Do you hide your sexual needs from your significant other?

[saintcero]

Yes I hide them and I hope they are well hidden such that she never knows. She doesn’t deserve to be hurt by my selfishness and indulgence.

 

[easyoff]

I tried sharing my kink of dressing in lingerie but she was disgusted. Same here, shed freak out if she knew i sucked as much cock as i do

Sounds like we're married to the same person.

 

[Vitriolhack]

My wife would fucking freak out if she knew.

Sadly, I hear you.

 

[Vitriolhack]

I think it’s a common problem. Your partner has no desire for sex and expects you to withhold your cravings. I think the woman should be happy that her man wants to just go out and suck cock. Im not going to leave her for him. Or spend my savings buying my mistress jewelry or on fine dining. Its just suck a cock, get relief and move on. Guys dont have affair with guys. It’s just recreational fun. No different than meeting your buddies and playing golf with them. And usually we’re not spending a lot of time away. Its no more then an hour or so.

Well, I don’t think that there is a moral equivalency between beers with buddies jerking them off. I think it’s a bit more more than playing with golf balls.

 

[Vitriolhack]

My partner is not into anal.
An old lover came and cum in my asshole this weekend.

Does he visit your buttocks often?

 

[AchtungNight]

Not if I want her to address them promptly.

 

[Herbihusband]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

We are totally open with one another and have no problem sharing any information or thoughts about trying something new.

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

My husband has no idea about my bi side or my sub side (as far as I am aware)

 

[Goldenfinger]

Sounds like prison. To have your real self locked away. Sad.

 

[brdplt]

Iv given up on having sex with my wife..tired of having to beg for it

 

[Cardinal]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

Same boat, I still hide many of my needs from her

 

[Vitriolhack]

Same boat, I still hide many of my needs from her

If you like, you could share some here.

Only if you feel like it.

Always judgement free.

 

[Spongo]

Yes

 

[Cardinal]

If you like, you could share some here.

Only if you feel like it.

Always judgement free.

PM?

 

[JusticeGrey]

I had one open conversation with her and it didn't go well, so yes. I hide quite a bit

 

[Cardinal]

If you like, you could share some here.

Only if you feel like it.

Always judgement free.

I share quite a bit on here!

 

[lit_ch3]

A lot of what is written here resonates with me. Our sex life when we got married was great... experimented with toys, midnight skinny dipping and made love on the beach at sunrise, secret bus in the back of a friend's car on the highway...
The her health went south and everything stopped! Due to joint pain she cannot even spread her legs enough for me to go down on her (which she lives!) and the pain stops her reaching orgasm in any case... no matter what we try!
So, for nearly a decade, there has been nothing sexual between us but my libido is unchanged!
Don't get me wrong... I would take a bullet to the head for her without a heartbeat's thought and will be beside her till dies!
I cannot, however, tell her just how much I miss any form of sexual pleasure and how often I fantasise about sex!

Totally get this

 

[curiouschattycouple]

We talk about it regularly. Her needs and wants and interests are more fluid than mine, and usually far more tame than mine. I think she hides some of her interests. I am completely open and honest about mine, and they don't really change. The trick for us is to find the time when our needs align - sometimes it's great, sometimes it's not.

We talked about this just last night: I want to have sex after a bad day so at least something is good. She has to have a good day to be into having sex.

 

[MM62]

No my wife knew about all my fetishes and I knew all of hers

 

[Vitriolhack]

We talk about it regularly. Her needs and wants and interests are more fluid than mine, and usually far more tame than mine. I think she hides some of her interests. I am completely open and honest about mine, and they don't really change. The trick for us is to find the time when our needs align - sometimes it's great, sometimes it's not.

We talked about this just last night: I want to have sex after a bad day so at least something is good. She has to have a good day to be into having sex.

Well, at least you are talking about it.

Who knows, maybe your bad day will align with her good day! If that makes sense.

 

[Cardinal]

If you like, you could share some here.

Only if you feel like it.

Always judgement free.

I have rarely felt judged here, makes it a nice place to hang out and get questions answered

 

[Cardinal]

I will admit that I have had more meaningful conversations on the lit chat with virtual strangers that with my wife.

Having tried to talk to her about it, I know how she would react and judge me.

I am not unhappy about the choices I have made, but, I am curious to know if others here are in the same boat I am in?

Same boat brother? Much better listeners, and more interesting of kinks on here than in my owN home, sadness neouod love to be completely open with my wife - tell her Everything, but she doesn’t wJtbto hear it

 

[Vitriolhack]

My wife knows about my stockings fetish, but that's about it. She knows nothing about all the other stuff that turns me on, and most of it would probably piss her off big time. I think that we didn't get enough time with just the two of us before we started adopting kids, and our focus switched from us to them.

I hope that other aspects of your life help to palliate for the missing sexual lines.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Unfortunately not... the closest I get is looking at porn or reading the stories here!

Toi could also chat to the lovely people here. Some share the same “hardships” you are going through.

 

[iago84]

I understand this (initial post question). I have tried to get my wife to understand my needs but she sees it as me just being horny and insatiable. It just becomes a fight if I bring up stuff that I feel like is lacking. She has some legitimate reasons and I do too. It's just tough. We love each other but I feel my desires have outgrown where we started.

I need more. To be more wild. To be with more people. More experiences. I'm Just curious and want to try so much. Not sure she'll understand.. especially how I want to be a top to another man.