Discovering your wife or girlfriend having an affair

[screwher]

That's excellent that you managed to not only accept her initial affair but to embrace your new lifestyle. She must have been thrilled that you have a new found understanding when you learnt of the neighbours.

Just in general, Mrs. Screwher was thrilled that I was on-board with her having sex with other men. We entered the lifestyle together. But yes, she was still a bit coy about telling me about the neighbours. I think she was afraid I would think she was being a slut.

 

[screwher]

Been married many years now and I’ve had several sexual affairs..
My wife never know or if she did she looked the other way.
A couple years back I got the feeling something might be up with her.
Trips shopping and returning with nothing purchased.
I got the notion to follow her.. and I did.. to a motel off the freeway.
I saw her car parked in the lot.. nothing else really around the place.
And no bar in the motel so had to be in a room..
I was so mad but turned on too.. I sat in the parking lot staring at the building.
I left and felt so aroused at what’s going on inside that motel room.
Picturing my wife in bed with who? Did I know him? Was it one of her old flings?
I went home and jerked off with those thoughts.
A short time later she comes in the house saying I’m beat..
I need a warm bath and early bedtime..

Oh Wow! That’s so hot! A married woman having some tawdry tryst with another man in some our of the way motel.

Did you ever find out who the man was?

 

[Nellie60]

Been married many years now and I’ve had several sexual affairs..
My wife never know or if she did she looked the other way.
A couple years back I got the feeling something might be up with her.
Trips shopping and returning with nothing purchased.
I got the notion to follow her.. and I did.. to a motel off the freeway.
I saw her car parked in the lot.. nothing else really around the place.
And no bar in the motel so had to be in a room..
I was so mad but turned on too.. I sat in the parking lot staring at the building.
I left and felt so aroused at what’s going on inside that motel room.
Picturing my wife in bed with who? Did I know him? Was it one of her old flings?
I went home and jerked off with those thoughts.
A short time later she comes in the house saying I’m beat..
I need a warm bath and early bedtime..

Likewise that's hot but I know how you would of felt...yep how dear she! And yes did you find out who was he?

 

[Islander55]

Been married many years now and I’ve had several sexual affairs..
My wife never know or if she did she looked the other way.
A couple years back I got the feeling something might be up with her.
Trips shopping and returning with nothing purchased.
I got the notion to follow her.. and I did.. to a motel off the freeway.
I saw her car parked in the lot.. nothing else really around the place.
And no bar in the motel so had to be in a room..
I was so mad but turned on too.. I sat in the parking lot staring at the building.
I left and felt so aroused at what’s going on inside that motel room.
Picturing my wife in bed with who? Did I know him? Was it one of her old flings?
I went home and jerked off with those thoughts.
A short time later she comes in the house saying I’m beat..
I need a warm bath and early bedtime..

I think this is a lot more common than men realize.

 

[write_or_wrong]

I think this is a lot more common than men realize.

I'm with you, Islander55. There are a lot of stories in Lit about this kind of thing. I should know because the infidelity happened to me a long time ago and I still enjoy reading about similar situations. My wife at the time cheated on me, tearfully confessed, and the only things I really wanted to know were sexual. Even back then I thought there must be something wrong with me because I never asked her if she loved him, just the sexual details. Decades later the idea of my lover giving herself to another man makes me hard, and starts me envisioning sexual positions, tastes, orgasms, disposition of fluids, etc.

 

[Nellie60]

I'm with you, Islander55. There are a lot of stories in Lit about this kind of thing. I should know because the infidelity happened to me a long time ago and I still enjoy reading about similar situations. My wife at the time cheated on me, tearfully confessed, and the only things I really wanted to know were sexual. Even back then I thought there must be something wrong with me because I never asked her if she loved him, just the sexual details. Decades later the idea of my lover giving herself to another man makes me hard, and starts me envisioning sexual positions, tastes, orgasms, disposition of fluids, etc.

Thank you for your post. I was the same except we broke up first and she went straight to him and found out she was in actual fact fucking him while still with me later.

So I didn't have any opportunity to get any confessions from her

But I knew all I wanted to know was the sexual details only if I was to confront her. What she did to him?, things like did you touch his cock etc

I was obsessed with the thoughts and images of her masturbating him and having sex the way she liked it cause my fantasies revolved around females giving handjobs etc, cause I knew what she was like, she was incredible that way.

Plus I didn't like the idea of him going down on my girl and giving her orgasms.

It was pretty raw like that for a long time but like I said it has given me years of fantasing

 

[Islander55]

I'm with you, Islander55. There are a lot of stories in Lit about this kind of thing. I should know because the infidelity happened to me a long time ago and I still enjoy reading about similar situations. My wife at the time cheated on me, tearfully confessed, and the only things I really wanted to know were sexual. Even back then I thought there must be something wrong with me because I never asked her if she loved him, just the sexual details. Decades later the idea of my lover giving herself to another man makes me hard, and starts me envisioning sexual positions, tastes, orgasms, disposition of fluids, etc.

Not just in stories here on Lit but I remember a number of women that I knew or strongly suspected that were having affairs or simple hookups. I remember overhearing a conversation between two women. One was married and the other was only dating a guy. They were planning a weekend in Newport and anticipating picking up some men. Perhaps they only wanted a dance partner but I was suspecting that they wanted much more than that.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

No need to overthink it, it's just male sexual competition at play. For me it wouldn't be healthy to focus on "fantasies." I'd rather go out and fuck new girls (if single) or have my own affairs. But this is Lit and a lot of guys here enjoy being cucked these days.

 

[Nellie60]

No need to overthink it, it's just male sexual competition at play. For me it wouldn't be healthy to focus on "fantasies." I'd rather go out and fuck new girls (if single) or have my own affairs. But this is Lit and a lot of guys here enjoy being cucked these days.

Oh yeah I did have an affair with a married woman later on but briefly and met a few new girls.

I just fantasied about her the ex when I was fucking the new girl

 

[write_or_wrong]

Thank you for your post. I was the same except we broke up first and she went straight to him and found out she was in actual fact fucking him while still with me later.

So I didn't have any opportunity to get any confessions from her

But I knew all I wanted to know was the sexual details only if I was to confront her. What she did to him?, things like did you touch his cock etc

I was obsessed with the thoughts and images of her masturbating him and having sex the way she liked it cause my fantasies revolved around females giving handjobs etc, cause I knew what she was like, she was incredible that way.

Plus I didn't like the idea of him going down on my girl and giving her orgasms.

It was pretty raw like that for a long time but like I said it has given me years of fantasing

You're welcome, Nellie60. I have to give you a caution before the following recommendation. If you are troubled by having the obsession over the sexual details of a lovers indiscretion, it might not be a good idea to watch this movie. "Closer" is now twenty years old, but was a mainstream film about two couples that each had a partner who cheated with a partner from the other couple. The four lead actors are Julia Roberts, Clive Owen, Natalie Portman, and Jude Law, so you can imagine it was very well made. In the confrontation scene the dialog could have been copy/pasted from this Lit thread. There was certainly anger and betrayal, but the questions about details are very telling. Spoiler Alert. For a mainstream movie to have questions like "Did he come in your mouth?" and "What did his cum taste like?" blew me away at the time, but now I get it. Not every guy will react that way, but as Islander55 said above, "I think this is a lot more common than men realize."

 

[Nellie60]

You're welcome, Nellie60. I have to give you a caution before the following recommendation. If you are troubled by having the obsession over the sexual details of a lovers indiscretion, it might not be a good idea to watch this movie. "Closer" is now twenty years old, but was a mainstream film about two couples that each had a partner who cheated with a partner from the other couple. The four lead actors are Julia Roberts, Clive Owen, Natalie Portman, and Jude Law, so you can imagine it was very well made. In the confrontation scene the dialog could have been copy/pasted from this Lit thread. There was certainly anger and betrayal, but the questions about details are very telling. Spoiler Alert. For a mainstream movie to have questions like "Did he come in your mouth?" and "What did his cum taste like?" blew me away at the time, but now I get it. Not every guy will react that way, but as Islander55 said above, "I think this is a lot more common than men realize."

Thanks again. Still would watch that type of movie LOL

Still get that "troubled by lovers sexual indiscretion details" every so often when I dwell on it but it's a few years ago now and it's more a turn on now when I think about and to be honest used it to great effect with future partners later

Right from the start it was the sexual details more related to her committing acts on him that I know I enjoyed with her and how she reacted when I did the same to her. I knew what she liked and how she was. More like that than say "How big was his cock?" type of question.

Also down to sexual talk that we had together intimately.

Imagination is a great thing and right now it has a lot more 'benefits'

 

[PeteyPP]

How about discovering your wife is having an affair with your girlfriend

 

[Nellie60]

How about discovering your wife is having an affair with your girlfriend

That will unusual situation maybe start of another different fantasy?

 

[PeteyPP]

Could be fun or you could be in big trouble.

 

[hiker283]

First I found out my wife was not a virgin when we got married. Then later, she admitted to having an affair during a trip to Las Vegas for an income tax seminar. At first I was angry about the affair, even as it turned me on. Then I realized she was still with me and clearly loved me, so it did not need to affect our marriage.

 

[PeteyPP]

Did she tell you all the juicy details

 

[Nellie60]

First I found out my wife was not a virgin when we got married. Then later, she admitted to having an affair during a trip to Las Vegas for an income tax seminar. At first I was angry about the affair, even as it turned me on. Then I realized she was still with me and clearly loved me, so it did not need to affect our marriage.

Did you stop having sex with her for a period of time or did you end up ravaging her as it kind of turned you on at the time?

When one ex had an affair I was not only very turned on but upset, angry at same time that I "forced" myself on her and wanted to know every detail...

 

[Britva415]

How does everyone else deal with this?

How long ago was this?

Too soon to just go find someone new?

 

[Nellie60]

How long ago was this?

Too soon to just go find someone new?

Its been a few years but I have met different women during that time..

 

[HornyBiCrossdresser]

My gal sometimes goes on about the boyfriend before me, many years ago. He was a big jerk, and had a big cock. She says they didn’t fuck, just BJs, that were a little too rough for her. Every time she tells the story his cock seems to grow another half inch! By now it’s nine inches or longer, and her old bff just said the guy was into fucking many of the moms, not just the HS cheerleaders.
So the big cock before me story, kinda gets old. The last time she was reminiscing I let my mind wander into some bisexual fantasy territory. Was there a time that she met me right after she had pumped a load out of that big stick? Was that a few drops of cum and throat spit sliding into her bra at the edge of her cheerleader sweater? Was I slurping some fresh boy juice when we were french kissing? Would I get to watch, and maybe try that beautiful crème covered fuck stick down my throat too?
That old story doesn’t bother me so much anymore.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I found a pic on my wife's phone of her getting fucked by an old HS boyfriend when she went home for her 35th reunion. I've masturbated to the pic countless times.

Have always fantasized about getting together with another man and my wife. Your avatar made me think she might find you attractive. Cheers

 

[peter49parker]

I wonder if that is why she won’t let me do her doggie anymore

Wow. Now that I read your comment, my wife used to love for me to fuck her doggy, UNTIL she had her first affair. Then she didn't want me to fuck her that way any more. Now you got me wondering why, too.

 

[write_or_wrong]

I know Nelli60's OP was about our feelings/actions AFTER discovering our SO had an affair, but if it's not too much off topic, I wonder HOW people have discovered their partner was screwing someone else. I know Van Delay (come on, George Costanza, we all know it's really you) found a video that confirmed it. I thought I had found the smoking gun when I noticed a used (very full) condom in the trash, but it turned out to be her son's who used her bedroom for a quicky with his GF. I once found a pair of my now-ex-wife's panties with a dollop of semen in the crotch panel and thought she had strayed, but it turned out to be my cum.

So how do people feel/act about finding the "evidence" of their SO cheating?

 

[Yarglenurp]

You know you’re a duck when…

 

[FantasySharer1]

As long as my wife was sleeping with her brother, but no other extra guys, I'd be completely supportive. I'd be happy to cup his balls while he unloads into her pussy.