Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar

[Mr Blonde]

March 7

I make a pretty clear distinction between B&D and S&M. Clear to me, anyhow. I'm interested in the sexual and interpersonal dimensions first and foremost, and pain only serves or augments the sexual. Pain itself is not the object for me. The object is...well, I'm not sure, but it's not just pain. It if were, I'd become a dentist and be hard all the time.

--dr_mabeuse link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 8

Taking a submissive to subspace is so much more than sexual. In can be downright spiritual. I suppose, since loving her has a lot do to with our relationship, I want to give her back everything she gives me, and then some. I know she likes to be spanked and flogged and used for my pleasure. I also know she needs to be held and caressed when she has been through so much emotionally from the flogging. Getting her to subspace and bringing her down from it is beyond despcription. As I say, it is downright spiritual.

--Sir James A (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 9

Other peoples pain doesn't, as a rule, get me hot unless they are somebody I potentially can or do have sexually, or want to have (even if only in fantasy). In these cases, their pain is my aphrodisiac and it's a powerful one.

--incubus_dark link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 10

Discussing a mistake....

I have pushed someone to the point where she was crying and not coherent enough to use her safeword. Which wouldn't had happened if I had been communicating better during the scene. It took about 15 minutes of aftercare to calm her down.

--WriterDom link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 11

She explodes in spasms, all of those pent up feelings now allowed to escape at once. To see her react this way, from my touch or at my command, is another power trip. She has been my toy to play with, to use and punish, torment and deny, until even I can't stand any more power.

--DVS link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 12

My sadism is an aspect of my Domination, but not its totality. Sometimes sex is my goal, sometimes not. But, it is ALL tied into my sexuality...

--Johnny Mayberry (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 13

[F]or me, unless I can get myself into the mindset that says only the physical event matters, that shuts down outside concerns, then I won't play. A distracted dom/me is not the kind of playmate I want to be, and it's a distinctive enough mindset that I suppose I could call it my dom space.

--exiledmaster link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 14

The combination of arousal, control, positive reinforcement and the knowledge that your every move sends trembles of pleasure through your submissive's being is all highly gratifying.

--Lancecastor link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 15

Rarely has a boy shed tears. When it has happened, it was because of his need and longing and the high emotional state he was in do to My use of him. I do not feel guilty, but I do keep it in mind for next time. In a scene, should tears appear, I will pause and reassure My pet, checking to see how he is and if he is able to continue. I have no desire to push a pet too far.

--Goddess Helena link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 16

sing a safeword is not topping from the bottom. If I can trust my sub will use teh safe word responsibly, then I have the freedom to do whatever I want, how hard or soft I want, for however long I want, knowing he will tell me if it is too much. Therefore, a safe word is a means of actually providing me the freedom to cut loose and enjoy the scene.

--MissTaken link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 17

I have a sadistic streak a mile wide but it does not speak to who I am or dictate to My emotions or sexuallity. Screams of pain can give Me satisfaction in the moment but do not create the memories I will grow old with.

--Shadowsdream (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 18

I incorporate the use of her sexually, and my own gratification by her humiliating use, as part of my sadistic enjoyment of her. I'm the dom, why not indulge myself?

--incubus_dark link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 19

Subs are human beings first, foremost, and always. They need to be approached with respect and love. Even in a 24/7 eat-out-of-a-dog's-bowl relationship, the sub must know that these feelings exist.

--dr_mabeuse link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 20

Dominants are human beings first, foremost, and always. They need to be approached with respect and love. Dominants are no[t] mind-readers and they need reassurance as much as everyone else.

--Hecate link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 21

Rituals are a fundamental necessity in the 24/7 lifestyle that is My passion. They reinforce control and obedience. They accentuate respect and caring. Rituals give consistency throughout the day. A re-affirmation to both partners, that a Total Power Exchange is in effect. They confirm that both the Dominant and the submissive are totally dedicated to each other.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 22

A perfect day begins with My submissive waking in My arms. The closer he wraps his long limbs around My body the more aware I am to his need. I feel him inhale My Power and Strength as he lets go of his own. I always hold his head firmly with My left hand as I hold him close to My breast. This is the moment that he begins to anticipate the first order he will receive for the day.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 23

Rituals are very important for keeping things going in a LTR. Just like vanilla relationships, there is a drop off after the honeymoon period. And the demands of Life/family/work/school can get in the way. A few morning/evening and greeting rituals keep the head space alive.

--WriterDom link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 24

Breath control is very risky behavior, and something I would caution novices to stay clear of. Many of even the most seasoned BDSM players will not engage in it due to it's inherent dangers. I dont pass judgemetn on those who do breath play, but please, let me urge that anyone who does so exercises the caution that they would bring to any other possibly life threatening activity.

--James Blandings (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 25

[W]hen he showers me and pampers me, takes care of my nails and skin, it is a special feeling for both of us. These are probably my favorite non sexual activities.

--MissTaken link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 26

Discussing what turns him on....

Fucking her from behind, while she's tied down and hearing her beg for permission to cum. The desperation in her voice as she wants to feel the orgasm is like music to my ears. It only gets better as I hear her cum when I give her permission.

--MastrJ link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 27

I do know it used to piss me off no end when in the middle of a discussion in a chat room, a male submissive would come in, and the VERY FIRST thing they would do is ask every dominant woman if they could be their slave. Sheesh. What happened to getting to know someone first?

--FungiUg link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 28

Puppyplay is an interesting concept, one that I am quite fond of in fact. I'd like to do this with my girl eventually, but I believe it will take more working up to than the time I have put into it so far. She makes such a good puppy without training though. It's nice to have her at my feet when I'm at the computer, or snuggled up against me with her head in my lap and me scritching behind her ears as I read or watch a movie.

--DustyWolfe link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 29

Absolutely right, subs look very cute all helpless and drooling in a ball gag, so what does it matter wheather they like it or not, or if it makes them cry. Tears are cute too. But for my money, a ring gag is better again. All the humiliation of a ball gag and the added benefit of having another hole forced open and waiting.

--incubus_dark link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 30

I thouroughly enjoy that journey, savoring every inch of my lovers body and tasting their own excitement. Taste, along with smell are indeed delicious and very much a part of how I enjoy (or will soon), my babygirl.

--LovingDaddy link

 

[Mr Blonde]

March 31

Not everything can be spelled out in great big neon letters at the start of a relationship. If it's possible for a submissive to crave infinitely more intense sensation, over time, being trained to convert pain to pleasure, being trained towards becoming a painslut...why would it not be possible for a Dominant or Top to find the same tendency, to want to dish out more and more?

--Netzach link