Do women love big cocks more?

[KaitlynW1993]

No, not really. Thats very porn driven. Having my guts smashed isnt for a great time. rather a smaller guy who can keep me stimulated mentally and physically.
Some girls i know are size queens. They love being smashed inside. Feels like a alpha has just bred them.
But if i had a choice? Average size..

 

[LMWM321]

No, not really. Thats very porn driven. Having my guts smashed isnt for a great time. rather a smaller guy who can keep me stimulated mentally and physically.
Some girls i know are size queens. They love being smashed inside. Feels like a alpha has just bred them.
But if i had a choice? Average size..

Shame on any big-dicked guy who smashes away into a woman's "guts", by which I assume you're referring to her cervix.

As a guy with a really big dick I can honestly say I don't do that. I always assume hitting her cervix is an unpleasant feeling so I of course avoid it. What happens is I'll go too deep on a stroke, feel the "bump" and she'll either wince or will say, "..not so deep".

You're right, the fetishizing of big-dicks is very porn driven. And I believe that for the vast majority of women, it doesn't line up with reality.

As I've said in this thread and others - having a big dick ain't all it's cracked up to be. Most guys can experience the pleasure of having their entire cock inside of their partner. Not me. Plus neither I nor my partners get to enjoy the feeling of my pubic bone or balls reaching and contacting her vulva/clitoris. With every woman I've ever been with there is still at least an inch (usually much more) "left outside the door" when my head reaches her cervix - no matter what position. It kinda sucks, frankly, as it definitely detracts from the experience - for both of us.

Anyway, not looking for sympathy... more like offering a PSA. "Dudes, be happy with your average dick!"

 

[14ALL]

Every vagina has a unique and ideal capacity. It may be bigger or smaller than whatever you might be packing. I highly doubt that “bigger is better” is the universal rule for most women. It’s probably more like there is an ideal size, which is probably right around 6 - 7 inches in length and some proportionate range with respect to girth. There are women out there who have to have bigger, and there are women out there who can’t comfortably handle 6 inches. That’s just how it is.

Additionally, I’ve never met a woman in real life who’s primary interest was penis size when talking about the things that turn her on. They always hope for a great (not necessarily big) cock, but it’s not part of the combination of attributes that turns them on to begin with. Furthermore, most women just want to be satisfied with a great sexual experience. You deliver that, and they’re not going to be wishing for a bigger or smaller cock. Again, I’m saying most… not all.

 

[14ALL]

The same goes for guys 3 identical women standing naked side by side I bet the biggest boobs are picked

Just to illustrate the point of personal preferences, I prefer a B cup. Larger than that starts to negatively affect my interest.

 

[Deleted member 1178772]

No, not really. Thats very porn driven. Having my guts smashed isnt for a great time. rather a smaller guy who can keep me stimulated mentally and physically.
Some girls i know are size queens. They love being smashed inside. Feels like a alpha has just bred them.
But if i had a choice? Average size..

No gut smashing.
I bet 90% of Wifes and girlfriends are happy with their man's size. Cause its attached to the body and mind of the one they love

 

[Escierto]

The same goes for guys 3 identical women standing naked side by side I bet the biggest boobs are picked

Picked by who? Not by me, that's for sure. They have done studies and guys who love big breasts tend to be less intelligent and economically disadvantaged.

 

[Mike130]

Picked by who? Not by me, that's for sure. They have done studies and guys who love big breasts tend to be less intelligent and economically disadvantaged.

I’m an ass man myself, so it’s not a priority for me. I guess big ones are ok to look at, but medium size is more my preference.

 

[blkjames]

No, not really. Thats very porn driven. Having my guts smashed isnt for a great time. rather a smaller guy who can keep me stimulated mentally and physically.
Some girls i know are size queens. They love being smashed inside. Feels like a alpha has just bred them.
But if i had a choice? Average size..

Say it anit so lol

 

[blkjames]

I largely agree with the above part of your post; the rest, I have trouble following - sorry. So let's at least be happy about what we agree on.

But I don't believe, as you seem to suggest, that CalcSD was motivated by a desire to boost the delicate egos of men . I think he's a data geek who enjoyed devising a very clever meta-analysis calculator. ..Simple as that.

For what's it worth, my own board-certified Urologist (65 yrs. old, so he's seen thousands of penises) has said that differences in penis size b/w racial groups is not supported by his own experience or available studies. He said that Asians have very slightly smaller penis because they tend to also be shorter people. And penis length DOES correlate with body length, but only slightly. Something like 1/10" of penis length for every add'l 3" of body height. But a group of 5'10" asian men will tend to have the same average penis size as a group of 5'10" black men.

He's summed it up by saying, "If black men had longer penises wouldn't black women have deeper vaginas? ..They would, but they don't." (sorry, i've edited this last comment few times as I've tried to recall more precisely what he said.)

I guess I don't count

 

[blkjames]

The same goes for guys 3 identical women standing naked side by side I bet the biggest boobs are picked

I my be alone in this,but big boobs just don't get me going. I like a little more than a mouth full, but not big boobs.

 

[LMWM321]

As far as the porn dick thing goes, I've found it interesting that in a number of cases, the guys with the biggest dicks don't often get them fully inside their co-stars, and almost never entirely in their mouths. Oftentimes, the women don't get a lot past the head in their mouth, I'd have to imagine the guy would wish for more.

Agreed... As someone with a very large dick who has described this extensively in numerous threads, I've never been able to get my pubic bone to reach my partners - I always hit her cervix first. And, in nearly every case it was not enjoyed by my partner - tolerated, maybe.. but not enjoyed. I nearly always get a "not so deep" comment which I totally get and respect. Yes, over the course of my sexual life I have once or twice gotten a "wow, that feels different - keep doing that..." when I'm bumping her cervix, but that is the exception that proves the rule. And yes, more to your point, I'm pretty sure it would feel better for me to be able to get ALL of my dick inside her rather than always have 2-3" or so left out side. Guys who wish they had 8+ inch dicks should think about that...

I would never shame a "size queen" but I do think the way big dicks are fetishized in porn is totally redic. ..But then, so too is much of porn.

 

[KaitlynW1993]

Say it anit so lol

My situation might be diff to the average girl. when i mean large i mean 10+" Largest guy i served was 12.5"

My trainer encourages me to serve large cock guys. So he arranges large men in many training sessions.

So a 10" cock is fine now and then. 7-8" cock daily, yeah cool.

Its taxing having 5 large 10+" cocks at every hole pounding away for a hour or 2.

 

[KaitlynW1993]

No gut smashing.
I bet 90% of Wifes and girlfriends are happy with their man's size. Cause its attached to the body and mind of the one they love

Yep. totally.

 

[blkjames]

My situation might be diff to the average girl. when i mean large i mean 10+" Largest guy i served was 12.5"

My trainer encourages me to serve large cock guys. So he arranges large men in many training sessions.

So a 10" cock is fine now and then. 7-8" cock daily, yeah cool.

Its taxing having 5 large 10+" cocks at every hole pounding away for a hour or 2.

I can definitely understand that. Sometimes a girl needs a salad with out steak.

 

[KaitlynW1993]

I can definitely understand that. Sometimes a girl needs a salad with out steak.

Well said.

 

[Mike130]

Amen..



I've never carried a ruler with me to bed, and I've never asked a guy how long his dick is, because I just expect inflated numbers. The biggest measure to me, is how they use what they have. Now, all things being equal, I prefer thickness more than length.

As far as the porn dick thing goes, I've found it interesting that in a number of cases, the guys with the biggest dicks don't often get them fully inside their co-stars, and almost never entirely in their mouths. Oftentimes, the women don't get a lot past the head in their mouth, I'd have to imagine the guy would wish for more.

I don't have any kind of study to reference, but I really am convinced that there's a kind of societal pressure that fosters the 'women love huge dicks' stereotype. I think there's probably a thread back to our earliest days that may have triggered those women huddled in caves, hoping to find the strongest mate, which may or may not have manifested as the hairy dude with the biggest dick. I think the same must be true for guys that look at a woman's breasts or hips and imagine her as a good breeding partner, it makes sense to me that all started many many years ago. Thankfully, we're not living in caves anymore, and plenty of women with small breasts and narrow hips are having kids, as well as guys with small penises fathering children. So what does that say about lingering connections to our cave-dwelling ancestors?

Finally, in my own opinion, a dick can be either too big, or too small but I'm convinced guys stress about size more than women do.

This is all probably true. For myself I think the wide hips statement is especially true, I love a woman with wide hips and a narrow waist. Idealized as an hour glass figure. There was a segment on the old Manswers show on Spike TV in the 90’s which referred to the hips to waist ratio as being one of the better indicators of sexiness in women. As you mentioned, the wide hips subconsciously indicative of a good breeding partner. All basically stereotypes but perhaps showing the origin of the concept.

 

[white65]

The original question is one that the majority of men probably won't want the answer to, including myself (6.5 long x6.0 girth). There's the wish we had an 11 incher, the feeling of inadequacy because we don't, which gives rise to the stimulation of being 'outgunned' where cuckoldry begins. Though that latter role I certainly do not want.

 

[Sgts19]

I asked my wife one time if size mattered, of coarse like most wives...most..she said it didn't matter. Then I asked so if there were 3 triplets standing in front of you naked and one had a small cock, one had a medium cock and one had a big cock, which would you choose

 

[lc69hunter]

My wife was always of the opinion that a large cock, just like a black cock, was like a decadent dessert, something to be enjoyed occasionally, but wouldn't want a full time meal of it.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I married my husband, and the cock attached to him.
He married me with the tits and pussy attached to me.

Why do guys get so worked up about cock size? You guys look at beautiful women all the time, watch porn with beautiful tits and pussies... You don't see us posting a thread "do guys like large dark nipples best or tiny pale pink one's?"

To answer the OP, I have had sex with some larger cocks than what I have married, but not anything huge.

That being said I had one that was the perfect length and size and I could have PIV orgasms. But I didn't marry him!

Now how do I tell my husband I want to buy a large dildo and have him fuck me with it without hurting his ego.... I do wear very nice lingerie and outfits for him so he can get his visual stimulation, look like the pretty ladies in porn he watches that gets his engine going.... It sure would be interesting to find out what it would feel like.

How do you tell him? One thing I did on a trip a few years ago, was go to the sex shop, tell him to pick a toy. You pick a toy, but not show each other till after the purchase. Should make for some fun times and no feathers should get ruffled.

 

[lc69hunter]

Do the Black guys need to have a big dick, or is it being Black enough of a decadent dessert?

She actually got off on the color contrast more than anything. Didn't care for their generally arrogant attitude. She has had me take pictures, with several black men, of their kisses, hands and lips on her boobs, her taking his cock in her mouth, and as he opened her up and entered her, all centered around the color contrast. She was a pale redhead. We have a whole hidden folder of these memories. And I agree with her. The color contrast is what was hot.

 

[lc69hunter]

Do the Black guys need to have a big dick, or is it being Black enough of a decadent dessert?

BTW, loved your story, https://www.literotica.com/s/my-boyfriends-pussy. Gave it a 5. Very well done

 

[14ALL]

Growing up, my sisters and I got along unusually well. To this day, the three of us are best friends. Anyway, back in the day, I spent A LOT of time hanging out with them and their girlfriends…LOTS of girlfriends. This time frame is high school through college years… you know, the time before life responsibilities start to break up the fun.

Anyway, I was privy to all kinds of conversations that most guys never hear. All sorts of stuff that remains speculation to most guys. Have you ever thought, “I’d like to be a fly on the wall…” That was me. Hanging out by the pool, slumber parties, all sorts of situations where they would talk freely as if no guy were present. Stuff I had no business being a part of.

And yes the group of girls talked about penises from time to time, although it wasn’t terribly common. When they did, it was usually silly. There was a mystique to it. There were times they wanted to see mine and ask me questions about it. They’d talk about the erections they saw, sex experiences, and compare. These were usually fish stories and the lack of experience across the board was apparent even then. It was somewhat an exploratory phase for everyone and there was an element of vulnerability to sharing, so know that.

However, when they talked about boys/men and the things that they were attracted to, penis size was NEVER mentioned. In fact, I can’t remember the group of girls ever talking about a penis in that context. The only time I remember penis size coming up as a matter of preference was went one of my sisters friends said something like, “I want my husband to have a big dick like my dad.” The comment was memorable because it sparked a lot of laughter and questions about why she’d seen her dad’s dick, etc. It was all harmless, but the take away was that she had no frame of reference. She’d never seen him erect or anything. Whatever he had was “big”. And I can tell you, if he had a “big" dick, it wasn’t anything record breaking…. he was a smaller guy, in excellent shape, and I’d seen him several time in his swim trunks - couldn’t tell anything was there from the outside. And I remember looking because of what she’d said.

When it came to talking about the things that attracted them to the opposite sex, it usually had to do with one of two things: The guys social standing or how put together he was. Social standing would be something like star athlete or president of this fraternity or group or whatever… etc. If he was somebody people talked about, it made him attractive. With respect to “put together”, that had to do with his general appearance - the clothes he wore or his hair cut (hair was always THE BIG one). The “sexy" guys all looked generally the same: Tall, lean/slim/skinny, well defined and symmetrical facial features, and great hair.

Over the years, I’ve found that the people who care most about dick size are usually other men. Generally speaking.

 

[14ALL]

Here’s another anecdote drawing a parallel between sex and cuisine (I think they’re very similar experiences):

Last night I was out at a party with friends. I had a great time, the food was fantastic, but I ended up over eating. So much so, that I woke up this morning with my guts hurting. Now I’m regretting my choice. I would have been just as satisfied had I not overeaten.

A 7oz ribeye and a 9oz ribeye, otherwise identical and prepared the same way, provide the same satisfaction to me. They both activate the same senses as I enjoy them and savor them - my stomach doesn’t know the difference between two ounces. Unless one is very obviously unusually large or unusually small, I wont know the practical difference when it’s served to me. If I get to choose between ribeyes, there are particular attributes that I look for and size isn’t one of them. Bigger is better for presentation, but it doesn’t factor at all if my goal is to really impress my guests. And since the steak that’s put in front of them is the one they’re going to enjoy, it had better have the ideal composition and be prepared properly. If you deliver an excellent culinary experience and your guests leave completely satisfied, no one is going to complain about the size of anything.

I think penis size is very much like this. As long as a penis is within an acceptable range where it can provide a basic level of satisfaction, the rest is up to the owner to do something with it that really wows their partner. If your partner is thoroughly satisfied, I doubt they will ever complain about size…. Another way to think about it… if you could change your penis size as if strapping on a different dildo for difference occasions, you would use different techniques to satisfy your partner. A good lover wouldn’t just use the same approach with different tools… so if a guy with a little dick isn’t satisfying his partner, it’s not really his penis size that’s the problem. But as a guy, I think it’s a lot easier to blame your penis size than to blame yourself for being lousy in bed.

Now, I say all of this realizing that this doesn’t apply to everyone… I know this one guy who only cares about how big a steak is…. it could be trash, but as long as it’s big, he’s happy. He can’t tell the difference between texas roadhouse and ruths chris, he’s numb to the nuances. I also realize that some people prefer to have a massive piece of meat that also happens to be excellent…. unfortunately, that combination is exceedingly rare to come by…. but even if it was common, I personally wouldn’t want that every day.

 

[LMWM321]

Somewhere there's a conversation like this taking place b/w a woman and a dude who's overconfident b/c he has a big dick:

Dude: "Hello. ..I'm sure you noticed me checking you out, so let me be direct: Wanna come to my place and fool around?"

Woman: "Yuck! I didn't find you attractive when you were over there leering at me and I find you even less attractive now."

Dude: "Well, just so you know, I have a huge cock."

Woman: "If I can't stomach the thought of having any of you in me why would the idea of having an extra large amount of you inside of me be more appealing? ..No! The way you stared and talk to me is gross. Now go away."