Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar

[Mr Blonde]

January 18

Said during a parody that mocked pseudo-masters

Little subbies, this brings up another point: Do not listen to foolish people who are actually experienced in BDSM. They are trying to ruin O/our special connection, by interjecting logic, truth, and ideas that would serve to keep you safe.

--Johnny Mayberry link

 

[Krinaia]

This thread is highly enjoyable, but you've fallen behind...

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 19

I don't know if couples in this lifestyle are more likely to stay together or not. However, I think we might have a better chance of it than 'nilla' couples for one big reason. A BDSM relationship, more so than other relationships, is based upon a great amount of openness and trust. I've told my sub things about my past and myself that I've never told anyone else. I know she's opened up to me in ways that she's never done before as well. While I won't deny that level of transparency between couples could eventually lead to friction, I think that it can actually help build a very stable relationship if that's what the participants wish.

--MastrJ link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 20

I personally try to keep my Dominance, Masochism, and sexuality discrete from each other in my head to avoid personal conflict even when I'm doing two together. Sometimes, they can be at odds with each other, and I don't need that distraction when I'm active. It wouldn't be right for me, or whoever happens to be involved.

--psiberzerker link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 21

I've found the most useful combination with Matthew is to bind and gag him, then deny him orgasm for a number of hours. Depending on his mood and level of tiredness, this can be anywhere from 1 to 4 hours. Once he's beyond mewling, begging, attempts at self-satisfaction and crying, his will is broken. I'm then ready to move on. He's then given a number of orgasms, the later ones forced, until he screams and often passes out. I gather him into my arms and cradle him until he wakes, then we sleep. The next day, he positively glows from satisfaction and has the most adorable "peek from under his lashes" shy boy look.

--Tulane Cowboy link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 22

When a lady gives me her submission it is not a license for me to abuse the trust, but to use it for both of our gratifications. I derive my pleasure as much from control as from intercourse. (Dam never thought I would say that) So which is more important? I don’t think I can honestly say.

--Ol_Ozark link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 23

Oh, wait, and ummmmm...doesn't TPE mean that the submissive does whatever the Dominant wants, even if it isn't what they want to do? BDSM isn't just kinky sex, you know.

--Johnny Mayberry link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 24

One of my personal dislikes of safewords is that I've heard a million billion trillion slow down words and never a stop word. Bottoms/subs etc. no matter how many times you tell them it's OK to end a scene usually fight it tooth and nail. I'll end a scene or de-escelate it if I think it needs to happen, it's not up to the bottom who is usually trying desperately to soldier on.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 25

The art of the mindfuck is twofold in my opinion. First weapon is surprise. Second weapon is patience. With those two ideas you can expand your mindfuck to be a true work of art.

--Ezarc (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 26

This does bring up a theory I've long held, though, that there *is* a masculine and a feminine in top styles. Femmes (male and female...and I cream over an effete, suave, MDom presence, think James Bond...) exude persuasive mysterious and unpredictable power. Butches are rigorously rule driven, authoritarian, a little cuddlier at times, and more about brute force.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 27

Serviced minded submissives are a rare breed actually. One of the misconceptions in owning such a jewel is that the Dominant leads a life of lazy luxury while the submissive toils and serves without any thought but the ease and pleasure of their Mistress/Master.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 28

I had this belief that a true gentleman never hurt a lady. I also had the belief that a true lady never wished to be hurt. Well, that's wrong.

--Prof Bill link

 

[Mr Blonde]

January 29

Addressing a troublesome poster who was trolling the Cafe

Step away from the computer! You have OD'd on bad porn! You need to be detoxified! I will be happy to administer the enema you so richly need.

--Ebonyfire link

 

[dragonlace]

January 30

... I am a Dominant, but I am simply human as well. I can not read minds, and even though I do trust in me and my abilities I am not a believer in me never misjudging a situation. My daily form varies and so does that of my submmissives.
What may have been right the day before may be wrong today or tomorrow... and the closer to the edge you play the more likely or more severe an error is bound to be imo.

Hecate

 

[Limbhugger]

February 1

By Scarlett on the topic of fingernails,

"Awwww a subject I adore. I was just discussing this very thing just the other day....I love long nails....not dragon lady long...naturally long. I love to paint mine red...especially blood red (yes I have a bottle called just that). I love to use my nails in play I have to say I do love my toys but touching with my own hands bringing the flesh to goosepimples or to long red scratches down a back or thigh just does it for me. I realish the power my own hands create. I love the feel of a body under me begging for my touch. A touch only I can give with my own hands. Seeing my marks on flesh is a truly amazing thing to me. No matter where you are you can always give a little pinch or a soft stroke to let them know what is on your mind....Oh I better stop now I'm getting myself all excited....

Scarlett

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=223458

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 2

The occassional pat on the head is a good thing! Confirmation in My opinion of both positive and negative behaviour in the submissive is necessary for growth.
I personally do not believe it is "ALL" about the Dominant to such a degree that the submissive simply becomes a door mat. The Dom/me that gets caught up in that attitude has a bit too much ego and not enough common sense in My O so humble opinion!

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 3

Having been the mentor to 2 subs and 1 Dom and having been mentored, I can see many advantages if the mentoring is done correctly. The idea of mentoring one that is cut out of the same branch of a tree as yourself is to help them understand their own feelings and help them with any challenge they might encounter. The idea of mentoring is not to force your own values onto another but to be a sounding board and give your mentored the value of your own experiences.

--Francisco link

 

[redelicious]

February 4

Orgasm for me is a release -- but the lead up to the orgasms are generally far more interesting in D/s play. Add in the fact that I love watching two gorgeous women together. And the whole complex emotional thing is just... amazing.

So all in all, D/s sex is the best. But the actual orgasm (for me) is pretty much a muchness.

Fungi

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7451361

 

[dragonlace]

February 5

Doms are still human. That means they are still subject to all of the normal human behavoural issues. Yes, we should be "better", particularly with the need to foster open communication, respect, honesty and trust. But... are we?............Fungi

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=227517

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 6

I am quite formal so protocol just makes sense to Me. I have little doubt that My formality could be a real pain in the ass for those that enjoy a looser knot. For Me I think there needs to be a blend of easy laughter and respect glued together with ethics protocol rules and rituals.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 7

Any "full time" relationship is going to involved some sort of down time; for work, for sleep, for family obligations, etc. I'm sure there are people who think 24/7 means we wear funny costumes and our home is a dungeon...but obviously that is not the reality for most of us.

--Johnny Mayberry link

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 8th - from Francisco

There is also a misconception which I have encountered many times. It seems that people think that a TPE slave is not to have a brain, or that they are supposed to be mindless robots which agree with everything the Dominant says. Well yes I suppose that TPE could be that for certain people. I happen to believe that my partner’s brain is also my property and I also enjoy a good discussion. It really all depends on what the Dominant wants or expects from his property.


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=227468&pagenumber=1

Catalina

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 9

There is a big difference between wanting a woman on her knees in front of me and wanting a woman who wants to be on her knees in front of me. I do not get off on being worshiped, I get off on being trusted. That trust is something that I am more than willing to earn. The look on a woman's face when she hands her everything over to me knowing, trusting, and believing that I have the ability to care for it with everything I have is what I yearn for. It makes me a better man.

--Saint_Sinner link

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 10

When I embarked on the journey called TPE I was under the illusion that to be a great master I had to perform a lot of micromanagement, I was confusing real life with scening. Yes when I am in the mood and when I want to have a ‘scene’ (for lack of a better word) I will want to control everything, however if you have a 24/7 relationship it becomes impossible to control every single minute of the day. So I have rules which I expect to be followed and I will control my partner in this way if she is following them.

--Francisco link

 

[Mr Blonde]

February 11

I always enjoy using the slave for puppy play. In the beginning he found the dehumanizing act to be difficult to understand and enjoy but over time he has come to crave the twist in O/our day to day life as much as I have. He has learned to heel quite nicely and can fetch a bone with the best of them. It is always nice to own a pet that is well behaved. Even nicer is when a Domme friend brings Her pet over to play with him!

--Shadowsdream (abridged) link