they may one day actually learn something.

The "I know someone who has it, it does not look like a lot of fun." response. Potential for understanding here.

The "I have it" response, very rare.

The person at the edge of the conversation not saying anything, not making eye contact, quite possibly someone who understands all to well.

If you really need to tell someone for reasons other than obtaining help, take your time and try to assess how people will react beforehand, not nearly enough people have a clue about this condition.

 

[Quoll]

Could you please stop following behind me and saying the same thing?


Hi, papaquoll. How's little Master LF?

He's doing really well, he had a couple of feeds yesterday and didn't need to be topped up through his tube, he seems to be getting the hang of this boobie thing really well. ( that's my boy )

 

[Quoll]

I've suffered from depression,social phobia and insomnia,some mix eh?
Really should go to the doctors but i feel there is no hope for me.Lost touch with all my friends and trying to start a relationship is almost impossible as i'm a nervous wreck!Spent countless sleepless nights thinking "why me?" and to this day i cannot bring myself to be happy!

Yep you should really go to the docs, even though it doesn't feel like there really is hope, if you can do one thing for yourself do that, break the pattern just a litle bit.
Why you? why not, seriously it's not lke you had a choice to get sick, go to the docs, make a start.

 

[Sarojaede]

{{{{{{{{{{SJ}}}}}}}}}}
I know the feeling, I really do, but couldn't you have picked some other mental image for me, I haven't had breakfast yet.

Deep breaths, hang in there.

Sorry for the image, papa quoll. but it was the best one to describe how i was feeling at that moment.

and thank you.

thank you too BG.

 

[Sarojaede]

I don't have any fight left in me.

And I keep wondering why...

 

[bobsgirl]

I don't have any fight left in me.

And I keep wondering why...

I'm sorry, SJ.

I wish I knew what to say to be helpful. Fact is, I know exactly how you feel, because I am in the same place.

Completely exhausted and running on reserves I don't have.

Wanna go out and find chocolate with me?

 

[tbs230]

I haven't posted in a while

Well I had a little breakdown about 3 weeks ago. Don't really know why. I just kept getting angry over silly things, then one Sunday, I just broke down. Couldn't stop crying. And the one person I've felt really comfortable turning to is seeing someone else, and so it's now weird to turn to him for support. I'm spiraling down fast. Don't really know what to do. What if one of these panic attacks occur while I'm at school, or work?

 

[Sarojaede]

I'm sorry, SJ.

I wish I knew what to say to be helpful. Fact is, I know exactly how you feel, because I am in the same place.

Completely exhausted and running on reserves I don't have.

Wanna go out and find chocolate with me?

BG--I'll go find chocolate with you any day.

 

[bobsgirl]

Well I had a little breakdown about 3 weeks ago. Don't really know why. I just kept getting angry over silly things, then one Sunday, I just broke down. Couldn't stop crying. And the one person I've felt really comfortable turning to is seeing someone else, and so it's now weird to turn to him for support. I'm spiraling down fast. Don't really know what to do. What if one of these panic attacks occur while I'm at school, or work?

{{{{{tbs230}}}}} I've been where you are.

You must see a professional. There are medications you can take that will help level you out so you can get through the worst of it. Do you have a family doctor? You mentioned school--is there a university health clinic for students? If all else fails, and it gets really bad, go to the ER.

It's so important to reach out for help, and right now, I'm sure you feel overwhelmed. Can your family help you?

There are good people out there who want to help, and all you have to do is hold on tight when they extend a helping hand.

Keep in touch, and let us know how you are.

 

[Nightbird]

BG and Saro I'll go find chocolate with you guys anytime.

I see a pattern here, a lot of people who post having problems are all having anger issues just like me.

Gee, that makes me feel better it's good to know I'm not alone.

 

[tbs230]

Letting people help is fairly new to me. 4 years ago I let my then boyfriend help me, and when we broke up, I just kind of curled back up, except this time I remembered more and just let all the anger build. Then last year he came back into my life, but on a different scale. Now he's seeing someone, and I feel that I can't ask for what I need anymore. He says otherwise, but I just feel it would be disrespectful to her. I just recently joined a support group, greatest people in the world! And of course I always feel I can turn to Lit. I have been looking into professional help, but I honestly don't know what to look for, what qualifications am I supposed to check for? I tried asking my mom for help, I should have known how that would turn out, she asked me if I thought I was going crazy (I had previously told her about the crying fit). School seems like an option, but I'm scared of going somewhere that is so closely connected to the rest of my life. I think I'm still trying to keep the rest of my life seperate from my past, if that makes sense...

 

[Sarojaede]

BG and Saro I'll go find chocolate with you guys anytime.

I see a pattern here, a lot of people who post having problems are all having anger issues just like me.

Gee, that makes me feel better it's good to know I'm not alone.

OHHH...a third for chocolate. That sounds semi-like a little party.

{{HUGS NB}}

NB, at one point, I got rid of a great deal of anger that I held on to for a long time. This anger I have now is new and coupled with bone-deep hurt.

 

[Nightbird]

OHHH...a third for chocolate. That sounds semi-like a little party.

{{HUGS NB}}

NB, at one point, I got rid of a great deal of anger that I held on to for a long time. This anger I have now is new and coupled with bone-deep hurt.

Saro I'm sorry.. ((Hugs Saro because I can't spell jaede))

My anger is coupled with hopelessness and feeling trapped. I am very sorry about your bone deep hurt. Want me to round up a few of the guys and take care of the person who hurt you?

 

[Sarojaede]

Saro I'm sorry.. ((Hugs Saro because I can't spell jaede))

My anger is coupled with hopelessness and feeling trapped. I am very sorry about your bone deep hurt. Want me to round up a few of the guys and take care of the person who hurt you?

NB--sending a few guys wouldn't solve the problem. Thank you for the sentiment though. It made me smile a bit.

 

[silverwhisper]

i'll drive for chocolate quest. :>

ed

 

[Quoll]

Make mine dark.

 

[silverwhisper]

now, if only we could find a big chocolate dildo, that would guarantee eilan's presence...



ed