Discovering your wife or girlfriend having an affair

[Nellie60]

I wonder why humiliation and arousal are so closely linked and is that in all guys

I think the humiliation aspect is related embarrassment of witnessing her with someone else in a sexual way like she is with you. But is arousing visually.

 

[GuySLut]

That is not the case in my situation. I was a fighter most of my youth and am still someone that people don’t want to mess with.

I’ve always enjoyed showing off girlfriends and then my wife, but in no way would I accept humiliation.

To me, it’s a privilege that I’m giving men to enjoy looking and (hopefully) experiencing her body and her lovemaking.

Men who have experienced viewing and/or physical contact with my wife know that I don’t play that humiliation shit! In fact, men have commented that they like me because I’m a man’s man and pretty laid back, but not one to mess with.

If anything, I would be considered more of an Alpha male.

I’m not knocking those who like to be humiliated, but that’s just not me.

Well said. I also feel this way. My wife has walked away from guys who pull any humiliation nonsense.
That attitude ruins the feelings for her.
That also goes for women I’m with. If they disrespect my wife or me we are done.

 

[liqueur]

I wonder why humiliation and arousal are so closely linked and is that in all guys

The link between them is a fascination mystery for me. But—

That is not the case in my situation. I was a fighter most of my youth and am still someone that people don’t want to mess with.

I’ve always enjoyed showing off girlfriends and then my wife, but in no way would I accept humiliation.

— I think that answers your question.

 

[Nellie60]

I truly dealt with this by imagining her with him the way we were first together. It gets me solid hard everytime the thoughts cross my mind now.

 

[amigayorbi]

If it does happen, I think I might accept it and ask for details

 

[Nellie60]

Never asked for details in both my first and this 2nd girlfriend. In both cases never spoke to them again. In the first case after actually witnessing them together I fucked her like a possessed man when she came home, such was the jealous lust that overwhelmed me and promptly left.

With the 2nd girlfriend our relationship broke up and then she was with him straight away.

 

[artgorden]

One question. Can I blow him?

 

[Fantasier]

Never asked for details in both my first and this 2nd girlfriend. In both cases never spoke to them again. In the first case after actually witnessing them together I fucked her like a possessed man when she came home, such was the jealous lust that overwhelmed me and promptly left.

With the 2nd girlfriend our relationship broke up and then she was with him straight away.

Your second girlfriend must have been seeing him before breaking up that's my thoughts..

 

[Nellie60]

I was very much rattled I confess at the time. I suscepted something not right, never in my wildest dream the my love of my life for 2 years was having an affair behind my back with a friend.

Completely devastated at the time. Many times thought about how she did appear "different" when we slept together, the sexual side of things we did etc. How she touched me.

Its makes me really excited now thinking about what they did behind my back.

 

[Fantasier]

I was very much rattled I confess at the time. I suscepted something not right, never in my wildest dream the my love of my life for 2 years was having an affair behind my back with a friend.

Completely devastated at the time. Many times thought about how she did appear "different" when we slept together, the sexual side of things we did etc. How she touched me.

Its makes me really excited now thinking about what they did behind my back.

Hmm...wouldn't you love have been that fly on the wall or buzzing around in the car with a mini hard on. That would be devastatingly thrilling.

 

[Kolejdayz]

I often had fantasies about going back in time and watching my future wife fucking guys at grad school or strangers she met on business trips

 

[Nellie60]

Hmm...wouldn't you love have been that fly on the wall or buzzing around in the car with a mini hard on. That would be devastatingly thrilling.

Hurt so good! I would say

 

[saintcero]

Hurt so good! I would say

A huge conflict of emotions. Carnal bliss with crushing betrayal followed by a hate fuck.

 

[Mu5tang]

Several years ago, I dated a girl who was still fucking her (married) ex-husband. It was happening long before I started dating her. He moved about 6hrs away due to his career. They had 2 kids, and his parents still lived in the same town. He would come to visit once, sometimes twice a month (staying at her house). I assumed it was happening, but was kinda turned on by it. One night during some heavy pillowtalk she told me. Basically, they never stopped fucking, and his new wife even allowed him to fuck her when he visited. It was a mutual break up. She chose not to move due to taking care of her elderly parents.
I dated her for almost a year after knowing this.

 

[Nellie60]

Several years ago, I dated a girl who was still fucking her (married) ex-husband. It was happening long before I started dating her. He moved about 6hrs away due to his career. They had 2 kids, and his parents still lived in the same town. He would come to visit once, sometimes twice a month (staying at her house). I assumed it was happening, but was kinda turned on by it. One night during some heavy pillowtalk she told me. Basically, they never stopped fucking, and his new wife even allowed him to fuck her when he visited. It was a mutual break up. She chose not to move due to taking care of her elderly parents.
I dated her for almost a year after knowing this.

Did you circumstances change allowing you to stop dating her or could you of kept seeing her while meeting someone new since she was still
fucking the ex husband.

 

[Nellie60]

A huge conflict of emotions. Carnal bliss with crushing betrayal followed by a hate fuck.

Bouncing around like a yo yo, from the need to reclaim her to intense excitement from imaging them together.

 

[Mu5tang]

Did you circumstances change allowing you to stop dating her or could you of kept seeing her while meeting someone new since she was still
fucking the ex husband.

I was really amazed at how I wasn't upset about it. Up until that point I was a jealous guy. But, it being a turn on, definitely changed me. It did kinda change my relationship with her though. It turned into more of a 'fun thing' instead of serious.
I didn't go looking for someone else, but that is how the relationship ended. She was several years older than me, and I also felt that I was also the 'fun thing' with her. It ended after about a year, when I found the girl who is now my wife of 14 years.

 

[HotWifeOC]

Several years ago, I dated a girl who was still fucking her (married) ex-husband. It was happening long before I started dating her. He moved about 6hrs away due to his career. They had 2 kids, and his parents still lived in the same town. He would come to visit once, sometimes twice a month (staying at her house). I assumed it was happening, but was kinda turned on by it. One night during some heavy pillowtalk she told me. Basically, they never stopped fucking, and his new wife even allowed him to fuck her when he visited. It was a mutual break up. She chose not to move due to taking care of her elderly parents.
I dated her for almost a year after knowing this.

Hott

 

[vandelayatx]

Hott

Love this

 

[HotWifeOC]

Love this

 

[vandelayatx]

My wife has been fucking her old HS boyfriend once or twice a year for 30 years now

 

[HotWifeOC]

My wife has been fucking her old HS boyfriend once or twice a year for 30 years now

Hott damn

 

[Nellie60]

I was really amazed at how I wasn't upset about it. Up until that point I was a jealous guy. But, it being a turn on, definitely changed me. It did kinda change my relationship with her though. It turned into more of a 'fun thing' instead of serious.
I didn't go looking for someone else, but that is how the relationship ended. She was several years older than me, and I also felt that I was also the 'fun thing' with her. It ended after about a year, when I found the girl who is now my wife of 14 years.

It probably helped that you were the "new guy" at the time and knowing she was still attached to the ex husband would be a turn on.

And you found someone else who now is your wife. Happy ending!

 

[Nellie60]

Bouncing around like a yo yo, from the need to reclaim her to intense excitement from imaging them together.

Although its be many many years now. I would have been happy to fuck her again if she was available

 

[BiGuy999]

My wife is a strong independent woman and she decides who she fucks and it's totally up to her not me. The deal is she tells me about it when she gets home. Despite this there are a couple of guys I strongly suspect she fucked regularly but would never admit to me. I'm pretty certain it's because she had a strong emotional connection with them and I guess she thought telling me about that might upset me as those were clearly affairs rather than just sex.

Oddly those are the ones that really turn me on. The angst of knowing they had that emotional connection with each other as well as the purely physical connection of sex really takes things to a new level for me and gets me super so in a way I'm really glad she didn't tell me.