Do you tell your lover when you're cumming?

[Macdaddy23]

While its rather obvious when I orgasm (trust me, you wouldn't be able to miss the signs), I still will usually say something beforehand and afterwards.

Great pics

 

[webbo1]

I allways let her know when I'm about to cum, especially when she has my cock in her mouth ........ gives her time to get it out

 

[eudaemonia]

I've never said anything other than, "Don't stop." Who can say much of anything when you're cumming? Moaning and gasping for breath kind of gets in the way ... Truly, the strings get clipped on this Chatty Cathy.

 

[midwestyankee]

Hell, when I really get going half the neighborhood finds out. No need to take out an ad in Variety, ya know?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I do....

Hi, long time lurker, infrequent poster. Got a question for the lovely ladies and studly gents of Lit. How many of you tell your lover when you're cumming?

Personally I think it's about the sexiest thing a woman could whisper (or scream) in my ear, but I know it's not for everyone. As a guy, of course I'm conditioned to believe I should never ask a woman if she came. "If you can't tell, you're not doing it right," they say, and there's some truth to that, but honestly you just can't always tell. Especially if the relationship is new, but sometimes even if it's not.

So I'm wondering how many folks tell their lovers? Do you tell them because it feels sexy to say and hear it, or more for informative purposes? Do women feel more pressure to say it than guys, because they know us stupid guys can't always tell? Do guys always announce it?

 

[sailboatracer]

My wife never did in the past and I felt it was sort of tastless and innappropriate to ask " did you come?" right then. But I did ask her sometimes later when we were talking.

She told me she just wasn't comfortable being "vocal". I guess her past with her EX who never satisfied her and just got himself off, and with the kids rooms nearby, she just never had much opportunity or even the experience.

However since I have "refined" and improved my techniques, while she still doesn't say anything, the joyful grunts and sounds she makes when I really
"tickle her fancy" let me know I've done it. When I asked her, she said she never fakes it, and maybe I'm naive but I believe her.

 

[Darkknight2010]

I love telling my partner when I'm cumming! I know I love hearing it from her, so I love returning the favor.

It's just so hot to hear for me, and to say the same... that combination of wetness, that musky scent, and then that feeling in my balls, leading to the explosion inside her... mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...

 

[HappyMisha]

I used to be quiet as a mouse when I was younger (living at home... no choice) but I think I discovered a new octave the other night!

 

[Darkknight2010]

I used to be quiet as a mouse when I was younger (living at home... no choice) but I think I discovered a new octave the other night!

Cool.

I hope I don't unnerve the neighbors... I can be loud even when I masturbate.

 

[HappyMisha]

Cool.

I hope I don't unnerve the neighbors... I can be loud even when I masturbate.

Oh heck.. I hear the neighbours upstairs LEAVE the bedroom (or room we're in)!

 

[rosemoss]

Telling partner you are cumming

Has anyone else turned themselves on with the things that you've said to your partner during an orgasm? I'm mean where for a second you were so surprised at how sexy the things you just said or yelled came out...wondering if that was really you saying it?

Oh yes yes. That is partly why I will groan and moan and tell him that I am cumming. One night I was groaning and moaning and he whispered in the dark "come oh you little slut - cum for me you little whore - you know you want to" and I came with a crushing orgasm because I had always wanted someone to say those dirty things to me during sex. He was so in my head.

Rose.

 

[Darkknight2010]

Oh yes yes. That is partly why I will groan and moan and tell him that I am cumming. One night I was groaning and moaning and he whispered in the dark "come oh you little slut - cum for me you little whore - you know you want to" and I came with a crushing orgasm because I had always wanted someone to say those dirty things to me during sex. He was so in my head.

Rose.

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm... there's something about vocalizing that moment... makes what's happening so much more intense... explosive...

 

[southernsky]

I've had one partner who turned me into a completely unashamed screamer. I mean screaming and moaning like someone was killing me or I was out of my mind. I honestly have NO idea what I sounded like, although all the neighbors kept banging on the walls and yelling "SHUT UP" I got the weirdest looks the next mornings too. Now, I just groan semi loudly and start talking to God. I'm a multi-orgasmic orgasmer, and God hears an awful lot from me

 

[Darkknight2010]

I've had one partner who turned me into a completely unashamed screamer. I mean screaming and moaning like someone was killing me or I was out of my mind. I honestly have NO idea what I sounded like, although all the neighbors kept banging on the walls and yelling "SHUT UP" I got the weirdest looks the next mornings too. Now, I just groan semi loudly and start talking to God. I'm a multi-orgasmic orgasmer, and God hears an awful lot from me

LOL!!!!!!!!! OMG, I remember once in college I was seeing someone, and one night we're going it and this bed rocked. Well, we're in the midst of sex and then all of a sudden here this 'knock knock'. we stop.... ok, no knocking... we continue... we weren't being loud, but the bed rocked... 'knock knock' we stopped... ok where the fuck is this coming from... IT WAS COMING FROM THE FLOOR BELOW US! LOL! We immediately took the bed off the frame and put the bed flush on the floor.

 

[vanelane]

I don't always say it but I do make a lot of noise. Kids etc. require some quiet, but I swear sometimes I can't come until I scream; even if it's muffled.

 

[Darkknight2010]

I don't always say it but I do make a lot of noise. Kids etc. require some quiet, but I swear sometimes I can't come until I scream; even if it's muffled.

Ya know, there's something for me about screaming... ok, myabe NOT screaming, but at least growning/moaning/grunting VERY loudly as I cum... just feels... feels wonderful to cum juuuuuuuust then.

 

[vanelane]

Ya know, there's something for me about screaming... ok, myabe NOT screaming, but at least growning/moaning/grunting VERY loudly as I cum... just feels... feels wonderful to cum juuuuuuuust then.

Exactly! I literally feel like the sound in my throat is connected to, um, my bits.

 

[Darkknight2010]

Exactly! I literally feel like the sound in my throat is connected to, um, my bits.

Bingo! It's a porn movie cliche to scream as you cum... but it REALLY feels much more explosve for me when I do... even while masturbating it just feels more... carnal, sexy, sensual... just hot.

 

[vanelane]

Bingo! It's a porn movie cliche to scream as you cum... but it REALLY feels much more explosve for me when I do... even while masturbating it just feels more... carnal, sexy, sensual... just hot.

Well, most cliches have their origins in some truth! I hadn't thought about the masturbating question, but now that you mention it......yeah!

 

[uksilverlining]

Exactly! I literally feel like the sound in my throat is connected to, um, my bits.

It's a whole body thing isn't it

 

[bourbonslut]

i have very visceral orgams...and will generally make lots of noise, and indicate with body language...it's generally pretty obvious at least to me. i have different kinds of orgasms with lots of different sensations too, so my breathing and body language will change differently (they're not all screamers, even if intense). and there's the first one, second one....

just glad i have thick walls at my place!

and i find it very hot when guys are loud too.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

Ya know, there's something for me about screaming... ok, myabe NOT screaming, but at least growning/moaning/grunting VERY loudly as I cum... just feels... feels wonderful to cum juuuuuuuust then.

I AGREE. Sometimes I get myself off by my own grunts and moans

 

[rbijon]

My Mistress puts her hand over my mouth or else I would be heard by the next county!

 

[Snowman5933]

No, I don't tell my SO when I'm about to cum, but I don't think I have too. I tend to be pretty loud and it affects me from head to toe, but I think that is because I am enjoying my SO so much. Here lately it has been much more intense...in a very good way.

Snowman

 

[huskie]

I prefer to say it and I prefer for her to tell me.....