SoulWeaver
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What's a clique?
I like your sense of fun .......
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What's a clique?
AHaving been friends with both Rayne and Minx and those who were here for that mess can attest that the lounges are far different than they were a year ago, and I am sure that they will still be different in a year from now.
Posse?
Nah, that sort of implies a leader.
Are their "cliques"? OH most definitely, and yes, in that we gravitate towards those who meld best with our own likes and dislikes, and wants, desires, so on and so forth. I stand guilty of being part of one, then another, and finally I'd like to say.. maybe not so much anymore. I am sure others will disagree. Having been friends with both Rayne and Minx and those who were here for that mess can attest that the lounges are far different than they were a year ago, and I am sure that they will still be different in a year from now.
For a newbie, stick it out. Find the groove of the lounge, for fucks sake, play, make messes and open old threads. I promise that none of us here will get mad or upset. Say hi. Honestly, the best way to fit in is to say something, do something, get out there. Geez, the first time I ever played in the lounges, I was really nervous (for the record it was Warr, and someone else in Kinky's and yes I remember it! ) Look, go crazy and see what happens. The lounge is what YOU make of it.
As for those of us who've been around for a while, yes, we have a preference around who we talk to, and those we interact with the most. That's cliquish, and perhaps we should all work to change that?
They won't be and they weren't.
Cliques on a forum? Would never have thought it!
Cliques are for women and weak men. That is all.
See, that's just after putting the 'word' clique right where I hate it.
I hope you weren't being bitchy and just poking fun, but damn if I'm not offended by that.
Thank you.
Cliques on a forum? Would never have thought it!
Cliques are for women and weak men. That is all.
But yeah..seeing that in print offends me, as I would prefer to be seen as a woman strong enough not to need a 'clique'. The word for me signals weakness in human nature...Bullies are weak. I can't think of bullies without thinking of 'cliques'.
I was bullied when I was younger, and bully+clique=hurt.
As an adult here, it just troubles me that there would be people seeing the groups here as cliques...and having the same interpretation of the word as I do. I am a woman, who comes for fun...not to be seen as part of something under the canopy of a clique.
This is my personal feeling..I can't help it, but it's troubling that good people, nice people, fall beneath the description of 'Clique' when so many have a derogative view on cliques.
God I hope this makes sense. Sorry if not.
More likely, in my estimate, anyone who likes to accuse someone of being in a "clique" is doing so with the intention to hurt your feelings or make you feel guilty. It might be easier to disregard their opinions, voiced or otherwise, with their intentions in mind in that case.
For once, agreed.
Alana, you have every right to be comfortable with your group of chosen friends, and I don't see you excluding anyone. You're remarkably sweet, and much nicer than I am.
I think maybe a particular time in my past was remembered as was the hurt, by their comment, and I over reacted, then subjected some very good people here reading to some rambles and thoughts that just needed saying.
Discussion is almost always constructive. And, unfortunately, even people who appear (either by intent or lack there of) to be relatively harmless are capable of striking a chord with a well-placed jab.
In this case, from what I understand of the situation, someone took a veiled shot at you and hit one of your nerves. It's nothing to be embarrassed about in your case. In their case? They should be ashamed of their behavior but as luck would have it those passive aggressive types are seldom capable of being critical of their own conduct in any honest sense of the word.
Okay, I will have to disagree with what is being said here.
Light Ice, out of no disrespect to you, as I don't know you, but what you are doing with your jab at the so called passive aggressive person, is no better or different to the "veiled shot" as you put it.
If there are two people having issues, it should be up to them to sort it out, and not involve the community, cause this is where all the crap starts, and the whole circle begins.
From this, it seems whoever pushes their opinion the most, then that means their opinion is right, which is total bull.
I've never believed that bullies are weak or weak-minded people. I've never felt they're particularly cruel, either.
People, regardless of gender, desire to live at the top rather than the bottom of any order; fiscal or social. We live in a society that tends to glorify competition between individuals in both avenues and values the class disparity found there-in. The result is that children behave exactly as they are intended to behave; picking at one another in an effort to climb their respective ladders.
Adults aren't much different. A bit more individually motivated, really, but otherwise function under similar motives. It's simply less beneficial to be exclusive and openly cruel to peers in the adult world.